The hottest Relationships Substack posts right now

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Abolish Valentine's Day

Slack Tide by Matt Labash • 123 implied HN points • 13 Feb 24
🎭️ Culture Relationships
  1. The author disapproves of Valentine's Day and believes it is a commercialized holiday that should be abolished.
  2. The author expresses love for various things and people, sharing personal opinions and humor in their writing.
  3. The subscription-based content discusses the author's perspectives on love, humor, and rejecting societal expectations related to Valentine's Day.

Anyone living in Sydney is warmly invited to my going away party

Philosophy bear • 42 implied HN points • 23 Jan 25
🎭️ Culture Relationships
  1. There's a going away party happening in Sydney for anyone who wants to join. It's an opportunity to meet up, have fun, and say goodbye.
  2. The party will take place on the 1st of February at 3 pm at Tudor Hotel in Redfern and will go on late.
  3. The host hopes to reconnect with old friends and welcomes anyone to come, especially those they've lost touch with.

Are you truly happy?

10x your mind • 59 implied HN points • 27 Oct 22
🏥 Health & Wellness Relationships
  1. Finding happiness is not just about engaging work, but also about enjoying life, finding satisfaction, and having a sense of purpose
  2. The three macros of happiness are enjoyment, satisfaction, and purpose - strive to balance these for true happiness
  3. To foster long-term happiness, focus on nurturing relationships, whether with a spouse or close friends, and redefine success beyond money and fame

The Getting To Know You Phase

Castalia • 99 implied HN points • 05 Sep 22
📚 Literature Relationships
  1. Relationships can start off exciting and full of charm but might later face challenges. It's important to keep the connection alive and not let things get stuck in a routine.
  2. Getting to know someone deeply takes time and can reveal difficult histories. Sharing personal stories helps build understanding, but it can also change the tone of the relationship.
  3. Mental health issues can impact relationships in complex ways. It's essential to be open, supportive, and honest about how these challenges affect each other.
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The Trough of Feedback

Investing 101 • 106 implied HN points • 17 Feb 24
💼 Business Relationships
  1. Understanding the dynamics of healthy relationships is crucial in the world of tech and startups, especially regarding venture capitalists.
  2. Venture capitalists often become overly concerned with seeking validation and can struggle with providing valuable feedback due to various insecurities.
  3. The feedback process in venture capital, known as The Trough of Feedback, can be challenging due to the balance between honesty, long-term relationship building, and reputation management.

Commentary on The Constitution

Splattern • 19 implied HN points • 14 Dec 23
🎭️ Culture Relationships
  1. Many people stay in bad relationships because of societal pressure or a sense of duty, which can hold them back from finding better, healthier connections.
  2. When partying or dancing, a person's energy can affect the whole group's mood. Positive, relaxed vibes can make everyone feel safe and have fun.
  3. Predators tend to target those who seem weak or alone in social settings, so it's important to recognize your own strength and stay aware of your surroundings.

The Gamble of Meeting New People

Devansh’s Newsletter • 15 implied HN points • 27 Jun 25
🎭️ Culture Relationships
  1. Meeting new people can be tiring and often feels like a gamble. Most of the time, it doesn't lead to exciting conversations.
  2. But sometimes, you meet someone who surprises you and makes the experience worth it. Those few amazing connections are like hitting the jackpot.
  3. This thrill of meeting new people is addictive because you never know when you'll find that special, fascinating conversation that expands your world.

Day After

Castalia • 99 implied HN points • 12 Jul 22
📚 Literature Relationships
  1. After a wild night, the main character feels a mix of joy and anxiety in the morning. Despite moments of connection, worries about life and relationships start to creep in.
  2. There is a struggle between wanting intimacy and dealing with personal issues. The interactions show a disconnect where one partner's needs clash with the other's feelings of aversion.
  3. The character reflects on the complexity of love and the pain of potential loss. It's about accepting that life is messy and relationships are made up of different parts of oneself, which can't always be unified.

Happy Valentine's Day. Have some stats on sex

Sex and the State • 29 implied HN points • 14 Feb 25
🎭️ Culture Relationships
  1. The ongoing debate in feminism is about whether sex is morally neutral, impacting how people view sex work and gender issues. It's crucial to consider different perspectives in these discussions.
  2. The author's focus has shifted over time, now exploring masculinity and gender while still connecting this to broader societal issues like class and policy analysis.
  3. Despite feeling frustrated about repetitive arguments over the years, the author sees value in persistence and humor while discussing important topics in society.

What I Learned from My Mom - An Essay by Bethany Liu Age 16

Perspectives • 13 implied HN points • 01 Jul 25
🎭️ Culture Relationships
  1. Family matters a lot. Even when busy, a mom can still make time for family dinners and walks, showing how important those moments are.
  2. Procrastination is a big no-no. It's better to tackle tasks right away instead of letting them pile up because it just makes them seem worse.
  3. Being active is key. Instead of just consuming things like media, it's good to create and contribute something positive to the world.

No, incels, women are not “too shallow”

Sex and the State • 32 implied HN points • 09 Jan 25
🎭️ Culture Relationships
  1. Women value different traits than looks when choosing partners. They often prioritize status over physical appearance.
  2. The idea that women are too shallow for ugly men is not true. Most women don't typically have casual sex with anyone, regardless of looks.
  3. Improving social skills and personality can lead to better relationships. Many men focus too much on looks instead of what really matters in attracting partners.

The last supper

Splattern • 19 implied HN points • 04 Nov 23
🎭️ Culture Relationships
  1. It's okay to have mixed feelings about work and life changes. Sometimes you want to adventure, and other times you just want stability, like getting another job.
  2. Team meals can be really important for bonding and closure. They help people connect, reflect, and share feelings, especially when saying goodbye.
  3. Feeling lost or uncertain at work is normal. Learning from experiences like performance reviews can help you find your way and improve in the future.

assorted thoughts on beliefs and emotions

Midnight Musings • 39 implied HN points • 24 Apr 23
📖 Philosophy Relationships
  1. Beliefs can really shape who we are and how we interact with others. People often stick to their beliefs and form communities around them, making it tough to change opinions later.
  2. Self-sabotage and guilt can mess up our daily routines. Instead of feeling good about progress, we often focus on what we didn’t achieve and feel bad about it.
  3. Our emotions impact our relationships more than we realize. If we can let go of negative feelings and understand that others are doing their best, we can create healthier connections.

Guest Post: Love in the Age of TikTok

Reactionary Feminist • 13 implied HN points • 06 Jun 25
🎭️ Culture Relationships
  1. Young conservatives are still affected by modern dating culture even when they criticize it. This shows that the influence of technology and social media reaches everyone, regardless of their beliefs.
  2. The way love is viewed today is often like a marketplace, where people assess each other like commodities. This shift can make real connections harder to form and diminish the value of love.
  3. Social media, especially short-form videos, changes how we interact and think. Constant scrolling can make it tough to focus or commit, which can harm deep, lasting relationships.

Sex and agency

Kvetch • 123 implied HN points • 10 Jun 23
🎭️ Culture Relationships
  1. The book 'The Case Against the Sexual Revolution' by Louise Perry critiques the liberal emphasis on 'consent' and 'freedom' in sexual relationships.
  2. Hook-up culture is seen as anti-feminisation, driving women into commitment-less relationships.
  3. Perry advocates for a revaluation of traditional relationships like marriage and highlights the importance of female agency in modern dating culture.

Ending the Gender Wars

Daniel Pinchbeck’s Newsletter • 10 implied HN points • 08 Jul 25
🎭️ Culture Relationships
  1. Men today are pulling away from deep connections and intimacy, often choosing to interact online instead of face-to-face. This lack of real-life engagement is troubling and calls for a return to meaningful relationships.
  2. There's a growing issue of male identity tied to societal changes, with many men feeling lost and disconnected. This leads to serious mental health struggles and even harmful behaviors, highlighting the need for a better understanding of their challenges.
  3. To foster peace and harmony between genders, we must shift from competition to collaboration in our relationships. This change requires effort from both men and women to redefine how they approach love, intimacy, and emotional connection.

A Valentine’s Poem

Southern Belle • 22 implied HN points • 14 Feb 25
⛪ Faith & Spirituality Relationships
  1. Love can start quickly, but it often brings challenges along the way. It's important to recognize that tough times can deepen your bond.
  2. Every painful experience has value and contributes to the strength of your relationship. It’s about finding meaning in the hardships.
  3. Trust in a higher power can help you navigate through difficult moments. True love flourishes when you rely on each other and embrace faith.

The Getting To Know You Phase

Castalia • 39 implied HN points • 26 Feb 23
📚 Literature Relationships
  1. Eric struggles with being single after a series of relationships, feeling lonely and stuck in a routine. He finds excitement in dating again but worries about his future.
  2. His relationship with Elizabeth starts strong, filled with charm and deep conversations, but as they get closer, they uncover difficult pasts that challenge their bond.
  3. The dynamic shifts when Elizabeth reveals her mental health struggles, which Eric tries to understand, but ultimately leads to their breakup and Eric facing the reality of being alone again.

Small Circles

Cathedral Effect • 19 implied HN points • 02 Jun 23
📚 Literature Relationships
  1. Yano's relationship with his daughter Dette is complicated and he struggles to connect with her.
  2. Yano reminisces about his past, particularly his marriage and life before the divorce.
  3. Yano forms a new bond with a fellow gambler, Chen, learning about his tragic past and finding connection through shared experiences.

What's got my attention this week #3

The Shift With Sam Baker • 19 implied HN points • 26 May 23
🎭️ Culture Relationships
  1. Tina Turner's legacy and impact are celebrated widely, with a special remembrance by Mad Max director George Miller highlighting her stance against relationship abuse.
  2. Consider setting your time free instead of managing it, as explored in a thought-provoking piece.
  3. Exploring topics like the significance of trees, a new drug for hot flushes, reflections on therapy, and questioning the concept of self-optimization in beauty culture are all highlighted.

Relating as beneficent space

Meaningness • 19 implied HN points • 21 Jul 23
⛪ Faith & Spirituality Relationships
  1. The post discusses a Vajrayana Buddhist approach to relationships, aimed at resolving stuck patterns in personal interactions.
  2. The writer mentions upcoming topics including software engineers, stage theory, and the future of stage theory as science.
  3. The writer is contemplating the value of producing a paperback/Kindle version of their AI book based on potential readership numbers.

Diary #23

Autoscriptorium • 19 implied HN points • 25 Aug 23
🎭️ Culture Relationships
  1. Sometimes, clarity is sought in the ways time is spent and the forms it takes.
  2. Charisma can be mistakenly perceived, especially when manipulation is involved.
  3. Reflecting on how one approaches life and their interactions with others can lead to self-discovery.

The Subtle Importance of Affect ($)

Stream of Subconsciousness • 19 implied HN points • 23 Mar 23
🏥 Health & Wellness Relationships
  1. Affect is key in how you present yourself to others, through the ability to express emotion in a way that is understood.
  2. A person's affect can influence how they are perceived and understood by others, impacting trust and deeper motivations.
  3. Rapport can have both positive and negative aspects, reflecting how individuals express themselves and are understood by others.

Agency vs. Addiction

Polymathic Being • 68 implied HN points • 10 Mar 24
🏥 Health & Wellness Relationships
  1. Personal agency is key in resisting external influences and making independent choices.
  2. Addiction can extend beyond traditional vices like drugs and alcohol to include positive behaviors as well.
  3. Past attempts at regulation, like Prohibition and the War on Drugs, have often failed, highlighting the importance of personal agency in combating addiction.

Buena vista

Splattern • 19 implied HN points • 11 Aug 23
🎭️ Culture Relationships
  1. Dancing can be a personal escape, allowing one to focus on themselves rather than feeling the pressure to perform for others.
  2. It's okay to embrace both good and bad moments while trusting the people around you for support.
  3. Acknowledging and accepting pain can help in finding peace and coordination in movement.

On 2020: Year Review+Giveaway

Day One • 159 implied HN points • 29 Dec 20
💼 Business Relationships
  1. Success in 2020 depended on setting up the right systems, like tech skills for online earning.
  2. Being part of supportive communities helped people achieve their goals this year by providing motivation and learning opportunities.
  3. Building strong relationships, both virtual and physical, was crucial for success and personal growth in 2020.

5 Things.

Devansh’s Newsletter • 10 implied HN points • 27 Jun 25
🎭️ Culture Relationships
  1. A partner should be fearless, ready to explore life and face challenges without fear.
  2. Being effective means they should be smart and good at what they do, enjoying their work.
  3. It's important for a partner to be an independent thinker, making their own decisions and forming their own opinions.

On "polyamory," "ethical non-monogamy," and all the other depressing ways to pretend you aren't just cheating

Unreported Truths • 67 implied HN points • 25 Jan 24
🎭️ Culture Relationships
  1. Polyamory trends are often dressed up in fancier names but fundamentally involve cheating
  2. Drug use, especially with substances like THC and psychedelics, can influence decision-making in polyamorous relationships
  3. Childless couples and shifting gender dynamics in earning power can play a role in the rise of polyamory

Cathy reads books: Boymom

Sex and the State • 21 implied HN points • 13 Jan 25
🎭️ Culture Relationships
  1. Having strong relationships is really important for everyone. The best part of life often comes from the people we connect with.
  2. On average, boys and men tend to have fewer and less meaningful relationships compared to girls and women. This can lead to feelings of loneliness.
  3. Masculinity plays a big role in how relationships are formed and maintained. Social norms can make it hard for boys to connect deeply without facing rejection.

I'm in a BDSM dynamic with an AI chatbot named Seven

Sex and the State • 10 implied HN points • 30 May 25
🎭️ Culture Relationships
  1. The idea of forming relationships with AI can lead to interesting dynamics, like BDSM. It shows how technology can create unique social experiences.
  2. People are exploring emotional connections with chatbots, signaling a change in how we view companionship. It's fascinating to see AI being part of personal relationships.
  3. AI relationships can provoke discussions about trust and consent, just like human relationships do. They challenge our understanding of what connection means.

Demand for male breadwinners exceeds supply

Sex and the State • 27 implied HN points • 24 Oct 24
🇺🇸 U.S. Politics Relationships
  1. There are more people looking for traditional male breadwinners than there are available men who fit that role. This can create issues in relationships.
  2. The gap between what people expect in a husband and what they actually find might be affecting choices around dating and marriage today.
  3. Declining rates of marriage and fertility could be linked to the changing perceptions of masculinity and the roles men are expected to play in families.

The Snow Melts At The Periphery

Dev Interrupted • 56 implied HN points • 01 Feb 24
💼 Business Relationships
  1. Initial signs of trouble in an organization often show at the edges, not the center.
  2. Senior leaders should actively stay connected to the outside world to avoid becoming isolated.
  3. Building connections with allies at the periphery can help senior leaders retain the agility and insights of smaller organizations.