Common Sense with Bari Weiss β’ 537 implied HN points β’ 06 Feb 26
- Pain is a natural signal and often important for growth, so trying to erase all pain is both impossible and undesirable. Suffering comes from how strongly you resist pain, so lowering resistance is a better goal than eliminating pain.
- Nonresistance means accepting pain without fear, anger, or self-pity, which lets you feel pain without multiplying your suffering. When you stop railing against pain, its power over you weakens.
- You can build nonresistance by deliberately facing hardship (like tough training) and by practices such as prayer or mental preparation that help you accept what comes. The real skill is applying these habits when pain is unwanted, not just when you choose it.