Rob Henderson's Newsletter

Rob Henderson's Newsletter explores disparities between elites and ordinary Americans, focusing on human nature, psychology, social class, and luxury beliefs. It delves into issues like family stability, educational trends, Hollywood influence, psychological aspects of upward mobility, and the impact of 'luxury beliefs' on societal classes, providing insights through research findings and personal experiences.

Human Nature Psychology Social Class Disparities Family Dynamics Educational Trends Media Influence Luxury Beliefs Upward Mobility Societal Impact of Beliefs Writing and Creativity Sexual Behavior Economic Redistribution Social Media Perceptions Gender Divides Health Trends

The hottest Substack posts of Rob Henderson's Newsletter

And their main takeaways

Games People Play

1003 implied HN points • 21 Jan 25
🎭️ Culture Psychology Relationships Social Dynamics Human behavior Communication
  1. People often have mixed feelings and hidden messages in their relationships. What they show on the outside might not reflect their true feelings inside.
  2. Understanding the psychological games people play can help us communicate better. Being aware of these dynamics can lead to healthier interactions.
  3. It's important to be open and honest in relationships. Clear communication can help break down barriers and prevent misunderstandings.

2024

1382 implied HN points • 22 Dec 24
🎭️ Culture Literature Writing Memoir Social Issues Personal Stories
  1. The newsletter has grown significantly, from 7,000 subscribers in the first year to over 67,000 now. This shows that consistent effort in writing can really pay off.
  2. The book 'Troubled: A Memoir of Foster Care, Family, and Social Class' performed well, receiving recognition and even being turned into a potential movie. This highlights how personal stories can resonate with readers.
  3. The author now lives in New York City, which symbolizes a new chapter in their life. It reminds us that change is often part of personal growth.

Status Anxiety and Social Class

1856 implied HN points • 10 Nov 24
🎭️ Culture Social Status Belief systems Class dynamics Education Cultural Commentary
  1. Luxury beliefs are ideas that make rich people feel good but hurt poorer people. For example, some wealthy folks support defunding the police, but the poor are the ones who suffer when crime rates rise.
  2. Elite schools now look for essays about overcoming hardship instead of using standardized tests, which can unfairly favor rich applicants who know how to present their stories well.
  3. There’s a tension in how colleges want to see both ambition and victimhood. Some students might exaggerate their struggles to fit in, which can dilute the experiences of those who truly face hardship.

BBC, Dangerous Women, Self-Awareness

1287 implied HN points • 17 Dec 24
🎭️ Culture Social Status Self-awareness Psychology Media influence
  1. Women on hormonal contraceptives are more likely to experience depression and be prescribed antidepressants later on.
  2. Many people think they're self-aware, but research shows that true self-awareness is quite rare.
  3. Having more education doesn't necessarily stop people from holding strong, biased views; even smart people can be influenced by extreme ideas.
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The Hypocrisy of the New Upper Class

2215 implied HN points • 13 Oct 24
🇺🇸 U.S. Politics Political theory Inequality Social Commentary
  1. The new upper class shows a lot of hypocrisy in their beliefs and actions. They often preach one thing while living another way.
  2. This group often criticizes the working class yet benefits from the very systems they speak against. They want to appear virtuous but don’t always act that way.
  3. The contrast between what they say and what they do makes people question their sincerity. It highlights a common issue of double standards among elites.

America's Lost Boys and Me

6913 implied HN points • 11 Feb 24
🏥 Health Politics Education Gender gap Psychological impact
  1. There is a concerning trend of young American men struggling with unemployment, education, and family stability, with statistics showing a significant decline in college attendance among males.
  2. Childhood instability and broken homes have a stronger impact on boys than girls, affecting factors like education, future earnings, and likelihood of incarceration. Stable and secure homes are crucial for children's success.
  3. Research findings emphasize the importance of a solid, two-parent home for a child's future, highlighting the need for positive male role models and guidance to help young men succeed academically and professionally.

Mentorship, Chivalry, Promiscuity

1174 implied HN points • 12 Dec 24
🎭️ Culture Mentorship Social Behavior Psychology Military
  1. Teams work better when everyone feels safe to share their thoughts, even if they disagree. Open conversations lead to better results.
  2. People today are less willing to stand out and are more afraid of criticism. This change might be due to the risks of being judged or isolated.
  3. In some primate species, females are promiscuous not just for pleasure but to protect their young. This behavior helps to avoid infanticide by keeping males guessing about paternity.

Kill the Chicken to Scare the Monkey

928 implied HN points • 03 Jan 25
🇺🇸 U.S. Politics Identity politics Political strategy Cultural Issues Social movements Public Discourse
  1. Identity politics can be used to create fear and control within groups. This can lead to people feeling pressured to conform to certain beliefs.
  2. Groups often engage in public shaming or 'struggle sessions' to enforce conformity. This method makes individuals afraid to speak out or be different.
  3. Understanding these tactics can help individuals navigate social pressures better. Knowing how fear works in group dynamics can be empowering.

Palm Beach, Friendship Paradox, Personality and Eating

1231 implied HN points • 03 Dec 24
🎭️ Culture Psychology Social Status Relationships Personality Behavior Happiness
  1. Women with tattoos might be more open to casual relationships and tend to enjoy new experiences more than those without tattoos.
  2. Going to religious services regularly can make people happier than having a lot of money, showing the power of community and connection.
  3. Good-looking people are often seen as more trustworthy and capable, which can even influence how they're treated in court.

Wellesley College, Patriotism, Social Anxiety

1420 implied HN points • 14 Nov 24
🇺🇸 U.S. Politics Political strategy Public Opinion Patriotism Social Issues
  1. Many people feel proud to be American and see the U.S. as a land of opportunity. This belief is especially strong among non-white voters.
  2. The differences in values about patriotism and crime among voters show a divide between party messaging and what many common people feel. It suggests that certain messages may not resonate with everyone.
  3. Open plan offices can increase stress and negative mood, leading to more sick days compared to traditional cubicles. This impacts worker well-being and productivity.

Infinite Loops, The Economist, Gut Feelings

1250 implied HN points • 26 Nov 24
🎙 Podcasts Interviews Psychology Social Issues Media Education
  1. Spending money can lead to more social connections, especially for men, compared to saving. It seems that being open to spending might attract more partners.
  2. Being with a spouse can significantly boost happiness and make activities feel more meaningful. This shows how important companionship is in our lives.
  3. Dog lovers tend to be more extroverted and organized, while cat lovers might be more open to new experiences. This suggests that our pet preferences can reflect our personalities.

Harvard, Dog and Cat People, Casual Sex

1458 implied HN points • 08 Nov 24
🎭️ Culture Social Behavior Psychology Education Arts Relationships
  1. Women tend to feel more loneliness and regret after casual sex, while men generally feel happier and more satisfied.
  2. In the Soviet Union, educated people were more supportive of communism compared to those with less education, showing that privilege can influence political beliefs.
  3. Trust levels vary by nationality; only a small percentage of Chinese citizens trust those from different countries, while much higher percentages in Germany, the US, and Australia do.

Notes on Power, Seduction, Mastery, Strategy, and Human Nature (Part 2)

890 implied HN points • 15 Dec 24
📖 Philosophy Human nature Power Dynamics Strategy Mastery
  1. Power dynamics are everywhere in our interactions and understanding them can help us navigate life better. It's important to pay attention to how power shifts between people in different situations.
  2. Seduction isn't just about romance; it can be used as a tool to influence and engage others. Learning to be more charming and persuasive can benefit many aspects of your life.
  3. Mastery takes time and persistent effort. Focus on honing your skills deliberately over time to achieve real expertise in your chosen field.

Troubled is a National Bestseller—But Weirdly, Not a New York Times Bestseller

4697 implied HN points • 03 Mar 24
📚 Literature Book Reviews
  1. Making it to different bestseller lists can vary based on different criteria and sources, showing how subjective the process is.
  2. Bestseller lists reflect sales velocity for a week, not the overall success of a book. This can lead to various books making the lists based on short-term sales spikes.
  3. Elite opinions, including those of individuals who read a lot and care about bestseller status, can significantly influence public opinion, policies, and societal functioning.

The Rise of Western Individualism

4431 implied HN points • 17 Mar 24
🎭️ Culture Psychology History Society Religion Economics
  1. Western individualism stems from historical factors like the power of the Western Church and its unique taboos on family structures.
  2. WEIRD societies have distinct characteristics: hyper-individualism, focus on intentions, patience for delayed gratification, and a willingness to adhere to rules even without enforcement.
  3. The rise of Western individualism influenced laws, innovation, and economic prosperity, with key factors like belief in moralizing gods, influence of formal institutions, and the impact of impersonal markets.

On Writing

4886 implied HN points • 15 Feb 24
📚 Literature Writing Creativity Authors Memoirs Books
  1. The key to writing is having a point of view and putting in the effort consistently, regardless of any specific method or process.
  2. Creativity involves both insight and persistence; don't underestimate the value of persistent effort in generating creative ideas.
  3. Writing regularly may involve accepting that initial drafts may not be perfect, embracing bad writing as part of the process, and persisting through writer's block.

How the luxury beliefs of an educated elite erode society

4261 implied HN points • 25 Feb 24
🎭️ Culture Society Class Beliefs Education Books
  1. Luxury beliefs confer status at low cost to the upper class, but can be damaging to lower classes.
  2. Affluent individuals often promote harmful lifestyles to others while distancing themselves from the consequences.
  3. The concept of white privilege can be embraced by wealthy white individuals to elevate social status, while those who actually face the repercussions are usually less privileged.

Conclave is an M. Night Shyamalan Movie for Viewers Who Want to Feel Sophisticated

814 implied HN points • 04 Dec 24
🎭️ Culture Film Literature Art Media Entertainment
  1. Conclave is a film that tries to appeal to an audience that enjoys complex stories. It presents itself as sophisticated and intriguing.
  2. The movie features a twist ending that many viewers may find unearned or silly. This can leave a frustrating impression on the overall experience.
  3. While the film has decent elements, it may not live up to the expectations set by other movies in the genre, particularly those by M. Night Shyamalan.

C-SPAN, Paranoia, Sleeping Babies

909 implied HN points • 20 Nov 24
🇺🇸 U.S. Politics Political Commentary Public Policy Media Studies Psychology Social Issues
  1. You can watch my C-SPAN interview about various topics related to public affairs. It's interesting to see how different subjects are discussed in media.
  2. I have a new lecture series on the psychology of social status, exploring why people seek status and how it influences behavior. This could help you understand social dynamics better.
  3. I shared some links to articles that discuss responsibility in society, paranoia, and modern issues. These readings could offer a deeper understanding of our current world.

Two-Parent Families Are More Important Than College

3920 implied HN points • 19 Feb 24
🚌 Education Family Dynamics Social Mobility Book Reviews Life experiences
  1. The focus on education as a sole solution for social mobility overlooks the importance of nurturing and support before age 18.
  2. It's crucial to gather data from communities directly rather than relying solely on self-proclaimed leaders to bridge gaps.
  3. Encouraging two-parent families is emphasized over college attainment, highlighting the significance of family structure.

Evil Eyes, Status Games, Substack Meetings

1193 implied HN points • 08 Oct 24
🎭️ Culture Social Status Psychology Family Behavior
  1. Social status affects how we behave and interact with others. It influences everything from our emotions to our romantic pursuits.
  2. One-on-one meetings with readers are being offered, allowing for direct conversations and engagement.
  3. Recent findings show that marriage dynamics and education levels can significantly influence family structures and priorities.

The Evolutionary Logic of Emotional Development in Children

795 implied HN points • 27 Nov 24
  1. Emotions in children develop over time and are shaped by their environment. Kids learn how to express feelings based on what they see and experience around them.
  2. Emotional development has evolutionary roots, which means it has helped humans survive and thrive. Understanding this can help parents support their child's growth.
  3. Recognizing and responding to children's emotions is important for their overall well-being. It helps them feel understood and encourages healthy emotional growth.

We've Come a Long Way

3655 implied HN points • 18 Feb 24
📚 Literature Memoir Publishing Book Sales Writing
  1. The author shares their journey from financial struggle to success, highlighting how generosity from readers helped him transition to writing full-time.
  2. Pre-ordering a book can significantly impact its success by influencing bookstore orders, placement, and potential to become a bestseller.
  3. The book "Troubled" contains personal narratives about foster care, social class, and challenging societal norms, aiming to promote important conversations in the culture.

People Spend Too Much Time On Decisions with Equally Satisfying Outcomes

984 implied HN points • 20 Oct 24
📖 Philosophy Decision-making Cognitive Bias Behavioral Science Rationality
  1. People often waste time making decisions that don't have a big difference in the outcome. It's okay to choose quickly when the results are similar.
  2. Analysis paralysis can happen when someone overthinks decisions. Simplifying the process can help avoid this trap.
  3. Making a choice and moving forward can lead to more satisfaction than worrying too much about what could have been done differently. Taking action is usually better than hesitating.

Rich People Food, The Paradox of Liberation, Success Sequence

928 implied HN points • 17 Oct 24
🎭️ Culture Social Status Food culture Philosophy Lifestyle Human behavior
  1. Rich people often have different food preferences, which can reflect their social status. Eating certain foods can signal wealth and lifestyle choices.
  2. The concept of liberation can be paradoxical; sometimes, more freedom can lead to complications and struggles in life.
  3. Following a 'success sequence'—like education, job, and then family—can help people find stability and success in life.

Notes on Power, Seduction, Mastery, Strategy, and Human Nature

795 implied HN points • 27 Oct 24
📖 Philosophy Power Mastery Strategy Human nature
  1. Understanding power dynamics can help you navigate social situations better. It's good to be aware of how influence works between people.
  2. Mastery in any skill requires consistent practice and strategy. Putting in the effort over time will lead to improvement.
  3. Human nature is complex, and understanding it can help you relate better to others. Being empathetic goes a long way in connecting with people.

Nietzschean Morality, Criminal Impulses, Inequality

814 implied HN points • 22 Oct 24
📖 Philosophy Ethics Morality Social Status Inequality
  1. Nietzsche's ideas challenge traditional views of morality. They encourage looking at morality from a different perspective.
  2. Understanding criminal impulses can help us find ways to address crime more effectively. Therapy might be one of the options to consider.
  3. Reducing inequality might be as simple as increasing work opportunities. Encouraging people to work more could lessen social gaps.

What Shocked Me About the Culture at Yale

2765 implied HN points • 21 Feb 24
🎭️ Culture Education Literature Books Podcasts Social Issues
  1. Professors at Yale often work well into their eighties and nineties, a notable difference from other environments.
  2. Students at Ivy League schools can exhibit hypocrisy, criticizing certain occupations while secretly pursuing opportunities in them.
  3. Many elite university students fear being seen as who they truly are, choosing to uphold a virtuous image instead.

Troubled: A Memoir of Foster Care, Family, and Social Class is Available Now!

2632 implied HN points • 20 Feb 24
📚 Literature Book release Book Reviews
  1. The author's book, 'Troubled: A Memoir of Foster Care, Family, and Social Class' is now available, containing new material and insights on social class, upward mobility, and luxury beliefs.
  2. Support for the book is welcomed through social media posts, physical bookstore purchases, and leaving reviews on platforms like Amazon and Goodreads.
  3. The author also shares podcast appearances discussing the book and related topics, providing various links for listeners to access.

"Striving For Upward Mobility Without Background"

3011 implied HN points • 09 Jan 24
🎭️ Culture Higher education Social Class Literature
  1. Some elite college professors have a habit of starting sentences with lowercase letters and abbreviating words randomly.
  2. The discussion about Harvard Extension School's legitimacy brings to mind the concept of clinging to social prestige.
  3. There is a recognizable psychological type of individuals who are intelligent enough to attend prestigious universities but not exceptionally bright.

Big Money, Elites, San Francisco

2083 implied HN points • 23 Feb 24
🎭️ Culture Books Podcasts Events
  1. Rob Henderson is making TV and podcast appearances discussing topics like elites, hidden hierarchies, and luxury beliefs.
  2. Join Rob Henderson at book events in San Francisco on March 6 and March 7 to discuss his book _Troubled_.
  3. Listen to Rob Henderson on various podcasts like Modern Wisdom and YOUR WELCOME, sharing insights on diverse topics including genetic tests and reinventing oneself.