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Interracial Dating Paper FAQ

sebjenseb • 196 implied HN points • 10 Feb 24
🔬 Science Research Genetics Data Analysis Psychology Relationships
  1. Assortative mating occurs between races, with individuals who date outside their race being more similar to each other in terms of intelligence, height, and risk-taking behaviors.
  2. Current literature suggests that interracial relationships may have a higher likelihood of ending or experiencing domestic violence issues, and mixed-race children might be more prone to mental/behavioral problems, possibly due to self-selection rather than social factors.
  3. Attractiveness was a weak predictor of interracial dating across all races, indicating that mate value or race exchanges based on mate value were not significant factors in interracial dating.
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The love of a cat

Disaffected Newsletter • 1478 implied HN points • 13 Aug 22
🎭️ Culture Pets Relationships Wellness Narrative Behavior
  1. Gaining a cat's love takes time and effort. Unlike dogs, cats can be more reserved and cautious about showing affection.
  2. Pets can help each other heal from emotional struggles. The bond between a pet and their owner can support both through tough times.
  3. Every pet owner has a unique journey with their animals. Each relationship is special and helps both the pet and the owner grow together.

I didn't keep the house, I built a new one

Men Yell at Me • 174 implied HN points • 20 Oct 24
🎭️ Culture Relationships Identity Home Personal Growth Divorce
  1. When people split up, the question of who keeps the house can come up, and it can be a complicated issue. It touches on feelings of home and shared lives.
  2. Deciding what to keep from a shared life, like furniture or memories, can feel like separating parts of a relationship. It's about more than just physical items; it's emotional too.
  3. Building a new life after a split can be empowering. Instead of holding on to the past, creating something new can symbolize hope and fresh beginnings.

Crushing It

Atlas of Wonders and Monsters • 407 implied HN points • 14 Feb 24
🏥 Health & Wellness Love Relationships Mental health Self-Improvement Emotions
  1. Developing feelings for fictional characters in video games or simulations is possible, showcasing the power of romantic attraction.
  2. Having a crush can result in a unique state of mind, where tasks become easier and energy levels heighten, presenting an opportunity to harness that energy for personal development.
  3. Crushes, even if unsatisfiable or deemed inappropriate, can still offer energy that can be redirected positively, such as using the crush on a boss to excel at work.

What's got my attention this week #28

The Shift With Sam Baker • 279 implied HN points • 01 Dec 23
🎭️ Culture Music Literature Relationships Celebrities Personal Development
  1. The post highlights interesting reads, watches, and listens for the weekend, such as celebrating singleness and the centennial of Maria Callas.
  2. It mentions coping strategies for dealing with conflicts and explores intriguing topics like celebrity tell-alls and personal growth.
  3. There's a mix of subjects from Jeff Bezos to the concept of 'killing time,' offering a diverse range of content for the audience.

The meet-cute (rom com, Act One)

Both Are True • 344 implied HN points • 05 Mar 24
🎭️ Culture Film Industry Relationships Entertainment
  1. Rom-coms are not dead, they are alive and thriving, often reflecting real-life moments of love and connection.
  2. Relationships can have quirky and unique beginnings, like meeting on the set of a film and starting a flirtatious interaction through a phone prank.
  3. Love stories often have unexpected twists, like the moment of realization and confession that sets the stage for the next act in the romantic journey.

Attached.

Finding Joy • 176 implied HN points • 03 Feb 24
🏥 Health & Wellness Mental health Relationships Therapy Self-awareness
  1. Neuroplasticity influences our relationships by shaping our attachment patterns from early experiences.
  2. Understanding your attachment style can help navigate relationships and develop self-awareness.
  3. Attachment styles are not fixed and can be modified through corrective experiences and forming new mental pathways.

Men consume relationships. Women produce them.

Wood From Eden • 720 implied HN points • 31 Aug 23
🎭️ Culture Relationships Gender Social Dynamics Human behavior
  1. Women tend to consider relationships as work, while men view them as leisure.
  2. Men often approach romantic relationships like consumers, while women see them as a project to build and maintain.
  3. There is a difference in the amount of intellectual investment that men and women put into relationships, with women generally devoting more intellectual effort.

AI, Big Naturals and You

Many Such Cases • 819 implied HN points • 01 Feb 23
🎭️ Culture Pop culture Media Relationships AI Ethics Sexuality
  1. AI could change how people view adult content, but it's unlikely to completely replace platforms like OnlyFans. Many users are drawn to the personal connection they feel with creators, not just the images.
  2. Some people may turn to AI-generated porn, especially for niche interests, but the majority still value the human element in adult entertainment.
  3. AI girlfriends might offer temporary comfort for lonely individuals, but they lack the depth of real relationships. Relying on them could make connecting with real people even harder.

Yeah, Yeah, The Sexual Revolution

Castalia • 339 implied HN points • 30 Sep 23
🎭️ Culture Feminism Sexuality Social Issues Relationships Media Critique
  1. The sexual revolution has raised questions about its success, with many arguing it has failed. Issues like high divorce rates and rising unhappiness, particularly among women, are often cited as evidence.
  2. Feminism has made strides, but it also faces challenges in the dating market. Women have gained more opportunities, but the realities of attraction and relationships haven't changed significantly.
  3. Society swings between periods of sexual liberation and repression. The hope is for a future where there's more acceptance of diverse sexualities without trying to return to the past's extremes.

At the edge of my map

Austin Kleon • 1418 implied HN points • 17 May 22
🎭️ Culture Relationships Personal Growth Artistic expression Gaming Life Changes
  1. Sometimes, we reach a point in life where we feel lost or unsure, like being at the edge of a map. It's okay to acknowledge that feeling without fear.
  2. Being a good friend means listening and asking questions, especially when someone is going through tough changes. Support is crucial during uncertain times.
  3. In life, just like in video games, we might hit invisible walls that stop our progress. Understanding this can help us be patient as we navigate through unfamiliar territories.

Le couple et l’argent : Pourquoi les hommes sont plus riches que les femmes ?

L'Atelier Galita • 339 implied HN points • 20 Oct 23
🏥 Health & Wellness Gender Equality Financial Literacy Relationships Empowerment Parenting
  1. The gender wealth gap can start from childhood with differences in pocket money and how boys and girls are taught to manage money.
  2. Couples often have unequal financial dynamics, with women shouldering more unpaid domestic work and facing financial vulnerabilities during and after relationships.
  3. It's important for women to prioritize financial independence, have open conversations about money, and be aware of economic abuse in relationships.

Loneliness: The Four Circles of Belonging (2/2)

box. • 2 HN points • 18 Sep 24
🏥 Health & Wellness Mental health Relationships Community Personal Growth Well-being
  1. There are four important types of connections: Inner Circle, Squad, Clan, and Collective. Each helps us feel different levels of belonging.
  2. Finding meaningful connections takes effort and vulnerability. It's important to actively participate in your community and invite people into your life.
  3. Loneliness can happen even with friends around. It's important to evaluate which circles you may be missing to truly feel connected.

What's got my attention this week #17

The Shift With Sam Baker • 299 implied HN points • 01 Sep 23
🎭️ Culture Fashion & Beauty Opinion Health & Wellness Society Relationships
  1. The Shift With Sam Baker is a reader-supported publication with exclusive content for paid subscribers.
  2. The post includes recommendations for reading, articles about transgression, introversion-extroversion divides, and breast cancer experiences.
  3. Kim Cattrall is featured on the cover of Vogue Greece, sparking interest and discussions.

Intentional disruptions

My Home Office Hacks • 2 implied HN points • 03 Feb 25
🎭️ Culture Lifestyle Relationships Leisure Community Personal Growth
  1. Taking scheduled breaks, like playing catch, can boost your productivity and improve your mood during the workday. Connecting with others during these breaks makes work more enjoyable.
  2. Playing catch can be a way to honor someone you've lost, creating meaningful moments that can help with healing and connection.
  3. Using versatile items, like a folding step stool, can improve your workspace by providing better stability for your computer and helping with tasks around the home office.

Fear makes men stupid and anti-feminist

Sex and the State • 19 implied HN points • 04 Dec 24
🎭️ Culture Gender Issues Feminism Society Relationships Psychology
  1. Fear is a major factor that drives sexism, more than hate. It affects how people see and react to each other.
  2. Some individuals may struggle with feelings of fear towards women, which can coexist with their beliefs in feminism.
  3. Understanding the role of fear in gender dynamics can help address and reduce sexist attitudes in society.

A heartwarming work of staggering performativity

Close-reading the reruns with Phoebe Maltz Bovy • 294 implied HN points • 31 Mar 23
🎭️ Culture Feminism Relationships Gender Writing Social media
  1. Discussions around tipping behaviors and husband discourse often resurface periodically on social media.
  2. Many women share stories of seemingly perfect relationships with supportive partners to showcase their personal and professional success.
  3. Public narratives of idealized relationships may not always reflect the true complexities and challenges faced by individuals in real life.

Entourage

Venture Prose • 359 implied HN points • 26 Feb 23
💼 Business Entrepreneurship Relationships Communication Bias Self-Improvement
  1. Entrepreneurs need a variety of support and feedback from different types of people in their circle, including friends, family, collaborators, and external contacts.
  2. Effective communication with one's circle involves sharing, confiding, and receiving feedback authentically and purposefully.
  3. Being aware of biases in interactions and being open to feedback and self-reflection can help entrepreneurs navigate their relationships and improve their decision-making.

On Compromise

Tech Ramblings • 79 implied HN points • 12 Apr 24
🎭️ Culture Relationships Negotiation Personal Growth Team Dynamics Self-help
  1. Compromise often leads to disappointment for both sides. Rather than making everyone happy, it can result in a solution that satisfies no one.
  2. Successful teams and individuals stick to their core beliefs and values instead of compromising. Great achievements come from having a clear vision and following it without settling for less.
  3. Instead of focusing on compromise, we should aim to find the truth. Understanding different perspectives can help us make better decisions and avoid mediocrity.

The Meek and Invisible Labor of Maintenance

Grandmotherly Wisdom • 275 implied HN points • 17 Apr 23
🎭️ Culture Family Lifestyle Relationships Community Personal Growth
  1. Prioritizing maintenance work is essential for long-term enjoyment and functionality.
  2. Regular tidying and maintenance prevent issues from building up to unmanageable levels.
  3. The value of invisible labor, like maintenance and care, may not always be immediately recognized but is crucial for creating a pleasant environment.

Artisan

Venture Prose • 299 implied HN points • 26 Mar 23
💼 Business Investing Venture Capital Startups Entrepreneurship Relationships
  1. To survive as a generalist seed investor, understand founders' emotions and engage with genuine care and support.
  2. When interacting with founders, focus on understanding, asking thought-provoking questions, and articulating key issues to help them progress.
  3. In the world of seed investing, competitiveness matters, but it's crucial to prioritize meaningful connections over unnecessary competition.