The hottest Marriage Substack posts right now

And their main takeaways
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Fertility Links, including a conversation with Lyman Stone

In My Tribe • 258 implied HN points • 21 Jan 25
🇺🇸 U.S. Politics Society Family Gender Marriage Fertility
  1. Fertility rates are dropping globally, mostly because fewer people are forming couples, which includes both married and unmarried partnerships.
  2. Smartphones and technology are isolating people by providing entertainment at home, which makes it harder for them to build social skills and form connections.
  3. Creating communities that encourage interactions and closeness can help strengthen relationships and possibly improve marriage rates.

Seven Years of Lovely LaJuan

Glenn Loury • 2579 implied HN points • 09 Oct 24
🎭️ Culture Relationships Marriage Personal Growth Emotional Expression Life reflections
  1. Marriage can grow and deepen over time, just like how the love shared between partners can become stronger with each passing year.
  2. It's important to cherish and appreciate your partner, recognizing the unique qualities that make them special.
  3. Commitment in a relationship means treating each other as equals and always showing love and respect.

Fertility Links

In My Tribe • 470 implied HN points • 11 Jan 25
🏥 Health & Wellness Fertility Marriage Parenting Demographics Aging
  1. Women are most fertile in their late teens, and the decline in fertility happens steadily between ages 20 and 40. It's important to understand this to make informed choices about family planning.
  2. Many countries are experiencing lower birth rates, and this trend is not just linked to economic factors. It's happening in places where we might not expect it, showing that fertility is a complex issue.
  3. Marriage is changing, becoming less common and often entered into later in life. This shift affects when couples start having children, which can contribute to declining birth rates.

Marriage

David Friedman’s Substack • 386 implied HN points • 31 Dec 24
🎭️ Culture Marriage Economics Family Society Traditions Relationships
  1. Marriage can be viewed as a partnership where both people share responsibilities like income, chores, and caring for children. It's like running a small business together.
  2. People often choose not to buy all services from outside, like cooking or cleaning, because it's easier and cheaper to do these things at home. It saves time and effort to manage these tasks within a marriage instead of hiring others.
  3. The decline in marriage rates might be linked to fewer household responsibilities and easier options for divorce, which make it less binding than before. People are adjusting to a modern world where marriage can seem less necessary.

The Marriage Market

David Friedman’s Substack • 161 implied HN points • 03 Jan 25
🎭️ Culture Marriage Economics Social norms Gender Roles Legal issues
  1. Marriage can be viewed as a market where people offer certain terms to get a partner. If there are fewer options for one gender, the price or terms improve for the other gender.
  2. Having different qualities can change the 'price' of potential spouses. Attractive or compatible people often have better terms in marriage deals, similar to how desirable products are priced in a market.
  3. Legalizing practices like polygyny or polyandry can shift the demand for spouses, leading to better terms for some while making it tougher for others. It may seem confusing, but more choices can change how relationships are valued.
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I Had to Say Something at My Son's Wedding

The Honest Broker • 17819 implied HN points • 17 Mar 24
⛪ Faith & Spirituality Reflection Marriage Literature Emotions Family
  1. The author struggled to find the right passage to read at his son's wedding and ultimately turned to a Kierkegaard text he had read at his own wedding many years ago.
  2. The author found sentimental value in the passage, realizing its deeper meaning as he read it in 2024, bringing a new perspective to his understanding of marriage.
  3. By revisiting a piece of paper he saved from years ago, the author was able to share a touching and meaningful passage with the wedding guests, connecting past and present moments.

Keeping it in the Family

Wrong Side of History • 508 implied HN points • 13 Dec 24
🎭️ Culture Marriage Society Health History Religion
  1. Cousin marriage was common among British nobility in the past, but its prevalence has declined due to health concerns and changing cultural norms. Many people were worried about its effects on children's health.
  2. The Catholic Church has historically opposed cousin marriages to promote social ties beyond the family, which helped shape modern democratic societies and reduce corruption.
  3. Despite health risks, cousin marriage remains popular in some communities, providing social and financial support. This can create strong networks but also lead to higher chances of genetic disorders in children.

Fertility Links, 12/8/2024

In My Tribe • 394 implied HN points • 08 Dec 24
🇺🇸 U.S. Politics Demographics Fertility Policy Society Marriage
  1. By 2050, the working-age population will mostly come from Africa and India, with Nigeria's population matching that of the entire EU. This shift will affect global dynamics significantly.
  2. To boost fertility rates, experts suggest giving parents financial incentives right when children are born, rather than long-term support. They also recommend policies that encourage marriage, as married couples tend to have more children.
  3. In Britain, there's a need to change how families are treated in the tax system. Encouraging larger families through better policies and communication about the fertility crisis could help address declining birth rates.

Is Your Marriage Stressing You Out?

Ladyparts • 1837 implied HN points • 18 Apr 24
🏥 Health & Wellness Marriage Stress Relationships
  1. Researchers found that in married couples where one did not feel supported by the spouse, stress hormone cortisol was present in their saliva
  2. Feeling supported, seen, heard, and loved by your spouse can help reduce chronic stress
  3. The impact of lack of spousal support on mental health can lead individuals to seek help from professionals like psychiatrists

Mad Wives

Men Yell at Me • 234 implied HN points • 13 Nov 24
🎭️ Culture Gender Issues Marriage Feminism Memoir Social Commentary
  1. In marriage, roles can be confusing. Sometimes women give a lot, and men take, leading to questions about consent and complicity.
  2. Anger can be a powerful force for change, but it's important to think about who it serves. If it only helps ourselves, it may not be truly revolutionary.
  3. Villains and victims often exist in shades of gray. The same person can embody both roles, making it hard to draw clear lines in relationships.

Gen X: Marriage Failures

The Reclamation Era • 239 implied HN points • 29 Jul 24
🎭️ Culture Marriage Generations Relationships Parenting Self-awareness
  1. Getting married young can lead to problems because people often carry unresolved issues from their childhood into relationships. It's important to know yourself before tying the knot.
  2. Sometimes, societal pressure pushes people to marry quickly, without fully understanding their own needs and patterns. Taking time to figure things out can lead to healthier relationships.
  3. Middle-aged people, especially from Gen X, often face a tough choice: stay in a troubled marriage or leave for a chance at happiness. It's crucial to listen to one's gut and seek authenticity.

'That book', the Black Nazarene, and my grown-up marriage

The Pillar • 2476 implied HN points • 09 Jan 24
⛪ Faith & Spirituality Catholicism Marriage
  1. Every January 9th, millions of Filipino Catholics gather to celebrate the Black Nazarene statue in Manila.
  2. The Black Nazarene statue, brought to the Philippines in 1606, holds significant religious and historical importance for the country.
  3. Marriage is a journey filled with unexpected twists and turns, celebrated with humor, forgiveness, and faith in God's plan.

Bottom-half marriage is a completely different institution

Sex and the State • 84 implied HN points • 17 Dec 24
🎭️ Culture Marriage Gender Roles Societal norms Relationships Economic Factors
  1. Marriage offers different benefits for people in different social and economic classes. For many men, especially those from lower-income backgrounds, marriage may not feel like a good deal due to potential losses in a divorce.
  2. Women are more likely to initiate divorce, challenging the idea that men are always at a disadvantage in marriage. However, this doesn't capture the full picture of how marriage affects different groups.
  3. The experience of marriage varies greatly between individuals in the top and bottom halves of the economic spectrum, suggesting they are essentially different institutions with unique dynamics and implications.

Gen Z’s Sexual Apocalypse. The Case for Marriage. And: Is It Time to Ditch the Apps?

Common Sense with Bari Weiss • 2207 implied HN points • 14 Feb 24
🎭️ Culture Dating Relationships Marriage Gender Dynamics Self-Improvement
  1. There is a growing political divide between young men veering right and women leaning left, complicating dating and relationships.
  2. Consider ditching dating apps and try more traditional methods like asking for setups from friends or striking conversations in real life.
  3. Getting married can lead to a happier, more prosperous, and more meaningful life, despite common myths about relationships and career choices.

Against profane love

Becoming Noble • 1754 implied HN points • 08 Sep 23
⛪ Faith & Spirituality Christianity Unity Marriage Transcendence
  1. In modern society, sexuality and love seem pervasive but have become cheap, ugly, and sterile, with a focus on self-satisfaction rather than genuine connection.
  2. Deep passion and attraction are hindered in modern times due to over-exposure and lack of mystery between the sexes, preventing the true allure of intense relationships.
  3. True love and intimacy should involve a deep connection with the divine, requiring the pursuit of the sacred and the spiritual within relationships.

We Need to Talk About Loneliness

Ladyparts • 898 implied HN points • 03 Dec 23
🏥 Health & Wellness Loneliness Marriage Solitude Relationships Mental health
  1. Loneliness can have serious health consequences like Parkinson's Disease and premature mortality.
  2. Not all marriages are happy, and it's important to acknowledge the prevalence of neglect, toxicity, and even abuse in some relationships.
  3. Choosing solitude can be healing and necessary after a breakup, but long-term loneliness can have a significant emotional toll.

Us feminists really did kill marriage

Sex and the State • 30 implied HN points • 12 Dec 24
🇺🇸 U.S. Politics Feminism Marriage Family Social Issues Cultural critique
  1. Marriage rates are going down in many countries, and it's important to understand why this is happening. Some people think it's due to modern influences, but the reasons are more complex.
  2. Conservatives sometimes blame feminists for this decline, and while they might have a point, it's important to understand the full picture. Feminists often criticize marriage and family structures as outdated or oppressive.
  3. Some feminists actually support the idea of abolishing marriage altogether. This has led to different views on relationships and family, impacting how society sees them today.

My Daughter Got Married

DruGroup • 179 implied HN points • 21 May 24
⛪ Faith & Spirituality Marriage Spiritual growth Christianity Family Ceremony
  1. Marriage requires growth and effort from both partners. It's important to continually work on being better together and as individuals.
  2. Love isn't just about feeling good; it's also about the qualities we develop over time. Patience, kindness, and self-control come from a deeper connection, not just from being in love.
  3. The support of a higher power, or spiritual guidance, can help nurture these qualities in a relationship. It's about allowing that influence to grow and guide you.

Dynamics of Polygyny in Hunter-Gatherer Societies, Part 1

Traditions of Conflict • 13 implied HN points • 10 Dec 24
🎭️ Culture Societies Marriage Anthropology Ethnography
  1. Polygyny often happens in societies where men benefit more than women. This means that men use these marriages to gain extra support from women rather than women wanting to share a wealthy man.
  2. The way marriages are arranged plays a big role in how common polygyny is. When marriages are forced or without much choice, more women end up in polygynous marriages.
  3. If women contribute a lot to family resources and marriages are very controlled, it's easier for polygyny to thrive. In contrast, if women have more say or choice in their marriages, polygyny tends to be less common.

Love in the medieval world

Wrong Side of History • 612 implied HN points • 14 Feb 24
💾 History Medieval Marriage Love Religion Culture
  1. Medieval ideas of love were heavily tied to social status and arranged marriages; noble marriages were often for financial or dynastic reasons, not love.
  2. The Catholic Church's emphasis on consent in marriage was revolutionary, allowing individuals to marry by choice rather than parental arrangement.
  3. The Church's rules on cousin marriage and restrictions on marrying relatives promoted individualism by breaking down extended family structures, paving the way for modern ideas of romantic freedom.

There is a reason politicians don't want pregnant women getting divorced

Men Yell at Me • 540 implied HN points • 28 Feb 24
🇺🇸 U.S. Politics Policy Abortion Marriage Gender Laws
  1. In some states, pregnant women are not allowed to divorce, even in cases of domestic violence.
  2. Forcing pregnant women to stay married can lead to financial and emotional vulnerability, especially in states with abortion bans.
  3. Laws restricting pregnant women from divorcing are not about the well-being of the child or mother, but rather about controlling women and limiting their freedoms.

You should get a pre-nuptial agreement

Something to Consider • 79 implied HN points • 18 Jun 24
💰 Finance Insurance Contracts Marriage Investment Risk management
  1. Getting a pre-nuptial agreement is like buying insurance for your marriage. It protects both partners in case things don't go as planned.
  2. Many people think a prenup shows distrust, but it actually helps avoid messy court battles later. It's about planning for the future.
  3. Not having a prenup means accepting a default contract from the state. It's better to negotiate your own terms when you both feel good about each other.

The right way to be a "woman"

Men Yell at Me • 375 implied HN points • 24 Jan 24
🎭️ Culture Gender Marriage Feminism
  1. Women are pressured to conform to rigid definitions of womanhood and gender roles.
  2. Societal expectations attempt to confine women to narrow standards for their appearance and behavior.
  3. Expanding the definition of womanhood to be inclusive and diverse provides freedom and challenges limiting beliefs.

Demand for male breadwinners exceeds supply

Sex and the State • 27 implied HN points • 24 Oct 24
🇺🇸 U.S. Politics Society Gender Marriage Demographics Relationships
  1. There are more people looking for traditional male breadwinners than there are available men who fit that role. This can create issues in relationships.
  2. The gap between what people expect in a husband and what they actually find might be affecting choices around dating and marriage today.
  3. Declining rates of marriage and fertility could be linked to the changing perceptions of masculinity and the roles men are expected to play in families.

Intermarriage in America Post-Loving v. Virginia

Cremieux Recueil • 253 implied HN points • 02 Feb 24
🎭️ Culture Marriage Race Demographics Data Analysis Social Trends
  1. Before Loving v. Virginia in 1967, state laws banning interracial marriage were common in the U.S., stretching back to the 1600s.
  2. Since the legalization of interracial marriage, the rates have increased over time, showing a more mixed ethnoracial composition in America.
  3. Analysis of interracial marriage rates can provide insights into race relations, impact of societal movements like the 'Great Awokening,' and patterns of intermixing across different races and sexes.

I Could Feel the Beating Heart of My Mother

The Recovering Academic • 178 implied HN points • 07 Nov 23
📚 Literature Memoir Family Marriage
  1. Kao Kalia Yang, a Hmong American writer, intricately weaves personal and family stories within her writings, reflecting universal themes of love, loss, and resilience.
  2. Her memoir, 'Where Rivers Part,' delves deep into familial relationships, showcasing the complexity and struggles within marriages, maintaining cultural identity, and the impacts of war and diaspora.
  3. The book illustrates the power of storytelling in preserving memories, bridging generations, and offering solace to those who have experienced similar hardships and challenges.

What's So Great About Marriage?

Fake Noûs • 312 implied HN points • 30 Sep 23
🏥 Health & Wellness Marriage Benefits
  1. Skepticism and humor around the concept of marriage is common, but many people still take marriage vows seriously.
  2. Marriage serves important social functions like providing stable child-rearing environments and reducing social strife.
  3. Getting married can offer personal benefits like longevity, happiness, and financial savings, along with legal and social recognition.