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What Sexual Liberation Really Looks Like

Common Sense with Bari Weiss • 1794 implied HN points • 15 Feb 25
🎭️ Culture Sexuality
  1. Hookup culture mainly helps men while often making things harder for women. It's important to recognize how this affects women's experiences.
  2. Casual sex isn't necessarily a good thing for women, and deeper connections with partners can lead to more fulfilling relationships.
  3. Not all sexual desires should be acted on, and women don't have to participate in hookup culture just because it's popular.

The illegitimacy of the male

Archedelia • 1513 implied HN points • 18 Jun 23
🎭️ Culture Sexuality
  1. Institutional misandry is negatively impacting both men and women
  2. Male sexuality is viewed as illegitimate in society today
  3. Sexual violence and harassment policies are being used to regulate ordinary sex

Embracing Bromance

Polymathic Being • 71 implied HN points • 11 Jan 26
🎭️ Culture Sexuality
  1. Men’s loneliness is worsened by the loss of platonic male physical touch, and that lack of affectionate contact harms mental and physical health.
  2. Two main forces caused this shift: the sexualization of male touch linked to homosexuality and the integration of women into formerly male-only spaces, both of which made affectionate male touch feel risky and diminished men’s bonding opportunities.
  3. Non-sexual male touch has real bonding and health benefits, so we need cultural, inclusive ways to safely bring back affectionate platonic touch without reverting to exclusionary or toxic practices.
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Pedophiles, Hebephiles, Incels, and Transgenders

donaldjeffries • 1198 implied HN points • 30 Jul 23
🇺🇸 U.S. Politics Sexuality
  1. The term 'pedophile' is often misused and misunderstood, with distinctions between pedophiles, hebephiles, and other types of attractions.
  2. There is concern about the societal impacts of transgender activism, especially in schools and on young children.
  3. There are discussions about double standards and inconsistencies in society regarding sexuality, including issues related to incels and cultural attitudes towards minors.

Curator

Castalia • 379 implied HN points • 30 Mar 24
🎭️ Culture Sexuality
  1. There's a big debate about trans issues and choices, especially about children and medical decisions like puberty blockers. Some people stress the importance of granting freedoms, while others worry about the consequences of those choices on young lives.
  2. The idea of polyamory suggests that relationships can be built on open communication and shared experiences instead of traditional monogamous norms. While some people admire this approach, others see it as complicated and challenging to manage.
  3. Psychedelics have become popular for their potential benefits, but there's a growing concern about unrealistic expectations and their safe use. People are starting to question whether these substances can really bring about lasting change in society.

The Real Reason Actresses Are Rejecting Intimacy Coordinators

Common Sense with Bari Weiss • 644 implied HN points • 11 Jun 25
🎭️ Culture Sexuality
  1. Some famous actresses are saying they don't need intimacy coordinators for sex scenes, believing they can handle it themselves. They feel it's important to have more freedom in how these scenes are performed.
  2. Critics argue that rejecting intimacy coordinators could be harmful, especially in the wake of the #MeToo movement. They worry this could lead to unsafe working environments for actors.
  3. There's a history of troubling practices in film, like in the past when actors were put in uncomfortable situations without their consent. As a result, there's a push for more safety and professionalism in filming intimate scenes now.

The Season of the Scumbag

Look What You Made Me Do • 511 implied HN points • 28 Jan 24
🎭️ Culture Sexuality
  1. Powerful individuals are being exposed for behavior that surpasses standard norms.
  2. Scandals involving high-profile figures are prevalent, revealing misconduct and abuse of power.
  3. Public figures facing serious allegations are often embroiled in controversies related to sexual misconduct.

Reviewing Men? There’s an App for That.

Common Sense with Bari Weiss • 431 implied HN points • 31 Jul 25
🎭️ Culture Sexuality
  1. A new dating app called Tea Dating Advice lets women anonymously rate men they might date. It's become very popular, showing a new way for women to share their experiences.
  2. Men have responded to this app by publicly embarrassing women, creating a negative cycle that affects both sides. This kind of behavior isn't helping anyone find love.
  3. The app was created to help women avoid bad dating experiences, especially after one man's mother had a scary time with online dating. It's meant to be a supportive tool.

Male sexual desire is good, actually

Sex and the State • 89 implied HN points • 08 Dec 25
🎭️ Culture Sexuality
  1. Male sexual desire isn’t inherently bad. It helps make sex happen, and sex can be fun, intimate, and important for reproduction and connection.
  2. The real problem is gender norms, not desire. Masculinity pressures men to perform constant horniness and to be pushy or entitled, which leads to harmful behavior.
  3. Sex-negativity and shame are the true dangers. Reducing stigma and adopting sex-positive attitudes would be healthier and cut down on harm.

#209: The death of sex, 3 years later

Maybe Baby • 1058 implied HN points • 16 Feb 25
🎭️ Culture Sexuality
  1. Culture has become less about genuine connection and more about digital interactions, which can feel unfulfilling. Many people are missing out on real emotional experiences that come from touch and presence.
  2. There's a growing tension in politics where both the left and right have problems engaging with different viewpoints. Instead of understanding each other, they often stick to their own narratives, which doesn't help anyone.
  3. Technology has taken over many aspects of life, making interactions feel faster but less meaningful. While some tech is helpful, it often alienates people from each other, making real connections harder to find.

Matt Schlapp says Tim Scott is gay. And he would probably know.

The Signorile Report • 1059 implied HN points • 12 Sep 23
🇺🇸 U.S. Politics Sexuality
  1. The sexual orientation of GOP presidential candidate Tim Scott has become a subject of interest due to his bachelor status and public image as an anti-LGBTQ crusader.
  2. There are conflicting reports and speculations about Tim Scott's personal life, with suggestions that a staged relationship may be part of a political strategy.
  3. Historically, closeted individuals in various circles tend to know or be aware of each other, which adds a layer of complexity to understanding public figures' sexual orientations.

Normalyze This

utopian drivel • 825 implied HN points • 06 Sep 23
🎭️ Culture Sexuality
  1. Normalizing gay men and relationships was a gradual process that involved marketing strategies and societal shifts.
  2. The idea of 'normalizing' behaviors can be complex, as seen in the evolution of societal views towards online dating and sexual expressions.
  3. Resisting normalization is about embracing the diversity of identities and behaviors without conforming to a narrow definition of 'normal.'

Is It Cool to Be Queer on Campus?

Glenn Loury • 1031 implied HN points • 20 Aug 23
🎭️ Culture Sexuality
  1. A significant number of students at Ivy League universities openly identify as LGBTQ.
  2. There may be a shift towards destigmatizing minority sexual orientations among young people.
  3. The idea of 'identity' plays a crucial role in how individuals express their sexual orientation today.

The curse of f*ckability

The Shift With Sam Baker • 738 implied HN points • 08 Jun 23
🎭️ Culture Sexuality
  1. The concept of 'fuckability' is a curse that affects women from puberty and beyond, with societal expectations and objectification causing harm.
  2. Women, especially as they age, are rejecting the societal pressure of being seen as 'fuckable' and embracing their independence and experiences.
  3. The issue of 'fuckability' is deeply intertwined with power dynamics and ownership over women, beyond just physical appearance.

'The Idol' Embodied Our Sexual Culture

Many Such Cases • 979 implied HN points • 07 Jul 23
🎭️ Culture Sexuality
  1. The show 'The Idol' showed very real and uncomfortable aspects of our sexual culture. Instead of shying away from difficult topics, it gave viewers a mirror to reflect on these issues.
  2. Many people misunderstood the show's intention, thinking it endorsed negative actions rather than critiquing them. This highlights a lack of media literacy in understanding complex narratives.
  3. 'The Idol' aimed to explore trauma, sexuality, and shame but left audiences feeling unsettled. It reminds us that not all stories provide neat resolutions, and that's a reality we often want to ignore.

Silver Lining in the Black Clouds?

Daniel Pinchbeck’s Newsletter • 32 implied HN points • 09 Jan 26
🎭️ Culture Sexuality
  1. Political and institutional breakdown has exposed deep corruption and failing systems. That danger could also create an opening to rebuild society if authoritarian collapse is averted.
  2. A systemic redesign is needed that replaces extractive capitalism with stewardship and shared commons, using tools like universal basic income, demurrage-style currencies, community-based living, and decentralized direct democracy. Technology should be guided by biomimicry and used to coordinate ecological restoration rather than surveillance.
  3. Lasting change requires an inner shift in values and consciousness by repurposing media to produce pro-social subjectivity and by cultivating practices (including responsible psychedelics and spiritual disciplines) that foster empathy and a sense of global, cooperative belonging.

Les Belles Dames Sans Merci

SBJournal • 353 implied HN points • 16 Jan 24
🎭️ Culture Sexuality
  1. Facing challenges in printing and distributing a feminist erotic magazine in the 80s due to societal norms and discrimination.
  2. Encountering obstacles in business operations and facing prejudice due to the nature of the content.
  3. Navigating the complexities of feminist politics, censorship, and personal relationships within the context of sexual liberation movements.

Are We In a Hyper-Sexual Culture or Not?

Many Such Cases • 1079 implied HN points • 04 May 23
🎭️ Culture Sexuality
  1. There's a mix of hyper-sexuality and sexual emptiness in our culture. We see lots of sexual content online, but it often feels lacking in intimacy and meaning.
  2. Media has shifted from playful to more serious when showing sex. Many now complain about romantic comedies being too sexual, even though that's been a tradition.
  3. People often react negatively to sexual scenes in movies, which highlights a growing discomfort with sexuality. This can make our current sexual culture feel dull and disconnected.

Sexuality is as wide as the sea

Wyclif's Dust • 3487 implied HN points • 26 Jul 23
🎭️ Culture Sexuality
  1. Sexuality is complex and diverse, like the sea.
  2. The link between sex and identity has led to a proliferation of identities, but the idea of sexual identity is fragile.
  3. The understanding of human sexuality is still uncertain, and sexual mores have evolved over time.

Of Course Fetishes Are Political

Many Such Cases • 1179 implied HN points • 10 Mar 23
🎭️ Culture Sexuality
  1. Sex positivity is often seen as the idea that all kinks are personal and shouldn't be criticized. But it's important to understand that sex is also influenced by culture and politics.
  2. Some people see traditional lifestyles, like being a 'tradwife', as just a personal choice, but they can also be tied to specific sexual or cultural fetishes, showing how complicated these desires can be.
  3. We need to be open to discussing and critiquing various fetishes instead of just accepting them as normal. Not all desires are healthy, and we should explore where they come from.

The deeper significance of Steely Dan's name

Expanding Dan • 471 implied HN points • 05 May 23
🎶 Music Sexuality
  1. Steely Dan got their name from William S. Burroughs and his book 'Naked Lunch.'
  2. The band's name, referencing a dildo, symbolizes themes of transgressive art, masculinity, and falsehood in their music.
  3. The dildo reference was a provocation that added to the band's contrary mythos and made them stand out.

Porn Is Inevitable

Common Sense with Bari Weiss • 491 implied HN points • 14 Jan 25
🎭️ Culture Sexuality
  1. The Supreme Court is reviewing laws that require age verification on porn sites, but porn will likely continue to exist regardless of the outcome.
  2. Many states have introduced laws to prevent minors from accessing pornography, citing concerns about the impact on youth.
  3. Despite these regulations, the history of porn shows it's always been around and is easily accessible online, making these laws largely ineffective.

AI, Big Naturals and You

Many Such Cases • 819 implied HN points • 01 Feb 23
🎭️ Culture Sexuality
  1. AI could change how people view adult content, but it's unlikely to completely replace platforms like OnlyFans. Many users are drawn to the personal connection they feel with creators, not just the images.
  2. Some people may turn to AI-generated porn, especially for niche interests, but the majority still value the human element in adult entertainment.
  3. AI girlfriends might offer temporary comfort for lonely individuals, but they lack the depth of real relationships. Relying on them could make connecting with real people even harder.

A Visit to the Goon Cave

Many Such Cases • 939 implied HN points • 13 Dec 22
🎭️ Culture Sexuality
  1. Gooning is a practice where people engage in prolonged masturbation sessions to pornography, often for several hours. It focuses on reaching a trance-like state while edging, enhancing the experience of pleasure.
  2. Many gooners create personal spaces called 'goon caves' filled with pornographic materials and multiple screens to fully immerse themselves in the act. These setups reflect a commitment to their pursuit of pleasure.
  3. Some individuals involved in gooning see it as an addiction and even celebrate the negative aspects of their behavior. This fascination can lead to isolation and a lack of meaningful social connections, raising concerns about the impact of pornography on relationships and society.

Yeah, Yeah, The Sexual Revolution

Castalia • 339 implied HN points • 30 Sep 23
🎭️ Culture Sexuality
  1. The sexual revolution has raised questions about its success, with many arguing it has failed. Issues like high divorce rates and rising unhappiness, particularly among women, are often cited as evidence.
  2. Feminism has made strides, but it also faces challenges in the dating market. Women have gained more opportunities, but the realities of attraction and relationships haven't changed significantly.
  3. Society swings between periods of sexual liberation and repression. The hope is for a future where there's more acceptance of diverse sexualities without trying to return to the past's extremes.

You can have pleasure but no freedom

Men Yell at Me • 417 implied HN points • 01 Jan 25
🎭️ Culture Sexuality
  1. In 2024, there was a lot of open talk about women's sexual desires, but this happened alongside many restrictions on reproductive rights. It's like women are getting more pleasure but losing freedom.
  2. There's a big difference in how often men and women achieve orgasms, which shows there's still a gap in sexual satisfaction. While women explore their desires, many still face issues like loss of job security and safety during pregnancy.
  3. Even with more representation of female desire in media, it often focuses on certain types of women. Real freedom for all women, not just privileged ones, is necessary for genuine sexual liberation.

Racial Differences in Sexuality: A Sex Worker Survey

Anglo Reaction • 275 implied HN points • 20 Jun 23
🎭️ Culture Sexuality
  1. The survey on racial differences in male sexuality found that sex workers confirmed stereotypes about penis size.
  2. The study interviewed sex workers to gather information on various aspects of racial differences in sexuality.
  3. For more details, the full paper and broader summaries can be accessed through provided links.

The Unseen Real

Daniel Pinchbeck’s Newsletter • 7 implied HN points • 27 Jan 26
⛪ Faith & Spirituality Sexuality
  1. Advanced AI and media consolidation are concentrating power and enabling a new techno-fascist form of social control that threatens democratic life.
  2. Widespread automation makes elites see large, diverse populations as expendable, creating an existential crisis of meaning and social survival.
  3. Turning toward practices like Tantra, breathwork, psychedelics, dreamwork, and sensory training is offered as an antidote to that crisis, aiming to heal eros, deepen consciousness, and reclaim hidden feminine power.

Good At Sex Slutsquad AMA

Knowingless • 945 implied HN points • 01 Feb 24
🎭️ Culture Sexuality
  1. The blog is hosting its first AMA session for open questions and answers.
  2. They are seeking suggestions for a new name instead of 'slut squad'.
  3. The 'slut squad' consists of three women with different backgrounds in sex work and psychology.

State of the Blog: Updates

Knowingless • 931 implied HN points • 25 Jan 24
🎭️ Culture Sexuality
  1. Bringing on guest contributors with similar 'qualifications' to write about sex.
  2. Increasing output by including smaller, more frequent posts like Q&A sessions and brainstorming thoughts.
  3. Planning to publish interviews with introspective women, evo-psych content, seduction analysis videos, AMAs, and a mysterious upcoming project.

Good At Sex: Antagonistic Seduction (pt 8)

Knowingless • 823 implied HN points • 09 Mar 24
🎭️ Culture Sexuality
  1. Some women are interested in displays of power and dominance in sexual scenarios, such as forced sex or consensual nonconsent.
  2. There is a common misconception that all sex should be loving and gentle, but sexual preferences can be diverse and complex.
  3. Understanding the nuances of sexual dynamics, including the balance between consent and nonconsent, can help navigate different preferences without causing harm.

Good At Sex: Misjudging What Women Want (pt6)

Knowingless • 810 implied HN points • 29 Jan 24
🏥 Health & Wellness Sexuality
  1. In the realm of sex, men often overestimate what women want, leading to potential misunderstandings in sexual encounters.
  2. Men may exaggerate women's desires based on their own observations and experiences, creating a gap in understanding.
  3. Understanding the differences in sexual preferences between genders can help in bridging the gap and improving communication in intimate relationships.

Many Such Cases: a formal relaunch

Many Such Cases • 559 implied HN points • 01 Dec 22
🎭️ Culture Sexuality
  1. The newsletter focuses on exploring desire and how it affects our lives. It's about understanding our feelings and how they influence our interactions.
  2. There is a growing concern about the decline of sexual relationships and social connections in society. This change reflects a bigger problem with loneliness and isolation.
  3. The writer plans to share personal stories and thoughts regularly, and will also offer paid content with a community element. They want to engage with readers and help with their questions.