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Sex at the limits and the limits of sex: Baker's Law

Holly Elmore • 196 implied HN points • 24 Jul 23
🔬 Science Sexuality
  1. Self-fertilization and asexuality are more common at the edges of a species range due to Baker's Law.
  2. The benefits of sex include generating variation for natural selection and avoiding the accumulation of harmful mutations.
  3. Sex and outbreeding are crucial for adapting to competition and maintaining genetic diversity over time.

What Is Beauty?

Life and Letters • 59 implied HN points • 01 Apr 24
🎭️ Culture Sexuality
  1. Sexual attraction plays a big role in art and beauty. It has been important in history but seems less central in today's discussions about aesthetics.
  2. Richard Prum's theory explains that beauty in the animal world, like a peacock's tail, comes from sexual selection rather than just survival needs. Animals choose mates based on beauty, which shapes what traits get passed down.
  3. Culture and biology are deeply connected when it comes to beauty and desire. This idea can be seen in literature from ancient times, where beautiful characters are often depicted as more desirable than strong ones.

Is The Rent Killing Sex?

The Discourse Lounge • 550 implied HN points • 25 Feb 24
🎭️ Culture Sexuality
  1. High housing costs and living arrangements impact young people's sexual activity, but it may not be the sole reason for the decline in sex among the youth.
  2. Social media and digital content consumption are influencing the decline in sexual activity among young people, shifting priorities from physical activities like partying to phone engagement.
  3. The decrease in early marriages and relationships, along with the availability of dating apps providing many options for sex, are other significant factors contributing to the decrease in sexual activity among young people.

Notes on 'No Nut November'

Many Such Cases • 399 implied HN points • 06 Dec 22
🎭️ Culture Sexuality
  1. 'No Nut November' is a challenge where many men try to avoid ejaculation for a month. This challenge is often approached for fun, personal control, or even as a way to feel connected with their sexuality.
  2. Some men see this month as a chance to discuss and rethink their habits around sexuality, especially in relation to excessive porn use. They may recognize a need for change, even if they're unsure how to express it.
  3. The challenge may attract different motivations, including humor or serious intent, but it highlights a desire for self-discipline and a safe space to talk about these topics among peers.
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Insta-Cucked

Many Such Cases • 299 implied HN points • 20 Dec 22
🎭️ Culture Sexuality
  1. Some people on Instagram ask others to cuck them without really knowing what it means. They just send a direct message without any introduction.
  2. Cuckolding is about feeling powerless, but messaging a stranger isn't the right way to explore this desire. Understanding one's own feelings is important.
  3. It's frustrating when people think they can easily get others to fulfill their fantasies online. Real connections are more meaningful than quick messages.

Techno-Occult Sex Magic in Contemporary Culture

Daniel Pinchbeck’s Newsletter • 12 implied HN points • 29 Nov 25
🎭️ Culture Sexuality
  1. Contemporary hyper-sexualized pop culture and platforms like OnlyFans function as a kind of "techno-occult" ritual, using sexualized, cyborg imagery to degrade the feminine and push people toward a lower, machine-like condition.
  2. Some esoteric readings of Revelation and Steiner frame history as a bifurcation: humanity is sorting into two streams. One stream moves toward spiritual integration and divine development, while the other devolves into material, unconscious, or regressive states.
  3. The feminine is viewed as the primary bridge between worlds and splits into two poles: the fallen "Whore" (debased, sexualized, and increasingly cyborg-like) and the purified Sophia who undergoes purification and births the new spiritual impulse.

The World's Oldest... Profession?

Some Unpleasant Arithmetic • 47 implied HN points • 21 Jul 25
🎭️ Culture Sexuality
  1. Not everyone agrees on the role of sex work and pornography in society. Some people think they empower women, while others believe they exploit and harm them.
  2. There are different views on how to handle sex work legally. Some argue for full legalization with regulations, while others believe it should be completely criminalized.
  3. The impact of porn on society is complex. Some studies say it decreases sexual violence, but there are growing concerns about how it influences behavior and attitudes toward women.

There's Nothing to Rethink

Holodoxa • 99 implied HN points • 12 Sep 23
🎭️ Culture Sexuality
  1. History has shown bizarre alliances between radical feminists and social conservatives against libertine culture and pornography
  2. Challenges in gender politics have led to changes in feminist labels and goals, blurring the lines between Right and Left ideologies
  3. Criticism of modern sexual ethics argues that the emphasis on consent overlooks emotional and psychological impacts, specifically for women

The Mating/Reproduction Game

In My Tribe • 546 implied HN points • 23 Jun 23
🎭️ Culture Sexuality
  1. In evolutionary terms, our behaviors are strategies for reproduction that interact with the cultural environment.
  2. On average, in a society with equal male and female numbers, men and women will have the same number of sex partners.
  3. Social and cultural factors influence how individuals may present themselves in terms of mating strategies.

The Men Who Love Being Ripped Off

Many Such Cases • 219 implied HN points • 10 Jan 23
🎭️ Culture Sexuality
  1. Some men find excitement in being misled or disappointed when it comes to online adult content. They enjoy the feeling of being 'ripped off' as part of their experience.
  2. For these men, the thrill comes from the contrast between their expectations and the reality. They might hope to see revealing images but often receive something completely different instead.
  3. This dynamic raises questions about the way sexuality is viewed, often reducing it to just a transaction. The focus can become less about connection and more about commerce.

The Dirty Blues

Mister Slang • 78 implied HN points • 12 Jul 23
🎭️ Culture Sexuality
  1. Blues singers used slang and double entendre in their music, often pushing the boundaries of decency.
  2. The blues offered a raw and honest perspective on life, focusing on the present rather than the afterlife.
  3. The dirty blues genre included explicit lyrics and was sometimes intertwined with hokum, a mix of trickery and nonsense.

The blowjob that blew up my life

Sex and the State • 41 implied HN points • 27 Jun 25
🎭️ Culture Sexuality
  1. Breaking free from traditional beliefs can be driven by personal experiences and desires. It's okay to question what you've been taught about relationships and morality.
  2. Choosing to leave a marriage can come from wanting a more fulfilling life, not necessarily from negative situations like abuse or infidelity. It's important to recognize your own needs and wants.
  3. Sometimes, a pivotal moment can force a change in perspective, leading to unexpected realizations about one's life and choices. A single action or decision can open up new paths for understanding.

The whoral majority

Sex and the State • 38 implied HN points • 19 Jun 25
🎭️ Culture Sexuality
  1. Many people have a rigid view of morality based on what they were taught as children, which can create discomfort with new ideas.
  2. Prostitution, often viewed negatively, has existed throughout history and can actually provide financial independence and safety when decriminalized.
  3. The author questions the morality of organized religions, especially given their contradictions and failures, and believes that the perspectives of sex workers should be valued more.

Sympathy for the Devils

Banana Peel Pirouette • 59 implied HN points • 28 Oct 23
🎭️ Culture Sexuality
  1. Terfs, or trans-exclusionary radical feminists, are a controversial group largely existing online and in digital spaces.
  2. The evolution of LGBTQ+ movements has caused divisions, particularly among lesbians, about the definition and inclusivity of the term 'lesbian.'
  3. Culture wars often revolve around defining social realities, such as sexuality, and establishing acceptable boundaries for personal identities.

"It's a male fetish"

Disaffected Newsletter • 239 implied HN points • 30 Jun 22
🎭️ Culture Sexuality
  1. This issue is not just a male problem, as women can also experience similar attractions. It's important to understand that these feelings might stem from specific personality disorders rather than being merely a feature of male identity.
  2. Labeling this behavior as 'male' prevents us from addressing the core psychological issues at play. We need to focus on the mental health aspects rather than assigning blame based on gender.
  3. Ignoring that some women can share these traits keeps us from finding a real solution. Both men and women can have complex psychological challenges that should be openly discussed.

Learning how to ask for more

Men Yell at Me • 221 implied HN points • 17 Jan 24
🏥 Health & Wellness Sexuality
  1. Learning how to ask for more in relationships is important for personal growth and fulfillment.
  2. It can be empowering for women to challenge societal norms and ask for more in their lives.
  3. Exploring and understanding one's needs and desires can lead to healthier and more satisfying experiences, especially in intimate relationships.

Lesbians Who Only Date Men

Default Wisdom • 185 implied HN points • 18 Mar 24
🎭️ Culture Sexuality
  1. Sexual orientation is now defined more by feelings and affinity than by physical experience.
  2. Online affinity networks and fandoms play a role in shaping and evolving how individuals identify themselves.
  3. Shifts in identity labeling show a move from behavior-based categorization to more subjective, internal essence-based categorization.

Making room for misogyny in sex

Sex and the State • 21 implied HN points • 18 Jul 25
🎭️ Culture Sexuality
  1. People can struggle with wanting to be close to someone, like wanting to be intimate with a man, while also hating the negative attitudes towards women that some men hold.
  2. This situation can feel impossible, like wanting peanut butter without the peanuts; you can't have one without the other in this context.
  3. The idea implies that misogyny is so intertwined with being a man that separating them seems really difficult or even unrealistic.

Lily Phillips and the Spreadsheet Egregore

Reactionary Feminist • 59 implied HN points • 12 Dec 24
🎭️ Culture Sexuality
  1. Lily Phillips participated in a shocking stunt where she had sex with 100 men in 24 hours, which left her feeling robotic and dissociated. It shows how extreme pressure from fans can lead to tough emotional experiences.
  2. The idea of 'audience capture' explains how creators like Phillips might feel compelled to meet audience expectations, even if it harms them. This pressure can feel like a form of possession by the desires of her followers.
  3. The concept of 'egregores' suggests that collective desires or expectations can have a powerful impact on individuals. This means that Phillips' choices may not be fully hers, as they are influenced by both online culture and group dynamics.

Do Women Really Have Fewer Partners Than Men?

Pryor Questions • 186 implied HN points • 16 Sep 23
🎭️ Culture Sexuality
  1. The average number of sexual partners for men and women can vary depending on the type of average used, such as mean, median, or mode.
  2. Surveys on sexual partners may be influenced by social biases, leading to discrepancies in reported numbers between genders.
  3. Different studies and surveys show conflicting data on the average number of sexual partners for men and women, indicating the complexity of capturing such personal and varied experiences.

Curator

Castalia • 119 implied HN points • 02 Sep 22
🎭️ Culture Sexuality
  1. Literary criticism helps reflect the health of a society through its culture. Critics believe that poor artistic standards can lead to societal decay and a decline in political morals.
  2. Longtermism, a philosophical idea focused on the importance of the future, can oversimplify ethics by assuming we can predict and control outcomes for future generations. It's more complicated than that.
  3. The debate over sex positivity versus prudishness highlights how different views on sexuality impact women. It's important for women to have the freedom to define their own experiences without societal pressure or shame.

LGBT Social Contagion: A Failed Hypothesis

American Dreaming • 107 implied HN points • 05 Feb 24
🇺🇸 U.S. Politics Sexuality
  1. LGBT identification rates have significantly increased among Gen Z, sparking skepticism and ridicule.
  2. Bisexuality is a major component of the LGBT community, often overlooked or misunderstood.
  3. The rise in LGBT identification is not solely attributed to social contagion, as historical data and research show higher rates of same-sex attraction and behavior.

The Heart Wants Inequality: The Inconvenient Truth of Mate Preference and Its Relevance to Today's Sexual Politics

Holodoxa • 59 implied HN points • 22 Dec 22
🎭️ Culture Sexuality
  1. Human mating dynamics are influenced by sexual selection and assortative mating, leading to significant social effects over time.
  2. The distribution of socially desirable or economically valued traits is profoundly unequal due to people's freedom to choose their mates, calling for a possible remedy of the mating market's externalities for equality.
  3. Debates on the 'right to sex' are complex within feminist theory, with arguments around consent, agency, objectification, and traditional gender roles.

On Sticking 2C-T-2 Up My Ass (29/30)

psychotechnology • 3 implied HN points • 30 Nov 25
🎭️ Culture Sexuality
  1. 2C-T-2 gives a powerful, mystical sense of connection to nature and awe, but it reliably causes severe nausea, dry-heaving, and whole-body tension during the come-up.
  2. Rectal administration raises bioavailability and speeds the come-up so you can use lower doses, but it can compress the experience and make nausea and body load worse rather than better.
  3. Nausea is likely driven by off-target serotonin receptors in the brain and gut (e.g., 5‑HT2B/2C), so changing the route of administration may not eliminate those side effects, and the imagined benefits of rectal dosing often don’t match the uncomfortable reality.

I’m not letting the fascists have sex

Sex and the State • 36 implied HN points • 03 Jan 25
🎭️ Culture Sexuality
  1. There's a tension between wanting to control women's bodies and celebrating their sexuality. It's a push and pull that reflects deep cultural conflicts.
  2. Some people celebrate women's sexual appeal while also promoting control over it, which shows a contradiction in their beliefs.
  3. Leftist debates about sexuality are often unnecessary and created, not fundamental issues, highlighting the complexities in social attitudes towards sex.

What Is a PAWG(Blog)?

Many Such Cases • 219 implied HN points • 02 Jun 21
🎭️ Culture Sexuality
  1. The term 'PAWG' refers to a specific body type that is attractive to many, especially in porn. It's about being confident in your body and owning the label.
  2. This newsletter will explore culture through the lens of what it means to be a PAWG. It will discuss famous PAWGs and also share personal reflections.
  3. Identifying as a PAWG can be seen as both fun and a reclamation of a term often used in a sexual context. It’s not just about the body type but also a state of mind.

Happy Valentine's Day. Have some stats on sex

Sex and the State • 29 implied HN points • 14 Feb 25
🎭️ Culture Sexuality
  1. The ongoing debate in feminism is about whether sex is morally neutral, impacting how people view sex work and gender issues. It's crucial to consider different perspectives in these discussions.
  2. The author's focus has shifted over time, now exploring masculinity and gender while still connecting this to broader societal issues like class and policy analysis.
  3. Despite feeling frustrated about repetitive arguments over the years, the author sees value in persistence and humor while discussing important topics in society.

An Introduction to PAWG Politics

Many Such Cases • 199 implied HN points • 22 Jun 21
🎭️ Culture Sexuality
  1. The term 'PAWG' has gained popularity since 2010, reflecting changing beauty standards and preferences for body shapes. More people are searching for it, especially related to online content.
  2. Race and ethnicity play a big role in discussions around PAWG, influencing how different body types are perceived, especially in pornography. This raises questions about cultural appropriation and preference.
  3. While PAWG is often used humorously and has entered mainstream chat, it also encourages us to think about body politics and how people's views on bodies can change over time.

Why women enforce the “must want sex all the time” masculinity norm

Sex and the State • 29 implied HN points • 08 Jan 25
🎭️ Culture Sexuality
  1. Women play a role in supporting the idea that men should always want sex. This belief can put pressure on both genders.
  2. The expectation for men to be sexually driven can lead to feelings of inadequacy if they don't meet these standards. It can affect their confidence and relationships.
  3. Challenging these norms could free both men and women to express their true desires without societal pressure. This could lead to healthier relationships and personal happiness.

Liberals are bad at BDSM

Unstabler Ontology • 19 implied HN points • 06 Oct 23
🎭️ Culture Sexuality
  1. BDSM is becoming more common and prevalent, making it challenging for individuals who do not wish to engage in it to find compatible sexual partners.
  2. Understanding BDSM requires a departure from liberal individualistic views, as it contradicts microeconomics and challenges traditional notions of consent and freedom.
  3. Some aspects of BDSM culture imitate elements of traumatic experiences and call into question societal norms regarding power dynamics and sexual acceptance.

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Journal of Gurdjieff Studies • 19 implied HN points • 11 Aug 23
⛪ Faith & Spirituality Sexuality
  1. Sex plays a significant role in human life, acting as the principal driving force of mechanicalness, but the abuse of sex lies in the wrong function of centers and the borrowing of energy.
  2. Creating a permanent center of gravity is crucial for self-work, starting with valuing the work, school, and understanding the aimlessness of other aspects of life.
  3. The sex center, when functioning with its own energy, can be at a high level of being, ensuring that all other centers operate correctly in their places and with their own energies.

BLAME WOMEN

The Carousel • 99 implied HN points • 16 Sep 23
🎭️ Culture Sexuality
  1. The Sexual Revolution debate failed to address core questions and historical context
  2. Issues around consent and rape in the post-Sexual Revolution culture are highlighted
  3. Challenges faced in society related to women's roles and demands are discussed

Clothing and Sex

Polymathic Being • 58 implied HN points • 07 Jan 24
🪞 Fashion & Beauty Sexuality
  1. The clothing we wear communicates complex signals about our sexuality, intentionally or unintentionally.
  2. Human biology plays a significant role in how male and female bodies advertise sexuality.
  3. It's important to be aware that what we wear communicates to others and to understand and be prepared to deal with the responses it may elicit.

Promiscuity

We're Gonna Get Those Bastards • 8 implied HN points • 28 May 25
🎭️ Culture Sexuality
  1. Promiscuity can lead to emotional struggles and may complicate future relationships like marriage. It's often harder to build trust if there are many past partners.
  2. Having a lot of sexual partners can create feelings of jealousy and insecurity in relationships. It's difficult to forget past lovers when starting something new.
  3. Finding a meaningful connection takes time and effort. Meeting people through shared activities or environments can be better than using dating apps.

Too many of you care too much about sex

Sex and the State • 19 implied HN points • 18 Nov 24
🎭️ Culture Sexuality
  1. Many people focus too much on the topic of sex, which can lead to unnecessary stress. It's important to recognize that there are more aspects to life than just sex.
  2. The discussion around sex often gets tied to societal issues, but it's crucial to separate personal experiences from broader problems. Balancing both can help bring clarity.
  3. There’s a reminder that enjoying life and personal freedoms can be more fulfilling than getting caught up in the debates about sex and gender. Finding joy in everyday life is important.