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Hippopotamus

Myth Pilot • 786 implied HN points • 07 May 23
🎭️ Culture Society Relationships Behavior
  1. A wealthy man named Carlos humiliated his girlfriend by calling her a hippopotamus.
  2. Despite not being overweight, Carlos's insult of 'hippopotamus' was deemed as an outrage.
  3. Carlos's behavior led to a rift between two wealthy families in Spain.

Boundaries, property, and other words I don't love using about my heart

Soaring Twenties • 69 implied HN points • 29 Nov 24
🏥 Health & Wellness Mental health Therapy Boundaries Relationships Emotional Wellness
  1. People often talk a lot about boundaries in relationships, but this language can make it hard to truly connect with each other. Instead of just drawing lines, we should open up and allow for more intimacy.
  2. The idea of having boundaries can protect us from being hurt, but it might also keep us isolated and lonely. It's important to balance protecting ourselves with allowing others in.
  3. Learning to communicate our feelings directly, rather than relying on boundary talk, can help build deeper connections and mutual understanding in relationships.

How to Make Love Stay?

Seven Senses • 359 implied HN points • 10 Feb 24
🏥 Health & Wellness Relationships Self-discovery Mental health Personal Growth Love
  1. Love requires effort and honesty to grow. It's important to reflect on our own qualities and flaws in a relationship rather than blaming our partner.
  2. Real love changes us and teaches us about ourselves. Over time, we can find comfort in familiarity while still allowing love to evolve.
  3. Instead of searching for a perfect partner, we should focus on creating and nurturing perfect love together. This is the key to making love last.
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The case for fewer fucks and kicking kindness to the kerb.

A B’Old Woman • 359 implied HN points • 06 Feb 24
🎭️ Culture Society Gender Relationships Activism Wellness
  1. It's okay to care less about many things in life. Focus on what really matters to you instead.
  2. Being overly kind can sometimes backfire, especially for women. It's important to balance kindness with self-care.
  3. Growing older can give you a clearer perspective on what's worth your energy and attention. Embrace the freedom that comes with it.

The Profile: The Apple CEO going all in on VR & the trans kids transitioning back

The Profile • 396 implied HN points • 11 Feb 24
🎭️ Culture Technology Gender Media Relationships Fashion
  1. Surround yourself with people who see the best version of you, even when you may not see it yourself. This support can empower you to strive to be that version every day.
  2. In any supportive partnership, the goal should be to help each other grow into the best versions of themselves.
  3. Transgender children 'detransitioning' has become a topic of increased scrutiny, as the affirmation model of care faces criticism for not exploring other sources of distress.

Good At Sex: Misjudging What Women Want (pt6)

Knowingless • 810 implied HN points • 29 Jan 24
🏥 Health & Wellness Sexuality Gender differences Relationships
  1. In the realm of sex, men often overestimate what women want, leading to potential misunderstandings in sexual encounters.
  2. Men may exaggerate women's desires based on their own observations and experiences, creating a gap in understanding.
  3. Understanding the differences in sexual preferences between genders can help in bridging the gap and improving communication in intimate relationships.

sunday meanpool

bad cattitude • 92 implied HN points • 20 Oct 24
🎭️ Culture Relationships Social Dynamics Community Personal Growth Communication
  1. Building stronger relationships takes effort and communication. It's important to keep trying, even when things get tough.
  2. Setting clear ground rules can help maintain positive connections. These rules guide interactions and expectations.
  3. Friendship can grow and deepen when both sides are invested. Regular check-ins can help you feel more connected.

8 essential words you've never heard before

The Rubesletter by Matt Ruby (of Vooza) | Sent every Tuesday • 641 implied HN points • 05 Mar 24
🎭️ Culture Language Comedy Art Relationships Mythology
  1. Enshittification refers to how digital platforms decline over time by abusing users and businesses to benefit themselves before eventually failing.
  2. Public solitude is the ability to feel alone even when in front of a large crowd, allowing one to focus in the present moment or during a performance.
  3. Specieist is a term for prejudice based on species, demonstrated by the debate between Elon Musk and Larry Page over the future of artificial intelligence.

Mina does 'the thing'

Disaffected Newsletter • 859 implied HN points • 26 Jul 23
🎭️ Culture Lifestyle Humor Pets Relationships Social Commentary
  1. Mina has a special trick where she taps a hand to ask for attention or treats. It's her way of communicating what she wants.
  2. Shredder, on the other hand, doesn't have tricks but is straightforward and takes what he wants without asking.
  3. These two pets show different personalities: one is playful and communicative, while the other is more assertive and direct.

Dating is additive, but love is multiplicative

Optima & Outliers • 159 implied HN points • 23 Apr 24
🎭️ Culture Relationships Social Dynamics Personal Development Behavioral Psychology Communication
  1. Dating is mostly about meeting many people, where every date adds to your chances of finding someone special. The more dates you go on, the higher your chances, even if some don't go well.
  2. Once you're in a relationship, keeping it strong requires attention to many factors. If one important part, like communication or attraction, isn't working, it can hurt the whole relationship.
  3. In business or projects, success often relies on many connected steps. If one step fails, it can cause everything to fall apart, which makes planning and execution very important.

The Value of a Gift

Seven Senses • 419 implied HN points • 09 Dec 23
🎭️ Culture Relationships DIY Meditation Creativity
  1. Gifts should not just be about money; they represent our care, attention, and creativity. The true value of a gift comes from the thoughtfulness behind it.
  2. Making gifts yourself can be more meaningful and enjoyable. It helps to reduce the pressure and consumerism often associated with gift-giving.
  3. Connecting with loved ones through gifting creates special moments and can deepen relationships. The happiness in giving comes from sharing experiences rather than the price of the gift.

Is The Rent Killing Sex?

The Discourse Lounge • 550 implied HN points • 25 Feb 24
🎭️ Culture Sexuality Urbanism Youth Social media Relationships
  1. High housing costs and living arrangements impact young people's sexual activity, but it may not be the sole reason for the decline in sex among the youth.
  2. Social media and digital content consumption are influencing the decline in sexual activity among young people, shifting priorities from physical activities like partying to phone engagement.
  3. The decrease in early marriages and relationships, along with the availability of dating apps providing many options for sex, are other significant factors contributing to the decrease in sexual activity among young people.

A Playlist for a Blue Valentine

SBJournal • 275 implied HN points • 08 Feb 24
🎶 Music Playlist Love Relationships Emotions Music history
  1. The playlist is inspired by stages of love, from infatuation to contempt, and finally to picking yourself up again.
  2. Each stage is paired with a song that captures the emotions and experiences of that particular phase of a relationship.
  3. The author draws on personal experiences and literary references to create a deeply emotional and relatable playlist for a Blue Valentine.

On Being Goofy

Ladyparts • 838 implied HN points • 19 Mar 23
🏥 Health & Wellness Self-Acceptance Physical activity Mental well-being Relationships
  1. Being true to your authentic, goofy self is important and can be valued by those who appreciate you for who you are.
  2. Embracing your quirks and unique qualities can lead to fulfilling relationships where you are accepted and celebrated.
  3. Sometimes, stepping out of your comfort zone and facing challenges on your own can lead to personal growth and empowerment.

What I wish someone would have told me about relationships.

Changing The Channel • 498 implied HN points • 10 Oct 23
🏥 Health & Wellness Relationships Personal Growth Self-Improvement
  1. People, including ourselves, are capable of change despite the belief that they cannot.
  2. The idea that people don't change can lead to prematurely ending relationships that have the potential to grow into something great.
  3. Believing in our capability for real change is vital, rather than subscribing to the notion that personal transformation is impossible.

Dating as a Digital Performance

Many Such Cases • 879 implied HN points • 13 Apr 23
🎭️ Culture Social media Dating Relationships Identity Content creation
  1. Dating apps are often treated like content platforms instead of tools for finding real connections. Many people care more about creating catchy social media posts than actually getting to know someone.
  2. Sharing personal dating experiences online can distort the purpose of dating. When everything becomes fodder for online discussion, it can lead to unrealistic expectations and self-consciousness while dating.
  3. It's okay to not want to go out with someone based on their date location. But sharing every little criticism publicly can take away from genuine experiences and may not be necessary.

What's got my attention this week #21

The Shift With Sam Baker • 439 implied HN points • 06 Oct 23
🎭️ Culture Film Literature Art Gender Relationships
  1. Isabella Rossellini, at 71, is defying age norms on the cover of Italian Vogue after being replaced by Lancome at 43.
  2. Actor Julia Ormond is taking legal action against Harvey Weinstein for sexual battery, shedding light on the dark facets of the entertainment industry.
  3. Women are exploring anger openly, redefining success on their terms, and sharing personal stories in a bold and empowering way.

dear bear: the secretary problem

bookbear express • 385 implied HN points • 18 Mar 24
🏥 Health & Wellness Relationships Self-reflection Decision-making Personal Growth Advice
  1. Effort is most useful when correctly directed. Avoid over-optimizing or under-optimizing in relationships. Appreciate what you have while recognizing when to seek more fulfillment.
  2. Understand your values and what truly matters to you in a partner. Consider daily experiences, joy, and genuine connection in assessing your relationship.
  3. Seek advice from honest friends who know you well. Remember, infinite wrong choices won't satisfy, but the right one will bring a fulfilling weight.