Freddie deBoer • 20668 implied HN points • 24 Nov 25
- Gayness has been turned into a marketable, sexless identity sign that values spectacle and safe signaling more than actual desire.
- Contemporary queer culture is polarized between sanitized, inoffensive portrayals and mechanical promiscuity, and both extremes erase real intimacy and erotic joy.
- Eroticism depends on uncertainty and risk, so when hookups, publicity, or social norms remove chance and possible rejection, they drain sex of what makes it truly erotic.