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Martin Gurri: What Does It Mean to Be a Man?

Common Sense with Bari Weiss • 2290 implied HN points • 15 Feb 25
🎭️ Culture Identity Masculinity Philosophy Society Values
  1. Men have always been seen as protectors and providers, expected to show courage and strength. This means that traditionally, a man's role is to defend what is valued in society.
  2. In today's world, the question of what men protect against has changed. Instead of physical dangers, it often involves more abstract threats like emotional well-being and societal issues.
  3. The role of men is evolving, reflecting a shift from direct physical protection to navigating modern complexities, where the state often takes on the responsibility for basic needs like food and safety.

All Men Want to Be Heroes

Common Sense with Bari Weiss • 1316 implied HN points • 14 Feb 25
🎭️ Culture Society Identity Narratives Traditions Masculinity
  1. Men often seek opportunities to feel heroic and valued in society. It's important for communities to create situations where they can step up and make a difference.
  2. Experiences shared around communal spaces, like bars, highlight the desire for connection and action among men. These moments can lead to camaraderie and support among peers.
  3. Society's perception of masculinity can impact how men express their emotions and take action. Allowing them space to be heroes can lead to healthier relationships and communities.

The Hero and other Cultural Characters

Chris Arnade Walks the World • 2116 implied HN points • 21 Jan 25
🎭️ Culture Masculinity Social Behavior Identity
  1. Men often want to feel like heroes and this need gives them a sense of purpose. When they can rescue or protect others, it boosts their self-worth.
  2. Societies need positive hero roles for men to fill, like firefighters or engineers. Without these, negative behaviors can emerge and create bigger problems.
  3. Cultural roles shape how people live and interact. Having healthy characters to identify with is important, as they help provide meaning and connection to the community.

The remarkably talented and alienated late Millennial man

Jeff Giesea • 4591 implied HN points • 11 Jun 24
🎭️ Culture Identity Masculinity Generations Society Emotions
  1. Late Millennial men are often seen as talented and intelligent, but beneath the surface, many struggle with feelings of loneliness and alienation. They want to find their place in a complicated world.
  2. They face unique challenges in today's society, including high expectations and a cultural environment that feels unfriendly to traditional masculinity and ambition. This can lead to frustration and confusion.
  3. Despite their struggles, these men desire understanding and empathy. They want to be acknowledged for their feelings while also seeking guidance on how to succeed and feel fulfilled.
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Stop with the weird masculinity tropes, Trump supporters

Jeff Giesea • 1197 implied HN points • 30 Jul 24
🇺🇸 U.S. Politics Masculinity Gender Political Rhetoric Election Dynamics Cultural critique
  1. Using weird masculinity insults can turn people off and alienate groups like women and the LGBTQ+ community. It's not cool to insult others based on gender or sexual orientation.
  2. True masculinity should be about protecting and respecting others, not bullying them or making them feel insecure. Real strength comes from being confident without needing to tear others down.
  3. Being part of a movement means building bridges and finding common ground, not just mocking opponents. The Harris campaign is doing a better job of bringing people together and organizing effectively.

It’s expensive to be a Man

New Means • 3930 implied HN points • 30 Jan 24
🎭️ Culture Gender Masculinity Politics Equality Society
  1. Masculinity propagated by some influencers can be toxic, isolating, and damaging to men's mental health.
  2. Resistance to harmful stereotypes and embracing individuality can lead to emotional freedom and healthier relationships.
  3. Rejecting oppressive norms benefits not only men, but also promotes freedom and fulfillment for all genders.

Yes, we punish men more for doing gender wrong

Sex and the State • 35 implied HN points • 03 Feb 25
🎭️ Culture Gender Issues Masculinity Feminism Loneliness
  1. Men face stricter punishment for behaving in ways that don't fit traditional masculinity. This makes it harder for them to express themselves freely.
  2. Gender norms restrict men's behavior more than women's, leading to issues like loneliness. Men are often discouraged from showing vulnerability, which is important for forming friendships.
  3. Homophobia plays a big role in loneliness among gay men, as they face discrimination that adds to their struggles. This is tied to the idea that society expects certain behaviors from different genders.

The Forbidden Fruit of Politically Volatile Dick

Default Wisdom • 506 implied HN points • 01 Dec 24
🎭️ Culture Gender Studies Social media Political Discourse Feminism Masculinity
  1. The Gender War on social media shows how right-wing men and left-wing women attract each other based on their perceived strengths and weaknesses. This tension often leads to extreme views and oversimplified narratives about gender roles.
  2. Many discussions about the Manosphere and movements like the 4B are too simplistic. The realities of these movements are often misrepresented in popular media, failing to capture the cultural and contextual nuances behind them.
  3. Relationships between people from opposing sides (like leftists and rightists) often explore themes of power and vulnerability. These dynamics can highlight underlying attractions that aren't just about politics but also psychological complexities.

Femininity is a flex for top-half men

Sex and the State • 41 implied HN points • 20 Jan 25
🎭️ Culture Gender Issues Social norms Pop culture Masculinity Feminism
  1. Top-half men can safely express femininity without facing the same backlash that bottom-half men do. This difference shows how societal pressure around gender roles varies based on social class.
  2. Many men, particularly from marginalized groups, perform masculinity to protect themselves from real threats of violence. They are often trapped in rigid gender roles that can hurt their personal development.
  3. The divide in how femininity and masculinity are perceived can affect academic success, especially for boys. Those pushed to conform to traditional masculinity may struggle more in school.

Castrated Utopias: What Barbie and Oppenheimer reveal about our sexual politics

The Bigger Picture • 1577 implied HN points • 16 Aug 23
🎭️ Culture Gender Politics Film analysis Feminism Masculinity Social Commentary
  1. Memes reflect our collective desires and reveal social realities, creating powerful cultural moments through stories and rituals.
  2. Barbie's portrayal of feminism touches on complexities of social construction and biological differences, navigating between metamodern feminism and simplistic depictions of masculinity.
  3. Exploring gender politics through films like Barbie and Oppenheimer highlights the absence of mature, responsible masculine figures and the ongoing importance of fatherhood in society.

Sexy Trads

Becoming Noble • 1475 implied HN points • 06 Apr 23
🎭️ Culture Tradition Masculinity Fashion Relationships
  1. Embrace the concept of being a 'Sexy Trad' - align faith and masculinity, reject outdated stereotypes, and embody virtues like courage and devotion.
  2. Focus on living out traditional values rather than just preaching them - strive to strengthen faith through beauty, discipline, and reverence.
  3. Build a strong and virtuous relationship by offering a seductive alternative to modern dating norms, maintaining discipline, and embodying qualities like strength and seductiveness.

No, incels, women are not “too shallow”

Sex and the State • 32 implied HN points • 09 Jan 25
🎭️ Culture Gender Issues Relationships Social norms Masculinity Feminism
  1. Women value different traits than looks when choosing partners. They often prioritize status over physical appearance.
  2. The idea that women are too shallow for ugly men is not true. Most women don't typically have casual sex with anyone, regardless of looks.
  3. Improving social skills and personality can lead to better relationships. Many men focus too much on looks instead of what really matters in attracting partners.

Hide

Becoming Noble • 1335 implied HN points • 21 Oct 23
🎭️ Culture Masculinity Society Silence Privacy
  1. The modern culture of transparency threatens our psychic freedom by imposing false values affecting our speech, behavior, and mental states.
  2. Major organizations prioritize transparency over trust due to their large scale, using surveillance and control mechanisms that compromise trust in society.
  3. Cultural forces like office culture and therapy culture work to eliminate secrecy and individuality to promote openness, homogenization, and vulnerability, affecting men's natural leadership qualities.

Western masculinity as Chinese foot binding

Sex and the State • 41 implied HN points • 30 Dec 24
🎭️ Culture Gender Issues Masculinity Feminism Social Psychology Identity
  1. Masculinity can feel like a form of emotional restriction, making it hard for men to share their feelings. This creates loneliness and can lead to harmful behaviors.
  2. Young boys often face societal pressure to act 'masculine,' which forces them to choose between being lonely or risking vulnerability. This leaves them in a tough spot.
  3. Just like foot binding, masculinity can hurt men in ways that aren't immediately obvious. It can prevent them from understanding and expressing their own pain.

Why women enforce the “must want sex all the time” masculinity norm

Sex and the State • 29 implied HN points • 08 Jan 25
🎭️ Culture Gender norms Sexuality Sociology Feminism Masculinity
  1. Women play a role in supporting the idea that men should always want sex. This belief can put pressure on both genders.
  2. The expectation for men to be sexually driven can lead to feelings of inadequacy if they don't meet these standards. It can affect their confidence and relationships.
  3. Challenging these norms could free both men and women to express their true desires without societal pressure. This could lead to healthier relationships and personal happiness.

Cathy reads books: Boymom

Sex and the State • 21 implied HN points • 13 Jan 25
🎭️ Culture Masculinity Relationships Gender Family Society
  1. Having strong relationships is really important for everyone. The best part of life often comes from the people we connect with.
  2. On average, boys and men tend to have fewer and less meaningful relationships compared to girls and women. This can lead to feelings of loneliness.
  3. Masculinity plays a big role in how relationships are formed and maintained. Social norms can make it hard for boys to connect deeply without facing rejection.

Manliness Is Next To Godliness?

Gideon's Substack • 114 implied HN points • 18 Nov 24
🇺🇸 U.S. Politics Conservatism Morality Christianity Masculinity Political Dynamics
  1. Many people today might view manliness and moral courage differently than before. They often see strong self-assertion, even if it's not traditional or polite, as a sign of being a 'real man.'
  2. There’s a belief among some that moral standards have been corrupted, leading them to respect those who reject these standards instead. They feel that being true to oneself and showing strength is what really matters.
  3. The ongoing transformation in how manliness is defined raises questions about traditional values. Some think that a connection with faith might be overshadowed by this new bold view of masculinity.

The Battle for American Masculinity: Buchanan v. Gatsby

Holodoxa • 219 implied HN points • 03 May 24
🎭️ Culture Literature Masculinity Gender Politics Social Commentary American Society
  1. Fitzgerald explores different molds of manhood in 'The Great Gatsby': Gatsby - a disruptor, Nick - an observer, and Tom - a potent but detestable figure.
  2. The character of Tom Buchanan reflects a type of masculinity that has been both condemned and underestimated, termed today as 'toxic masculinity.'
  3. Fitzgerald delves into the complexities of hegemonic masculinity, highlighting the power dynamics and societal norms that shape male behavior and relationships.

Casting A Wide Net

Slack Tide by Matt Labash • 186 implied HN points • 06 Dec 24
🎭️ Culture Pop culture Political Discourse Media Critique Social Issues Masculinity
  1. People are increasingly influenced by big personalities and pop culture figures, which can shape their beliefs and feelings. It's important to recognize how this happens, especially in a world flooded with media.
  2. There seems to be a masculinity crisis in society, affecting young men who are feeling lost. Solutions may not be simple, but addressing deeper issues of responsibility and real-life values could help.
  3. Technology and social media are driving a lot of negativity, often promoting conflict and anger. It’s essential to be aware of how algorithms shape what we see and how we react.

Fathers and Sons (Part One)

The Recovering Academic • 277 implied HN points • 09 Jan 24
📚 Literature Memoir Fatherhood Masculinity Parenting High School
  1. The author reflects on the unique challenges and responsibilities of raising a son, highlighting the lack of stories and guidance on fatherhood from the men in his family and the need to redefine masculinity for his own children.
  2. The author shares a personal memory of a conversation about fatherhood that left a lasting impact, underscoring the importance of acknowledging and understanding the emotional depth of fatherhood.
  3. The author describes a moment of internal conflict between traditional models of fatherhood and the nurturing guidance he believes his children need, emphasizing the importance of evolving and adapting as a parent.

Meet the Sons of Now

Deep Fix • 432 implied HN points • 17 Feb 23
🏥 Health & Wellness Masculinity Emotional Well-being Self-Improvement Personal Growth
  1. The Sons of Now is a men's group addressing the crisis in masculinity and aiming to redefine modern masculinity within a supportive community.
  2. Masculinity is unfixed and evolving, and men benefit from reclaiming the Father archetype by understanding emotions, providing a safe space, and prioritizing relationships.
  3. Men cultivating expansive consciousness can provide power, bravery, vitality, and leadership, becoming stewards of the spirit of evolution.

Is there a Crisis of Masculinity?

The Great Gender Divergence • 373 implied HN points • 15 May 23
🎭️ Culture Masculinity Gender Equality Media influence Gender Dynamics Social Issues
  1. Misogyny is declining, and there is increased support for gender equality among young people worldwide.
  2. Modernization in patrilineal societies like China, Korea, and India has led to a crisis of incels due to imbalanced sex ratios.
  3. China's government is repressing female freedoms to address the issue of frustrated incels and social instability.

Why I buy the male victimhood narrative

Sex and the State • 21 implied HN points • 22 Nov 24
🎭️ Culture Gender Issues Social Commentary Feminism Masculinity Victimhood
  1. Some people think that men can also be victims in society. This idea challenges how we usually think about gender roles.
  2. Believing in male victimhood can spark discussions about fairness and equality. It shows that men can face issues too, just like women.
  3. Talk about male victimhood can be divisive, but it's important to understand different perspectives. Listening to everyone's experiences creates a better conversation.

"All Day I Dream About Sex"

Many Such Cases • 519 implied HN points • 23 Feb 23
🎭️ Culture Music Masculinity Desire Emotional Expression
  1. Nu-metal, especially bands like Korn, shows the many sides of masculinity. Their music mixes vulnerability with macho attitudes, allowing men to express complex feelings.
  2. Songs like Korn's 'Daddy' tackle serious issues like childhood trauma. They provide a way for artists to revisit their pain and help listeners process their own emotions.
  3. Critics often misunderstand nu-metal, labeling it as negative or harmful. Instead, it's important to find value in how it discusses and explores masculinity and desire.

Artist as Cultural Shaman, Kendrick Lamar

The Bigger Picture • 738 implied HN points • 04 Aug 22
🎨 Art & Illustration Music Masculinity Responsibility
  1. Kendrick Lamar's latest album delves deep into personal demons, triggering a collective process of healing for fans.
  2. Lamar's introspective work challenges societal norms by addressing masculinity, vulnerability, and responsibility in a raw and honest way.
  3. The album emphasizes the importance of being true to oneself, highlighting the clash between personal growth and societal expectations.

40. Good Talk #8: Joe Wilkins

The Truth Does Not Change According to Our Ability to Stomach It • 196 implied HN points • 02 Nov 23
📚 Literature Mythology Masculinity
  1. Joe Wilkins emphasizes the importance of place in writing and the need to pay attention to the unique stories and landscapes of different regions.
  2. He discusses dismantling stereotypes about the American West, particularly the myths of the yeoman farmer and anti-government sentiments.
  3. Through his work, Joe Wilkins aims to challenge traditional ideas of masculinity, explore themes of violence, and offer grace and understanding to others.

Of Fuckboys and Men-Children

Castalia • 299 implied HN points • 13 May 23
🎭️ Culture Gender Issues Societal Trends Youth culture Masculinity Psychology
  1. Many young men struggle with growing up and often exhibit childish behavior, like pursuing unrealistic dreams instead of stable jobs. This immaturity can frustrate the people around them.
  2. Men in their 20s often feel a loss of status as they transition from high school or college to the workforce. This can lead to desperate actions, such as trying to date many women to regain a sense of worth.
  3. While their behavior may seem immature, these so-called 'men-children' often have big dreams. They may take risks, willing to fail to find their place, which is seen as a part of their journey into adulthood.

You Will Comply and You'll be Happy

Anxiety Addiction & Ascension • 138 implied HN points • 05 Dec 23
🎭️ Culture Gender Workplace Compliance Feminism Masculinity
  1. Annual compliance training can be tedious but necessary to adhere to workplace rules and ideologies
  2. New compliance modules focusing on topics like sexual harassment may have controversial or biased content
  3. Increased push for women and underrepresented groups in leadership roles in corporations may be linked to workplace dynamics and the evolving corporate agenda

Notes on 'No Nut November'

Many Such Cases • 399 implied HN points • 06 Dec 22
🎭️ Culture Internet Trends Sexuality Memes Community Masculinity
  1. 'No Nut November' is a challenge where many men try to avoid ejaculation for a month. This challenge is often approached for fun, personal control, or even as a way to feel connected with their sexuality.
  2. Some men see this month as a chance to discuss and rethink their habits around sexuality, especially in relation to excessive porn use. They may recognize a need for change, even if they're unsure how to express it.
  3. The challenge may attract different motivations, including humor or serious intent, but it highlights a desire for self-discipline and a safe space to talk about these topics among peers.

bell hooks: Living by an Ethic of Love

Humanities in Revolt • 179 implied HN points • 25 Dec 22
⛪ Faith & Spirituality Social justice Feminism Masculinity
  1. bell hooks and Martin Luther King Jr. emphasized the importance of living by an ethic of love, prioritizing integrity and truth over natural niceties.
  2. hooks believed in the power of a love ethic as the basis of social justice movements and cultural analysis, contrasting young listeners who saw love as naive and weak.
  3. hooks addressed the damaging effects of patriarchal masculinity on men, urging them to embrace feminist masculinity characterized by compassion, sensitivity, and respect towards others.

Humanizing Boys: How Disney's Luca Shows Us Another Masculinity is Possible

Humanities in Revolt • 119 implied HN points • 22 Jul 22
🎭️ Culture Gender Masculinity Representation Youth Media
  1. The movie Luca challenges conventional male socialization by celebrating male emotional connection and offering a different vision of masculinity.
  2. Luca showcases a friendship that involves meaningful conversations, emotional expression, and support, which contrasts with traditional aggressive and violent masculinity.
  3. Societal norms and stereotypes constrain boys' identity development by enforcing narrow definitions of masculinity, limiting their exploration of all facets of humanity.

Good Lessons from Bad Men

Castles in the Sky • 52 implied HN points • 23 May 23
🎭️ Culture Movies Masculinity Morality Lessons
  1. Gangster movies can offer lessons on being a better man and person, despite the characters' flaws.
  2. Being a good man involves being a protector and provider, different from just being a good person.
  3. Contrasts in character arcs in gangster movies highlight the distinction between being a bad person and a bad man.

A dick move

Klement on Investing • 2 implied HN points • 01 Nov 24
🇺🇸 U.S. Politics Gun Control Masculinity Social Issues Research Studies Cultural Commentary
  1. A study found that men who own guns tend to be more satisfied with their penis size. This was surprising to many who thought the opposite was true.
  2. The research looked at over 1,800 men in the US and revealed that gun ownership relates to feelings of penis satisfaction, but this connection fades for men over 60.
  3. The study challenges stereotypes about men with small penises being more likely to own guns, showing a positive correlation instead.

Luca's Humanizing Vision of Masculinity

Humanities in Revolt • 59 implied HN points • 17 Nov 21
🎭️ Culture Film Masculinity Gender Humanity
  1. The Disney movie Luca offers a refreshing take on masculinity, rejecting conventional norms and celebrating emotional vulnerability in boys.
  2. Luca beautifully subverts the harmful notions of patriarchal masculinity that often depict men as inherently superior, domineering, and detached.
  3. The film presents a healthy and humane vision of boyhood masculinity, promoting a more inclusive and emotionally expressive view of manhood.