The hottest Relationships Substack posts right now

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Love and Dating in Death Note

Unstabler Ontology β€’ 0 implied HN points β€’ 18 Mar 24
🎭️ Culture Relationships
  1. In Death Note, love can influence strategic decisions, leading to obedience, sacrifice, and even betrayal.
  2. The show explores the intertwining of love and dating with strategic gameplay, showcasing dynamics like competition among lovers and secretive communication.
  3. Real love and dating concepts, such as trust, obedience, and shared fantasies, are depicted in a gamified way, providing insights into human relationships.

NO GOOD

Links I Would Gchat You If We Were Friends β€’ 0 implied HN points β€’ 11 Apr 16
🎭️ Culture Relationships
  1. The internet can facilitate important discussions and activism, like The Guardian's anti-harassment project.
  2. Online mapmakers, with no formal training, are contributing valuable insights into conflicts in countries like Syria and Yemen.
  3. The dynamics of attractiveness in relationships can vary, with some trends being influenced by online dating apps.

*Be* the nerd you wish to see in the world

Links I Would Gchat You If We Were Friends β€’ 0 implied HN points β€’ 04 Jan 16
🎭️ Culture Relationships
  1. Your Facebook News Feed is created by computer scientists, data scientists, and behavioral researchers using some mystical methods.
  2. Dogspotting online is more complex with strict rules and competitive dog photography community.
  3. An app called 'Just Not Sorry' aims to help women avoid 'ineffective' language in emails, but it may inadvertently reinforce stereotypes about femininity.
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Spirit rush? More like SPIRIT CRUSH.

Links I Would Gchat You If We Were Friends β€’ 0 implied HN points β€’ 29 Aug 14
🎭️ Culture Relationships
  1. Avoid checking work email on weekends to maintain a healthier work-life balance and boost productivity.
  2. Get insight into the experiences and perspectives of individuals in unique and often misunderstood professions, like being a popular porn star.
  3. Explore new and diverse forms of entertainment and media, such as watching Twitch and following online gaming tournaments. Find unexpected enjoyment beyond traditional TV shows.

#hagrid2016

Links I Would Gchat You If We Were Friends β€’ 0 implied HN points β€’ 10 Jul 14
🎭️ Culture Relationships
  1. Democratic party set up a digital boot-camp for campaigners with a Harry Potter theme called Hogwarts for digital wizardry.
  2. A dad jokingly made Vine videos of his baby that went viral, leading to unexpected fame, worry, and paparazzi.
  3. Seeking a long-term partner on OkCupid with a high compatibility rating may not always lead to a reassuring outcome.

Selfies, an official public health threat

Links I Would Gchat You If We Were Friends β€’ 0 implied HN points β€’ 10 Feb 14
🎭️ Culture Relationships
  1. Amazon makes books cheap but may be cheapening the written word as intellectual and cultural currency.
  2. "Flappy Bird" ended, highlighting the pointlessness of human existence. Now there's "Flappy Doge," proving the same point even more brutally.
  3. Soul Mate in a Box is a safe, online-only relationship to avoid heartache. Modern Love editor discusses it.

The conclusive argument against dick pics

Links I Would Gchat You If We Were Friends β€’ 0 implied HN points β€’ 05 Feb 14
🎭️ Culture Relationships
  1. Twin sisters reunited through Facebook after being adopted from South Korea and raised in different countries.
  2. The dark web has a mysterious new leader known as 'Dread Pirate Roberts 2.0,' covered in an Ars Technica interview.
  3. An article discusses people in East Baltimore too poor to engage in pop culture, likening their surroundings to 'The Wire.'

How to Build Trust Without Playing Golf

The Uncommon Executive β€’ 0 implied HN points β€’ 27 Feb 24
πŸ’Ό Business Relationships
  1. Minority aspiring executives can face biases that hinder building trust and need to try different approaches to connect with their colleagues.
  2. Building trust at work can be achieved by focusing on common professional goals and interests, rather than solely relying on social interactions.
  3. To strengthen relationships, support colleagues in various ways, such as noting their achievements, offering assistance, and connecting them with others.

The learning relationship

Meaningness β€’ 0 implied HN points β€’ 15 Jun 23
β›ͺ Faith & Spirituality Relationships
  1. The article discusses reinventing Vajrayana Buddhism for the modern world by separating the functional and social roles of lamas, making the reinvention project feasible.
  2. There is a Zoom discussion titled 'Guru vs Learning Relationship' happening, which explores the importance of learning relationships and how they differ from traditional guru roles.
  3. Upcoming events include a course on the Charnel Ground in Vajrayana Buddhism and a five-week course on transforming relationships through Vajrayana practices.

Becoming vaster than ideology

Meaningness β€’ 0 implied HN points β€’ 12 Dec 21
πŸ“– Philosophy Relationships
  1. The post discusses moving past narrow ideologies to develop more accurate and powerful relationships with various belief systems.
  2. It mentions the concept of being vaster than ideology and how it can help in stopping blind allegiance to religions, scientism, political ideologies, and psychological theories.
  3. By becoming vaster than ideology, individuals can work towards cultivating healthier and more nuanced perspectives on ideologies.

Tip of the Day: Give Yourself and Others Some Grace

Are You Okay? β€’ 0 implied HN points β€’ 17 Oct 22
πŸ₯ Health & Wellness Relationships
  1. Acknowledging the universality of struggle can lead to self-compassion and improved relationships, benefiting our health.
  2. Healing from the pandemic's psychological toll involves facing uncomfortable truths about ourselves and normalizing feelings of despair.
  3. Embracing the practice of 'holding paradox' helps in reframing mindset, setting realistic goals, and fostering empathy towards ourselves and others.

Take a Break

Are You Okay? β€’ 0 implied HN points β€’ 06 Sep 21
πŸ₯ Health & Wellness Relationships
  1. Taking breaks is essential for health and creativity. Downtime is important for recharging.
  2. Honest introspection is crucial for personal growth and relationships. Self-reflection helps in better understanding and connecting with others.
  3. Tips for finding calm include being kind to yourself, practicing mindfulness, spending time in nature, moving your body, and maintaining connections with loved ones.

Ted Lasso Returns To Teach Us About Leadership! ⚽️

PeopleStorming β€’ 0 implied HN points β€’ 28 Jun 21
🎭️ Culture Relationships
  1. Ted Lasso is a TV show that focuses on relationships, personal struggle, teamwork, career choices, and communication more than just football.
  2. Ted, a character in the show, exemplifies great leadership qualities despite not having expertise in football, showcasing the importance of diverse skills and behaviors in leadership.
  3. The show is a great source of leadership inspiration, with 10 principles believed to be embodied by Ted, making it enjoyable and insightful for viewers.

A better way to check in on your colleagues πŸ‘‹

PeopleStorming β€’ 0 implied HN points β€’ 21 Apr 20
πŸ₯ Health & Wellness Relationships
  1. Different types of check-in questions are useful for different situations: fun & inconsequential, personal & connected, deep & valuable.
  2. Consider factors like group size, group familiarity, conversation duration, and context of relationship when choosing questions for check-ins.
  3. Choosing the right check-in question can help deepen connections and strengthen relationships with colleagues.

Entrepreneurs In Search For Support

Venture Prose β€’ 0 implied HN points β€’ 22 Jan 19
πŸ’Ό Business Relationships
  1. Engage with smart, capable, and well-connected individuals for support as a founder. They unlock potential, tackle challenges, and offer valuable connections.
  2. Interact with like-minded people for deep discussions, specialists for specific help, and strategists for unique perspectives. Foster these relationships for mutual growth.
  3. Ensure relationships are built on honesty, regular interactions, and structured conversations. Act reliably, commit thoroughly, and maintain a positive attitude.

Reflections on Venture Capital

Venture Prose β€’ 0 implied HN points β€’ 14 Aug 18
πŸ’Ό Business Relationships
  1. Building a lasting partnership in business, especially in entrepreneurship, can be challenging due to differing paths and potential tensions.
  2. Transparent and honest communication is crucial for overcoming differences in relationships, including in the VC-Founder dynamic.
  3. In Venture Capital, focusing on a common set of purpose, values, and principles, along with talent and merit, is essential for building a committed and accountable team for delivering performance.

How To Manage Finances When Moving In Together

Austin's Analects β€’ 0 implied HN points β€’ 11 Apr 23
πŸ’° Finance Relationships
  1. Creating a shared budget is key: Budget for rent, utilities, groceries, etc. to understand expenses together.
  2. Open a joint checking account: Use it to cover shared expenses hassle-free without the need for splitting every bill.
  3. Set up automatic transfers and payments: Simplify managing finances by scheduling transfers and payments for shared expenses.

Get better grades in any class

Austin's Analects β€’ 0 implied HN points β€’ 31 Jul 20
🚌 Education Relationships
  1. Building a good relationship with your professor can significantly impact your grade.
  2. Introduce yourself to your professor early on and show interest in their class and teachings.
  3. Attending office hours and thanking your professors can help create a positive relationship.

It's All a Confidence Game

The Unabashed Observer β€’ 0 implied HN points β€’ 02 Feb 24
🎭️ Culture Relationships
  1. Confidence is a valuable currency in today's society, often more about perception than reality.
  2. Being true to yourself and gaining confidence can lead to more positive relationships and opportunities.
  3. While confidence is important, it needs to be backed up by substance like skills, intelligence, or integrity to truly be effective in the long run.

How scientists measure if you have good friends

Penelope Trunk's Substack β€’ 0 implied HN points β€’ 30 Dec 23
πŸ₯ Health & Wellness Relationships
  1. Research shows that reciprocal friendships are key. It's important for your best friend to consider you their best friend too.
  2. Engagement in friendship involves pride, fun, pressure, emotions, specialness, and commitment. Reflect on where your friends fall on this list.
  3. Friendships evolve over stages of life. In your 20s, you may have many friends, but by your 30s, it's common to have only a few close friends and focus on family.

How to stop having transactional friends

Penelope Trunk's Substack β€’ 0 implied HN points β€’ 27 Mar 23
πŸ₯ Health & Wellness Relationships
  1. Consider moving away from having transactional friendships and focus on the value of genuine relationships.
  2. It's important to appreciate and prioritize friends who offer honest feedback and support, even when no payment is involved.
  3. Friendship is about more than just transactions - genuine connections and meaningful interactions make a significant difference.

Your partner isn't a narcissist

Penelope Trunk's Substack β€’ 0 implied HN points β€’ 30 Sep 22
πŸ₯ Health & Wellness Relationships
  1. The idea that a partner might be perceived as a narcissist could actually be a misinterpretation of autism traits.
  2. Autism and narcissism can share certain characteristics, like difficulty in understanding other people's feelings and a focus on oneself.
  3. It's common for people with autism to attract and be attracted to others with autism, which can lead to challenges and misunderstandings in relationships.

The Devil You Know is Better Than the Angel You Don't

Metarational β€’ 0 implied HN points β€’ 05 Jun 21
πŸ’Ό Business Relationships
  1. Predictability is crucial in social interactions - knowing the devil you know can be better than the angel you don't.
  2. Having a history or personal connection with someone can lead to profitable collaborations, even if they are generally inferior.
  3. Social and cultural structures that enhance predictability can create more scenarios for successful collaborations, even if they are arbitrary.

Georgica Pettus: Gargoyle3699 (You, Me, and GPT-3)

Do Not Research β€’ 0 implied HN points β€’ 15 Oct 22
πŸ“š Literature Relationships
  1. SingerDancerActor123 discusses personal details and boundaries with Gargoyle3699 through email exchanges.
  2. SingerDancerActor123 and Gargoyle3699 navigate power dynamics and communication styles in their interactions.
  3. Themes of communication, trust, and personal growth are explored in the exchanges between SingerDancerActor123 and Gargoyle3699.

Freedom From Monogamy Comes at a Price β€” The Masai as an Illustrative Example

Harnessing the Power of Nutrients β€’ 0 implied HN points β€’ 24 Aug 11
🎭️ Culture Relationships
  1. Non-monogamous cultures, like the Masai, come with unique social expectations and pressures that differ from monogamous societies.
  2. Polyamorous arrangements may not always lead to carefree relationships, as seen in the case of the Masai where jealousy and sharing spouses are significant challenges.
  3. The Masai society's emphasis on extensive sharing and avoidance of daughters sheds light on how non-monogamous social mores can impact family dynamics and relationships.

A non-exhaustive, unordered list of things I've learned (2020)

The faintest idea β€’ 0 implied HN points β€’ 17 Jul 22
🚌 Education Relationships
  1. It's important to be kind to myself and recognize my own feelings. Practicing self-compassion can really help improve my mindset.
  2. I learned that connecting with others is essential, especially during tough times. Spending time with friends can give me energy and comfort.
  3. Coping with challenges, like insomnia or feeling overwhelmed, is a process. Finding ways to manage stress and finding joy in the little things matters.

the flirtation continues

Splattern β€’ 0 implied HN points β€’ 29 Oct 23
🎭️ Culture Relationships
  1. The author had a fun dinner with a family, highlighting connections and potential future friendships.
  2. Going to a Halloween party with a crush led to flirty moments and making each other slightly jealous.
  3. A surprising question about the author's sexuality from the crush made the night memorable, but it showed a deeper concern about feeling safe.

A very sick love letter

Splattern β€’ 0 implied HN points β€’ 25 Oct 23
🎭️ Culture Relationships
  1. Being sick can make you reflect on your relationships and feelings deeply. It's important to take the time to express your thoughts to those you care about.
  2. Connecting emotionally is essential before building a romantic relationship. Trying exercises like eye-gazing can help explore those feelings.
  3. Listening to different perspectives on work-life balance can open your eyes to how people live around the world. Conversations can lead to valuable insights about happiness and stress.

Monkey Loft

Splattern β€’ 0 implied HN points β€’ 02 Sep 23
🎭️ Culture Relationships
  1. Getting stung by hornets can be painful, but responding with both fight and flight can help you tackle scary situations.
  2. Dancing alone can feel freeing, and it allows you to connect with others without the pressure of performing.
  3. It's okay to be hesitant when asking for someone's number; the important part is to engage and have a genuine conversation.