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Smokey starts practising for the next Olympic Games.

A B’Old Woman • 579 implied HN points • 08 Aug 24
😂 Humor Gender
  1. Smokey the cat is training to compete in the Olympics as a female participant. He's excited about the chance to win despite knowing he might not be the best.
  2. He recognizes that the rules allow him to compete as a girl, and he plans to use this to his advantage. Smokey is clever and knows how to charm people to get what he wants.
  3. If the rules change and he needs to prove his gender, he's not worried. He can easily switch back to being a boy, but he seems to enjoy the idea of competing as a girl for the fun of it.

Stop with the weird masculinity tropes, Trump supporters

Jeff Giesea • 1197 implied HN points • 30 Jul 24
🇺🇸 U.S. Politics Gender
  1. Using weird masculinity insults can turn people off and alienate groups like women and the LGBTQ+ community. It's not cool to insult others based on gender or sexual orientation.
  2. True masculinity should be about protecting and respecting others, not bullying them or making them feel insecure. Real strength comes from being confident without needing to tear others down.
  3. Being part of a movement means building bridges and finding common ground, not just mocking opponents. The Harris campaign is doing a better job of bringing people together and organizing effectively.

What happened to J.K. Rowling?

The Path Not Taken • 1388 implied HN points • 08 Dec 25
🎭️ Culture Gender
  1. A once-liberal critic who defended the right to dissent has shifted to a more hardline, single-issue stance on transgender matters, and their tone and language have become less respectful.
  2. An intense single-issue focus frames the debate in Manichean terms and forces people to pick sides. This approach sidelines other important public priorities like climate change and social inequality.
  3. As the campaign won legal and media support it also grew more militant and began to align with conservative or authoritarian tendencies, which has alienated some earlier sympathizers.

The Science of Hooking Up and Settling Down

Common Sense with Bari Weiss • 213 implied HN points • 13 Feb 26
🎭️ Culture Gender
  1. Many young heterosexuals are dating less and often get stuck in endless app messaging, awkward first dates, and little romantic progress.
  2. Pessimistic cultural narratives and toxic online subcultures have deepened despair among some men and made dating feel more fraught.
  3. People blame everything from the sexual revolution to economics and dating apps, but the conversation frequently relies on an oversimplified pop version of evolutionary psychology that mischaracterizes attraction.

Noah Smith Needs to (& Many Others Need to) Listen to Claudia Goldin & Eddie Cornelius: Treat Her Like a Lady to Raise the TFR

Brad DeLong's Grasping Reality • 415 implied HN points • 23 Jan 26
🎭️ Culture Gender
  1. Falling birth rates are mainly a social problem tied to gender roles and cultural expectations, not just economics or technology.
  2. Big baby bonuses can raise fertility but would be prohibitively expensive and politically difficult, so cash-only solutions are unlikely to restore replacement-level births.
  3. A better approach is changing men’s behavior and social norms—encouraging supportive partners, de-emphasizing macho 'bro' status, and raising the pay and status of caregiving—so motherhood fits with women's economic choices.
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Stop Telling Women When to Have a Baby

Common Sense with Bari Weiss • 222 implied HN points • 12 Feb 26
🎭️ Culture Gender
  1. There isn’t one perfect age to have a baby; biology might point to an optimal window but social and personal circumstances mean timing is different for every woman.
  2. Women get nonstop, unsolicited advice about when to have kids from all parts of the political spectrum.
  3. Men don’t face the same pressure about timing, and some men cross lines by trying to dictate or control women’s reproductive choices, which can be inappropriate and paternalistic.

Meet The Lipsdick: A Dick-Shaped Lipstick

The Unpublishable • 12421 implied HN points • 07 Mar 23
🪞 Fashion & Beauty Gender
  1. A lipstick shaped like a penis was launched, sparking discussions about beauty standards and feminism in the industry.
  2. The product's marketing as empowering and innovative is being questioned, as it may perpetuate stereotypes and lack depth.
  3. The controversy highlights issues with media coverage of such products, raising concerns about critical thinking and substance in journalism.

Political Psychology Links, 1/26/2026

In My Tribe • 303 implied HN points • 26 Jan 26
🎭️ Culture Gender
  1. Personal feelings of misery and powerlessness drive people, especially young women on the left, to join activist movements that promise community and a sense of purpose.
  2. Environmental activism is linked with higher levels of dark-triad traits like Machiavellianism, narcissism, and sometimes psychopathy, with these traits and activist participation mutually influencing each other and relating to censorship tendencies.
  3. Women often enforce moral order through observation, judgment, and social pressure rather than force, which works well in small groups but breeds resentment in larger public arenas where formal rules are more effective.

A Story About Pain

The Audacity. • 10770 implied HN points • 13 Sep 23
🎭️ Culture Gender
  1. The post discusses women, pain, and the struggle to be heard
  2. The author, Aubrey Hirsch, shares personal stories through writing and illustrations
  3. Aubrey Hirsch's work has been featured in various publications like The New York Times and TIME

Stochastic Terror

Disaffected Newsletter • 779 implied HN points • 15 Jul 24
🇺🇸 U.S. Politics Gender
  1. The media can influence public perception and actions, which has been evident in political events, including attempts on leaders' lives. It's important to be aware of how narratives are shaped.
  2. Society often overlooks the reality of women's violence, which can lead to misunderstandings about abusive behaviors, even when they are clearly happening.
  3. There are diverse topics discussed in the media that range from serious issues to light-hearted humor, showcasing varied perspectives and cultural commentary.

Feminism's Gains Come with Sacrifices

Journal of Free Black Thought • 8 implied HN points • 09 Mar 26
🎭️ Culture Gender
  1. Achieving gender equality has required personal sacrifices like losing preferential treatment, and those small inconveniences are part of the price for broader gains for women as a group.
  2. Some self-identified feminists are turning to postfeminism or anti-feminism because they resent individual costs (like splitting bills or sharing responsibilities), but that stance ignores the collective benefits of equity.
  3. Real strength and independence are built through hardship and accepting equal duties in work, relationships, and civic life; selective or conditional equity weakens the movement.

The Other Sexual Orientation

Knowingless • 6185 implied HN points • 19 Jun 25
🎭️ Culture Gender
  1. Not everyone experiences sexual attraction the same way. Some people, like those with BDSM preferences, have unique orientations that can define their sexuality just like being straight or gay.
  2. Sexual interests are diverse and can range from common to taboo. What excites someone may not be the same for another person, highlighting that sexual preferences are deeply personal and varied.
  3. There are different mindsets around sexual preferences, with some people being open about their kinks while others may feel judged or confused. Understanding this diversity can help people accept and communicate their desires better.

THE DAMNING LISTS

Entering The Lung • 5483 implied HN points • 22 Jan 24
🎭️ Culture Gender
  1. Hitting a wall in creativity is a real warning to pause and reflect.
  2. Excluding and ranking in music can be harmful and unnecessary.
  3. Lists can be more creative and inclusive if they break free from traditional hierarchies.

Marriage Markets

David Friedman’s Substack • 224 implied HN points • 09 Feb 26
🎭️ Culture Gender
  1. Marriage markets create deep inequality based on people’s desirability, especially physical attractiveness, which can matter more than money. Systems like bride-price and dowry shift money among families to compensate less desirable partners, but that redistribution may not balance and can leave some people unmarried.
  2. Matching is about fit, not just distribution: who pairs with whom depends on mutual preferences. One-sided auctions help assign partners by willingness to pay, but mutual-consent arrangements better capture both sides’ tastes while still leaving unequal outcomes.
  3. Many marriage terms are hard to enforce because behaviors inside a marriage are private and unobservable. That makes divorce threats or outside payments more effective than courts at changing how the implicit contract is honored.

Two ordinary Kiwis go toe-to-toe with their local school over inappropriate gender-identity and sexuality content in the curriculum.

A B’Old Woman • 479 implied HN points • 02 Aug 24
🇺🇸 U.S. Politics Gender
  1. Parents are concerned about certain gender and sexuality topics in their kids' school curriculum. They feel the content is inappropriate for children.
  2. Two parents, Blair and Karen, are actively fighting against this content and have formed a support group called PAGE NZ. This group helps others share their concerns and experiences.
  3. Not all schools use the same content from the guidelines, but those that do face strong pushback from parents trying to protect their kids.

Should We Feel Sorry for White Men?

Common Sense with Bari Weiss • 737 implied HN points • 22 Dec 25
🎭️ Culture Gender
  1. A viral essay argued that white millennial men have faced anti-white discrimination in elite arts and media over the last decade, calling those years a "lost generation" for that group.
  2. The piece provoked strong, polarized reactions across the political spectrum, with some praising its critique of diversity initiatives and others sharply criticizing it.
  3. The controversy turned the essay into a broader public conversation, prompting publications and writers to weigh in on whether white men are victims and what cultural changes are driving these disputes.

The Post-Post-#MeToo Novel

Common Sense with Bari Weiss • 329 implied HN points • 23 Jan 26
🎭️ Culture Gender
  1. Jennette McCurdy’s new novel fictionalizes a teenage girl’s relationship with a much older teacher and shows how an adult’s grooming becomes sexual and emotional abuse. It turns private trauma into a tense, unsettling story.
  2. Told entirely from a 17‑year‑old’s viewpoint, the book vividly captures obsessive thinking, impulsive behaviors, and the cycle of psychological violence that comes with such a relationship. It makes the reader feel the cravings for approval through fashion, food, social media, and a dangerous romance.
  3. Following her brutally honest memoir about childhood abuse, this novel pushes readers into even more uncomfortable territory and sharpens the conversation about adults abusing power over young people. It’s part of a wave of stories testing how we see and respond to abuse in the post‑#MeToo era.

Ode to the slattern

Disaffected Newsletter • 1758 implied HN points • 14 May 24
🎭️ Culture Gender
  1. The slattern is a unique character type in stories, often portrayed as messy and chaotic but intriguing. Many people are drawn to these flawed characters because they are relatable and fun to explore.
  2. Growing up with a complex relationship with one’s mother can shape how individuals view and mimic female figures in media. This dynamic can lead to a stronger connection with the 'bad women' archetype in pop culture.
  3. Emulating these characters can feel empowering, even if there is awareness of their flaws. Playing around with the slattern persona can be a playful way to explore one's childhood experiences and relationships.

Fertility Goes Up When Men Win

Cremieux Recueil • 694 implied HN points • 21 Dec 25
🏥 Health Politics Gender
  1. When men gain income or individually controlled money, households tend to have more children, while when women get the same transfers, completed fertility often falls—likely because shifts in who controls resources change household bargaining.
  2. This male-bias effect appears across many settings—reparations, lottery wins, resource booms, and sex-ratio shifts—and seems driven by higher male marriage rates and greater marital stability when men’s prospects improve.
  3. For fertility policy, that means who receives support matters: boosting men’s economic prospects or using child-contingent designs can raise births, but explicitly favoring men is politically unacceptable, so policies must instead shape incentives and bargaining in neutral, fair ways.

It’s expensive to be a Man

New Means • 3930 implied HN points • 30 Jan 24
🎭️ Culture Gender
  1. Masculinity propagated by some influencers can be toxic, isolating, and damaging to men's mental health.
  2. Resistance to harmful stereotypes and embracing individuality can lead to emotional freedom and healthier relationships.
  3. Rejecting oppressive norms benefits not only men, but also promotes freedom and fulfillment for all genders.

Why Has Iran Never Had a Female Ayatollah?

I Might Be Wrong • 21 implied HN points • 10 Mar 26
🌍 World Politics Gender
  1. Iran still has no female ayatollah, which highlights a persistent glass ceiling keeping women out of top clerical roles.
  2. The clerical elite also lacks racial and cultural diversity, with senior ayatollahs coming from very similar backgrounds rather than reflecting the population.
  3. Recent leadership picks show nepotism and continued male dominance, which undermines claims of inclusion and could weaken the regime’s legitimacy.

'Are Men Capable of Full Intimacy?'

Ask Polly • 3970 implied HN points • 24 Jan 24
🎭️ Culture Gender
  1. Don't see your emotions as a liability when dating; be authentic from the start.
  2. True intimacy involves accepting the real person without embellishments or illusions.
  3. Being fully alive in a relationship means accepting imperfections and embracing honesty.

Alpha Male Losers

Erik Examines • 627 implied HN points • 19 Dec 25
🎭️ Culture Gender
  1. Influencers who sell 'alpha male' tactics give poor relationship advice; they often rely on manipulation, don't sustain real loving partnerships, and their flashy status symbols are hollow.
  2. Long-term relationships with educated, emotionally mature partners are more stable and better for children; making friends and being social creates real connections far more effectively than dating apps or alpha posturing.
  3. True leadership and attractiveness come from social skills, alliance-building, and emotional intelligence—not muscles, money, or online performance; aim for a steady, community-oriented life with genuine friendships instead of chasing fame or status.

Women, not men, are saying no to dating

Sex and the State • 47 implied HN points • 23 Feb 26
🎭️ Culture Gender
  1. Recent data show many more men than women are using dating apps and actively looking for relationships, with a clear male majority among users and higher percentages of single men seeking dates.
  2. Women are increasingly saying no to dating and marriage, and this reduced willingness to couple helps explain falling marriage rates among the same groups.
  3. Possible reasons include class and economic shifts (who can be a breadwinner), changing expectations about partnerships, and cultural changes such as feminism that have altered incentives for women to marry.

A transwoman, a transman and a non binary fella walk up to a Terf…

The Glinner Update • 6918 implied HN points • 20 Jun 23
🎭️ Culture Gender
  1. The event attracted attention from the trans community after being publicized on social media.
  2. The author interacted with a non-binary individual, a transwoman, and a transman during the event, each with their unique perspectives.
  3. Despite efforts to silence them, the author feels the need to continue advocating for women's rights through political involvement.

Sundress Eroticism

Many Such Cases • 999 implied HN points • 07 Jun 24
🎭️ Culture Gender
  1. Sundresses are popular in summer because they are comfortable and pretty. Many people enjoy wearing them as they feel good in them.
  2. There is a discussion about who sundresses are worn for, with some women dressing for themselves and others for attention. It's okay to dress in a way that attracts others.
  3. The meaning and style of sundresses can vary among different racial groups. Both types offer comfort and a sexy look, but they can be seen differently based on culture.

Undead

ASK MOLLY • 6662 implied HN points • 05 Oct 23
🎭️ Culture Gender
  1. The author reflects on societal expectations and challenges faced by unfamous women writers
  2. Exploring the pressure to conform to traditional roles and the struggle to be authentic and outspoken
  3. Discussing the importance of speaking out and sharing experiences, despite societal expectations

Young Men Are in Crisis Mode, Fox News Abandons Pretense of News, Southern Baptists Boot Women, School Superintendent Boots Education, AI Can Make You Lonely and Drink, Gerry & The Pacemakers Sing

kareem • 6230 implied HN points • 19 Jun 23
🇺🇸 U.S. Politics Gender
  1. Young men are facing challenges in society in terms of finding their identity and facing societal expectations.
  2. Income potential is still seen as a measure of worth for young men, impacting their views on attracting women.
  3. Many public figures may not be providing positive guidance for young men, perpetuating toxic masculinity and harmful behaviors.

READING: Judith Shklar as Proto-Feminist in the 1950s

Brad DeLong's Grasping Reality • 123 implied HN points • 03 Feb 26
💾 History Gender
  1. In elite academic settings, informal social policing—like faculty wives' sewing circles and gossip—pressures women to prioritize husbands and children and enforces hierarchies through malice and envy.
  2. Some progressive mentors and male allies promoted fairness and merit, which opened professional doors, but visible success still invited invasive gossip and resentment.
  3. Personal choices, spousal influence, and institutional opportunities combined to steer women into academic careers while they tried to balance family and intellectual ambitions.

Defending Sex in Missouri

Reality's Last Stand • 2967 implied HN points • 18 Jan 24
🇺🇸 U.S. Politics Gender
  1. Laws should reflect biological facts over politically driven ideologies.
  2. Legislation on sex should be based on robust biological principles for defense against gender ideology.
  3. The Defining SEX Act emphasizes the importance of scientifically accurate definitions of biological sex in law.

Lessons from Wall Street sex trafficker Howard Rubin

Sex and the State • 27 implied HN points • 26 Feb 26
🎭️ Culture Gender
  1. Rape is mainly about power, not sexual freedom, and abusers target people who are vulnerable and use control and coercion to harm them.
  2. Sexual shame and moralizing help abusers by silencing victims, letting others discredit survivors, and enabling recruitment and cover‑ups.
  3. Reducing sexual violence requires destigmatizing consensual sex, teaching accurate sex education, believing survivors, and holding perpetrators and enablers accountable.

barbie didn't direct itself

Airplane Mode with Liz Plank • 2535 implied HN points • 24 Jan 24
🎭️ Culture Gender
  1. The lack of Oscars nominations for the Barbie movie highlights gender bias in the film industry
  2. Only eight female directors have ever been nominated in the 95-year history of the Academy Awards, showing a significant gender disparity
  3. The success of the Barbie movie, despite lack of recognition, shows the industry's need for change and the importance of celebrating female creators

I have a problem: a desistor's manifesto - part 3

Parents with Inconvenient Truths about Trans (PITT) • 2456 implied HN points • 24 Jan 24
🎭️ Culture Gender
  1. Concerns about individuals bending gender to harm others in spaces like restrooms and prisons.
  2. Issues with men being awarded and competing in women's categories, affecting fairness and opportunities for women.
  3. Criticism of coercion to accept certain terms, limitations on free speech, and lack of logical debate in the context of trans ideologies.