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A Sex Strike isn't Going to Work

Rob Henderson's Newsletter • 7576 implied HN points • 17 Nov 24
🎭️ Culture Gender
  1. Cultural appropriation happens when one group takes aspects of another group's culture without understanding its significance. American women joining the South Korean 4B movement might be seen as doing this, as they are adopting a struggle that is not theirs.
  2. A collective sex strike faces many challenges. It requires everyone to agree and act together, which is hard since individuals might choose to break the strike and miss out on the potential benefits without facing consequences.
  3. Looking at history, past movements didn't always work out as planned. Striking for change isn't as simple as withholding something, especially in a democracy where individual freedoms and choices are valued.

The Online Right Doesn’t Want White Women to Get PhDs

Common Sense with Bari Weiss • 445 implied HN points • 08 Dec 25
🎭️ Culture Gender
  1. Parts of the online right openly harass white women who pursue advanced degrees, saying they should be having children instead of careers.
  2. When Juliet Turner posted about earning her PhD, she was attacked on X and called a race traitor and shamed for not having kids.
  3. These attacks come from a rising white supremacist mindset online that treats white women mainly as reproducers and has escalated alongside broader far‑right harassment of minorities.

Your December Questions, Answered (1 of 2)

Singal-Minded • 227 implied HN points • 05 Jan 26
🎭️ Culture Gender
  1. Most of the time when we think we’re right it’s more luck than careful, independent reasoning. We know so little and rely on experts, so humility is the sensible stance.
  2. Studies suggest many kids with childhood-onset gender dysphoria who didn’t socially or medically transition later accept their sex, but that research doesn’t automatically apply to adolescents who come out later. Adolescent-onset appears to be a new and poorly studied presentation, especially in the U.S., so long-term outcomes are uncertain.
  3. Some activists and clinicians have made strong causal claims (for example, that kids will die without immediate treatment) that aren’t well supported and can be harmful or self-fulfilling. Because of this uncertainty, caution and better research are needed before making broad medical or policy decisions.
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Literal prostitutes don’t get to define masculinity

Sex and the State • 110 implied HN points • 28 Jan 26
🎭️ Culture Gender
  1. Sex workers often provide emotional labor that bolsters men's sense of masculinity, selling feelings like validation and performance more than just physical sex.
  2. Advertising and many services work by selling emotional experiences or identities (for example, rebellion or nostalgia) rather than just product features.
  3. Many men misidentify why they seek paid sex because masculinity discourages admitting vulnerability, so sex workers can uniquely perceive and meet those hidden needs.

Oxfam: When misogyny is the mission

The Glinner Update • 3970 implied HN points • 06 Jun 23
🎭️ Culture Gender
  1. Oxfam is criticized for prioritizing gender ideology over women's rights and safety.
  2. The charity faced backlash for removing a children's game due to pressure from trans activists.
  3. Oxfam's inclusive language guide erases terms like 'mother' and 'pregnant woman' and promotes gender-based language.

Are carers of New Zealand’s gender-confused kids in state care now being told they must transition them to the opposite sex?

A B’Old Woman • 399 implied HN points • 27 Jun 24
🇺🇸 U.S. Politics Gender
  1. In New Zealand, there are new policies that suggest foster carers must help transition gender-nonconforming children to the opposite sex. This is causing concern among some people.
  2. A request for information about how many children in state care are being transitioned revealed that the government doesn't have clear data on this issue, which raises questions about their policy-making processes.
  3. Critics argue that current policies are based on flawed research and may be influenced by a generation that supports transitional practices without proper scrutiny.

How to Fix Dating

Polymathic Being • 97 implied HN points • 01 Feb 26
🎭️ Culture Gender
  1. A lot of modern dating works like a transaction where money, status, or attention are traded for women’s time and sexual access, a pattern with roots in flapper-era social norms.
  2. That transactional model creates misaligned incentives and unclear expectations, which can lead to exploitation, resentment, and the kinds of problems highlighted by movements like #MeToo.
  3. A better approach is clearer norms and honest conversation: set mutual expectations and boundaries, share costs more equitably, or adopt a courtship-style model focused on commitment instead of quid‑pro‑quo exchanges.

if he wanted to, would he really?

Airplane Mode with Liz Plank • 1867 implied HN points • 11 Jan 24
🎭️ Culture Gender
  1. Men's behavior in relationships is not always as simple as 'If he wanted to, he would.'
  2. Slogans like 'If he wanted to, he would' may have underlying anti-feminist implications and oversimplify modern dating dynamics.
  3. In today's dating scene, understanding and compassion for both genders can help avoid misunderstandings and improve relationships.

Whiskerology!

Culture Study • 1538 implied HN points • 20 Jul 25
🎭️ Culture Gender
  1. Hair has been seen as a reflection of personal identity, conveying information about character, race, and gender in the 19th century. People believed that their hair could reveal their true self.
  2. In early America, hair length was linked to social status and power. Short hair signified masculinity and political citizenship for white men, while long hair was associated with marginalized groups.
  3. Today, hair autonomy is connected to self-sovereignty, as people express their identity through their hair. However, there are still challenges, especially for Black individuals, in facing regulations about hair in workplaces and schools.

How to Dress Like a Gentleman—And Why

Common Sense with Bari Weiss • 3783 implied HN points • 10 Feb 25
🎭️ Culture Gender
  1. Dressing well shows that you care about your appearance and how you present yourself. It's not childish; it's actually a sign of maturity.
  2. A good wardrobe can make a big difference in how you're perceived, especially in professional settings. Wearing a suit and tie can elevate your status.
  3. Transitioning from a uniform to formal wear can be challenging, but it’s important to adapt to new environments and expectations. Knowing how to dress for the occasion is key.

The 'Let Kids be Kids' roadshow of the South Island NZ gets pushback from the usual suspects.

A B’Old Woman • 759 implied HN points • 24 Apr 24
🇺🇸 U.S. Politics Gender
  1. Some parents in New Zealand are worried about what kids are learning in school about gender identity and sex education. They feel that these topics are sometimes not suitable for children.
  2. The 'Let Kids be Kids' roadshow faced backlash from activists who disagreed with its message. They pressured event venues to cancel the presentations.
  3. There's a growing concern among parents about their involvement in decisions about school education. Some feel their voices are not being heard in discussions about the guidelines related to sexual education.

Feminism run amok

ideassleepfuriously • 1434 implied HN points • 07 Feb 24
🎭️ Culture Gender
  1. Feminism may ignore natural attractions and preferences, leading to dissatisfaction in relationships.
  2. Feminism can push individuals away from their natural inclinations, affecting their fulfillment in life.
  3. Feminism's disregard for reproductive biology can contribute to societal issues like declining marriages and tensions between sexes.

More cows, more wives

The Works in Progress Newsletter • 27 implied HN points • 24 Feb 26
🎭️ Culture Gender
  1. Marriage looks very different across cultures and history; it’s mainly a social tool for managing resources, kinship ties, and who gets to pass on a family name, not just a private love contract.
  2. When people settled and accumulated wealth, especially with farming and herding, polygyny, male control of women, and patrilineal inheritance became common, while mobile, egalitarian hunter‑gatherer groups tended toward more fluid, less resource‑bound relationships.
  3. Modern forces like state laws, schooling, urbanization, and women’s economic independence are weakening kin‑arranged controls and bridewealth/dowry systems, making marriages more individual choice‑based and more easily entered or left.

What happened to J.K. Rowling?

The Path Not Taken • 286 implied HN points • 08 Dec 25
🎭️ Culture Gender
  1. A once-measured, liberal-style dissent about sex and gender has become much more single-minded and absolutist, treating the issue as a strict either/or choice.
  2. The tone and rhetoric have hardened, with less respect shown for transgender people's dignity and more public shaming and dismissive language.
  3. As the gender-critical movement won legal and political gains, it grew more militant and single-issue, risking overreach and a move away from liberal pluralism and compromise.

Do These People F*ck: The Sex Symposium

Many Such Cases • 1358 implied HN points • 31 Jan 24
🎭️ Culture Gender
  1. The Sex Symposium focused on women over 40, addressing their unique challenges and experiences with sex. Many attendees were eager to talk about pleasure and sexuality without the fears younger generations might have.
  2. Speakers discussed the importance of individual pleasure but recognized societal issues like shame, trauma, and patriarchy that affect women's sexual experiences. While these are real concerns, some wonder if there’s more to address beyond personal feelings.
  3. Overall, the event was a positive space for discussions on sex, with many women feeling empowered to explore their desires. The excitement for pleasure was a big part of the experience, showing that many older women are enjoying their sexuality.

Women have an essential role to play in dissident movements

Becoming Noble • 1813 implied HN points • 18 Dec 23
🎭️ Culture Gender
  1. Women play a crucial role in dissident movements by fostering deep bonds, warmth, and alliances in unofficial spaces like social gatherings and dinner parties.
  2. Creating welcoming and warm environments, particularly through shared events like dinner parties, can help in forming connections, shaping society, and nurturing goodwill.
  3. In times of challenge and turmoil, such as during 'civilizational winter,' building strong relationships and providing security through shared experiences like shared meals becomes essential for survival and strength.

The Case for Dating Abundance

Common Sense with Bari Weiss • 1126 implied HN points • 02 Aug 25
🎭️ Culture Gender
  1. Dating has become a tough battlefield for both men and women, with a lot of frustration and anger in the air. People are struggling to connect and understand each other in romantic relationships.
  2. A recent satire shows how extreme dating frustrations can become, highlighting a woman who takes her date hostage to prove they should be together. This reflects the intense feelings many single women face today.
  3. There's a growing belief that dating is failing, especially for straight people, due to various issues, particularly blaming men. This idea has sparked conversations about the future of relationships.

Matt Yglesias Has a Pretty Good Piece on Larry Summers

Brad DeLong's Grasping Reality • 307 implied HN points • 25 Nov 25
🇺🇸 U.S. Politics Gender
  1. On many policy fights he was more right than wrong, offering sound economic reasoning on trade, drug pricing, pollution, university reform, and stimulus policy even when those positions provoked controversy.
  2. The claim that men simply show greater variability is unsettled; observed sex differences look more complex and likely reflect a mix of biological, behavioral, and social factors rather than a single bell-curve explanation.
  3. Personal misconduct—romantic entanglement and scheming with someone tied to sex crimes—is indefensible and badly damaged his reputation, and even correct reforms can fail if pursued clumsily or provocatively.

X Fact Check: Does Gender Integration Moderate Politics?

Astral Codex Ten • 9498 implied HN points • 15 Feb 24
🇺🇸 U.S. Politics Gender
  1. A study found no significant impact on political attitudes based on siblings' gender composition, challenging the idea of a gender gap in politics.
  2. The results of the study did not align with initial claims, proposing a different perspective on the influence of sibling gender dynamics on political beliefs.
  3. Using survey data, it was suggested that sibling gender composition may not play a significant role in shaping political ideologies of individuals.

Is Feminism Shrinking?

Letters from Suzanne • 2378 implied HN points • 06 Sep 23
🎭️ Culture Gender
  1. Feminism may be shifting to a broader definition of womanhood, including male-bodied individuals.
  2. There are ongoing debates about trans women in sports and transgender inmates in women's prisons.
  3. The author sees a concerning trend of feminism being narrowed and losing its essence.

Working Hard or Hardly Working

Some Unpleasant Arithmetic • 24 implied HN points • 12 Feb 26
🎭️ Culture Gender
  1. Market-driven economic change uproots communities and erodes social bonds, which lowers trust and can produce crime, political backlash, and long-term despair.
  2. Work has become a central source of identity, driving grind culture and extreme hours that cause burnout and are often counterproductive, while also deepening inequality and gender gaps.
  3. Strong social networks and community matter for jobs and meaning, but AI, clique-driven hiring, and growing loneliness are making the labor market less meritocratic and leaving many people isolated.

Compulsory monogamy as sexual socialism for mediocre men 2.0

Sex and the State • 44 implied HN points • 04 Feb 26
🎭️ Culture Gender
  1. Compulsory monogamy can function as a tool to stabilize unequal societies by spreading partners more evenly so elite men don’t monopolize wives, which helps reduce the creation of angry, partnerless men.
  2. When women delay marriage, divorce more, or assert independence, it can produce a class of marginalized, partnerless men who lack emotional support and can be vulnerable to radicalization and violence.
  3. The suggested fixes are to reduce economic inequality and build institutions that give young men non-monetary sources of esteem—like civic organizations or meaningful service—and to have honest, empathetic public conversations about these problems.

#TradWife Life as Self-Annihilation

Culture Study • 11657 implied HN points • 06 Sep 23
🎭️ Culture Gender
  1. The concept of #TradWife encompasses different categories, like evangelical Christians and stay-at-home-girlfriends, each with unique beliefs and practices.
  2. The #TradWife content on social media may seem harmless on the surface, but it often aligns with regressive and anti-choice ideologies.
  3. There's a common theme of self-annihilation among women subscribing to #TradWife ideals, where their identity and desires are overshadowed by serving others.

What Makes Men and Women Different?

Uncharted Territories • 2162 implied HN points • 04 Sep 23
🔬 Science Gender
  1. Women and men think differently due to biological differences like having a uterus, leading to significant psychological variations.
  2. Men and women face different stakes in relationships and reproduction, with women having higher commitments and limitations due to their reproductive capacity.
  3. Evolutionary factors have shaped men to compete for access to females, leading to traits like dominance, aggression, physical strength, and risk-taking behavior.

how to talk to single people

Airplane Mode with Liz Plank • 1022 implied HN points • 08 Feb 24
🎭️ Culture Gender
  1. Single people are a growing population and should be treated with respect and dignity.
  2. Being in a relationship doesn't guarantee happiness, and single people often lead fulfilling lives outside of dating.
  3. Avoid making assumptions about single people's desires and priorities, and focus on celebrating their achievements and providing support.

How to determine your own value

The Shift With Sam Baker • 1118 implied HN points • 25 Jan 24
🎭️ Culture Gender
  1. Value can be determined by more than just money, accolades, or others' opinions.
  2. It's important to question societal norms that undervalue certain types of work or individuals.
  3. Many creative, self-employed individuals, especially women, often face the expectation to work for free despite their expertise and experience.

So I cried at the dentist...

David Spinks' Newsletter • 15 implied HN points • 02 Mar 26
🎭️ Culture Gender
  1. Boys and men are taught to hide tears and see crying as weakness, so many people hold emotions in to protect their masculinity.
  2. Letting tears and feelings out can be cathartic and makes you feel clearer and stronger, because emotional expression often signals safety.
  3. Changing how we view masculinity could help address harms rooted in patriarchy, but crying alone isn’t enough — it must be paired with ownership and real behavioral change.

Can Any Woman Resist a Rich Husband?

Common Sense with Bari Weiss • 1159 implied HN points • 17 Jun 25
🎭️ Culture Gender
  1. The film 'Materialists' explores the tension between love and financial stability. It shows how a woman might struggle between marrying for love or for wealth.
  2. The movie compares modern dating dilemmas to classic romantic literature, like Jane Austen's 'Persuasion'. It highlights how societal pressures still influence personal choices today.
  3. Despite a contemporary setting, 'Materialists' aims to bring back the feel-good vibe of romantic comedies, but it doesn't quite succeed in achieving that goal.

The Girlboss Is Sleeping with the Intern

Common Sense with Bari Weiss • 2606 implied HN points • 09 Jan 25
🎭️ Culture Gender
  1. There is a growing sense of dissatisfaction among women, leading some to seek out new experiences or break commitments. Many women feel trapped in their current lives and long for excitement or change.
  2. The film 'Babygirl' explores the character Romy, who seems successful but feels unfulfilled in her marriage. Her search for pleasure and connection leads her to an affair with her younger intern.
  3. Romy's journey highlights the complexities of desire and the risks people take when chasing what they think will make them happy. It raises questions about love, commitment, and personal satisfaction.

"Don't Be a Feminist"

Heterodox STEM • 234 implied HN points • 25 Nov 25
🎭️ Culture Gender
  1. Feminism, as commonly used, is the view that society treats men more fairly than women, and the label can be ambiguous because many people who reject the label still support gender equality.
  2. Many measurable gender gaps—especially the earnings gap—often reflect different choices, preferences, or job mixes rather than simple discrimination; for example, the pay gap narrows for single, childless workers and men take more high-pay but unpleasant or risky jobs.
  3. Men also suffer serious harms like riskier work, higher imprisonment and suicide rates, and conscription, and society tends to prioritize protecting women, so both sides have legitimate complaints that are often overstated.