bookbear express • 445 implied HN points • 21 Dec 25
- Deep friendships are built slowly and need regular maintenance — spending time, creating rituals, and sharing experiences is how relationships become reliable.
- Different friendships require different approaches: some thrive on constant contact, others on rare intense hangouts, so use rituals, proximity, and creative ways to stay in touch (even location sharing) to keep them alive.
- Inconvenience and occasional conflict are part of community, not problems to avoid; saying yes to messy, inconvenient things and trusting that people will come back helps friendships deepen.