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Is it revolutionary to leave a marriage?

Maybe Baby • 602 implied HN points • 19 Feb 25
🎭️ Culture Marriage Relationships Personal Growth Social Commentary
  1. Leaving a marriage can be seen as a bold and revolutionary act. It often requires courage and self-reflection.
  2. Not every breakup is the answer for everyone, but some people can find inspiration from those who share their experiences.
  3. There can be practical advice for those considering a breakup, which may help them feel supported in their decision.

Why Extravagant Weddings Are On The Rise At The Same Time Marital Rates Are In Decline

Rob Henderson's Newsletter • 3579 implied HN points • 01 Jun 25
🎭️ Culture Marriage Social norms Cultural shift Commitment
  1. People are spending more on weddings to show their commitment, even though fewer couples are getting married. It seems like an expensive wedding is now seen as proof of a serious relationship.
  2. Marriage itself used to symbolize commitment. Now, because trust in marriage is changing, couples feel they need to stage extravagant weddings to prove they are serious.
  3. The rising costs of weddings can make it harder for many people to marry, especially those who need the stability of marriage the most. It creates a barrier, as not everyone can afford a big wedding.

She posted 25 TikToks on her wedding day

Taylor Lorenz's Newsletter • 3194 implied HN points • 27 May 25
🎭️ Culture Social media Entertainment Marriage Influencer Culture
  1. Posting on social media during special events is becoming more common, like sharing TikToks during weddings. It shows how people want to capture and share their experiences instantly.
  2. Many businesses are emerging that cater to social media trends, including apps and services that help users create content. This highlights the shift in how we engage with technology and events.
  3. There's a growing trend of influencers and content creators blending personal life with their online presence. It reflects a cultural change where private moments become public content for entertainment.

Seven Years of Lovely LaJuan

Glenn Loury • 2579 implied HN points • 09 Oct 24
🎭️ Culture Relationships Marriage Personal Growth Emotional Expression Life reflections
  1. Marriage can grow and deepen over time, just like how the love shared between partners can become stronger with each passing year.
  2. It's important to cherish and appreciate your partner, recognizing the unique qualities that make them special.
  3. Commitment in a relationship means treating each other as equals and always showing love and respect.

A Mate Selection Theory of Feminization

Richard Hanania's Newsletter • 4145 implied HN points • 10 Feb 25
🎭️ Culture Gender Studies Social norms Relationships Feminism Marriage
  1. Women often struggle to find a balance between having a high-quality partner and ensuring loyalty. Some prefer to chase after attractive partners, while others focus on stability with someone they can trust.
  2. As societal views on monogamy change, men may adapt by showing more sensitivity and supportive behavior towards women. This can involve acting against traditional masculine stereotypes to prove their loyalty.
  3. The shift in norms around relationships has created two distinct cultural groups: one that embraces traditional masculinity and conservatism, and another that leans towards feminist and liberal values. This has changed how people view gender roles and relationships today.
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I Had to Say Something at My Son's Wedding

The Honest Broker • 17819 implied HN points • 17 Mar 24
⛪ Faith & Spirituality Reflection Marriage Literature Emotions Family
  1. The author struggled to find the right passage to read at his son's wedding and ultimately turned to a Kierkegaard text he had read at his own wedding many years ago.
  2. The author found sentimental value in the passage, realizing its deeper meaning as he read it in 2024, bringing a new perspective to his understanding of marriage.
  3. By revisiting a piece of paper he saved from years ago, the author was able to share a touching and meaningful passage with the wedding guests, connecting past and present moments.

Keeping it in the Family

Wrong Side of History • 508 implied HN points • 13 Dec 24
🎭️ Culture Marriage Society Health History Religion
  1. Cousin marriage was common among British nobility in the past, but its prevalence has declined due to health concerns and changing cultural norms. Many people were worried about its effects on children's health.
  2. The Catholic Church has historically opposed cousin marriages to promote social ties beyond the family, which helped shape modern democratic societies and reduce corruption.
  3. Despite health risks, cousin marriage remains popular in some communities, providing social and financial support. This can create strong networks but also lead to higher chances of genetic disorders in children.

Marriage

David Friedman’s Substack • 386 implied HN points • 31 Dec 24
🎭️ Culture Marriage Economics Family Society Traditions Relationships
  1. Marriage can be viewed as a partnership where both people share responsibilities like income, chores, and caring for children. It's like running a small business together.
  2. People often choose not to buy all services from outside, like cooking or cleaning, because it's easier and cheaper to do these things at home. It saves time and effort to manage these tasks within a marriage instead of hiring others.
  3. The decline in marriage rates might be linked to fewer household responsibilities and easier options for divorce, which make it less binding than before. People are adjusting to a modern world where marriage can seem less necessary.

The Happy Wife School

Sex and the State • 33 implied HN points • 05 Feb 25
🎭️ Culture Gender Roles Marriage Responsibility Society Social norms
  1. Women often feel they have to take responsibility for their husband's happiness, but that's not fair or accurate. Each person should have their own role in a marriage.
  2. It's common to believe that if one person works hard enough, they can fix all problems in a relationship. But both partners are needed to make things work.
  3. No one can completely control their circumstances or the actions of others. It's important to understand that sometimes, things are beyond our control.

We All Need to be Loved

We're Gonna Get Those Bastards • 5 implied HN points • 11 Jun 25
🎭️ Culture Relationships Loneliness Marriage Mental health Social media
  1. Loneliness can cause serious health issues and is a big problem today, often made worse by social media and dating apps.
  2. Having love and belonging in our lives is more important than having food or a home. Love helps us grow and achieve our goals.
  3. If you're in a relationship, it's important to cherish it. Everyone deserves love, and it can lead to greater happiness and success in life.

Is Your Marriage Stressing You Out?

Ladyparts • 1837 implied HN points • 18 Apr 24
🏥 Health & Wellness Marriage Stress Relationships
  1. Researchers found that in married couples where one did not feel supported by the spouse, stress hormone cortisol was present in their saliva
  2. Feeling supported, seen, heard, and loved by your spouse can help reduce chronic stress
  3. The impact of lack of spousal support on mental health can lead individuals to seek help from professionals like psychiatrists

Gen X: Marriage Failures

The Reclamation Era • 239 implied HN points • 29 Jul 24
🎭️ Culture Marriage Generations Relationships Parenting Self-awareness
  1. Getting married young can lead to problems because people often carry unresolved issues from their childhood into relationships. It's important to know yourself before tying the knot.
  2. Sometimes, societal pressure pushes people to marry quickly, without fully understanding their own needs and patterns. Taking time to figure things out can lead to healthier relationships.
  3. Middle-aged people, especially from Gen X, often face a tough choice: stay in a troubled marriage or leave for a chance at happiness. It's crucial to listen to one's gut and seek authenticity.

'That book', the Black Nazarene, and my grown-up marriage

The Pillar • 2476 implied HN points • 09 Jan 24
⛪ Faith & Spirituality Catholicism Marriage
  1. Every January 9th, millions of Filipino Catholics gather to celebrate the Black Nazarene statue in Manila.
  2. The Black Nazarene statue, brought to the Philippines in 1606, holds significant religious and historical importance for the country.
  3. Marriage is a journey filled with unexpected twists and turns, celebrated with humor, forgiveness, and faith in God's plan.

The Marriage Market

David Friedman’s Substack • 161 implied HN points • 03 Jan 25
🎭️ Culture Marriage Economics Social norms Gender Roles Legal issues
  1. Marriage can be viewed as a market where people offer certain terms to get a partner. If there are fewer options for one gender, the price or terms improve for the other gender.
  2. Having different qualities can change the 'price' of potential spouses. Attractive or compatible people often have better terms in marriage deals, similar to how desirable products are priced in a market.
  3. Legalizing practices like polygyny or polyandry can shift the demand for spouses, leading to better terms for some while making it tougher for others. It may seem confusing, but more choices can change how relationships are valued.

Fertility Links

In My Tribe • 470 implied HN points • 11 Jan 25
🏥 Health & Wellness Fertility Marriage Parenting Demographics Aging
  1. Women are most fertile in their late teens, and the decline in fertility happens steadily between ages 20 and 40. It's important to understand this to make informed choices about family planning.
  2. Many countries are experiencing lower birth rates, and this trend is not just linked to economic factors. It's happening in places where we might not expect it, showing that fertility is a complex issue.
  3. Marriage is changing, becoming less common and often entered into later in life. This shift affects when couples start having children, which can contribute to declining birth rates.

Fertility Links, 1/29/2025

In My Tribe • 364 implied HN points • 29 Jan 25
🎭️ Culture Family Society Demographics Marriage Parenting
  1. Declining birth rates lead to more uncertainty for people choosing to have children. Many feel isolated as they navigate parenthood alone, without others in their circle sharing the same experience.
  2. Marriage, when built on cooperation and trust, leads to better outcomes for families. However, changing societal norms and laws are shifting it toward a system where partners may not fully commit.
  3. Africa's population is growing rapidly, and concerns about its implications are rising. This might lead to shifts in global demographics and create challenges if issues in African societies remain unresolved.

Gen Z’s Sexual Apocalypse. The Case for Marriage. And: Is It Time to Ditch the Apps?

Common Sense with Bari Weiss • 2207 implied HN points • 14 Feb 24
🎭️ Culture Dating Relationships Marriage Gender Dynamics Self-Improvement
  1. There is a growing political divide between young men veering right and women leaning left, complicating dating and relationships.
  2. Consider ditching dating apps and try more traditional methods like asking for setups from friends or striking conversations in real life.
  3. Getting married can lead to a happier, more prosperous, and more meaningful life, despite common myths about relationships and career choices.

Bottom-half marriage is a completely different institution

Sex and the State • 84 implied HN points • 17 Dec 24
🎭️ Culture Marriage Gender Roles Societal norms Relationships Economic Factors
  1. Marriage offers different benefits for people in different social and economic classes. For many men, especially those from lower-income backgrounds, marriage may not feel like a good deal due to potential losses in a divorce.
  2. Women are more likely to initiate divorce, challenging the idea that men are always at a disadvantage in marriage. However, this doesn't capture the full picture of how marriage affects different groups.
  3. The experience of marriage varies greatly between individuals in the top and bottom halves of the economic spectrum, suggesting they are essentially different institutions with unique dynamics and implications.

Against profane love

Becoming Noble • 1754 implied HN points • 08 Sep 23
⛪ Faith & Spirituality Christianity Unity Marriage Transcendence
  1. In modern society, sexuality and love seem pervasive but have become cheap, ugly, and sterile, with a focus on self-satisfaction rather than genuine connection.
  2. Deep passion and attraction are hindered in modern times due to over-exposure and lack of mystery between the sexes, preventing the true allure of intense relationships.
  3. True love and intimacy should involve a deep connection with the divine, requiring the pursuit of the sacred and the spiritual within relationships.

Fertility Links, including a conversation with Lyman Stone

In My Tribe • 258 implied HN points • 21 Jan 25
🇺🇸 U.S. Politics Society Family Gender Marriage Fertility
  1. Fertility rates are dropping globally, mostly because fewer people are forming couples, which includes both married and unmarried partnerships.
  2. Smartphones and technology are isolating people by providing entertainment at home, which makes it harder for them to build social skills and form connections.
  3. Creating communities that encourage interactions and closeness can help strengthen relationships and possibly improve marriage rates.

Fertility Links, 12/8/2024

In My Tribe • 394 implied HN points • 08 Dec 24
🇺🇸 U.S. Politics Demographics Fertility Policy Society Marriage
  1. By 2050, the working-age population will mostly come from Africa and India, with Nigeria's population matching that of the entire EU. This shift will affect global dynamics significantly.
  2. To boost fertility rates, experts suggest giving parents financial incentives right when children are born, rather than long-term support. They also recommend policies that encourage marriage, as married couples tend to have more children.
  3. In Britain, there's a need to change how families are treated in the tax system. Encouraging larger families through better policies and communication about the fertility crisis could help address declining birth rates.

We Need to Talk About Loneliness

Ladyparts • 898 implied HN points • 03 Dec 23
🏥 Health & Wellness Loneliness Marriage Solitude Relationships Mental health
  1. Loneliness can have serious health consequences like Parkinson's Disease and premature mortality.
  2. Not all marriages are happy, and it's important to acknowledge the prevalence of neglect, toxicity, and even abuse in some relationships.
  3. Choosing solitude can be healing and necessary after a breakup, but long-term loneliness can have a significant emotional toll.

My Daughter Got Married

DruGroup • 179 implied HN points • 21 May 24
⛪ Faith & Spirituality Marriage Spiritual growth Christianity Family Ceremony
  1. Marriage requires growth and effort from both partners. It's important to continually work on being better together and as individuals.
  2. Love isn't just about feeling good; it's also about the qualities we develop over time. Patience, kindness, and self-control come from a deeper connection, not just from being in love.
  3. The support of a higher power, or spiritual guidance, can help nurture these qualities in a relationship. It's about allowing that influence to grow and guide you.

You should get a pre-nuptial agreement

Something to Consider • 79 implied HN points • 18 Jun 24
💰 Finance Insurance Contracts Marriage Investment Risk management
  1. Getting a pre-nuptial agreement is like buying insurance for your marriage. It protects both partners in case things don't go as planned.
  2. Many people think a prenup shows distrust, but it actually helps avoid messy court battles later. It's about planning for the future.
  3. Not having a prenup means accepting a default contract from the state. It's better to negotiate your own terms when you both feel good about each other.

Mad Wives

Men Yell at Me • 234 implied HN points • 13 Nov 24
🎭️ Culture Gender Issues Marriage Feminism Memoir Social Commentary
  1. In marriage, roles can be confusing. Sometimes women give a lot, and men take, leading to questions about consent and complicity.
  2. Anger can be a powerful force for change, but it's important to think about who it serves. If it only helps ourselves, it may not be truly revolutionary.
  3. Villains and victims often exist in shades of gray. The same person can embody both roles, making it hard to draw clear lines in relationships.

Love in the medieval world

Wrong Side of History • 612 implied HN points • 14 Feb 24
💾 History Medieval Marriage Love Religion Culture
  1. Medieval ideas of love were heavily tied to social status and arranged marriages; noble marriages were often for financial or dynastic reasons, not love.
  2. The Catholic Church's emphasis on consent in marriage was revolutionary, allowing individuals to marry by choice rather than parental arrangement.
  3. The Church's rules on cousin marriage and restrictions on marrying relatives promoted individualism by breaking down extended family structures, paving the way for modern ideas of romantic freedom.

Us feminists really did kill marriage

Sex and the State • 30 implied HN points • 12 Dec 24
🇺🇸 U.S. Politics Feminism Marriage Family Social Issues Cultural critique
  1. Marriage rates are going down in many countries, and it's important to understand why this is happening. Some people think it's due to modern influences, but the reasons are more complex.
  2. Conservatives sometimes blame feminists for this decline, and while they might have a point, it's important to understand the full picture. Feminists often criticize marriage and family structures as outdated or oppressive.
  3. Some feminists actually support the idea of abolishing marriage altogether. This has led to different views on relationships and family, impacting how society sees them today.

There is a reason politicians don't want pregnant women getting divorced

Men Yell at Me • 540 implied HN points • 28 Feb 24
🇺🇸 U.S. Politics Policy Abortion Marriage Gender Laws
  1. In some states, pregnant women are not allowed to divorce, even in cases of domestic violence.
  2. Forcing pregnant women to stay married can lead to financial and emotional vulnerability, especially in states with abortion bans.
  3. Laws restricting pregnant women from divorcing are not about the well-being of the child or mother, but rather about controlling women and limiting their freedoms.