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Welcome autumn

Splattern • 39 implied HN points • 28 Sep 23
🎭️ Culture Food Events Relationships Personal Growth Lifestyle
  1. The start of autumn brings cozy dinner parties, where friends come together to share good food and company. It's nice to reconnect and celebrate friendships with a special theme like 'build a burrito.'
  2. Giving a speech at dinner parties can feel awkward, but it helps to acknowledge others and share the moment. This makes everyone feel connected and appreciated.
  3. Staying focused on goals helps create direction in life. It’s important to work hard and stay honest, just like Benjamin Franklin advised, without getting too caught up in specific job titles.

Coincidence at Kremwerk

Splattern • 39 implied HN points • 28 Aug 23
🎭️ Culture Social life Relationships Community Self-reflection Lifestyle
  1. Daniel uses colorful wristbands to represent his principles, making it easier to focus on them. It's a creative way to visualize your goals and actions.
  2. Running into Amy unexpectedly helped give closure to unrequited feelings. Sometimes, meeting someone again can offer clarity and help us move on.
  3. Building community is about creating a chosen family. Friends can support us and help us grow, making our experiences richer and more fulfilling.
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9. Describing Agency Problems in Serfdom, Employment and Entrepreneurship

Insight Axis • 39 implied HN points • 17 Apr 23
💼 Business Employment Entrepreneurship Venture Capital Investment Relationships
  1. Serfdom involved extreme inequality but had direct mutual interest between lords and serfs for protection and survival.
  2. Employment dynamics often have high inequality and may involve agency problems if the employer is not a significant shareholder, highlighting indirect mutual interest.
  3. Entrepreneurship with venture capital introduces extreme inequality similar to serfdom but adds an agency problem where venture capitalists may not have a direct stake, calling for more equitable investment models.

I fall in love too easily

Splattern • 39 implied HN points • 30 Sep 23
🎭️ Culture Relationships Identity Emotion Social Dynamics Personal Growth
  1. The relationship dynamics can feel complicated, especially when someone holds a position of power. It’s important to talk about these feelings to feel more balanced and empowered.
  2. Noticing how friends interact can reveal unspoken feelings, like jealousy or attraction, even when dating others. Open conversations about these feelings can bring clarity.
  3. Simple moments, like sharing a meal or a special item, can create deep connections and spark joy. These shared experiences deepen friendships and reveal more about each other.

Confessions of an Accidental Reactionary

Reactionary Feminist • 39 implied HN points • 16 Feb 24
🎭️ Culture Relationships Literature Family Marriage Liberalism
  1. Valuable loyalty in difficult times can exist in unexpected places, challenging the idea of easy separations
  2. Real-life stories of relationship challenges can be rare and challenging to share publicly
  3. Acknowledging and celebrating loyalty and perseverance in relationships is essential, even if the circumstances seem unconventional

Gentlemen Prefer Bitches

Castalia • 99 implied HN points • 06 Dec 22
📚 Literature Fiction Short Stories Character development Relationships Narrative Techniques
  1. Some men are attracted to women who seem strong and assertive, but this can lead to unhealthy relationships where they overlook their own needs.
  2. Friendship and support can help people recognize their worth and encourage them to make positive changes in their lives.
  3. Being honest and having clear expectations in relationships is important to prevent one person from feeling like a burden or a freeloader.

On "polyamory," "ethical non-monogamy," and all the other depressing ways to pretend you aren't just cheating

Unreported Truths • 67 implied HN points • 25 Jan 24
🎭️ Culture Relationships Gender Social Issues Lifestyle Society
  1. Polyamory trends are often dressed up in fancier names but fundamentally involve cheating
  2. Drug use, especially with substances like THC and psychedelics, can influence decision-making in polyamorous relationships
  3. Childless couples and shifting gender dynamics in earning power can play a role in the rise of polyamory

The Art of Difficult Conversations with Sara Ness

The Bigger Picture • 159 implied HN points • 05 Mar 22
🚌 Education Communication Conflict resolution Psychology Relationships Ideology
  1. Learn techniques from mediation, Internal Family Systems, Polyvagal Theory, Nonviolent Communication, and more to enhance communication skills
  2. Understand conflict from internal, relational, and philosophical levels to bridge divides and improve connections
  3. Develop skills to engage in difficult conversations effectively and navigate polarized issues with more empathy and understanding

Thank you, Colorado

Tech Ramblings • 59 implied HN points • 14 May 23
🎭️ Culture Lifestyle Personal Growth Places Relationships Community
  1. The author left California because they felt unsafe and unhappy there. They witnessed many troubling events that made them realize it was time to move.
  2. They chose to move to Colorado and found everything they needed there, like friends and inspiration for their projects. It was a positive change in their life.
  3. Now they're ready to move to New York and start a new chapter but recognize that it won't be the same experience as Colorado. They hope Colorado stays special and doesn't become like California.

Gravity

Castalia • 119 implied HN points • 08 Aug 22
🎭️ Culture Music Literature Art Identity Relationships
  1. People often find refuge in music during tough times. It can lead to discovering new artists and help navigate feelings of loneliness.
  2. Relationships can be complicated, especially after a breakup. New connections may form, but the past can still weigh heavily on your mind.
  3. Creativity can arise from everyday experiences and challenges. Venturing into art or writing can be a way to express emotions and connect with others.

Are you truly happy?

10x your mind • 59 implied HN points • 27 Oct 22
🏥 Health & Wellness Happiness Personal Development Relationships Emotional Well-being Family
  1. Finding happiness is not just about engaging work, but also about enjoying life, finding satisfaction, and having a sense of purpose
  2. The three macros of happiness are enjoyment, satisfaction, and purpose - strive to balance these for true happiness
  3. To foster long-term happiness, focus on nurturing relationships, whether with a spouse or close friends, and redefine success beyond money and fame

The Getting To Know You Phase

Castalia • 99 implied HN points • 05 Sep 22
📚 Literature Fiction Narrative Relationships Emotion Character development
  1. Relationships can start off exciting and full of charm but might later face challenges. It's important to keep the connection alive and not let things get stuck in a routine.
  2. Getting to know someone deeply takes time and can reveal difficult histories. Sharing personal stories helps build understanding, but it can also change the tone of the relationship.
  3. Mental health issues can impact relationships in complex ways. It's essential to be open, supportive, and honest about how these challenges affect each other.

Slut-onomics: How the scarcity of sluts tears the social fabric apart

Wood From Eden • 32 HN points • 12 Feb 24
🎭️ Culture Society Gender Relationships Sexuality Feminism
  1. The availability of casual sex has always been uneven among men, with only a minority having most access.
  2. Slut-shaming in the past may have helped some men downplay their conquests, reducing competition and maintaining peace.
  3. The shift from categorizing women as 'good' or 'bad' to grading them on a scale has intensified competition and made rejections more personal.

Commentary on The Constitution

Splattern • 19 implied HN points • 14 Dec 23
🎭️ Culture Society Relationships Gender Personal Growth Arts
  1. Many people stay in bad relationships because of societal pressure or a sense of duty, which can hold them back from finding better, healthier connections.
  2. When partying or dancing, a person's energy can affect the whole group's mood. Positive, relaxed vibes can make everyone feel safe and have fun.
  3. Predators tend to target those who seem weak or alone in social settings, so it's important to recognize your own strength and stay aware of your surroundings.

Day After

Castalia • 99 implied HN points • 12 Jul 22
📚 Literature Fiction Short Stories Narrative Character Study Relationships
  1. After a wild night, the main character feels a mix of joy and anxiety in the morning. Despite moments of connection, worries about life and relationships start to creep in.
  2. There is a struggle between wanting intimacy and dealing with personal issues. The interactions show a disconnect where one partner's needs clash with the other's feelings of aversion.
  3. The character reflects on the complexity of love and the pain of potential loss. It's about accepting that life is messy and relationships are made up of different parts of oneself, which can't always be unified.

CATHEDRAL | Chapter One - Four Years Out

Castles in the Sky • 24 implied HN points • 08 Mar 24
📚 Literature Fiction Family Space Emotions Relationships
  1. The protagonist and their family face a life-changing decision of joining an interstellar mission aboard the Ark spaceship.
  2. The family's emotional journey showcases love, gratitude, and tough choices as they prepare to leave Earth behind.
  3. The story highlights themes of sacrifice, family bonds, and the pursuit of dreams in the face of monumental change.

The last supper

Splattern • 19 implied HN points • 04 Nov 23
🎭️ Culture Social life Workplace dynamics Personal Growth Relationships
  1. It's okay to have mixed feelings about work and life changes. Sometimes you want to adventure, and other times you just want stability, like getting another job.
  2. Team meals can be really important for bonding and closure. They help people connect, reflect, and share feelings, especially when saying goodbye.
  3. Feeling lost or uncertain at work is normal. Learning from experiences like performance reviews can help you find your way and improve in the future.

assorted thoughts on beliefs and emotions

Midnight Musings • 39 implied HN points • 24 Apr 23
📖 Philosophy Beliefs Emotions Relationships Self-awareness Personal Growth
  1. Beliefs can really shape who we are and how we interact with others. People often stick to their beliefs and form communities around them, making it tough to change opinions later.
  2. Self-sabotage and guilt can mess up our daily routines. Instead of feeling good about progress, we often focus on what we didn’t achieve and feel bad about it.
  3. Our emotions impact our relationships more than we realize. If we can let go of negative feelings and understand that others are doing their best, we can create healthier connections.

The Getting To Know You Phase

Castalia • 39 implied HN points • 26 Feb 23
📚 Literature Fiction Short Stories Relationships Narrative Character development
  1. Eric struggles with being single after a series of relationships, feeling lonely and stuck in a routine. He finds excitement in dating again but worries about his future.
  2. His relationship with Elizabeth starts strong, filled with charm and deep conversations, but as they get closer, they uncover difficult pasts that challenge their bond.
  3. The dynamic shifts when Elizabeth reveals her mental health struggles, which Eric tries to understand, but ultimately leads to their breakup and Eric facing the reality of being alone again.

Small Circles

Cathedral Effect • 19 implied HN points • 02 Jun 23
📚 Literature Fiction Family Relationships Life Reflection
  1. Yano's relationship with his daughter Dette is complicated and he struggles to connect with her.
  2. Yano reminisces about his past, particularly his marriage and life before the divorce.
  3. Yano forms a new bond with a fellow gambler, Chen, learning about his tragic past and finding connection through shared experiences.

What's got my attention this week #3

The Shift With Sam Baker • 19 implied HN points • 26 May 23
🎭️ Culture Books Health Relationships Self-Improvement Media
  1. Tina Turner's legacy and impact are celebrated widely, with a special remembrance by Mad Max director George Miller highlighting her stance against relationship abuse.
  2. Consider setting your time free instead of managing it, as explored in a thought-provoking piece.
  3. Exploring topics like the significance of trees, a new drug for hot flushes, reflections on therapy, and questioning the concept of self-optimization in beauty culture are all highlighted.

Relating as beneficent space

Meaningness • 19 implied HN points • 21 Jul 23
⛪ Faith & Spirituality Buddhism Relationships Practice Writing Books
  1. The post discusses a Vajrayana Buddhist approach to relationships, aimed at resolving stuck patterns in personal interactions.
  2. The writer mentions upcoming topics including software engineers, stage theory, and the future of stage theory as science.
  3. The writer is contemplating the value of producing a paperback/Kindle version of their AI book based on potential readership numbers.

The Subtle Importance of Affect ($)

Stream of Subconsciousness • 19 implied HN points • 23 Mar 23
🏥 Health & Wellness Emotions Therapy Self-Expression Relationships Self-awareness
  1. Affect is key in how you present yourself to others, through the ability to express emotion in a way that is understood.
  2. A person's affect can influence how they are perceived and understood by others, impacting trust and deeper motivations.
  3. Rapport can have both positive and negative aspects, reflecting how individuals express themselves and are understood by others.

On 2020: Year Review+Giveaway

Day One • 159 implied HN points • 29 Dec 20
💼 Business Marketing Entrepreneurship Community Relationships Skill development
  1. Success in 2020 depended on setting up the right systems, like tech skills for online earning.
  2. Being part of supportive communities helped people achieve their goals this year by providing motivation and learning opportunities.
  3. Building strong relationships, both virtual and physical, was crucial for success and personal growth in 2020.

Broken Trust

Random Minds by Katherine Brodsky • 32 implied HN points • 11 Aug 23
🏥 Health & Wellness Trust Relationships Self-care
  1. Broken trust can not only affect your relationship with the person who broke it, but also impact all other relationships.
  2. It's important to be aware of the repercussions of broken trust and how it can extend beyond just one relationship.
  3. Consider the broader implications of trust issues and how they may influence various areas of your life.