Men Yell at Me

Men Yell at Me is a Substack featuring a mix of personal and political commentary, focusing on issues like gender roles, societal expectations, liberation movements, and current events. It combines humor with critique, addressing topics from women's rights to the politics of resentment, and spotlighting 'Dingus of the Week.'

Gender Roles and Liberation Societal Expectations Politics and Current Events Women's Rights and Reproductive Health Media and Journalism Personal Growth and Relationships Humor and Critique Art and Creation Parenting and Family Dynamics

Top posts of the year

And their main takeaways
492 implied HN points • 21 Feb 24
  1. Bitterness is often used to dismiss messages of pain or betrayal, shifting focus from blame-worthy behavior to the person expressing the pain.
  2. Bitterness, like anger, is a morally neutral emotion, and how it is used can determine its impact - as a cudgel to brush off ideas or as a force for uniting people.
  3. Swallowing bitterness can give clarity and power, enabling one to keep writing and speaking out against injustice.
419 implied HN points • 14 Feb 24
  1. The Pygmalion myth, where a man creates an ideal woman to replace real ones, is a common theme in stories and movies.
  2. Society often portrays women as needing to fit a certain perfect image, leading to pressure to meet unrealistic standards.
  3. Despite societal pressures and expectations, women are pushing back, embracing their messy, rebellious, and authentic selves.
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375 implied HN points • 24 Jan 24
  1. Women are pressured to conform to rigid definitions of womanhood and gender roles.
  2. Societal expectations attempt to confine women to narrow standards for their appearance and behavior.
  3. Expanding the definition of womanhood to be inclusive and diverse provides freedom and challenges limiting beliefs.
357 implied HN points • 23 Feb 24
  1. The 'Dingus of the Week' is Nic Pizzolatto for his reactions to the TV show True Detective's latest season, which featured indigenous women and received criticism from him.
  2. Some recent positive highlights include a strippers' bill of rights, a stingray in North Carolina who reproduced without a mate, and Beyonce becoming the first Black woman to top the country charts.
  3. Celebrating personal victories, like having a book published, can be surprisingly down-to-earth, even involving mundane tasks and moments with loved ones.
301 implied HN points • 26 Jan 24
  1. Ryan Walters appointed a controversial figure to the State's Department of Education, sparking criticism
  2. NYT upset Midwesterners with a tater tot casserole recipe that omitted canned cream of mushroom soup
  3. Positive events like emerging cicadas, local bar ownership, and charity work bring hope amidst controversies
288 implied HN points • 13 May 23
  1. Mother's Day is not just about gifts and recognition, but has deeper historical significance related to community care and activism.
  2. The original spirit of Mother's Day focused on pacifism, progress, community care, and support for mothers, led by women like Ann Jarvis, Julia Ward Howe, and Anna Jarvis.
  3. There is a need to shift focus towards advocating for maternal mental health care, medical knowledge, childcare, and policies supporting mothers' well-being, rather than relying on symbolic gestures.
280 implied HN points • 07 Jan 24
  1. The panic over young girls shopping at Sephora reflects societal biases and misogyny.
  2. Girls are criticized for caring about skincare in a culture that values youth and appearance.
  3. Encouraging self-care habits in girls can be a positive way to navigate a world that can be harsh towards them.
268 implied HN points • 28 Jun 23
  1. People are supporting whales in a recent wave of attacks on boats, siding with the orcas due to their anti-capitalist symbolism.
  2. Americans relate to the struggles of whales due to growing income inequality, stagnant wages, and other socio-economic issues.
  3. There is a sense of commonality between people and sea creatures like whales in feeling targeted by a system that harms and kills them both.
267 implied HN points • 16 Feb 24
  1. The newsletter edition focused on sharing only good news and positive things amidst a lot of concerning current events.
  2. Beyonce's entry into the country music world is seen as a significant cultural moment with potential to shake up the genre's dynamics.
  3. The idea of reimagining happiness and community around friendship rather than just romantic relationships resonated with many people.
257 implied HN points • 29 Jun 23
  1. Sherri Moler fought for justice for years, but the Iowa Board of Medicine didn't listen.
  2. Dr. Lynn Lindaman was arrested for sexual abuse against a minor, despite Moler's efforts.
  3. Moler's story highlights the challenges of addressing sexual violence and the importance of speaking out.
173 implied HN points • 14 Jan 24
  1. Journalists at a restaurant in Iowa complained about the lack of Whole Foods and doubted the vegan options.
  2. Iowa is often portrayed in political journalism as a simplistic backdrop, reducing the state to stereotypes.
  3. Local perspectives and nuances are often overlooked in political reporting, where the same few interviewees are featured repeatedly.
163 implied HN points • 25 Feb 24
  1. The book 'This American Ex-Wife' has sparked conversations about love, marriage, and relationships in American society.
  2. The author has received mixed feedback - from angry men questioning her views to women thanking her for the impact of her book on their lives.
  3. The author's book was reviewed by various publications and sparked discussions on important topics like divorce, marriage, and feminism.
156 implied HN points • 11 Feb 24
  1. The author reflects on the nuances of love and relationships, finding beauty in seeking love and happiness, especially after a divorce.
  2. The author shares personal experiences about friendships flourishing post-divorce, highlighting the freedom and joy of unrestricted friendships.
  3. Celebrations of love are seen as wonderful occasions, contrasting the realities of divorce and the evolving dynamics in friendships and relationships.
153 implied HN points • 18 Feb 24
  1. Some scams might seem obvious to avoid, but the right scam can still catch anyone.
  2. People fall for different scams, even if they would never fall for a specific one.
  3. It's important to be cautious and aware of potential scams, as scammers can be creative in finding ways to trick people.