Your Midlife Matters with Alana Kirk, the Midlife Coach

This Substack is dedicated to exploring various facets of midlife challenges and opportunities for women, emphasizing self-discovery, personal growth, and empowerment. It discusses themes like embracing change, solo travel, parenting, sobriety, exercise, nutrition, success, and the power of journaling to navigate the complexities of midlife.

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Alone in Carcassonne

294 implied HN points • 17 Jan 24
  1. Alone time is important to reconnect with your individual self, away from different roles you play in life.
  2. Being alone can be empowering and enriching, allowing you to take up space and focus on yourself.
  3. Solo activities, like travel or simple outings, are essential for staying connected to yourself and exploring your personal interests.

Midlife drinking….

176 implied HN points • 07 Feb 24
  1. Alcohol plays a significant role in the lives of midlife women, sparking a conversation around moderation and habits.
  2. Culture and societal norms heavily influence our relationship with alcohol from a young age.
  3. Making conscious choices about alcohol consumption involves understanding personal motivations, noticing the effects of drinking, and being kind to oneself throughout the process.

Do you have a shameful story?

157 implied HN points • 31 Jan 24
  1. Be kind and loving to yourself before being that to others.
  2. The damaging words we say to ourselves can have a significant impact on our well-being.
  3. It's important to challenge societal narratives and standards imposed on us.

Your power is in your hand

78 implied HN points • 10 Jan 24
  1. Journaling allows you to explore, question, and focus your attention for a more intentional life.
  2. Midlife can be messy, but staying connected to yourself is essential amid the chaos.
  3. Writing down your thoughts helps your brain make sense of emotions and improves emotional intelligence.
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Midlife, redefined Daily Journal Guide

58 implied HN points • 28 Jan 24
  1. Journaling can help you navigate the chaos of midlife by giving you a space to process your thoughts and feelings.
  2. The goal in life is to experience a range of emotions and stay connected to yourself, not just to be happy all the time.
  3. Self-discovery is crucial before making plans or decisions to ensure they align with who you are at this stage of life and not external expectations.

Can you write yourself right?

39 implied HN points • 11 Feb 24
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  1. In times of struggle, reaching out for help, therapy, and self-reflection can be key to rebuilding and reconnecting with oneself.
  2. Journaling, even if just a few words a day, is a powerful tool for self-discovery and processing emotions.
  3. Building a consistent journaling habit, whether morning, evening, or in moments of need, can transform your relationship with yourself and empower you to live authentically.

Midlife Musings... Interview with The Stylebob

334 implied HN points • 16 Jun 23
  1. Learn to trust the process and enjoy the ride without worrying too much.
  2. Don't be so serious in your youth, embrace different experiences as they all shape your future.
  3. Stop apologizing for who you are and the choices you make, own your strengths and stand with confidence.

Are you coming or going?

294 implied HN points • 22 Jun 23
  1. Life is about constant evolution and change.
  2. We may feel stuck, but we are always moving and growing.
  3. Every decision and experience shapes our evolution.

While I raised my girls, they were raising me to be this woman

216 implied HN points • 20 Jul 23
  1. Parenting is a two-way street: children also teach and shape their parents.
  2. Children can bring out different aspects of a person, both positive and negative.
  3. Raising children involves personal growth, learning patience, and embracing one's true self.

Why I turned down dinner with James Bond …

275 implied HN points • 06 Jun 23
  1. Midlife is a time to feel comfortable in your own skin and say 'yes' to new opportunities.
  2. In midlife, it's important to challenge limiting beliefs and embrace growth and change.
  3. Reflect on past experiences, both successes and failures, to build inner strength and resilience.

Midlife, redefined Daily Journal Guide

39 implied HN points • 14 Jan 24
  1. Journaling in midlife can be a tool for self-discovery and exploring unique opportunities.
  2. Midlife for women today offers extra decades for vibrant living and redefining various aspects of life.
  3. Daily prompts can help in understanding self-knowledge, setting intentions, and living well in midlife.

Need building up after a midlife breakup?

216 implied HN points • 11 Jun 23
  1. It's possible to thrive after a midlife breakup.
  2. In the aftermath of a breakup, remember to gather clarity and navigate from strength, not panic.
  3. Connect back to yourself and respond to inner needs to thrive through and after a separation or divorce.

How to make midlife-changing decisions

176 implied HN points • 12 Jul 23
  1. Small decisions can have a big impact on our lives.
  2. Habits play a significant role in shaping our lives.
  3. Taking time for self-care and making small, daily choices can lead to profound changes.

Do you know what’s coming?

157 implied HN points • 05 Jul 23
  1. Life is unpredictable and we can't control everything.
  2. Midlife can bring both challenges and rewards.
  3. Developing curiosity, intention, and gratitude helps navigate the unknown.

Why “success” isn’t always the best option

137 implied HN points • 28 Jun 23
  1. Redefine your version of success as you evolve in different stages of life.
  2. Be intentional about defining what success means for you in every relationship and phase of life.
  3. Living by outdated definitions of success can be limiting, it's important to adapt and adjust as you grow and experience new things.

Midlife Musings... Interview with Sharon Thompson, campaigner and author.

117 implied HN points • 30 Jun 23
  1. Happiness can be fleeting, but being at peace in the moment is a skill worth mastering.
  2. Self-acceptance, doing life differently, and loving your body are key to feeling content.
  3. Focus on doing more of what makes you happy, embrace new experiences, and strive to be at peace.

What's lighting your way?

98 implied HN points • 26 Jul 23
  1. In midlife, finding your guiding lights can illuminate your path and provide clarity.
  2. Listen to what ignites, excites, and involves you to discover your guiding lights.
  3. Your guiding lights may have always been there, shining through various aspects of your life.

Are you responsible for everyone's happiness?

58 implied HN points • 06 Aug 23
  1. Feeling responsible for everyone's happiness can be a heavy burden, especially for women.
  2. Shifting responsibility and setting boundaries can lead to happier relationships and personal fulfillment.
  3. Focusing on your own happiness instead of trying to control others' can lead to a more fulfilling life.

Are you living an AND life or an OR life?

54 HN points • 14 Jun 23
  1. Try to shift from thinking in terms of 'or' to thinking in terms of 'and'.
  2. Embrace the idea that multiple things can be true at the same time.
  3. Avoid getting stuck in self-limiting labels and explore the creative potential of 'and'.