apxhard • 76 implied HN points • 31 Jan 26
- Acceptance is like a Bayesian update: when you revise your model to fit reality you only change once, but rejecting evidence is like holding a beach ball underwater and costs constant effort and suffering.
- Suffering often comes from an internal split where your conscious story denies what your body and emotions already know. Bringing all parts of you into the same reality restores coherence and drops the tension.
- Real updates feel like a small death of your old self because letting go of fixed self-images is painful, but choosing to accept experience voluntarily (through practices like meditation or voluntary discomfort) prevents the extra suffering caused by resistance.