Finding Joy

Finding Joy is a Substack by Dr. Joy Lere, focusing on insights from her clinical psychology practice related to personal growth, relationships, emotional well-being, and the complexities of human behavior. It bridges theoretical concepts with practical advice for navigating life, love, and work.

Relationships Personal Growth Emotional Well-being Human Behavior Parenting Productivity Burnout Self-care Communication Success and Failure Social Media and Connectivity Financial Well-being

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Attached.

176 implied HN points • 03 Feb 24
🏥 Health & Wellness Mental health Relationships Therapy Self-awareness
  1. Neuroplasticity influences our relationships by shaping our attachment patterns from early experiences.
  2. Understanding your attachment style can help navigate relationships and develop self-awareness.
  3. Attachment styles are not fixed and can be modified through corrective experiences and forming new mental pathways.

Insight & Action: Secrets & Lies

39 implied HN points • 10 Feb 24
🏥 Health & Wellness Relationships Trust Money
  1. Managing love and money can be complicated, especially when trust is broken due to financial secrets.
  2. Financial infidelity, like secret accounts or spending, can be as damaging to a relationship as physical cheating.
  3. Open communication and trust are crucial in maintaining a healthy relationship, especially when it comes to money matters.
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Bedrooms & Bank Accounts

196 implied HN points • 11 Feb 23
  1. Financial conflicts in relationships often reveal deeper issues related to power dynamics, security, and autonomy.
  2. Money can serve as a measure of self-worth and significance, impacting how couples perceive each other's contributions.
  3. Open communication about finances is crucial in relationships to avoid resentment, misunderstandings, and trust issues.

Hard Feelings

137 implied HN points • 22 Apr 23
🏥 Health & Wellness Emotions Mental health Self-awareness Therapy
  1. Emotions are not inherently good or bad, and avoiding uncomfortable feelings can lead to more heartache in the long run.
  2. Embrace and acknowledge a wide range of emotions, as they provide valuable information and serve important purposes.
  3. Different emotions like sadness, anger, regret, guilt, anxiety, envy, and loneliness each have their unique signals and ways to handle them effectively.

Good Enough.

137 implied HN points • 06 May 23
  1. Motherhood is not about perfection, but about how we respond to mistakes and challenges
  2. Being a 'good enough' parent involves providing a safe environment while allowing children to experience frustrations and disappointments
  3. Parenting is a lifelong journey of learning and growth, filled with love, challenges, and the importance of showing up with radical grace

Free Agent

78 implied HN points • 01 Jul 23
🏥 Health & Wellness Self-Improvement Growth mindset Emotional Intelligence
  1. Freedom comes with responsibility - owning your choices and actions is key to creating the life you want.
  2. Avoid seeking instructions from others out of fear - taking radical ownership is challenging but necessary.
  3. Embrace agency and take control of your life - you have the power to shape your future and influence your circumstances.

Burned.

98 implied HN points • 11 Mar 23
🏥 Health & Wellness Burnout Self-care Professional development Mental health
  1. Burnout is a serious issue that has negative consequences for individuals, businesses, and the public.
  2. Burnout manifests through emotional exhaustion, depersonalization, and diminished sense of personal accomplishment.
  3. To address burnout, individuals can set boundaries, prioritize sleep, pause, say no, make friends outside of work, delegate, and disconnect; while organizations can engage with empathy, set an example, connect people to purpose, provide autonomy, avoid recreating pain, support employee wellbeing practically, and invest in good leadership.

We Are The Enemy

78 implied HN points • 17 Jun 23
🎭️ Culture History Psychology Ethics Society Parenting
  1. There is no 'us' and 'them' - just 'we' in all of our humanity.
  2. People who do 'bad' things often convince themselves their actions are acceptable.
  3. Being passive can contribute to harm - inaction is a choice, so speak out and take action.