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against narrative

internet princess • 50282 implied HN points • 21 Oct 24
🎭️ Culture Relationships Narrative Emotion Identity Art
  1. Love can be really complicated and messy, and it's common to have both good and painful experiences in a relationship. Sometimes we find ourselves questioning if we were good or bad partners.
  2. People often want to turn their experiences into neat stories to make sense of them, but real feelings and relationships are much more complex and can't always fit into a simple narrative.
  3. Accepting the complexity of our emotions and experiences, rather than just trying to find answers, can be liberating and help us truly live with our feelings.

My barber is a fuck-up

Situation Normal • 71 implied HN points • 17 Nov 24
🎭️ Culture Anecdotes Humor Identity Parenting Life experiences
  1. Sometimes people we know can seem like they are struggling a lot. They may tell us about their chaos and challenges, like a bad day at work or problems at home.
  2. Having kids can add a lot of responsibility, and it can be tough to balance everything. Parents often feel pressure to keep things together while managing their daily stress.
  3. Life keeps moving and some things don’t really change, no matter how much time passes. Even when people grow older, they can still find themselves in similar chaotic situations.

On Being Butthurt

The Elif Life • 3249 implied HN points • 21 Oct 24
🎭️ Culture Writing Privilege Identity Education Humor
  1. Keeping a notebook can help capture funny or interesting moments in life. It’s a way to notice the lighter side of things, even when life feels heavy.
  2. Feeling butthurt often comes from comparing ourselves to others and their privileges. This can lead to unnecessary resentment instead of recognizing our own journey.
  3. Writing can be a way to overcome feelings of butthurt. It allows us to connect with our past selves and remember our growth over time.

Do our stories matter?

Men Yell at Me • 990 implied HN points • 27 Nov 24
📚 Literature Essays Writing Memory Identity Storytelling
  1. Our personal stories and memories are really important. They help us remember who we are, especially when we feel lost.
  2. Writing can be a powerful way to express ourselves and connect with others. It gives us a voice in difficult times.
  3. Even when things feel hopeless, sharing our experiences through words can create hope and understanding among people.

What I'm Reading, Post-Election

Culture Study • 6104 implied HN points • 07 Nov 24
🎭️ Culture Literature Reflection Social Issues Politics Identity
  1. Reading helps process complex feelings. It doesn't mean you agree, but it can spark important thoughts and emotions.
  2. Misogyny and economic issues are intertwined in politics. Many voters may prioritize financial gain over women's health and safety.
  3. The political landscape is tough and complex. People can engage with issues that matter to them without needing to fix everything at once.
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Abusers In Plain Sight

Culture Study • 3937 implied HN points • 10 Nov 24
🎭️ Culture Literature Relationships Feminism Trauma Identity
  1. Writing about trauma can bring up a lot of painful memories. It's important to realize that revisiting these experiences requires healing and self-reflection.
  2. Women often feel pressured to maintain relationships through hard work, which can lead to toxic situations. It's crucial to understand when it's time to leave a damaging relationship.
  3. There are many layers to women's experiences of desire and consent in relationships. It’s important to have open conversations about what that looks like and to support each other in understanding our needs.

Y’a des trucs de blancs et des trucs de noirs

L'Atelier Galita • 179 implied HN points • 30 Oct 24
🎭️ Culture Identity Race Society Humor Traditions
  1. Some activities or preferences are often seen as belonging to specific racial or cultural groups. For example, dressing up for parties might seem like a 'white thing' to some.
  2. Certain behaviors, like having a picnic on the ground or wearing outdoor pants in bed, can also be perceived as more common among white people.
  3. These observations can be surprising and not universally accepted, showing how cultural differences shape our views on everyday activities.

The devil comes at night

Disaffected Newsletter • 1718 implied HN points • 28 Sep 24
🎭️ Culture Faith Fear Identity Supernatural Literature
  1. Fear can linger long after experiencing scary stories. A movie or book may heighten existing fears that you have had since childhood.
  2. Some fears, like those of the devil or ghosts, can be powerful even if you don't believe they exist. It's interesting how our minds can create beliefs that clash with our logic.
  3. Nighttime can bring out these fears, leading to feelings of dread. It's common to wonder if these fears are linked to ourselves or our past choices.

The Class Tier List

Knowingless • 1161 implied HN points • 22 Nov 24
🎭️ Culture Sociology Trends Identity Arts Aesthetics
  1. People judge class based on wealth and aesthetic taste. For example, some activities may be rich but seen as low-class in taste, while others might be poor yet viewed as classy.
  2. A survey was conducted to rank various items by class, but it was only a small snapshot of one specific culture. The responses were mostly from young American men.
  3. The context of class rankings can vary and lead to surprising results, illustrating that people's perceptions of class are influenced by trends and cultural views.

Do good work and your fits will follow

Blackbird Spyplane • 3277 implied HN points • 15 Oct 24
🎭️ Culture Fashion Art Celebrity Style Identity
  1. Doing good work can enhance how people see your style. When you focus on creating and contributing positively, your overall vibe improves.
  2. People tend to admire others' fashion sense more when they appreciate their talents and achievements. Great style is often seen through the lens of the person's accomplishments.
  3. Fashion is evolving to include a wider range of styles that reflect individuality and personal expression. What was once considered 'normal' can now be stylish if presented well.

The Oversimplification of Ta-Nehisi Coates

Glenn Loury • 1329 implied HN points • 22 Oct 24
🎭️ Culture Literature Debate Humanities Writing Identity
  1. Ta-Nehisi Coates' writing explores deep human experiences and how our backgrounds shape us. This shows that our nurturing environments impact our moral choices and understanding of suffering.
  2. There's a need to examine different perspectives on sensitive topics like the Israel-Palestine conflict. Understanding these viewpoints helps us grasp the complexity of people's actions and beliefs.
  3. Coates emphasizes the importance of recognizing human connections and the struggle against dehumanization, yet some critics feel he oversimplifies complex issues, making it harder to have deeper discussions.

Les privilèges c’est tout ce que tu peux oublier

L'Atelier Galita • 199 implied HN points • 29 Oct 24
🎭️ Culture Privilege Identity Racism Gender Social justice
  1. Privilege can mean having the choice to think about certain aspects of your identity, while others may not have that luxury.
  2. Some people may feel their race or gender all the time, while others may not think about their own privilege until it affects them directly.
  3. Not recognizing one's privilege can influence everyday experiences, such as feeling safe in public spaces or being treated differently in shops.

Rebel Girls

gender:hacked by Eliza Mondegreen • 1190 implied HN points • 21 Oct 24
🎭️ Culture Feminism Gender Issues Youth culture Identity Media influence
  1. Young girls today face new challenges that weren't present in the past, like social media pressures and unrealistic beauty standards. These factors can harm their self-esteem and mental health.
  2. There's a growing concern about the lack of safe spaces for girls and women to express themselves freely. Many fear speaking out due to potential backlash or judgment.
  3. It's important for girls to learn to love their bodies and build confidence. Staying active, making real-life connections, and enjoying their freedom can help them navigate their identities and lives better.

Dawn Davenport Lives

Disaffected Newsletter • 1398 implied HN points • 23 Sep 24
🎭️ Culture Art Society Identity Media Fashion
  1. There are moments when people might embody characters or attitudes from the past, which can feel surreal. This can show how different styles, like the drag queen persona, still influence today's culture.
  2. Some individuals may present themselves as proud or fulfilled but are struggling inside. It's important to recognize that appearances don't always reflect true feelings.
  3. There are concerns about how certain lifestyles and views may negatively impact younger generations. This can lead to a sense of urgency for change in societal attitudes.

do we ever get over things?

bookbear express • 1574 implied HN points • 08 Nov 24
🎭️ Culture Relationships Vulnerability Identity Emotions Personal Growth
  1. It's normal to feel sadness when friendships end or drift apart. We often care deeply about our friends' lives, which makes the loss feel even more intense.
  2. Acceptance is key when dealing with the lasting impact of love for others. Even if we move on, the love we had for someone remains a part of us.
  3. Vulnerability can actually make us stronger. By allowing ourselves to feel deeply and openly, we can create more meaningful connections with others.

The Minivan Stigma Edition

Why is this interesting? • 904 implied HN points • 31 Oct 24
🎭️ Culture Automotive Identity Consumer behavior Market Trends Family Dynamics
  1. Minivans used to be very popular for family travel, but now they're often seen as uncool. This change is more about their image than their usefulness because they are still very practical vehicles.
  2. Despite the stigma, there's a growing trend of people using different types of vans for adventure, like those converted for #vanlife. These vans are seen as cool and can still be practical for families.
  3. There's a big opportunity for automakers to redesign minivans to make them more appealing. If they can combine the useful features of a minivan with a cooler look, they could attract more buyers again.

My "Perplexing" Response to Ta-Nehisi Coates's New Book

Glenn Loury • 2023 implied HN points • 08 Oct 24
🎭️ Culture Literature Media Race Politics Identity
  1. It's okay to criticize someone's past views while still recognizing their current work as valuable. You can appreciate a good piece of writing even if you don't always agree with the author.
  2. Ta-Nehisi Coates expresses deep feelings about injustices he sees, which can be important in understanding his perspective. Understanding emotions in discussions about complex issues can lead to more meaningful conversations.
  3. Writing can be powerful, and even if you disagree with the message, you might admire the craft and skill of the writer. It's worth giving credit where it's due, regardless of personal beliefs.

Black Intellectuals in the Twenty-First Century

Glenn Loury • 337 implied HN points • 24 Oct 24
🎭️ Culture Social Issues History Politics Identity
  1. In the 1980s, many African Americans strongly opposed apartheid in South Africa. This shows a sense of unity against oppression, even if the situations were different.
  2. The conversation highlights how some issues today, like the treatment of Palestinians, can be more complicated than past issues like apartheid.
  3. Understanding historical context helps us see why certain causes gain widespread support while others struggle for the same level of recognition.

the last time you fell in love

bookbear express • 302 implied HN points • 17 Nov 24
🎭️ Culture Relationships Identity Emotions Youth Personal Stories
  1. Falling in love can come from deep connections made over time, even in digital spaces, like sharing moments through gaming and conversations. It shows that love can build slowly, in unexpected ways.
  2. Love can also be influenced by past relationships; sometimes, a new connection can bring joy and healing after a toxic experience. It's important to recognize the good things someone gives you without expecting anything in return.
  3. Friendship can sometimes be a beautiful foundation for love, but it can also make things complicated if feelings aren't fully mutual. It's okay to cherish the memories while growing apart.

ICYMI: Trans thought experiments

gender:hacked by Eliza Mondegreen • 1170 implied HN points • 07 Oct 24
🎭️ Culture Identity Gender Philosophy Literature Community
  1. Thought experiments can help people think about their gender identity, like imagining a magical button that changes your sex. If you'd push that button, it might mean you feel trans.
  2. Imagining transformation doesn't change real-life limits and challenges of transitioning. It can be more complex than just wishing for change.
  3. The journey of transformation can have unexpected outcomes. It's not just about the physical changes, but also dealing with inner feelings and realities.

Death Of The Cool Girl

Total Rec • 16815 implied HN points • 25 May 24
🪞 Fashion & Beauty Fashion Personal style Self-Acceptance Identity Consumerism
  1. Focus on being comfortable and authentic rather than constantly seeking external validation through appearance or coolness.
  2. Realize that societal norms and material possessions do not equate to true confidence and identity. Embrace authenticity and self-acceptance.
  3. Challenge the conventional idea of a 'cool girl' and seek inspiration from diverse representations beyond traditional standards of attractiveness or wealth.

Who Are We in This World? What Would Make Our Ancestors Proud of Us?

Tessa Fights Robots • 21 implied HN points • 15 Nov 24
🎭️ Culture Identity History Family Unity Ancestry
  1. Real unity means understanding and accepting ourselves and others. It's about connecting with people honestly and recognizing everyone is doing their best.
  2. It's important to reflect on our ancestors and the history that shapes us. They want us to heal and thrive, not linger in pain.
  3. We are all connected through our shared ancestry. When we hurt or degrade others based on their background, we hurt a part of ourselves.

Glory days

Disaffected Newsletter • 1998 implied HN points • 15 Aug 24
🎭️ Culture Society History Politics Identity Memory
  1. Some older people are still stuck in the past, thinking their youth and ideas from the 1960s still represent today's reality.
  2. Many friends love to share nostalgic stories about their past activism, but they sometimes seem more about reliving glory than promoting understanding.
  3. People who change their political views often feel pushed away by their former friends, showing that kindness fades when faced with disagreement.

Living on the Periphery of the Empire

Atlas of Wonders and Monsters • 508 implied HN points • 05 Nov 24
🎭️ Culture Cultural Diversity Identity Cinema Globalization
  1. Growing up in a culture that is influenced by a larger superpower can create a struggle between maintaining your own identity and adopting the dominant culture. It's important to balance local traditions with global opportunities.
  2. Linguistic and cultural diversity is valuable, as losing a language or culture can diminish the richness of the world. Protecting local languages helps keep unique identities alive that add variety to global culture.
  3. Embracing a global language like English can offer personal advantages, such as broader audiences or opportunities. However, it may also lead to the marginalization of your local culture, which can be a tough choice for individuals.

How Should We Think About Race And "Lived Experience"?

Astral Codex Ten • 25672 implied HN points • 07 Mar 24
🎭️ Culture Race Identity Ethnicity Community Cancel Culture
  1. Race is often defined not just by genetics, but by a combination of formative experiences and cultural identity.
  2. The concept of race and identity can have significant implications, such as in cases of cultural appropriation and affirmative action.
  3. Judgments on race and identity can be complex and can have real-life consequences, highlighting the need for balanced considerations in such discussions.

Desire Digest 003

Many Such Cases • 1538 implied HN points • 16 Aug 24
🎭️ Culture Relationships Identity Mental health Social media
  1. There is a big difference between how men and women view desire in relationships. Women may see a proposal of marriage as a compliment, while men might feel it's a slight to their sexual appeal.
  2. Some dating apps are finding success by limiting choices, like allowing only one match at a time. This could show that less choice might lead to better connections.
  3. There's a push for more honest conversations about mental health and relationships. Many people feel more disconnected despite talking a lot about mental health awareness.

Al Pacino and the Weight of Wealth

Neckar’s Notes • 87 implied HN points • 06 Nov 24
🎭️ Culture Celebrities Wealth Mindset Identity Memoirs
  1. Al Pacino went broke twice despite once having fifty million dollars. He didn't manage his money well, even though he knew better.
  2. His background affected his relationship with money. Growing up poor, he lacked understanding of financial matters and often felt helpless.
  3. Pacino's story shows that mindset and identity can really shape how we handle money. He recognized his bad decisions but struggled to take full responsibility for them.

Neolib Zombies

Magic + Loss • 417 implied HN points • 03 Oct 24
🇺🇸 U.S. Politics Policies Economy Identity Globalization Government
  1. Neoliberalism has changed how we see ourselves, turning us from citizens into consumers and investors. This shift impacts our values and priorities in society.
  2. Since Reagan's presidency, neoliberal ideas have focused more on market concerns instead of workers' rights or social programs. This change has affected how economic policies are shaped today.
  3. Even though neoliberalism seems to be struggling, it continues to influence our lives and policies significantly. Its effects are still visible in the world around us.

Oh, father

Disaffected Newsletter • 2018 implied HN points • 26 Jul 24
🎭️ Culture Art Music Identity Family Trauma
  1. The speaker's childhood was marked by trauma, particularly from their mother's inconsistent love and the presence of an abusive stepfather. They often felt unsafe and questioned their worth.
  2. Music and artists like Madonna became a refuge for the speaker, helping them process their feelings and experiences. Songs like 'Oh Father' resonated deeply with their struggles and emotions.
  3. The speaker reflects on the complexity of their feelings towards their parents, understanding that both love and pain can exist in relationships, leading to confusion about forgiveness and redemption.

Is Recommendation Culture Making Us Act Nutso?

Total Rec • 8148 implied HN points • 06 Apr 24
🎭️ Culture Social media Consumer behavior Identity Decision-making Society
  1. Recommendation culture can lead to overkill, making every purchase feel like it needs to be perfect, which can cause unnecessary stress.
  2. Identifying strongly with brands and over-identifying with our purchases may simplify our self-concept based on what we buy, potentially clouding our personal values.
  3. Seeking validation through recommended experiences or products can create a false sense of community, leading to performative living and potentially isolating us further.

The remarkably talented and alienated late Millennial man

Jeff Giesea • 4591 implied HN points • 11 Jun 24
🎭️ Culture Identity Masculinity Generations Society Emotions
  1. Late Millennial men are often seen as talented and intelligent, but beneath the surface, many struggle with feelings of loneliness and alienation. They want to find their place in a complicated world.
  2. They face unique challenges in today's society, including high expectations and a cultural environment that feels unfriendly to traditional masculinity and ambition. This can lead to frustration and confusion.
  3. Despite their struggles, these men desire understanding and empathy. They want to be acknowledged for their feelings while also seeking guidance on how to succeed and feel fulfilled.

I Hate You, Please Stan Me

Default Wisdom • 207 implied HN points • 01 Nov 24
🎭️ Culture Fandom Community Entertainment Identity Social media
  1. Fandom can mean different things to different people, and not everyone agrees on what makes a fan. Toxic fandom often involves harassment and bigotry, but not all criticism comes from actual fans.
  2. Healthy fandoms support one another and enjoy discussing their interests, while toxic ones, often called 'standom,' enforce strict loyalty and can lead to aggressive behavior against critics or other fans.
  3. Being cast out from a fandom can hurt deeply, as it affects one's sense of identity and belonging. Fans may feel a mix of fear and aggression as the community's unwritten rules change around them.

౨ৎ Girl blog

Vague Blue • 7608 implied HN points • 19 Feb 24
🎭️ Culture Literature Online Writing Identity Social media Generational Trends
  1. The personal essay genre has a long history, and its form has evolved over time, but its essence as a literary form remains strong.
  2. The rise of online platforms and social media has influenced the way personal essays are written and consumed, leading to changes in content and style.
  3. Younger generations of writers, particularly girlbloggers, are redefining the personal essay by incorporating external sources and focusing on the aesthetics of their writing.

On the Internet, Your Gender Is an Essence

Default Wisdom • 92 implied HN points • 07 Nov 24
🎭️ Culture Identity Internet Media Society Technology
  1. Ellie's story shows how the Internet has changed the way we express our identities over the years. She used to create multiple online personas, but now feels that the Internet is more about consuming content than being creative.
  2. The early Internet allowed for more freedom and creativity, while today's platforms often limit that expression. Mobile devices made information access easier but can take away the fun of creating and sharing.
  3. Ellie's experiences reflect a shift from expressive online environments to a more passive user experience. This change has affected how people connect and share their identities online.

“Do You Do Lawns Too?”

Remarkable People • 559 implied HN points • 14 Aug 24
🎭️ Culture Racism Identity Self-Improvement Communication Life lessons
  1. It's important not to look for problems where there may be none. Sometimes people mean well, and we might misinterpret their intentions.
  2. Taking the high road means responding calmly and graciously instead of reacting with anger. It's usually a better choice.
  3. We should give others the benefit of the doubt. Not every comment is meant to offend, and it's good to approach situations with openness.

Taylor Swift and the Good Girl Trap

Culture Study • 10387 implied HN points • 07 Feb 24
🎭️ Culture Celebrities Feminism Analysis Society Identity
  1. Taylor Swift's fame and success put her in a delicate position where even her smallest actions are heavily scrutinized.
  2. Winning constantly can lead to over-saturation and make it hard for people to root for you, turning every move into a topic of critique.
  3. Celebrity culture reflects greater societal issues, such as discourses on girlhood and the struggles faced by privileged white women in progressive spaces.

I want to destroy the words "interesting" and "sparkly"

SPARC '24 JC Blog • 239 implied HN points • 01 Sep 24
🎭️ Culture Social Dynamics Communication Language Identity Self-Expression
  1. Labeling people as 'interesting' or 'sparkly' creates unfair categories, dividing them into 'worthy' and 'unworthy' of attention. Everyone deserves to be heard, regardless of how they are labeled.
  2. People are shaped by their environments and contexts. Just because someone doesn't seem exciting in one setting doesn't mean they lack worth or potential in another.
  3. It's important to recognize that qualities like 'sparkly' can be brought out in everyone. Instead of limiting perceptions, we should foster a mindset that encourages growth and exploration in all individuals.