The hottest Relationships Substack posts right now

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i want to be good but i am bad - help?

Both Are True • 369 implied HN points • 14 Mar 24
🏥 Health & Wellness Relationships
  1. Humans are complex and contain a mix of traits, both positive and negative.
  2. It's possible to have moments of self-awareness and growth, even if struggling with mental health and past traumas.
  3. Accepting and acknowledging our flaws, while striving to be better, is a journey of self-discovery and self-acceptance.

01/18/24 - What the fuck is Korea doing feeding alfalfa to students?

Moly’s Substack • 58 implied HN points • 19 Jan 24
🎭️ Culture Relationships
  1. Some families go to great lengths to invest in their children's interests and hobbies, even if it can lead to materialistic demands
  2. Older generations may have differing views on marriage and inheritance, causing conflicts and legal battles
  3. Cultural differences and financial backgrounds can influence perspectives on spending money and family dynamics

matchmaking is open + what I've been reading

bookbear express • 137 implied HN points • 18 Jan 25
🎭️ Culture Relationships
  1. There's a matchmaking event happening soon, and it's a chance to meet new people. You can sign up for just $5, and they promise to refund if it doesn't work out for you.
  2. The author is enjoying traveling with friends and believes that spending time with loved ones is important. They want to focus more on fun and light experiences in life.
  3. The author is reading some interesting books and articles that explore themes of art, motherhood, and personal experiences. They find these topics gripping and reflective.
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Invent the day

Splattern • 59 implied HN points • 13 Jan 24
🎭️ Culture Relationships
  1. Creating a morning routine can be beneficial. It can include simple activities like eating breakfast, doing yoga, and organizing your gear.
  2. Inventing solutions often requires combining creativity with technical skills. It's exciting to explore this path because it helps solve unique problems that don’t have clear answers.
  3. Building relationships can be important, as seen in the warmth shared between friends. Memories of loved ones can also bring comfort and connection during new experiences.

The Closure of Mutual Fish Opens a Window into Jewish and Japanese Friendship

The Cholent • 98 implied HN points • 15 Sep 23
🎭️ Culture Relationships
  1. The closure of Mutual Fish shop symbolizes the end of a long history of Jewish and Japanese friendship in Seattle.
  2. During World War II, there were instances of Jewish families supporting their Japanese neighbors who were sent to internment camps.
  3. The relationships between the Jewish and Japanese communities in the seafood business led to deep connections and acts of kindness that are remembered even today.

How to Make Friends On Bumble (Part 1)

I'm Like You (but with a newsletter) • 98 implied HN points • 21 Jun 23
🎭️ Culture Relationships
  1. Digital platforms like Bumble BFF offer solutions for making friends in a modern world focused on dating.
  2. Creating a friendship profile online involves answering prompts and updating pictures to reflect aspects of your life.
  3. Being clear about your relationship status and creating a profile with your partner can help avoid confusion and make friend-seeking easier.

The Self-Destruct Button

We're Gonna Get Those Bastards • 7 implied HN points • 19 Dec 25
🎭️ Culture Relationships
  1. Everyone has a self-destruct button and can self-sabotage, so avoid putting yourself in tempting or risky situations that make it easy to act on impulses.
  2. Reputation and conscience matter more than money because secrets are exhausting and guilt lasts longer than any short thrill, so protect your reputation by living honestly and openly.
  3. Build unassailable character by refusing short-term pleasures that carry big costs and following basic ethical principles in both personal and professional life.

Better Small Talk:

Books Unbound • 3 HN points • 18 Aug 24
🎭️ Culture Relationships
  1. Small talk helps build connections, so it's important to practice it regularly. Short interactions can turn into meaningful conversations later on.
  2. Preparing topics for small talk, like a conversation resume, can make you feel more confident and engaging. Having stories or interesting facts ready helps avoid awkward silences.
  3. Keeping conversations lively requires techniques like free association or using certain prompts. This keeps the discussion flowing and makes it more enjoyable for everyone involved.

A Tale from the Friend Zone

Bet On It • 135 implied HN points • 03 Jan 25
🎭️ Culture Relationships
  1. Sometimes, people see you as a friend and not a partner, and it's important to accept that. Trying to change their mind often doesn't work.
  2. Many people end up staying friends even when they have feelings for someone, which can lead to regrets later on. It's crucial to recognize when to move on.
  3. Reflecting on past relationships can bring up feelings of regret, especially when we realize things about people we once cared for. It's a part of life.

The meet-cute (rom com, Act One)

Both Are True • 344 implied HN points • 05 Mar 24
🎭️ Culture Relationships
  1. Rom-coms are not dead, they are alive and thriving, often reflecting real-life moments of love and connection.
  2. Relationships can have quirky and unique beginnings, like meeting on the set of a film and starting a flirtatious interaction through a phone prank.
  3. Love stories often have unexpected twists, like the moment of realization and confession that sets the stage for the next act in the romantic journey.

Happy birthday and bon voyage

Splattern • 59 implied HN points • 31 Dec 23
🎭️ Culture Relationships
  1. It's normal to feel sad when making big changes, but it's good to acknowledge those feelings. To feel sadness before leaving can help you appreciate everything you’ve experienced.
  2. Friendship can overcome past issues. Even if there was a falling out, real friends can show up for each other when it matters most.
  3. Living a simpler, more connected life doesn’t depend on your location. You can create a fulfilling lifestyle anywhere, even in busy places like New York.

I didn't keep the house, I built a new one

Men Yell at Me • 174 implied HN points • 20 Oct 24
🎭️ Culture Relationships
  1. When people split up, the question of who keeps the house can come up, and it can be a complicated issue. It touches on feelings of home and shared lives.
  2. Deciding what to keep from a shared life, like furniture or memories, can feel like separating parts of a relationship. It's about more than just physical items; it's emotional too.
  3. Building a new life after a split can be empowering. Instead of holding on to the past, creating something new can symbolize hope and fresh beginnings.

The Mating/Reproduction Game

In My Tribe • 546 implied HN points • 23 Jun 23
🎭️ Culture Relationships
  1. In evolutionary terms, our behaviors are strategies for reproduction that interact with the cultural environment.
  2. On average, in a society with equal male and female numbers, men and women will have the same number of sex partners.
  3. Social and cultural factors influence how individuals may present themselves in terms of mating strategies.

How to Protect What’s Real

Anima Mundi • 61 implied HN points • 24 May 25
📖 Philosophy Relationships
  1. To protect what’s real, focus on nurturing and caring for it instead of trying to control it. It's about staying near and paying attention.
  2. Good relationships and valuable things need ongoing effort and kindness, not just occasional attention. It's the small daily choices that keep them alive.
  3. Sometimes, what we call 'protection' is actually fear. Instead of building walls, we should check in and listen to what truly needs our presence.

The Odyssey of Marion Desjardins

Euro Desk Paris • 59 implied HN points • 10 Jan 24
🎭️ Culture Relationships
  1. Marion Desjardins engages strangers in conversations on public benches in a small town.
  2. Direct human contact through conversations on benches reveals unique stories and experiences.
  3. Desjardins highlights the importance of public benches as spaces for connection and sharing in communities.

Reinventing yourself time and again

10x your mind • 99 implied HN points • 23 Feb 23
🏥 Health & Wellness Relationships
  1. Reinventing yourself professionally, emotionally, and physically is essential. Adapting and evolving will be crucial in the future.
  2. Reinvention is not limited to your career. It includes improving physical fitness, pursuing personal goals, and nurturing meaningful relationships.
  3. It's never too late to reinvent yourself and make significant positive changes in your life.

Will Robot Girlfriends Save Humanity, or Just Speed Up The Collapse?

OK Doomer • 114 implied HN points • 12 Jan 25
🕹 Technology Relationships
  1. A lot of people, including some men, are seriously considering having romantic relationships with AI and robot girlfriends. This shows how lonely and disconnected people are feeling today.
  2. Tech companies are seeing a huge rise in interest and money making potential from AI girlfriends, pointing to a bigger issue of loneliness in society. People crave connection, but often look for it in tech instead of with real relationships.
  3. The overall trend suggests a shift where people might prefer comfort from technology over real human connections, which could lead to bigger problems in society as our relationships with each other weaken.

Insight & Action: Secrets & Lies

Finding Joy • 39 implied HN points • 10 Feb 24
🏥 Health & Wellness Relationships
  1. Managing love and money can be complicated, especially when trust is broken due to financial secrets.
  2. Financial infidelity, like secret accounts or spending, can be as damaging to a relationship as physical cheating.
  3. Open communication and trust are crucial in maintaining a healthy relationship, especially when it comes to money matters.

Agile Dating - A Less Painful Way to Date

Cozy Philosophy • 14 HN points • 24 May 24
🏥 Health & Wellness Relationships
  1. Modern dating can be confusing and stressful due to limited information and time, leading to self-doubt and anxiety.
  2. Approaching new relationships with Agile Dating principles helps navigate uncertainties with clarity, empathy, and continuous improvement.
  3. Agile Dating involves treating relationships as experiments with co-creators, radical transparency, empathy, and regular check-ins to decide on next steps.

Creative Soulmates

Seven Senses • 1 HN point • 08 Sep 24
🎭️ Culture Relationships
  1. Creative friendships can lead to amazing collaborations. They let you share ideas, inspire each other, and grow together.
  2. Trust is important in these relationships. Whether it's sharing meals or working on projects, being open and supportive helps deepen the bond.
  3. Even if friends go separate ways, the memories and connections can last. It's like a part of them stays with you, no matter the distance.

02/06/24 - Men with ED are the cutest.

Moly’s Substack • 39 implied HN points • 07 Feb 24
🎭️ Culture Relationships
  1. A blogger discusses the interesting conversations and interactions that can occur with a partner who has ED, highlighting the importance of patience and communication.
  2. Various healthcare anecdotes from around the world showcase different experiences and approaches to medical issues.
  3. Social dynamics and gender roles within families during holidays are highlighted, emphasizing the inequality in household responsibilities.

What dating stereotypes can teach us about happiness | #31

The Pole • 79 implied HN points • 17 Sep 23
🎭️ Culture Relationships
  1. Every relationship can face common conflicts like those portrayed in dating stereotypes
  2. Gender roles in relationship dynamics can be interchangeable - anyone can embody traits traditionally associated with 'men' or 'women'
  3. Striving for a balance of agency and flexibility, overcoming ego, and listening to different perspectives are key to resolving conflicts in relationships

The Red-Pill Delusion About Women

Erik Examines • 89 implied HN points • 23 Feb 25
🎭️ Culture Relationships
  1. Women have always been active in choosing their partners, not just passive victims. Relationships involve love and emotional connections, not just power dynamics.
  2. Both men and women experience sexual desire, and female desire is often influenced by emotional connections and cultural factors. It's wrong to see women as simply waiting for men to take charge.
  3. Modern dating challenges are not because women are too free, but because some men struggle with women's independence and equality. Healthy relationships should be based on mutual respect and understanding.

Feminists can center men a little, as a treat

Sex and the State • 44 implied HN points • 23 Jun 25
🎭️ Culture Relationships
  1. Decentering men is really about building strong connections with others. It's important to have a supportive community instead of relying solely on one person for emotional needs.
  2. Being in a committed relationship can still align with feminist values. It's okay to center a partner if that relationship is healthy and reciprocal.
  3. Love should be about wanting what’s best for each other, even if it means making tough choices. Trust and mutual respect in relationships lead to deeper intimacy.

Tad Friend on Fathers and Sons, Husbands and Wives, and Surviving Infidelity

Ladyparts • 279 implied HN points • 07 Jun 22
🎭️ Culture Relationships
  1. Tad Friend's memoir explores family relationships and the impact of infidelity on love and identity.
  2. The narrative delves into personal introspection, revealing deeper layers of self-discovery beyond the initial subject matter.
  3. The author's captivating storytelling style draws readers into a journey of emotional exploration and reflection on life's complexities.

Behaviors That Attract People

Prawfeed Newsletter • 4 implied HN points • 06 Jan 26
🏥 Health & Wellness Relationships
  1. Be genuine and present — share real smiles, be yourself, and show quiet confidence so people find you approachable and trustworthy.
  2. Focus on others by listening beyond words, holding eye contact, asking good questions, and praising their accomplishments to make them feel seen.
  3. Show kindness and openness — express sincere appreciation, offer help without expectation, and stay open-minded to invite connection.

The loneliness epidemic

Arnab’s Substack • 16 HN points • 09 May 24
🏥 Health & Wellness Relationships
  1. TikTok introduced a new era in social networking, with its algorithm acting as a broadcast medium, but it also brought new problems by shifting the storytelling dynamic between creators and consumers.
  2. Humans naturally crave bi-directional relationships within smaller tribes, as seen historically and in current social media trends where platforms are transitioning towards broadcast models for engagement.
  3. The upcoming AI revolution is expected to elevate your connections and interactions by personalizing stories, potentially addressing some issues caused by the shift towards content consumption on platforms like TikTok.

The blowjob that blew up my life

Sex and the State • 41 implied HN points • 27 Jun 25
🎭️ Culture Relationships
  1. Breaking free from traditional beliefs can be driven by personal experiences and desires. It's okay to question what you've been taught about relationships and morality.
  2. Choosing to leave a marriage can come from wanting a more fulfilling life, not necessarily from negative situations like abuse or infidelity. It's important to recognize your own needs and wants.
  3. Sometimes, a pivotal moment can force a change in perspective, leading to unexpected realizations about one's life and choices. A single action or decision can open up new paths for understanding.