The hottest Emotional Intelligence Substack posts right now

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Erik Torenberg's Thoughts • 1848 implied HN points • 13 Feb 25
🏥 Health & Wellness Mental health Personal Development Relationships Self-care Emotional Intelligence
  1. Take responsibility for your actions and choices. Instead of blaming others or circumstances, focus on how you can respond and change going forward.
  2. Develop an abundance mindset by wanting others to succeed. When you help others, it creates a positive cycle that often leads to you benefiting too.
  3. It's never too late to change or start something new. Every day is a chance to make improvements in your life and relationships.

relationship puzzles

bookbear express • 423 implied HN points • 20 Feb 25
🎭️ Culture Relationships Communication Self-help Personal Growth Emotional Intelligence
  1. Love can be found in imperfect partners, and it's okay for no one to meet all your needs. Relationships can look different for everyone, and being descriptive rather than judgmental can help you support your friends better.
  2. Feelings can change quickly, and it's important to give yourself grace when you're feeling vulnerable or anxious. Instead of overthinking, try acknowledging your emotions and give yourself some time to process them.
  3. Communicating directly about how someone makes you feel can help ease your anxiety. It's okay to express your needs and concerns in relationships, as everyone can feel clingy or needy sometimes.

The victim trap of engineering managers

Leading Developers • 160 implied HN points • 07 Jan 25
💼 Business Management Leadership Workplace culture Professional development Emotional Intelligence
  1. The Drama Triangle explains how people fall into three roles during conflicts: Victim, Villain, and Hero. Recognizing these roles can help people avoid feeling powerless.
  2. When faced with challenges, it's important to shift focus from blaming others to understanding their perspective. This can help resolve issues more effectively.
  3. Concentrating on desired outcomes instead of problems can lead to better solutions. A positive mindset can transform frustration into productive action.

Ask For and Accept Help

Polymathic Being • 85 implied HN points • 26 Jan 25
🏥 Health & Wellness Mental health Relationships Self-help Personal Growth Emotional Intelligence
  1. It's okay to ask others for help; doing everything alone can lead to failure. We’re social beings, and working together usually gets better results.
  2. People often struggle to accept help, especially when it’s different from how they would do things. Letting go of control can open the door to new ideas.
  3. Recognizing the differences between masculine and feminine qualities helps create stronger partnerships. It's important to appreciate both instead of treating everyone the same.

The Autism Horseshoe

Richard Hanania's Newsletter • 4242 implied HN points • 05 Feb 24
🏥 Health & Wellness Mental health Self-Improvement Social Skills Emotional Intelligence Personal Growth
  1. Asperger's symptoms can manifest in various ways, impacting social interactions, communication, and behavior.
  2. Those with Aspie traits may have a passion for specific topics in life and exhibit emotional distance from others.
  3. Individuals on the autism spectrum can leverage their unique perspectives and interests to turn weaknesses into strengths, leading to success in different areas.
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Exploite tes peurs

Venture Prose • 658 implied HN points • 05 Feb 23
🏥 Health & Wellness Mental health Self-Improvement Entrepreneurship Personal Growth Emotional Intelligence
  1. Recognize and exploit your fears as a way to drive yourself to do better each day.
  2. Entrepreneurs should not shy away from acknowledging and utilizing their vulnerabilities as a source of motivation and growth.
  3. Seek feedback from others to identify recurring behaviors that may be limiting you, and work towards understanding and overcoming them to reach your full potential.

Vitamin C for Engineering Teams: Building Resiliency through Compassion

The Healthy Engineering Leader • 39 implied HN points • 20 Jun 24
💼 Business Leadership Teamwork Communication Emotional Intelligence Workplace culture
  1. Compassion helps build strong and resilient teams, especially during tough times. Just like Vitamin C boosts our health, compassion boosts team spirit.
  2. Good communication is crucial for leaders. By talking openly and listening to team members, leaders can create a safe space where everyone feels valued.
  3. Giving teams time and freedom to recharge can make a big difference. Leaders should encourage breaks or fun activities to help everyone cope with stress better.

5 tips for how to have great conversations!!!

Thicket Forte • 1538 implied HN points • 16 Mar 22
🎭️ Culture Communication Human behavior Social Interaction Personal Growth Emotional Intelligence
  1. Look people in the eyes when you talk to them. This helps you connect and can make the conversation feel warmer.
  2. If you want to have a real conversation, listen and engage with the person. It's important to be present and pay attention to their feelings and body language.
  3. Having great conversations can lead to amazing connections. It’s all about sharing, understanding, and feeling like you belong with others.

Responding to Loss with Courage and Compassion

Journal of Free Black Thought • 16 implied HN points • 28 Nov 24
🎭️ Culture Leadership Emotional Intelligence Human experience Personal Growth Community Engagement
  1. Leaders should face their losses openly instead of ignoring them. This helps them understand their emotions and grow stronger.
  2. True grit involves recognizing fears and failures, while false grit is about pretending everything is fine. Leaders should embrace vulnerability to inspire real courage.
  3. Understanding the emotional impact of loss is key for effective leadership. Leaders must help others process their losses to facilitate positive change.

When Inner Knowing directs us in Ways that Make No Sense

The Leadership Lab • 177 implied HN points • 28 Nov 23
🏥 Health & Wellness Wellness Integrity Emotional Intelligence Decision-making
  1. Integrity involves energetic wholeness, energy flow, congruence, and alignment, allowing for the full flow of energy and aliveness.
  2. Denying impulses can lead to complexity and drama in life, it's important to honor and confront our deepest wants.
  3. In decision-making, focus on learning about yourself and staying present in the process, moving beyond the idea of right or wrong answers.

What is Emotional Intelligence and How do you Build it?

The Leadership Lab • 98 implied HN points • 06 Feb 24
🏥 Health & Wellness Emotional Intelligence Self-awareness Mental health Well-being Personal Growth
  1. Emotional intelligence goes beyond empathy and involves being in conscious choice when dealing with emotions.
  2. Automatic responses to emotions like avoidance or attempting to 'fix' stimulus don't showcase emotional intelligence. It's about feeling and holding wisdom from emotions.
  3. To build emotional intelligence, one must feel emotions physically, match these feelings, and then choose how to respond after identifying the wisdom they offer.

A new strategy doesn't always have a happy ending

Ruben Ugarte's Growth Needle™ • 39 implied HN points • 07 May 24
💼 Business Strategy Leadership Decision-making Emotional Intelligence Organizational Change
  1. Starting a new strategy can be hard because it involves making tough emotional choices, not just doing more work.
  2. Leaders may need to make difficult decisions, like letting people go or stopping projects that aren't working, which can be challenging.
  3. Being honest among team members is really important to deal with these emotional decisions effectively.

The most common red flags I see in nonfiction book proposals by otherwise qualified authors

How to Glow in the Dark • 359 implied HN points • 20 Mar 23
📚 Literature Nonfiction Authors Emotional Intelligence Writing
  1. The most common red flags in nonfiction book proposals by qualified authors indicate focusing on personal needs over audience.
  2. Fixing editorial problems at a higher level requires deep introspection and addressing emotional barriers.
  3. Recognizing signs like lack of emotional connection in book proposals may signal the need for emotional growth and self-understanding.

100% Responsibility, Emotional Intelligence, and Getting Messy on The School of Unlearning

The Leadership Lab • 118 implied HN points • 25 Jun 23
⛪ Faith & Spirituality Emotional Intelligence Self-awareness Growth mindset
  1. Emotions are intelligent - all emotions have value and it's important to understand their intelligence rather than control them.
  2. Personal development is messy - the journey to consciousness and leadership involves unraveling old patterns, which can be challenging and tender.
  3. Take 100% responsibility - acknowledge that you are the creator of your experiences, even when you don't want to take ownership, and use that realization to drive change.

Better Small Talk:

Books Unbound • 3 HN points • 18 Aug 24
🎭️ Culture Social Skills Communication Relationships Emotional Intelligence Personal Development
  1. Small talk helps build connections, so it's important to practice it regularly. Short interactions can turn into meaningful conversations later on.
  2. Preparing topics for small talk, like a conversation resume, can make you feel more confident and engaging. Having stories or interesting facts ready helps avoid awkward silences.
  3. Keeping conversations lively requires techniques like free association or using certain prompts. This keeps the discussion flowing and makes it more enjoyable for everyone involved.

Say it Imperfectly

David Spinks' Newsletter • 15 implied HN points • 26 Oct 24
🏥 Health & Wellness Mental health Self-Improvement Communication Emotional Intelligence Personal Growth
  1. It's okay to not have the perfect words when sharing vulnerable feelings. You can let others know you want to talk about something but may not express it perfectly.
  2. Asking for permission to speak imperfectly helps create a more relaxed conversation. It allows for exploration and understanding without the fear of being judged.
  3. Being honest about not knowing your own thoughts yet can lead to deeper connections. It frees you to think out loud and figure things out with someone else's support.

Emotional intelligence

10x your mind • 59 implied HN points • 07 Dec 23
🏥 Health & Wellness Emotional Intelligence
  1. Emotional Intelligence (EI) is the brain's ability to understand and manage emotions, helping navigate relationships and communication.
  2. The best model of EI by psychologists Mayer and Salovey involves perceiving, using, understanding, and managing emotions.
  3. Emotional Intelligence (EI) plays a crucial role in learning and professional success, impacting academic growth and career achievements.

Free Agent

Finding Joy • 78 implied HN points • 01 Jul 23
🏥 Health & Wellness Self-Improvement Growth mindset Emotional Intelligence
  1. Freedom comes with responsibility - owning your choices and actions is key to creating the life you want.
  2. Avoid seeking instructions from others out of fear - taking radical ownership is challenging but necessary.
  3. Embrace agency and take control of your life - you have the power to shape your future and influence your circumstances.

Why and How to Identify your Purpose

The Leadership Lab • 59 implied HN points • 05 Oct 23
🏥 Health & Wellness Purpose Consciousness Emotional Intelligence
  1. Purpose is not a fixed lifelong quest, but can change based on where you are in life; it's about living with intention.
  2. Identifying your purpose provides a bigger anchor beyond daily success, keeping you focused on living it each moment.
  3. Purpose involves who you are, what you do, and how you impact the world; it's a holistic journey, not just a destination.

A Materialist's Guide for How to Listen to Your Body (PLACEHOLDER)

Defender’s corner • 19 implied HN points • 14 Mar 24
🏥 Health & Wellness Self-care Body awareness Mind-Body Connection Placebo effect Emotional Intelligence
  1. Listening to your body involves more than just your rational mind; your body needs to be convinced too.
  2. There is clinical proof that placebos can work even when you know they are placebos, showing the mind-body connection.
  3. Pay attention to your initial bodily reactions to things before your thoughts, and learn not to override your body's signals.

How empty spaces in your calendar lead to better decisions

Ruben Ugarte's Growth Needle™ • 39 implied HN points • 21 Nov 23
💼 Business Leadership Decision-making Emotional Intelligence Productivity Organizational Behavior
  1. Building emotional competence helps leaders make better decisions. It's important for leaders to understand their emotions and those of others.
  2. Having empty spaces in your schedule allows for better brainstorming and connecting ideas. It gives your brain time to think and create.
  3. The idea of 'blocks of time' can limit decision-making in companies. Companies should be more flexible instead of strictly scheduling everything.

Emotional Intelligence

Certo Modo • 39 implied HN points • 09 Feb 23
🏥 Health & Wellness Emotional Intelligence Stress management Decision-making
  1. Emotional intelligence is crucial in the DevOps/SRE space for managing emotions, reasoning, and decision-making.
  2. Recognize and manage 'amygdala hijacks' in stressful situations at work to maintain clear thinking and avoid reactive behavior.
  3. Understanding emotions as information from others is important in social settings for effective communication and decision-making at work.

How Authenticity and Vulnerability Pay Off and Help You Win Personally and Professionally

Stream of Subconsciousness • 19 implied HN points • 22 Feb 23
🏥 Health & Wellness Mental health Therapy Personal Growth Life Coaching Emotional Intelligence
  1. Being authentic means recognizing your limitations and striving to express yourself.
  2. Vulnerability, when managed within boundaries, is a consideration of alternatives, not a risk.
  3. Authenticity enables quicker recognition of errors, inviting opportunities for learning and growth.

PP #36 | On the Difference between Support and Empowerment, EQ and Empathy, and Sleeping through Storms

The Leadership Lab • 19 implied HN points • 11 Sep 22
🏥 Health & Wellness Empowerment Emotional Intelligence Leadership Mental health Self-care
  1. Try empowering instead of just supporting others; empower them to find their own strength and solutions.
  2. Emotional intelligence goes beyond empathy; it includes understanding and managing your own feelings, not just those of others.
  3. Preventing problems is as important as solving them; sometimes the calm preparedness to handle storms is more valuable than being a heroic problem-solver.

#30: Fear of failure

The Uncertainty Mindset (soon to become tbd) • 99 implied HN points • 27 May 20
💼 Business Leadership Innovation Corporate strategy Organizational Behavior Emotional Intelligence
  1. Fear of failure stops big companies from being creative and trying new things. They worry too much about losing their reputation.
  2. Innovation often leads to failure, but it is also essential for success. Big companies need to accept that some failure is part of the process.
  3. Leaders in large organizations know innovation is necessary but might hold back because they fear taking risks that could lead to failure. This can lead to less exciting results in their work.

Reading the Room

Perspectives • 10 implied HN points • 11 Apr 23
💼 Business Interpersonal Skills Career development Communication Emotional Intelligence Professional Growth
  1. Reading the room is a crucial interpersonal skill that helps you understand what others are saying and contribute meaningfully.
  2. Learning to read the room is a skill that can be developed through practice and self-awareness.
  3. To become a better communicator and collaborator, try placing yourself in others' shoes, understanding their motivations, reflecting on your biases, and learning their language.

Teams are more than just a collection of the best talent

Klement on Investing • 2 implied HN points • 04 Mar 24
💼 Business Diversity Team performance Emotional Intelligence Work Culture
  1. Teams should not be selected solely based on individual talent, but on their ability to work collectively.
  2. Research shows that emotional intelligence, equal speaking behavior within a team, and gender balance all contribute to higher team performance.
  3. For businesses to succeed, it is essential to value team collaboration over individual performance and to prioritize hiring practices that reward team players.