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Get better grades in any class

Austin's Analects • 0 implied HN points • 31 Jul 20
🚌 Education Relationships
  1. Building a good relationship with your professor can significantly impact your grade.
  2. Introduce yourself to your professor early on and show interest in their class and teachings.
  3. Attending office hours and thanking your professors can help create a positive relationship.

It's All a Confidence Game

The Unabashed Observer • 0 implied HN points • 02 Feb 24
🎭️ Culture Society Politics Self-Improvement Media Relationships
  1. Confidence is a valuable currency in today's society, often more about perception than reality.
  2. Being true to yourself and gaining confidence can lead to more positive relationships and opportunities.
  3. While confidence is important, it needs to be backed up by substance like skills, intelligence, or integrity to truly be effective in the long run.

How scientists measure if you have good friends

Penelope Trunk's Substack • 0 implied HN points • 30 Dec 23
🏥 Health & Wellness Friendships Research Autism Emotions Relationships
  1. Research shows that reciprocal friendships are key. It's important for your best friend to consider you their best friend too.
  2. Engagement in friendship involves pride, fun, pressure, emotions, specialness, and commitment. Reflect on where your friends fall on this list.
  3. Friendships evolve over stages of life. In your 20s, you may have many friends, but by your 30s, it's common to have only a few close friends and focus on family.

How to stop having transactional friends

Penelope Trunk's Substack • 0 implied HN points • 27 Mar 23
🏥 Health & Wellness Friendship Relationships Emotions Self-Improvement Social media
  1. Consider moving away from having transactional friendships and focus on the value of genuine relationships.
  2. It's important to appreciate and prioritize friends who offer honest feedback and support, even when no payment is involved.
  3. Friendship is about more than just transactions - genuine connections and meaningful interactions make a significant difference.
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Your partner isn't a narcissist

Penelope Trunk's Substack • 0 implied HN points • 30 Sep 22
🏥 Health & Wellness Autism Relationships Mental health Therapy Genetics
  1. The idea that a partner might be perceived as a narcissist could actually be a misinterpretation of autism traits.
  2. Autism and narcissism can share certain characteristics, like difficulty in understanding other people's feelings and a focus on oneself.
  3. It's common for people with autism to attract and be attracted to others with autism, which can lead to challenges and misunderstandings in relationships.

The Devil You Know is Better Than the Angel You Don't

Metarational • 0 implied HN points • 05 Jun 21
💼 Business Decision-making Relationships Profitability Society
  1. Predictability is crucial in social interactions - knowing the devil you know can be better than the angel you don't.
  2. Having a history or personal connection with someone can lead to profitable collaborations, even if they are generally inferior.
  3. Social and cultural structures that enhance predictability can create more scenarios for successful collaborations, even if they are arbitrary.

Georgica Pettus: Gargoyle3699 (You, Me, and GPT-3)

Do Not Research • 0 implied HN points • 15 Oct 22
📚 Literature Communication Relationships Art Nature Emotions
  1. SingerDancerActor123 discusses personal details and boundaries with Gargoyle3699 through email exchanges.
  2. SingerDancerActor123 and Gargoyle3699 navigate power dynamics and communication styles in their interactions.
  3. Themes of communication, trust, and personal growth are explored in the exchanges between SingerDancerActor123 and Gargoyle3699.

Freedom From Monogamy Comes at a Price — The Masai as an Illustrative Example

Harnessing the Power of Nutrients • 0 implied HN points • 24 Aug 11
🎭️ Culture Relationships Society Gender Marriage Traditions
  1. Non-monogamous cultures, like the Masai, come with unique social expectations and pressures that differ from monogamous societies.
  2. Polyamorous arrangements may not always lead to carefree relationships, as seen in the case of the Masai where jealousy and sharing spouses are significant challenges.
  3. The Masai society's emphasis on extensive sharing and avoidance of daughters sheds light on how non-monogamous social mores can impact family dynamics and relationships.

Lack of Correlation Does Not Show Lack of Causation

Harnessing the Power of Nutrients • 0 implied HN points • 28 Jan 11
🔬 Science Research Statistics Relationships
  1. Lack of correlation does not imply lack of causation.
  2. Observational studies and correlations are valid evidence, but they only show a relationship, not the explanation behind it.
  3. A lack of correlation can be due to lack of statistical power, limited range of variation, non-linearity, or incomplete adjustment for confounding factors.

A non-exhaustive, unordered list of things I've learned (2020)

The faintest idea • 0 implied HN points • 17 Jul 22
🚌 Education Personal Growth Self-care Life Skills Relationships
  1. It's important to be kind to myself and recognize my own feelings. Practicing self-compassion can really help improve my mindset.
  2. I learned that connecting with others is essential, especially during tough times. Spending time with friends can give me energy and comfort.
  3. Coping with challenges, like insomnia or feeling overwhelmed, is a process. Finding ways to manage stress and finding joy in the little things matters.

the flirtation continues

Splattern • 0 implied HN points • 29 Oct 23
🎭️ Culture Relationships Social Events Identity Lifestyle Personal Stories
  1. The author had a fun dinner with a family, highlighting connections and potential future friendships.
  2. Going to a Halloween party with a crush led to flirty moments and making each other slightly jealous.
  3. A surprising question about the author's sexuality from the crush made the night memorable, but it showed a deeper concern about feeling safe.

A very sick love letter

Splattern • 0 implied HN points • 25 Oct 23
🎭️ Culture Relationships Personal Growth Dreams Health Narrative
  1. Being sick can make you reflect on your relationships and feelings deeply. It's important to take the time to express your thoughts to those you care about.
  2. Connecting emotionally is essential before building a romantic relationship. Trying exercises like eye-gazing can help explore those feelings.
  3. Listening to different perspectives on work-life balance can open your eyes to how people live around the world. Conversations can lead to valuable insights about happiness and stress.

Monkey Loft

Splattern • 0 implied HN points • 02 Sep 23
🎭️ Culture Social life Dance Relationships Self-Improvement Personal Growth
  1. Getting stung by hornets can be painful, but responding with both fight and flight can help you tackle scary situations.
  2. Dancing alone can feel freeing, and it allows you to connect with others without the pressure of performing.
  3. It's okay to be hesitant when asking for someone's number; the important part is to engage and have a genuine conversation.

Dinner dance party

Splattern • 0 implied HN points • 24 Aug 23
🎭️ Culture Social Events Food Relationships Community Entertainment
  1. Taking orders at work can be tricky, especially if those orders could lead to serious consequences. It's important to think about how our actions align with ethics and rights.
  2. Building strong relationships at work can really help you succeed and learn more. Having a good mentor makes navigating the job easier and more rewarding.
  3. Dinner parties with friends can lead to great memories and fun times. It's nice to relax, enjoy good food, and even have a dance party afterward!

I’m sexy and I know it

Splattern • 0 implied HN points • 16 Aug 23
🎭️ Culture Dance Self-Expression Relationships Personal Growth Artistry
  1. Confidence can create a cycle where feeling sexy boosts self-esteem, making you feel and appear even sexier.
  2. Dancing can be a way to connect deeply with others, allowing for fun while embracing vulnerability and being present.
  3. Consent and respect in physical interactions enhance comfort and enjoyment, leading to positive experiences in social settings.

Why finding love is more complicated than ever

Tranquil Thoughts • 0 implied HN points • 23 Jan 23
🎭️ Culture Dating Relationships Society Expectations Love
  1. Finding love today is more complicated because there are many more choices but less societal structure to help make those choices. In the past, love was often found through arranged introductions and societal expectations.
  2. People now take longer to decide on a partner because they can explore many options. This leads them to expect love before committing, changing the traditional sequence of ritual coming before love.
  3. Modern relationships demand a lot more from partners, but people often try to achieve deep connections in a much shorter time. This makes the search for love feel harder and more rushed than it used to be.

Good partner, Good Life, Good Work

Tech Ramblings • 0 implied HN points • 31 Aug 24
🕹 Technology Career growth Work-life balance Mental health Personal Development Relationships
  1. Don't just work hard; balance your job with your personal life. If you focus only on work, you’ll miss out on friendships and fun experiences.
  2. Having a good social life can actually help your career. The support and happiness from relationships can give you the energy to tackle challenges at work.
  3. It's important to invest in relationships early on. Connecting with others can make your life richer and prevent regrets later on.

A Paperback Launch on Your Wedding Anniversary

The Fairest Writer • 0 implied HN points • 08 Jun 21
📚 Literature Writing Publishing Personal Growth Reflection Relationships
  1. Celebrating events like book launches and weddings can help us reflect on our life's journey. These moments remind us of our achievements and the people who support us.
  2. It's important to focus on daily joys instead of viewing life as a series of milestones. Finding happiness in everyday experiences can lead to deeper satisfaction.
  3. Adjusting our expectations can help us find contentment, especially when plans change unexpectedly. Emphasizing the process of writing or personal growth can make both successes and challenges more meaningful.

2023 Update - Part 4

Devansh’s Newsletter • 0 implied HN points • 26 Dec 24
🎭️ Culture Travel Art Lifestyle Relationships Personal Growth
  1. The author had a busy time traveling between North America and Delhi, enjoying family gatherings, events, and an emotional wedding experience.
  2. Moving to a new home in Delhi brought both joy and challenges, including settling in and dealing with grief after a pet's passing.
  3. The year ended with personal growth, new relationships, and significant stress from work, along with a commitment to a healthier and more creative lifestyle.

Expectation vs Reality

Tolu’s Newsletter • 0 implied HN points • 06 Jan 25
🎭️ Culture Happiness Expectations Relationships Money
  1. Expectations can lead to disappointment. When we hope for things to make us happy, they often don't live up to what we imagined.
  2. Achieving goals doesn't guarantee happiness. Many people find that reaching milestones doesn’t bring the joy they expected, like getting a job or going on a date.
  3. We need to be careful with our expectations. It's important to check why we set certain goals and understand what we can realistically gain from achieving them.

Headphones considered harmful?

Research && Reflection • 0 implied HN points • 29 Jan 25
🎭️ Culture Relationships Music Technology Personal Growth Mental health
  1. Headphones can serve as a way to escape and avoid social interactions. They can create a barrier between a person and the world around them.
  2. Losing headphones can lead to unexpected positive changes in life. It can push someone to be more present and engage with others.
  3. Being more involved with people can help build connections and friendships. Interacting with others can bring joy and a sense of belonging.

The Dark Labyrinth of Male Sexuality

A blog. • 0 implied HN points • 19 May 25
🎭️ Culture Sexuality Society Gender Psychology Relationships
  1. Sex is often viewed as a positive experience between consenting adults, but this view does not match real-life feelings and expectations. Many people still feel confusion and shame about their sexuality.
  2. There is a different perspective called the sex-negative approach, which focuses on understanding the potential harm and negative aspects of sexuality. This can lead to a more realistic view of sexual experiences.
  3. Understanding the darker sides of male sexuality can help in navigating complex feelings and societal pressures. It's important to acknowledge both the positive and negative aspects for true sexual liberation.