Men Yell at Me

Men Yell at Me is a Substack featuring a mix of personal and political commentary, focusing on issues like gender roles, societal expectations, liberation movements, and current events. It combines humor with critique, addressing topics from women's rights to the politics of resentment, and spotlighting 'Dingus of the Week.'

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Dingus of the Week: Kristi Noem

372 implied HN points • 13 Jun 25

Laughter can help us cope with tough political situations. It’s important to find humor even in serious moments.
There are strong reactions and protests against the government's actions, especially regarding immigration. People are standing up to defend their rights.
Kristi Noem is criticized for her actions and comments related to fascism and racism. It's important to address how individuals can misuse their power.

The great American gaslighting

307 implied HN points • 11 Jun 25

🇺🇸 U.S. Politics Capitalism Private Equity Media Economics Social justice

Private equity firms often hurt the companies they buy instead of helping them. They can make money by cutting costs and stripping businesses rather than supporting them.
The impact of private equity goes beyond businesses; it seriously affects people in communities. When companies shut down, it's not just a loss of jobs but also a loss of community support and services.
Despite challenges in various industries, there are hopeful stories where businesses thrive by focusing on community needs and creativity instead of just profits. People can find better ways to support their industries and communities.

Dingus of the week: Joni Ernst

300 implied HN points • 06 Jun 25

🇺🇸 U.S. Politics Health care Elections Legislation Public Opinion Political Commentary

Senator Joni Ernst made a controversial statement about death at a town hall, saying, 'We are all going to die,' which upset many. People reacted by creating funny merchandise and memes.
Ernst's comments seem to ignore the real-life consequences of policy changes on people's health, such as proposed Medicaid cuts. Many feel these cuts could result in people losing access to essential healthcare.
Despite Ernst's focus on mortality, the discussion raises larger issues about healthcare rights and the disparity in access to medical services in America.

The most powerful woman you can see

155 implied HN points • 08 Jun 25

🎭️ Culture Art Feminism Literature Religion Identity

Living in Iowa has brought a deep sense of meaning and fulfillment to teaching and community engagement. The connection with students and the supportive environment feels more impactful than in bigger cities like New York.
A year of celibacy taught a lot about self-connection and feeling comfortable in one's own body. It shifted the focus from being seen by others to truly experiencing life and one's own desires.
Everything in life is connected, from relationships to personal values. By recognizing these connections, there's a chance to bring passion and presence into all areas of life, including friendships and activism.

The opt-out revolution

338 implied HN points • 04 Jun 25

🎭️ Culture Relationships Society Gender Identity Literature

Many young people today are choosing to 'opt-out' of dating and relationships, feeling overwhelmed by the pressures and difficulties they face. This shift is different from past generations, where dating was more common.
Melissa Febos explores her year of celibacy in her book _The Dry Season_, looking for a way to find happiness and fulfillment without relying on relationships. She seeks to understand if a woman can truly be happy independently.
This cultural shift raises questions about personal happiness and societal expectations. People are now examining what it means to find joy outside of traditional relationships and roles.

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Dingus of the week: Democratic party spending $20 million on men

391 implied HN points • 30 May 25

🇺🇸 U.S. Politics Political Analysis Campaign Strategy Voter Demographics Party Dynamics Public Policy

The Democratic National Committee is planning to spend $20 million to win back young male voters, but many believe this may not address the root causes of their declining support.
Research shows that male support for Democrats drops significantly when a female candidate is on the ballot, highlighting potential biases among male voters.
Some suggestions for the Democratic platform include humorous ideas that appeal to men, like guaranteed matches on dating apps, but the real issue may be deeper societal attitudes rather than party policies.

Watching women cannibalize themselves for fun and profit

444 implied HN points • 28 May 25

🎭️ Culture Media Gender Society Religion Reality TV

Reality shows like 'The Secret Lives of Mormon Wives' show the struggles women face in a patriarchal society. These women navigate personal relationships while dealing with societal pressures.
Despite being successful, many women feel trapped by expectations at home and in their faith. They are the breadwinners, but still carry the bulk of household responsibilities.
The show's drama reflects real issues many women face today, like work-life balance and societal judgment. Watching these stories can make it easier to question the larger systems affecting all women.

Men are lonely, but mothers are losing their minds

247 implied HN points • 01 Jun 25

🇺🇸 U.S. Politics Mental health Gender Issues Reproductive Rights Economic Inequality

The mental health of mothers in America is getting worse, with more parents reporting feelings of anxiety and depression. Many factors contribute to this, like rising costs of living and cuts to support programs.
While there is a lot of focus on the struggles faced by men, especially younger ones, it's important to remember that women, especially mothers and teen girls, are also facing serious mental health challenges.
There's a noticeable push to benefit men politically and socially, but this could overshadow the struggles of women, who are experiencing their own hardships in the workplace and at home.

The Middle Kingdom

405 implied HN points • 21 May 25

🇺🇸 U.S. Politics Democracy Community Political divide Social justice

The Midwest is a place rich in community and belonging, representing a complex mix of culture and history. People in both rural and urban areas once found a sense of hope and connection there.
Dividing America into 'red' and 'blue' overlooks the rich stories and lives in each community, which are tied to the country's broader democracy. It's important to remember that personal experiences are part of the larger political picture.
The upcoming book 'The Middle Kingdom' will explore what democracy should look like and how individuals and communities can come together in love and care, embracing all parts of society, including its flaws.

Dingus of the week: “A big beautiful bill”

301 implied HN points • 23 May 25

🇺🇸 U.S. Politics Government Legislation Public Policy Political Commentary

Finding humor in tough situations can help us cope and maintain our sanity. Laughter can take the power out of serious issues.
Sometimes, government actions seem silly or harmful, like cutting essential services to save money. It's important to recognize the real impact of these choices.
Good news can still happen amidst the bad, like legal wins for marginalized groups and positive changes in work-life balance. Celebrating these wins is important.

The Daily Mail proves my point

235 implied HN points • 24 May 25

🇺🇸 U.S. Politics Equality Trans rights Sports Media Culture

Trans girls do not threaten cis girls; they are actually the ones facing threats. Everyone, including all children, deserves to compete in sports and be treated with love and protection.
There's research that shows trans girls do not have an unfair advantage in sports. It’s important to focus on facts rather than fear.
The response from major publications can reflect broader societal attitudes. The fact that a national paper spent time on a niche topic shows the ongoing normalization of transphobia in culture.

Dingus of the week: Gavin Newsom

408 implied HN points • 16 May 25

🇺🇸 U.S. Politics Political Commentary Elections Policy Analysis Public Opinion Political Figures

Gavin Newsom is a politician who started as a Democrat but is now acting more like a Republican. He seems focused on his own ambitions rather than the needs of the people.
His podcast is trying to attract younger voters, but his methods might not resonate, especially with marginalized groups. Just changing his talking points won’t change his actions.
People are tired of politicians who follow trends instead of standing firm on important issues. Newsom's shift towards right-wing ideas has led some to feel betrayed by his leadership.

"What if it was your daughter?"

360 implied HN points • 18 May 25

🇺🇸 U.S. Politics Gender Rights Child welfare Public Discourse Sports Policy Trans issues

It's important for kids to focus on personal growth and enjoyment in sports, rather than just winning. Winning isn't everything, and having fun while developing skills matters more.
The question 'What if it was your daughter?' shifts the focus to fear and assumptions about threats, which can be harmful and unfair. It suggests that supporting trans rights and my child's success can't coexist.
Using a child's safety to argue against trans people's rights feeds into harmful stereotypes and fears. It's crucial to defend everyone’s rights without pitting groups against each other.

The horrors of parenting in a digital age

135 implied HN points • 15 May 25

Parenting in today's world often feels overwhelming because of the pressure to rely on technology. Many parents buy gadgets to feel more in control amidst a lack of support from society.
There is a shared fear among parents about the safety and well-being of their children, which can sometimes lead to unnecessary spending on products that play on these anxieties.
Our reliance on technology for parenting can create a false sense of security, and it's important to remember that real support comes from community, not just gadgets.

Dingus of the week: Carrie Underwood

1233 implied HN points • 17 Jan 25

🎭️ Culture Music Art Entertainment Media Society

Carrie Underwood's career is seen as struggling and her performance at Trump's inauguration is viewed as an attempt to regain relevance.
Critics suggest that artists like Underwood often blame 'woke culture' for their lack of success instead of focusing on their music's quality.
There's a growing trend of celebrities embracing controversial political stances to stay in the spotlight, raising questions about their genuine beliefs.

A woman is good at her job. And she suffers for it.

663 implied HN points • 12 Feb 25

🇺🇸 U.S. Politics Workplace Issues Harassment Diversity Corporate Accountability

A woman at Meta faced years of sexual harassment and retaliation after reporting it. Even though she excelled at her job, she suffered for speaking out.
Her lawsuit highlights how women can be treated unfairly in the workplace, especially in tech. Despite contributing significantly, she was denied promotions to protect her male coworkers.
The case shows the challenges of maintaining safety and ethics in tech environments. She worked to improve a product but was punished for trying to address serious issues like harassment.

2025 is the year of the ex-husband's revenge

710 implied HN points • 05 Feb 25

🇺🇸 U.S. Politics Gender Issues Political Divides Social movements Cultural Commentary

Women are finding freedom and happiness after divorce, pushing back against traditional expectations. Despite struggles, there's growth and resilience among them.
There is a growing divide in political views between divorced men and women, which reflects deeper societal anxieties. This divide is influencing political landscapes and responses to women's progress.
It's important not to see women's independence as the cause of male anger. Instead, we should focus on supporting women's freedom without feeling the need to appease men's grievances.

I have a right to be here

949 implied HN points • 08 Jan 25

🎭️ Culture Identity Gender Fitness Social Issues Safety

Running in public spaces can feel dangerous for women because of harassment and violence from men. This creates fear and anxiety about simply existing in those spaces.
Women’s bodies in public are often sexualized and blamed for harassment, making it hard for them to feel safe. Society frequently tells them to stay inside or take precautions instead of addressing the root of the problem.
Despite the threats, it's important for women to keep asserting their right to be in public spaces. Running and walking let them claim their freedom and say, 'I belong here.'

One simple trick to reverse the falling birth rate

693 implied HN points • 29 Jan 25

🇺🇸 U.S. Politics Gender Roles Maternal health Social Issues

More men need to help at home or families will struggle. When men share the load of caregiving, women can focus more on having kids.
Policies that push women back home to raise children don’t really help birth rates. They often backfire and don't support families at all.
True change starts with how people treat each other at home. Helping loved ones and sharing chores builds stronger communities and can lead to a better future.

You will never be good enough to belong

823 implied HN points • 15 Jan 25

🇺🇸 U.S. Politics Women's Rights Military Policy Political Discourse Gender Issues Party Politics

Some people, like Pete Hegseth, don't believe women should serve in combat roles in the military, even if they meet the same standards as men. This shows a big gap in acceptance and equality.
There is a growing narrative that men feel entitled to roles traditionally held by them and see the rise of women and minorities in the military as a threat. This reflects a larger struggle over who truly belongs in these spaces.
Women and minorities often have to prove themselves more than men to earn their place, regardless of qualifications. This highlights an ongoing challenge for equality in many areas, not just the military.

Dingus of the Week: Everyone except Bishop Mariann Edgar Budde

729 implied HN points • 24 Jan 25

🇺🇸 U.S. Politics Political Humor Government Action Media Criticism Political Commentary

Trump's recent actions and decisions seem reckless and disconnected from reality, drawing strange comparisons to the past.
Bishop Mariann Edgar Budde's plea for compassion during a recent prayer service highlights the importance of kindness to vulnerable people, despite backlash from conservative commentators.
There is a growing sentiment that the established political rules are no longer effective, and new, bold strategies are needed to create positive change.

Dingus of the week: “bigballs” and the He-Man Woman Hating Club

585 implied HN points • 07 Feb 25

🇺🇸 U.S. Politics Political Commentary Government Critique Cultural Issues Social Commentary Current Events

Young people in important government roles may lack the experience needed for their jobs. It's concerning when they're making decisions that affect everyone.
Humor can help us cope with stressful situations. Laughing at bad behavior can make us feel more powerful and help us face challenges.
It's important to raise kids who are better than toxic influences. Kids should learn to be kind and responsible instead of following negative examples.

Dingus of the week: Mark Zuckerberg

753 implied HN points • 10 Jan 25

🇺🇸 U.S. Politics Tech Policy Social media Misinformation Free speech Political Commentary

Mark Zuckerberg announced that Meta is shutting down its fact-checking department, claiming it's biased. This means users can share their opinions without being corrected.
Misinformation on social media has led to real violence and harm, raising concerns about the consequences of this new policy. People have been hurt or even died because of false information spread online.
The community has shown kindness by supporting important causes, like abortion access. Together, people can make a difference and help those in need.

Do our stories matter?

1024 implied HN points • 27 Nov 24

📚 Literature Essays Writing Memory Identity Storytelling

Our personal stories and memories are really important. They help us remember who we are, especially when we feel lost.
Writing can be a powerful way to express ourselves and connect with others. It gives us a voice in difficult times.
Even when things feel hopeless, sharing our experiences through words can create hope and understanding among people.

Dingus of the Year: JD Vance

660 implied HN points • 03 Jan 25

🇺🇸 U.S. Politics Political Satire Elections Social Issues Public Figures Political Commentary

JD Vance has been declared the Dingus of the Year for 2024 due to his controversial actions and opinions.
The 'undecided voter' was also highlighted as a Dingus, often seen as indifferent to pressing social issues.
Despite the negativity, there were some positive developments in 2024, including a significant fundraising effort for abortion access and the legalization of same-sex marriage in Thailand.

Who gets to be a person?

523 implied HN points • 22 Jan 25

🇺🇸 U.S. Politics Civil Rights Gender Issues Immigration Judiciary Political Activism

New laws and orders can change who is seen as a person in society. Pregnant people, LGBTQ individuals, and immigrants may have their rights challenged.
Silence about cruelty can allow it to continue. People often suffer from the actions of those close to them rather than strangers.
Those who were involved in harmful acts may feel empowered after being pardoned. This can create fear for the loved ones affected by their actions.

Dingus of the week: January

435 implied HN points • 31 Jan 25

🇺🇸 U.S. Politics Government Elections Political parties Legislation Public Policy

January felt like a very long month, with many challenges and frustrations piling up. It’s a time when people try to improve themselves but also struggle through the cold and dark winter days.
There's a lot of political chaos happening, especially with decisions made by leaders that seem surprising or frustrating to many. It feels like there's a lack of strong action against troubling changes in the government.
Despite all the challenges and serious issues, there's still hope and joy found in little things, like music and family connections. It’s important to remember the good things even in tough times.

Dingus of the week: Matt Yglesias

885 implied HN points • 08 Nov 24

🇺🇸 U.S. Politics Elections Political Commentary Government Civil Rights Political parties

The election results show that many Americans chose Trump, which reveals a lot about what people really want and believe. It's a wake-up call about the reality we live in.
Blaming specific groups or feelings won't solve the bigger issues at play. Both major parties have failed to connect with people's true needs and concerns.
No matter who is in power, the fight for equality and justice continues. Real change takes long-term work, and we must keep pushing for a better future.

The home project

648 implied HN points • 04 Dec 24

🎭️ Culture Feminism Homeownership Gender Roles Resistance

Many women are stepping into the role of homeowners, challenging traditional views about women's independence. Single women now own more homes than single men, which shows a shift in who controls their living spaces.
Home can be a place of empowerment and resistance. Creating and renovating a home allows people to reshape their environments, making it a sanctuary that reflects their values and identities.
Despite societal pressures to conform to traditional female roles, women are finding strength and safety in their personal space. Making a home their own can help women resist being pushed back into outdated domestic expectations.

Inauguration Day counterprogramming

363 implied HN points • 20 Jan 25

🇺🇸 U.S. Politics Political Climate Mental health Community Impact

Sometimes, people feel overwhelmed by events happening around them, which can make them cry unexpectedly. It's okay to feel your emotions and take time to understand why you're feeling that way.
Worries about family, friendships, and the state of politics can pile up and cause stress. It's normal to be concerned about how these issues affect your loved ones.
Finding comfort in friends during tough times can help you cope better. Sharing meals or experiences with others can lighten your emotional load.

I understand why people ban books

878 implied HN points • 16 Oct 24

📚 Literature Book Bans Censorship Education Child development

People often ban books to control what kids learn, thinking they protect them, but this can actually harm children's understanding of the world.
Growing up in a restricted environment made some believe their curiosity was wrong, which changed when they discovered the wide range of knowledge available in books.
Knowledge is powerful and can change lives, helping people understand their identities and experiences, which is why some fear it and try to limit access to certain books.

What the heck, Joni Ernst?

508 implied HN points • 18 Dec 24

🇺🇸 U.S. Politics Political Commentary Social justice Feminism Political Ethics Government Policy

Just because someone has experienced a problem doesn't mean they will automatically be kind or supportive about it. Life experiences don't guarantee empathy.
Many people want to change big issues like sexual assault but struggle to confront the systems that allow these problems. It's harder to stand against the power structures that protect wrongdoers.
The conversation around #MeToo has evolved, and now some are using its language to target others unfairly. This reveals how deeply personal and complex these issues can be.

On guns and gods

411 implied HN points • 06 Jan 25

🇺🇸 U.S. Politics Political Events Violence Social Issues Public Opinion

Many people at church and gun shows express feelings of fear and anger but don't always talk about the violence happening around them. They seem to ignore serious issues like the insurrection and its consequences.
Church gatherings often focus on personal blessings rather than addressing real-world problems, including the violence that some community members justify or downplay.
There’s a deep silence among certain groups in faith communities about social issues, which often leaves marginalized voices unheard. The lack of discussion can be as harmful as the violent actions themselves.

The myth of red states and blue states

768 implied HN points • 30 Oct 24

🇺🇸 U.S. Politics Political divide Media influence Cultural Issues Economic Inequality

The idea that America is divided into red states and blue states is a myth. People actually live alongside each other, sharing many common experiences and perspectives.
Wealth plays a big role in political divides. Those who have money can often ignore the struggles faced by others, but most Americans are living in the same realities, dealing with the same issues.
There's no safe place to escape the political mess, and tuning out isn't an option for most. We all have to navigate these challenges together, as one America.

You can have pleasure but no freedom

417 implied HN points • 01 Jan 25

🎭️ Culture Feminism Sexuality Media Politics Social Issues

In 2024, there was a lot of open talk about women's sexual desires, but this happened alongside many restrictions on reproductive rights. It's like women are getting more pleasure but losing freedom.
There's a big difference in how often men and women achieve orgasms, which shows there's still a gap in sexual satisfaction. While women explore their desires, many still face issues like loss of job security and safety during pregnancy.
Even with more representation of female desire in media, it often focuses on certain types of women. Real freedom for all women, not just privileged ones, is necessary for genuine sexual liberation.

A beautiful gilded cage

738 implied HN points • 23 Oct 24

🇺🇸 U.S. Politics Political Analysis Public Figures Media Critique Cultural Commentary Gender Politics

Melania Trump's autobiography seems to focus on her life as a victim of the media and not her husband's actions. She avoids discussing serious issues connected to his presidency.
Her book portrays a life of privilege while ignoring the realities that come with it. Melania seems content to stay in her 'gilded cage,' benefiting from her situation.
The idea that Melania and other white women voters are just victims of their circumstances is too simplistic. Many choose to support Trump because it aligns with their own interests.

Is it weight loss? Or is it patriarchy?

237 implied HN points • 09 Feb 25

🎭️ Culture Gender Issues Societal norms Body Image

Weight loss can bring up deeper issues about gender roles and self-worth. Many women feel pressured to conform to beauty standards, impacting their relationships.
The pressures around weight loss create feelings of rage in women who don’t feel empowered in their own lives. Social expectations often dictate how women perceive their rights and needs.
Thin privilege is a real concept, highlighting how society favors certain body types. Achieving thinner bodies often leads people to feel they can ask for more in their personal lives.

The Dingularity 2024

531 implied HN points • 15 Nov 24

🇺🇸 U.S. Politics Government Elections Political Satire Public Policy Social Issues

Dingularity describes a situation where too many foolish leaders come together, creating chaos and losing meaning in the world. It's a funny way to highlight how absurd things can get in politics.
The author jokingly points out that many questionable figures are being appointed to important positions. This reflects a mix of humor and frustration about the current political climate.
Even amidst all the craziness, the author emphasizes the importance of laughter and not losing sight of joy while fighting for justice and freedom.

Who is your nemesis?

204 implied HN points • 10 Feb 25

🎭️ Culture Music Entertainment Social Commentary Art Identity

Everyone has an enemy or something they dislike strongly, which can be a source of motivation. It’s normal to have feelings of rivalry or frustration towards certain people or situations.
Yelling or expressing frustration, like in a big stadium, can be a powerful way to release emotions and bond with others. It’s almost like a communal way of dealing with anger.
Reflecting on who or what your enemy is can help you better understand your own feelings and drive. Identifying your 'nemesis' can give you a clearer perspective on challenges you face.

The truth we don’t want to face

503 implied HN points • 20 Nov 24

🇺🇸 U.S. Politics Elections Conspiracy Democracy Media Social Issues

Conspiracy theories can become attractive, especially when people are struggling to understand their feelings about political loss. Many individuals look for explanations rather than facing uncomfortable truths about their beliefs.
Real change comes from understanding the systems we live in and who benefits from them. This requires questioning our own roles and complicity in societal issues.
Fighting misinformation and conspiracy theories takes more than social media posts; it needs community action and support. Sitting back won't create the change we want to see.