The hottest Marriage Substack posts right now

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How Are You Crazy?

What's Important? • 36 implied HN points • 18 Jan 26
🏥 Health & Wellness Marriage
  1. Understand your partner's cognitive strengths and their matching weaknesses — a trait that feels like a superpower in one setting can be a curse at home, and recognising that breeds compassion.
  2. Speak about feelings instead of blaming — saying how something makes you feel (not what they did wrong) lowers arguments and invites cooperative problem-solving.
  3. Invest in self-awareness and couples work — therapy and deliberate inner growth build resilience and help marriages survive big crises.

No, Heritage, religion doesn’t prevent divorce

Sex and the State • 26 implied HN points • 19 Jan 26
⛪ Faith & Spirituality Marriage
  1. Divorce rates have fallen in recent decades even as religious attendance declined, so less religiosity hasn’t driven more divorces.
  2. Lower divorce among religious people is mostly a selection effect: regular churchgoers tend to be more conscientious, wealthier, and better educated—traits that predict marital stability—while people who identify as religious but rarely attend often have higher divorce rates.
  3. Religious belief or getting people back into pews alone won’t reduce divorces; addressing underlying behaviors and socioeconomic factors like cohabitation, income, education, and personality is what actually predicts marital outcomes.

You should get a pre-nuptial agreement

Something to Consider • 79 implied HN points • 18 Jun 24
💰 Finance Marriage
  1. Getting a pre-nuptial agreement is like buying insurance for your marriage. It protects both partners in case things don't go as planned.
  2. Many people think a prenup shows distrust, but it actually helps avoid messy court battles later. It's about planning for the future.
  3. Not having a prenup means accepting a default contract from the state. It's better to negotiate your own terms when you both feel good about each other.
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Gen Z’s Sexual Apocalypse. The Case for Marriage. And: Is It Time to Ditch the Apps?

Common Sense with Bari Weiss • 2207 implied HN points • 14 Feb 24
🎭️ Culture Marriage
  1. There is a growing political divide between young men veering right and women leaning left, complicating dating and relationships.
  2. Consider ditching dating apps and try more traditional methods like asking for setups from friends or striking conversations in real life.
  3. Getting married can lead to a happier, more prosperous, and more meaningful life, despite common myths about relationships and career choices.

More Yellowstone (and marriage) adventures

PASSAGES • 339 implied HN points • 26 Jan 24
🏝 Travel Marriage
  1. Balancing marriage and staying true to yourself can be challenging.
  2. Exploring Yellowstone through horseback riding and visits to the Grand Canyon can offer unique experiences.
  3. Communication and understanding are crucial in navigating differences and potential conflicts in a relationship.

Is it revolutionary to leave a marriage?

Maybe Baby • 602 implied HN points • 19 Feb 25
🎭️ Culture Marriage
  1. Leaving a marriage can be seen as a bold and revolutionary act. It often requires courage and self-reflection.
  2. Not every breakup is the answer for everyone, but some people can find inspiration from those who share their experiences.
  3. There can be practical advice for those considering a breakup, which may help them feel supported in their decision.

Marriage isn't the solution

Men Yell at Me • 217 implied HN points • 10 Aug 25
🎭️ Culture Marriage
  1. Marriage rates are influenced by women's economic independence, which helps reduce divorce rates. When women have more choices, they tend to stay in marriages that are beneficial.
  2. The uptick in marriage can also be linked to changing views on relationships, such as the acceptance of same-sex marriage. These trends show a push for personal happiness over traditional norms.
  3. Arguing that marriage is the solution to social problems often ignores the need for broader support systems like healthcare and childcare. True stability comes from empowering individuals, not enforcing outdated roles.

Fertility Links

In My Tribe • 470 implied HN points • 11 Jan 25
🏥 Health & Wellness Marriage
  1. Women are most fertile in their late teens, and the decline in fertility happens steadily between ages 20 and 40. It's important to understand this to make informed choices about family planning.
  2. Many countries are experiencing lower birth rates, and this trend is not just linked to economic factors. It's happening in places where we might not expect it, showing that fertility is a complex issue.
  3. Marriage is changing, becoming less common and often entered into later in life. This shift affects when couples start having children, which can contribute to declining birth rates.

Keeping it in the Family

Wrong Side of History • 508 implied HN points • 13 Dec 24
🎭️ Culture Marriage
  1. Cousin marriage was common among British nobility in the past, but its prevalence has declined due to health concerns and changing cultural norms. Many people were worried about its effects on children's health.
  2. The Catholic Church has historically opposed cousin marriages to promote social ties beyond the family, which helped shape modern democratic societies and reduce corruption.
  3. Despite health risks, cousin marriage remains popular in some communities, providing social and financial support. This can create strong networks but also lead to higher chances of genetic disorders in children.

A Unified Theory of Marriage

The Great Gender Divergence • 334 implied HN points • 08 Apr 23
🎭️ Culture Marriage
  1. People marry for social enforcement, loving devotion, or economic security.
  2. Marriage rates can fall due to factors like religion, companionship, and women's financial security.
  3. A surplus of single women can create a negative cycle impacting marriage rates and trust.

Fertility Links, 1/29/2025

In My Tribe • 364 implied HN points • 29 Jan 25
🎭️ Culture Marriage
  1. Declining birth rates lead to more uncertainty for people choosing to have children. Many feel isolated as they navigate parenthood alone, without others in their circle sharing the same experience.
  2. Marriage, when built on cooperation and trust, leads to better outcomes for families. However, changing societal norms and laws are shifting it toward a system where partners may not fully commit.
  3. Africa's population is growing rapidly, and concerns about its implications are rising. This might lead to shifts in global demographics and create challenges if issues in African societies remain unresolved.

04/09/23 - FAQ Answered!

Moly’s Substack • 275 implied HN points • 09 Apr 23
🎭️ Culture Marriage
  1. Chinese social media sites have their own equivalents to Western platforms due to the Great Firewall.
  2. In China, families often invest in multiple homes for their children's future marital homes.
  3. Getting good grades and into a good university is crucial for a successful career due to oversupply and competition in the job market.

Marriage

David Friedman’s Substack • 386 implied HN points • 31 Dec 24
🎭️ Culture Marriage
  1. Marriage can be viewed as a partnership where both people share responsibilities like income, chores, and caring for children. It's like running a small business together.
  2. People often choose not to buy all services from outside, like cooking or cleaning, because it's easier and cheaper to do these things at home. It saves time and effort to manage these tasks within a marriage instead of hiring others.
  3. The decline in marriage rates might be linked to fewer household responsibilities and easier options for divorce, which make it less binding than before. People are adjusting to a modern world where marriage can seem less necessary.

Fertility Links, 12/8/2024

In My Tribe • 394 implied HN points • 08 Dec 24
🇺🇸 U.S. Politics Marriage
  1. By 2050, the working-age population will mostly come from Africa and India, with Nigeria's population matching that of the entire EU. This shift will affect global dynamics significantly.
  2. To boost fertility rates, experts suggest giving parents financial incentives right when children are born, rather than long-term support. They also recommend policies that encourage marriage, as married couples tend to have more children.
  3. In Britain, there's a need to change how families are treated in the tax system. Encouraging larger families through better policies and communication about the fertility crisis could help address declining birth rates.

With This Ring

Finding Joy • 235 implied HN points • 20 May 23
⛪ Faith & Spirituality Marriage
  1. Love is a choice; it's work and requires intention.
  2. Stop keeping score in your relationship; it's not about transactions.
  3. Go all-in all the time in your marriage; focus on giving 100%.

I Could Feel the Beating Heart of My Mother

The Recovering Academic • 178 implied HN points • 07 Nov 23
📚 Literature Marriage
  1. Kao Kalia Yang, a Hmong American writer, intricately weaves personal and family stories within her writings, reflecting universal themes of love, loss, and resilience.
  2. Her memoir, 'Where Rivers Part,' delves deep into familial relationships, showcasing the complexity and struggles within marriages, maintaining cultural identity, and the impacts of war and diaspora.
  3. The book illustrates the power of storytelling in preserving memories, bridging generations, and offering solace to those who have experienced similar hardships and challenges.

Fertility Links, including a conversation with Lyman Stone

In My Tribe • 258 implied HN points • 21 Jan 25
🇺🇸 U.S. Politics Marriage
  1. Fertility rates are dropping globally, mostly because fewer people are forming couples, which includes both married and unmarried partnerships.
  2. Smartphones and technology are isolating people by providing entertainment at home, which makes it harder for them to build social skills and form connections.
  3. Creating communities that encourage interactions and closeness can help strengthen relationships and possibly improve marriage rates.

She's the One

Bet On It • 1036 implied HN points • 31 Jul 23
⛪ Faith & Spirituality Marriage
  1. When choosing a partner, prioritize personality over looks.
  2. To determine if someone is the one, see if they treat you with kindness and respect.
  3. Self-improvement and constant evaluation are key in finding and maintaining a successful relationship.

Strange Lives

Life and Letters • 59 implied HN points • 26 Mar 24
📚 Literature Marriage
  1. Marriage in the past often involved complicated discussions about money and family, just like today. The way partners handle these issues can lead to tensions.
  2. People in earlier times were concerned about remarriage and family dynamics, especially due to high mortality rates. They thought about how relationships would impact their children in the future.
  3. Age played a significant role in marriage decisions. For example, marrying young was less common by the Elizabethan period, showing changing views on when to start a family.

Love in the medieval world

Wrong Side of History • 612 implied HN points • 14 Feb 24
💾 History Marriage
  1. Medieval ideas of love were heavily tied to social status and arranged marriages; noble marriages were often for financial or dynastic reasons, not love.
  2. The Catholic Church's emphasis on consent in marriage was revolutionary, allowing individuals to marry by choice rather than parental arrangement.
  3. The Church's rules on cousin marriage and restrictions on marrying relatives promoted individualism by breaking down extended family structures, paving the way for modern ideas of romantic freedom.

There is a reason politicians don't want pregnant women getting divorced

Men Yell at Me • 540 implied HN points • 28 Feb 24
🇺🇸 U.S. Politics Marriage
  1. In some states, pregnant women are not allowed to divorce, even in cases of domestic violence.
  2. Forcing pregnant women to stay married can lead to financial and emotional vulnerability, especially in states with abortion bans.
  3. Laws restricting pregnant women from divorcing are not about the well-being of the child or mother, but rather about controlling women and limiting their freedoms.

Mad Wives

Men Yell at Me • 234 implied HN points • 13 Nov 24
🎭️ Culture Marriage
  1. In marriage, roles can be confusing. Sometimes women give a lot, and men take, leading to questions about consent and complicity.
  2. Anger can be a powerful force for change, but it's important to think about who it serves. If it only helps ourselves, it may not be truly revolutionary.
  3. Villains and victims often exist in shades of gray. The same person can embody both roles, making it hard to draw clear lines in relationships.

The Marriage Market

David Friedman’s Substack • 161 implied HN points • 03 Jan 25
🎭️ Culture Marriage
  1. Marriage can be viewed as a market where people offer certain terms to get a partner. If there are fewer options for one gender, the price or terms improve for the other gender.
  2. Having different qualities can change the 'price' of potential spouses. Attractive or compatible people often have better terms in marriage deals, similar to how desirable products are priced in a market.
  3. Legalizing practices like polygyny or polyandry can shift the demand for spouses, leading to better terms for some while making it tougher for others. It may seem confusing, but more choices can change how relationships are valued.

Prophet's Proposal

Opaque Hourglass • 99 implied HN points • 30 Jul 23
⛪ Faith & Spirituality Marriage
  1. Listening and reflecting on different perspectives can lead to personal growth and questioning of beliefs.
  2. Prayer can take various forms, each with its own motives and moral implications.
  3. Unexpected encounters can lead to profound moments and reflections on life's mysteries.

The right way to be a "woman"

Men Yell at Me • 375 implied HN points • 24 Jan 24
🎭️ Culture Marriage
  1. Women are pressured to conform to rigid definitions of womanhood and gender roles.
  2. Societal expectations attempt to confine women to narrow standards for their appearance and behavior.
  3. Expanding the definition of womanhood to be inclusive and diverse provides freedom and challenges limiting beliefs.

Sharing My Rejections

Opaque Hourglass • 79 implied HN points • 09 Jul 23
🎭️ Culture Marriage
  1. The author shares a personal story of rejection in their marriage and its impact on their life.
  2. The rejection prompted feelings of bitterness and led to self-destructive behavior like heavy drinking.
  3. Reflecting back, the author realizes the privilege they had and the importance of supporting their partner's independence.

Homophobia, kids, and monogamy drive lesbian divorces

Sex and the State • 39 implied HN points • 01 Jul 25
🇺🇸 U.S. Politics Marriage
  1. Homophobia plays a big role in the challenges faced by lesbian couples, often making them feel more isolated compared to straight couples or even gay men. This stigma can impact their relationships negatively.
  2. Having children shortly after marriage can increase the chances of divorce. Many lesbian couples may rush into having kids to secure parental rights, which can lead to stress and conflicts.
  3. Monogamy may not work well for all couples, especially for women who might get tired of it more quickly. Stigma around non-monogamy can create added pressure, making it harder for couples to maintain healthy relationships.

Intermarriage in America Post-Loving v. Virginia

Cremieux Recueil • 253 implied HN points • 02 Feb 24
🎭️ Culture Marriage
  1. Before Loving v. Virginia in 1967, state laws banning interracial marriage were common in the U.S., stretching back to the 1600s.
  2. Since the legalization of interracial marriage, the rates have increased over time, showing a more mixed ethnoracial composition in America.
  3. Analysis of interracial marriage rates can provide insights into race relations, impact of societal movements like the 'Great Awokening,' and patterns of intermixing across different races and sexes.

What's So Great About Marriage?

Fake Noûs • 312 implied HN points • 30 Sep 23
🏥 Health & Wellness Marriage
  1. Skepticism and humor around the concept of marriage is common, but many people still take marriage vows seriously.
  2. Marriage serves important social functions like providing stable child-rearing environments and reducing social strife.
  3. Getting married can offer personal benefits like longevity, happiness, and financial savings, along with legal and social recognition.

Bottom-half marriage is a completely different institution

Sex and the State • 84 implied HN points • 17 Dec 24
🎭️ Culture Marriage
  1. Marriage offers different benefits for people in different social and economic classes. For many men, especially those from lower-income backgrounds, marriage may not feel like a good deal due to potential losses in a divorce.
  2. Women are more likely to initiate divorce, challenging the idea that men are always at a disadvantage in marriage. However, this doesn't capture the full picture of how marriage affects different groups.
  3. The experience of marriage varies greatly between individuals in the top and bottom halves of the economic spectrum, suggesting they are essentially different institutions with unique dynamics and implications.

A Canadian Take on Indians

Moral Mayhem Podcast • 19 implied HN points • 13 Mar 24
🎭️ Culture Marriage
  1. The discussion features topics like Indian food, which highlights the cultural differences and food preferences.
  2. Arranged marriages and sexual conservatism are explored, showcasing varying perspectives on relationships.
  3. The contrast between politeness and niceness is examined, reflecting on social interactions in different cultures.

This American Ex Wife: The Podcast

Men Yell at Me • 259 implied HN points • 19 Jul 23
🎙 Podcasts Marriage
  1. The author shares personal stories about divorce and relationships through essays and a forthcoming book.
  2. The author is launching a podcast to create a space for others to share their divorce stories.
  3. The podcast is self-produced to maintain creative control and support local journalists.

Couples therapy helped me divorce the church

Sex and the State • 21 implied HN points • 05 Jul 25
⛪ Faith & Spirituality Marriage
  1. Couples therapy can be beneficial even if it feels painful at times. It might help you understand yourself and your relationship better.
  2. Getting married young can lead to challenges because you're still figuring out who you are. It's important to know your own needs and desires before making big commitments.
  3. External pressures, like from church or family, can impact your decisions about relationships. It's vital to consider what you truly want, rather than just following what others expect.

Sketching the bars of our cage

Kvetch • 113 implied HN points • 04 Feb 24
🎭️ Culture Marriage
  1. Breaking Bad explores breaking free from marriage
  2. Marriage is portrayed positively in Breaking Bad, showing stability and support
  3. The idea of freedom is often an illusion, with marriage essential for men