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Virginity Is the Last Taboo

Common Sense with Bari Weiss • 1469 implied HN points • 28 Jun 25
🎭️ Culture Social Issues Gender Studies Human behavior Relationships Sexuality
  1. Many women feel that virginity carries a strong significance, even in a time when sexual freedom is celebrated. Their experiences and feelings about virginity can vary widely.
  2. The topic of virginity is still considered a taboo in society, creating pressure and expectations around a woman's first sexual experience.
  3. Conversations about virginity often reveal that it can be seen as both a personal experience and a social construct, influencing how women view their own sexuality.

What Porn Took from Us

Common Sense with Bari Weiss • 3283 implied HN points • 05 Jun 25
🎭️ Culture Sexuality Media Parenting Youth Trauma
  1. Many children today are exposed to porn at a very young age, which can shape their understanding of intimacy in harmful ways.
  2. The exposure to hardcore porn isn't just a casual experience; it can be a form of abuse that affects children's mental health and development.
  3. While society discusses various traumas, the impact of porn on young people is often overlooked, although it can have lasting effects on their lives.

The Real Reason Actresses Are Rejecting Intimacy Coordinators

Common Sense with Bari Weiss • 644 implied HN points • 11 Jun 25
🎭️ Culture Film Theater Media Feminism Sexuality
  1. Some famous actresses are saying they don't need intimacy coordinators for sex scenes, believing they can handle it themselves. They feel it's important to have more freedom in how these scenes are performed.
  2. Critics argue that rejecting intimacy coordinators could be harmful, especially in the wake of the #MeToo movement. They worry this could lead to unsafe working environments for actors.
  3. There's a history of troubling practices in film, like in the past when actors were put in uncomfortable situations without their consent. As a result, there's a push for more safety and professionalism in filming intimate scenes now.

The whoral majority

Sex and the State • 38 implied HN points • 19 Jun 25
🎭️ Culture Sexuality Morality Religion Society Identity
  1. Many people have a rigid view of morality based on what they were taught as children, which can create discomfort with new ideas.
  2. Prostitution, often viewed negatively, has existed throughout history and can actually provide financial independence and safety when decriminalized.
  3. The author questions the morality of organized religions, especially given their contradictions and failures, and believes that the perspectives of sex workers should be valued more.

Why the Term 'Porn Star' Should Go

The Take (by Jon Miltimore) • 218 implied HN points • 12 Oct 24
🎭️ Culture Language Media Society Feminism Sexuality
  1. The term 'porn star' is misleading because most performers aren't actually stars, just regular actors in adult films.
  2. Using euphemisms like 'porn star' can distort the truth and make serious topics less clear, which isn't helpful.
  3. The glamorization of pornography through phrases like 'porn star' raises questions about how we view and talk about these actors in society.
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Desire Digest 004

Many Such Cases • 519 implied HN points • 05 Sep 24
🎭️ Culture Relationships Social Trends Gender Studies Youth culture Sexuality
  1. Many young women are feeling let down by casual sex, with issues like non-consensual choking becoming more common. There seems to be a gap between what some women want and what men think they want.
  2. There's a noticeable trend of Gen Z pushing back against intimate scenes in films. This could be reflecting their real-life attitudes towards relationships and intimacy.
  3. The author is aiming to create a more interactive newsletter experience, involving live discussions and advice columns, making it a more engaging space for readers.

Desire Digest 002

Many Such Cases • 1558 implied HN points • 30 Jul 24
🎭️ Culture Sexuality Travel Technology Social media Wellness
  1. Being off your phone can help you feel more present and connected to your body. It’s nice to experience life without the distractions of technology.
  2. Sex wellness retreats are becoming popular, showing a desire to reconnect with ourselves and our pleasure. Some people are willing to spend a lot of money to explore this side of their lives.
  3. There's confusion around the political messages tied to sexuality. It seems people can be both sexually liberated and assume certain political beliefs without clear connections.

Death by Situationship

Many Such Cases • 8892 implied HN points • 21 Mar 24
🎭️ Culture Dating Relationships Social media Sexuality Gender
  1. Situationships are confusing romantic bonds that lack clear definitions, leaving people feeling stuck and unfulfilled. Many young people find themselves in these types of relationships instead of committed ones.
  2. Surveys show that situationships often lead to heartache, especially among younger generations. Many people end up feeling emotionally drained and hurt since these relationships usually don't meet their needs.
  3. The rise of digital communication has impacted how we form connections, making it easier to avoid real intimacy. Overall, situationships seem to reflect a broader struggle with genuine relationships and emotional honesty.

Desire Digest 001

Many Such Cases • 1698 implied HN points • 27 Jun 24
🎭️ Culture Sexuality Beauty Social media Relationships Trends
  1. The term 'hawk tuah' became popular online from a viral clip where a woman casually talks about her sexual desires. It shows a fun, carefree attitude towards sexuality, even if it gets commercialized later.
  2. Beauty products are increasingly marketed to signal desire rather than encourage real experiences of intimacy. For example, lip colors are now designed to evoke a feeling of sexiness but might not reflect actual sexual interactions.
  3. Feeld's new feature lets users connect with multiple partners, which aims to embrace non-traditional relationships. However, it raises questions about whether we need more labels when exploring unconventional dynamics.

What Sexual Liberation Really Looks Like

Common Sense with Bari Weiss • 1794 implied HN points • 15 Feb 25
🎭️ Culture Feminism Sexuality Society Gender Relationships
  1. Hookup culture mainly helps men while often making things harder for women. It's important to recognize how this affects women's experiences.
  2. Casual sex isn't necessarily a good thing for women, and deeper connections with partners can lead to more fulfilling relationships.
  3. Not all sexual desires should be acted on, and women don't have to participate in hookup culture just because it's popular.

Sundress Eroticism

Many Such Cases • 999 implied HN points • 07 Jun 24
🎭️ Culture Fashion Gender Race Sexuality Media
  1. Sundresses are popular in summer because they are comfortable and pretty. Many people enjoy wearing them as they feel good in them.
  2. There is a discussion about who sundresses are worn for, with some women dressing for themselves and others for attention. It's okay to dress in a way that attracts others.
  3. The meaning and style of sundresses can vary among different racial groups. Both types offer comfort and a sexy look, but they can be seen differently based on culture.

#209: The death of sex, 3 years later

Maybe Baby • 1058 implied HN points • 16 Feb 25
🎭️ Culture Sexuality Society Politics Technology Media
  1. Culture has become less about genuine connection and more about digital interactions, which can feel unfulfilling. Many people are missing out on real emotional experiences that come from touch and presence.
  2. There's a growing tension in politics where both the left and right have problems engaging with different viewpoints. Instead of understanding each other, they often stick to their own narratives, which doesn't help anyone.
  3. Technology has taken over many aspects of life, making interactions feel faster but less meaningful. While some tech is helpful, it often alienates people from each other, making real connections harder to find.

The gay-ification of heterosexuality

Disaffected Newsletter • 1099 implied HN points • 15 Apr 24
🎭️ Culture LGBTQ+ Social Trends Sexuality Identity Hedonism
  1. There's a noticeable trend where aspects of gay culture are becoming more common in heterosexual relationships. This includes things like experimental and adventurous approaches to sex.
  2. People are starting to see what was once considered edgy or restricted to the LGBTQ+ community as normal behavior for everyone.
  3. This shift raises questions about how we define sexuality and what is considered acceptable in relationships today.

Friday Night News Roundup

Daily Dreher • 2083 implied HN points • 26 Jan 24
🇺🇸 U.S. Politics Border crisis Constitutional crisis Sexuality Gender Politics
  1. Qatar allegedly hired a former CIA agent to discredit Sen. Ted Cruz and others opposing Muslim Brotherhood
  2. The US is facing a constitutional crisis over border control and the executive branch's refusal to enforce laws
  3. There is a concerning trend of ideological divide impacting relationships and marriage rates, especially among young adults

Do These People F*ck: The Sex Symposium

Many Such Cases • 1358 implied HN points • 31 Jan 24
🎭️ Culture Sexuality Gender Health Event Society
  1. The Sex Symposium focused on women over 40, addressing their unique challenges and experiences with sex. Many attendees were eager to talk about pleasure and sexuality without the fears younger generations might have.
  2. Speakers discussed the importance of individual pleasure but recognized societal issues like shame, trauma, and patriarchy that affect women's sexual experiences. While these are real concerns, some wonder if there’s more to address beyond personal feelings.
  3. Overall, the event was a positive space for discussions on sex, with many women feeling empowered to explore their desires. The excitement for pleasure was a big part of the experience, showing that many older women are enjoying their sexuality.

The Celibates, the Gooners and the Moralists

Many Such Cases • 1538 implied HN points • 19 Dec 23
🎭️ Culture Sexuality Relationships Society Media Politics
  1. Many people are calling themselves celibate, but this often doesn't mean they're actually not having sex. Some just like the idea of being celibate because it makes them feel superior or detached from the current sexual culture.
  2. There is a trend of women choosing celibacy due to feeling disrespected in dating. This choice is significant, but it highlights the ongoing problems in the way people relate to each other sexually.
  3. Words around sexuality, like 'gooning', are becoming normalized in everyday conversation. This shift can contribute to a toxic culture, making it important to talk about these topics without judgment and to seek a healthier sexual culture.

What Makes Men and Women Different?

Uncharted Territories • 2162 implied HN points • 04 Sep 23
🔬 Science Evolution Gender Physiology Psychology Sexuality
  1. Women and men think differently due to biological differences like having a uterus, leading to significant psychological variations.
  2. Men and women face different stakes in relationships and reproduction, with women having higher commitments and limitations due to their reproductive capacity.
  3. Evolutionary factors have shaped men to compete for access to females, leading to traits like dominance, aggression, physical strength, and risk-taking behavior.

Porn Is Inevitable

Common Sense with Bari Weiss • 491 implied HN points • 14 Jan 25
🎭️ Culture Media Law Society Sexuality Politics
  1. The Supreme Court is reviewing laws that require age verification on porn sites, but porn will likely continue to exist regardless of the outcome.
  2. Many states have introduced laws to prevent minors from accessing pornography, citing concerns about the impact on youth.
  3. Despite these regulations, the history of porn shows it's always been around and is easily accessible online, making these laws largely ineffective.

You can have pleasure but no freedom

Men Yell at Me • 417 implied HN points • 01 Jan 25
🎭️ Culture Feminism Sexuality Media Politics Social Issues
  1. In 2024, there was a lot of open talk about women's sexual desires, but this happened alongside many restrictions on reproductive rights. It's like women are getting more pleasure but losing freedom.
  2. There's a big difference in how often men and women achieve orgasms, which shows there's still a gap in sexual satisfaction. While women explore their desires, many still face issues like loss of job security and safety during pregnancy.
  3. Even with more representation of female desire in media, it often focuses on certain types of women. Real freedom for all women, not just privileged ones, is necessary for genuine sexual liberation.

Promiscuity

We're Gonna Get Those Bastards • 8 implied HN points • 28 May 25
🎭️ Culture Relationships Sexuality Social norms Personal Growth Mental health
  1. Promiscuity can lead to emotional struggles and may complicate future relationships like marriage. It's often harder to build trust if there are many past partners.
  2. Having a lot of sexual partners can create feelings of jealousy and insecurity in relationships. It's difficult to forget past lovers when starting something new.
  3. Finding a meaningful connection takes time and effort. Meeting people through shared activities or environments can be better than using dating apps.

Pedophiles, Hebephiles, Incels, and Transgenders

donaldjeffries • 1198 implied HN points • 30 Jul 23
🇺🇸 U.S. Politics Social Issues Sexuality Crime Media Society
  1. The term 'pedophile' is often misused and misunderstood, with distinctions between pedophiles, hebephiles, and other types of attractions.
  2. There is concern about the societal impacts of transgender activism, especially in schools and on young children.
  3. There are discussions about double standards and inconsistencies in society regarding sexuality, including issues related to incels and cultural attitudes towards minors.

Curator

Castalia • 379 implied HN points • 30 Mar 24
🎭️ Culture Gender Issues Sexuality Psychedelics Social Dynamics Identity politics
  1. There's a big debate about trans issues and choices, especially about children and medical decisions like puberty blockers. Some people stress the importance of granting freedoms, while others worry about the consequences of those choices on young lives.
  2. The idea of polyamory suggests that relationships can be built on open communication and shared experiences instead of traditional monogamous norms. While some people admire this approach, others see it as complicated and challenging to manage.
  3. Psychedelics have become popular for their potential benefits, but there's a growing concern about unrealistic expectations and their safe use. People are starting to question whether these substances can really bring about lasting change in society.

Good At Sex: Antagonistic Seduction (pt 8)

Knowingless • 823 implied HN points • 09 Mar 24
🎭️ Culture Sexuality Evolutionary Psychology
  1. Some women are interested in displays of power and dominance in sexual scenarios, such as forced sex or consensual nonconsent.
  2. There is a common misconception that all sex should be loving and gentle, but sexual preferences can be diverse and complex.
  3. Understanding the nuances of sexual dynamics, including the balance between consent and nonconsent, can help navigate different preferences without causing harm.

Matt Schlapp says Tim Scott is gay. And he would probably know.

The Signorile Report • 1059 implied HN points • 12 Sep 23
🇺🇸 U.S. Politics Sexuality Republican party Presidential Candidate Investigation Media Coverage
  1. The sexual orientation of GOP presidential candidate Tim Scott has become a subject of interest due to his bachelor status and public image as an anti-LGBTQ crusader.
  2. There are conflicting reports and speculations about Tim Scott's personal life, with suggestions that a staged relationship may be part of a political strategy.
  3. Historically, closeted individuals in various circles tend to know or be aware of each other, which adds a layer of complexity to understanding public figures' sexual orientations.

Normalyze This

utopian drivel • 825 implied HN points • 06 Sep 23
🎭️ Culture LGBTQ+ Identity Social norms Equality Sexuality
  1. Normalizing gay men and relationships was a gradual process that involved marketing strategies and societal shifts.
  2. The idea of 'normalizing' behaviors can be complex, as seen in the evolution of societal views towards online dating and sexual expressions.
  3. Resisting normalization is about embracing the diversity of identities and behaviors without conforming to a narrow definition of 'normal.'