Freddie deBoer β’ 17636 implied HN points β’ 06 Mar 26
- A small but vocal slice of sexually frustrated men has come to shape public talk about sex, making ordinary admissions of sexual experience feel stigmatized and spreading the idea that nobody is getting laid.
- Framing attraction as a marketplace or leaderboard (think looksmaxxing and sexual market value) turns intimacy into competition and validation-seeking, and social platforms amplify that narrow, toxic view.
- Sex and romance are ordinary and broadly attainable; being genuine, social, and willing to face rejection usually builds real connections better than obsessing over metrics or extreme self-improvement.