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BAD AT KEEPING SECRETS explores themes of emotional vulnerability, personal growth, love, and finding meaning in modern life through intimate conversations and reflections. It touches on coping mechanisms, relationship dynamics, self-improvement strategies, societal expectations, and the quest for connection and safety amid life's uncertainties.

Personal Growth Emotional Well-being Relationship Dynamics Self-Improvement Societal Expectations Life's Uncertainties Love and Connection

The hottest Substack posts of BAD AT KEEPING SECRETS

And their main takeaways

Ways to make someone fall in love with you...

648 implied HN points • 05 Feb 24

Trying to make someone fall in love with you can backfire.
Authenticity is important in relationships, even though there might be societal pressures to play games.
Acting disinterested or playing hard to get may not lead to the desired outcome in love.

How To Decide. Like actually do it.

904 implied HN points • 11 Jan 24

🏥 Health & Wellness Decisions Self-Improvement Books Reflection Mindfulness

Knowing when to walk away is just as important as knowing when to stay
Having permission to leave something if it's too much is okay
Annie Duke's research can help in making decisions with confidence

Is it time to move on?

727 implied HN points • 22 Jan 24

🏥 Health & Wellness Mental health Safety Anxiety Parenting

The author is contemplating whether they should move from a neighborhood with high levels of violence.
The writer expresses their deep emotional attachment to their current home despite its dangerous location.
The author shares a personal experience of gun violence near their home, sparking further consideration about whether to stay or move.

Creating meaningful ways to remember

569 implied HN points • 18 Jan 24

⛪ Faith & Spirituality Grief Support Journal Interview

Creating meaningful ways to remember and honor grief
Grief teaches us to grow at our own pace and to bloom in our own time
Supporting those who are grieving can be a powerful gift

How do you know when to give up?

1533 implied HN points • 11 Sep 23

🏥 Health & Wellness Mental health Personal Development Well-being

Knowing when to give up can be a difficult decision, even when you love what you're doing.
The pandemic has brought forth challenges of disconnection and lack of control, leading to uncertainty about the future.
Around 40% of our happiness is theoretically within our control, so focus on doing your best amidst uncertainties.

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I can be the villain in your story...

412 implied HN points • 15 Jan 24

🎨 Art & Illustration Creativity Self-Expression Emotions Personal Growth

The post discusses topics like creative despair, marital struggles, and being the 'villain' in someone's story.
Struggling with creativity during tough times can affect work and overall well-being.
Embracing difficult emotions like sadness and using them as fuel for creativity can lead to meaningful art.

Afterthoughts. Why is it so hard to learn from the past?

825 implied HN points • 16 Oct 23

🎭️ Culture Reflection Creativity Relationships Mental health Podcasts

Reflection on past experiences helps us learn and grow.
Seeking advice and feedback from others can provide valuable insights.
Embracing change and defining our own path can lead to personal growth and unity.

Lunar Magic To Change Your Life

746 implied HN points • 25 Sep 23

⛪ Faith & Spirituality Spiritual Practices Self-Improvement Magic

Sarah Faith Gottesdiener believes in the power of the moon and its connection to our bodies.
Lunar Magic involves transformation, consistency, and aligning with personal values.
Using the moon for self-improvement is about finding truth, acceptance, and living in alignment with your values.

Why do we feel so alone in our sadness?

628 implied HN points • 02 Oct 23

⛪ Faith & Spirituality Emotions Connection

Feeling alone in sadness is a common experience.
Sharing unsavory emotions helps us connect with others.
Jealousy and comparing ourselves to others can stem from childhood experiences.

Do we have a choice in who we love?

589 implied HN points • 18 Sep 23

⛪ Faith & Spirituality Love Reflection Blessing

Choosing who we love is complex and often not entirely within our control.
Feedback and adaptation can lead to valuable adjustments in content creation.
Prioritizing rest, attention, faith, and acceptance can be beneficial in personal growth.

How Did You Get By?

648 implied HN points • 31 Aug 23

🎨 Art & Illustration Storytelling Book promotion Interviews

New York Times columnists Julia Rothman and Shaina Feinberg interview people to share honest stories about topics not commonly discussed.
Their book 'How We Got By' features unique yet universal stories about addiction, career changes, relationships, and more.
The work by Julia and Shaina aims to provide perspective, comfort, and a sense of connection by addressing taboo topics openly.

Am I responsible for how you feel?

1100 implied HN points • 30 Mar 23

🏥 Health & Wellness Mental health Self-care Relationships Parenting

Prioritize taking care of yourself and don't feel guilty about it.
Communication is key in relationships, especially with loved ones.
Offer grace, forgiveness, and understanding in relationships.

Oh hi. Fancy meeting you here.

707 implied HN points • 27 Mar 23

🎨 Art & Illustration Personal Reflection Creative Expression Community Engagement Book recommendations Collaboration

Don't always feel pressured to find the 'good' in a bad situation.
Hard times can lead to self-reflection and creativity.
Embrace moments of pain as opportunities for growth and connection.

What I really want for Valentine's Day this year

687 implied HN points • 14 Feb 23

🏥 Health & Wellness Emotional Well-being

Valentine's Day wish is to be with loved ones in a relaxed state
Learning to self-regulate as an adult and practicing co-regulation exercises for connection
Shift in perspective during conflicts to focus on energy and impact rather than blame and actions

How to actually do the thing.

687 implied HN points • 23 Feb 23

🏥 Health & Wellness Behavioral Psychology Motivation Decision-making Anxiety Mental health

It's not all about willpower to achieve goals; changing your environment is crucial.
Setting your own goals is more effective than following others' goals.
Learning from failures, breaking down goals, and surrounding yourself with supportive people are key to achieving success.

You are longing. For what?

668 implied HN points • 27 Feb 23

⛪ Faith & Spirituality Mysticism

Longing and manifesting can coexist, challenge yourself to embrace hopeful spaces
Worthiness is complex, everyone and everything is inherently worthy
Longing often reflects societal conditioning for romantic love and balance between independence and interdependence

What does it mean to feel safe?

628 implied HN points • 03 Apr 23

⛪ Faith & Spirituality Safety Beliefs Coping Community Relationships

Feeling safe can be sought amid uncertainty and longing for assurance.
Safety and certainty are desirable concepts but often elusive and transient.
The idea of safety is intertwined with the desire for certainty, even though both are inherently fleeting.

An Acceptable Romance.

628 implied HN points • 06 Feb 23

The concept of romantic love can encompass various types such as Erotic Love, Obsessive Love, Playful Love, and Enduring Love.
Remembering past feelings of love can help reignite passion and depth in current relationships.
Enduring love involves accepting each other's flaws, working through challenges, and finding beauty in the messiness of love.

What is love in a meaningless universe?

609 implied HN points • 10 Feb 23

The concept of love in a seemingly meaningless universe is intriguing and can offer comfort and connection.
Nihilism is often misunderstood and can be a tool for self-reflection and critical thinking about the value of our time and actions.
Finding meaning in relationships and human creation, even in a universe that may seem devoid of inherent purpose, can be rewarding.

April is the saddest month - how poetry offers support in hard times.

589 implied HN points • 23 Mar 23

⛪ Faith & Spirituality Poetry Meaning of life Morality Existence

Poetry can offer support during difficult times.
Exploring life's complexities through poetry and deep thinking.
Finding comfort and meaning in poetry, philosophy, and human connection.