Men Yell at Me

Men Yell at Me is a Substack featuring a mix of personal and political commentary, focusing on issues like gender roles, societal expectations, liberation movements, and current events. It combines humor with critique, addressing topics from women's rights to the politics of resentment, and spotlighting 'Dingus of the Week.'

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Dingus of the week: Anyone who bought Hawk Tuah girl’s memecoin

402 implied HN points • 13 Dec 24
🔮 Crypto Memecoins Investing Fraud Culture Digital Assets
  1. Memecoins are just digital coins that have no real value and are mostly a gamble. People are getting hurt financially by investing in them.
  2. Many young people feel disappointed by traditional paths like college and stable jobs, so they turn to risky internet ventures like memecoins in hopes of success.
  3. Trust in systems is declining as they seem to keep failing us. This creates a culture where people are tempted to follow questionable advice for quick gains.

How much do we need to know?

244 implied HN points • 26 Jan 25
🇺🇸 U.S. Politics Political Events Political Figures Public Opinion Government History
  1. It's important to think about how much information we actually need to navigate our lives. Too much information can be overwhelming.
  2. There are moments in history that feel significant, and they often change the course of events. Recognizing these moments can help us understand our world better.
  3. Engagement with political figures and movements can shape society. It's crucial to be aware of who we support and the impact they have.

Why is JD Vance obsessed with your uterus?

632 implied HN points • 09 Oct 24
🇺🇸 U.S. Politics Reproductive Rights Social Issues Economic Policy
  1. There is a concern among conservatives about the changing family structure in America. They believe that fewer children and more single-parent households are big problems.
  2. Some policies being pushed seem to aim to bring women back into traditional roles and out of the workforce. This includes things like restrictions on abortion and cuts to benefits.
  3. Forcing women to have children or marry doesn't actually solve family issues. It can lead to more problems like domestic violence and child poverty instead.

Dingus of the week: Pete Hegseth

380 implied HN points • 06 Dec 24
🇺🇸 U.S. Politics Political Commentary Media Criticism Social Issues Public Policy Government Accountability
  1. Pete Hegseth, a nominee for a high military position, has a controversial history with accusations of misconduct and a toxic work environment. His qualifications for such a role are questioned.
  2. There are serious concerns about how the military treats women, especially considering that many report experiencing harassment and assault. Putting someone like Hegseth in charge could worsen this issue.
  3. The healthcare system is failing many Americans, leading to feelings of rage and frustration. People are struggling to access necessary medical care, and this creates a sense of violence in everyday life.
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Dingus of the week: Kathy Hochul

327 implied HN points • 20 Dec 24
🇺🇸 U.S. Politics Governance Policies Elections Political Commentary Current affairs
  1. Kathy Hochul's recent decision to let a company manage a program for disabled New Yorkers is raising concerns about potential negative impacts on care. People worry it could lead to less oversight and worse service for those who need help the most.
  2. Hochul is also thinking about creating a hotline for CEOs to report safety threats, which seems unnecessary since wealthy people already have plenty of ways to get help if they feel unsafe. This makes some people feel like their safety is prioritized over others who are more vulnerable.
  3. The piece argues that instead of helping CEOs, Hochul should focus on protecting those at greater risk, like migrants and homeless individuals, by improving government programs to truly serve people.

Why is it so easy to hate women?

315 implied HN points • 23 Dec 24
🎭️ Culture Gender Issues Media Criticism Societal norms Public Discourse Feminism
  1. People often jump at the chance to criticize women in the public eye, sometimes without understanding the full story. This shows a pattern where women are easily targeted and attacked.
  2. In the case of Blake Lively, many turned against her based on manipulated narratives that distorted her character. This highlights how quickly public opinion can sway against women.
  3. Not all women have the same resources to defend themselves against these attacks, which makes it harder for some to fight back when they are wrongly criticized.

The problem with Dry January

232 implied HN points • 19 Jan 25
🏥 Health & Wellness Wellness Mindfulness Sobriety Diet Fitness
  1. Many people see Dry January as a chance to reset after the holidays, especially when drinking can disrupt sleep. It's a common time for people to reassess their habits.
  2. There's a noticeable shift in the conversation around Dry January, moving from diet tips to more serious themes of sobriety and mindfulness. This can feel intense for some people.
  3. Supporting friends who choose sobriety is important, but there's a concern that the tone surrounding Dry January can sometimes feel restrictive or overly moralistic.

Dingus of the week: Bret Baier

558 implied HN points • 18 Oct 24
🇺🇸 U.S. Politics Media Critique Political Commentary Gender Issues Public Discourse Current Events
  1. Bret Baier is criticized for his interview style, which some see as unbalanced and focused on complaints rather than real issues. He often interrupts and uses tactics that undermine the interviewee's credibility.
  2. Harrison Butker faced backlash for comments suggesting women's primary role should be as wives and mothers. His views are viewed as outdated and patronizing, reducing women's roles to traditional expectations.
  3. There are positive initiatives happening, like programs that help formerly incarcerated individuals find jobs in the solar industry, showcasing efforts to support marginalized communities.

Dingus of the Week: Nancy Mace

412 implied HN points • 22 Nov 24
🇺🇸 U.S. Politics Legislation Civil Rights Political Commentary Government Social Issues
  1. Nancy Mace introduced a bathroom bill targeting trans women, specifically aimed at new Congress member Sarah McBride. This move appears to prioritize political gain over inclusivity.
  2. The author criticizes Mace for claiming to protect women's spaces while potentially harming vulnerable groups, highlighting the hypocrisy in her actions.
  3. During a time when real issues, like rising costs and safety, need attention, Mace's focus on bathroom laws seems misplaced and not beneficial to the public.

"Straight Men Yell at Us"

504 implied HN points • 28 Oct 24
🇺🇸 U.S. Politics LGBTQ Rights Political Climate Social justice Human Rights Local Politics
  1. Homophobia and harassment are still serious issues, even in places that seem progressive. People in the LGBTQ+ community frequently face threats and discrimination.
  2. It's important for allies to speak up and take action when they see hate or harassment happening. Silence from witnesses can make the situation worse.
  3. Voting and activism are crucial for protecting vulnerable communities. Everyone should get involved and support efforts for equality and justice.

"Guts full of anger and compassion"

184 implied HN points • 02 Feb 25
🏥 Health Politics Abortion rights Reproductive Health Activism
  1. The Iowa Abortion Access Fund is one of the oldest in the U.S. and has grown a lot over the last decade due to increasing needs for abortion access.
  2. Historical documents show that the fund was started by a group of caring clergy in 1969, reflecting a strong commitment to helping people in their community.
  3. A letter from one of the founders highlights how relevant the issues surrounding abortion remain today, nearly 60 years after the fund was established.

The story of this election is the story of women’s anger

462 implied HN points • 05 Nov 24
🇺🇸 U.S. Politics Elections Women's Rights Public Opinion Political strategy Healthcare
  1. Women's anger is a big story in this election, especially about issues like abortion rights. Many women are voting based on how these issues affect their lives.
  2. Senior women who previously supported Trump are now favoring Kamala Harris due to frustration over new abortion laws. They remember the struggles before Roe v. Wade.
  3. The right to abortion is not just about healthcare; it's about women's autonomy and equality in society. This anger is pushing women to vote and demand change.

Dingus of the week: Tony Hinchcliffe

472 implied HN points • 01 Nov 24
🇺🇸 U.S. Politics Comedy Racism Free speech Political Satire Social Commentary
  1. Tony Hinchcliffe made racist jokes at a Trump rally that many people found offensive. His comments included stereotypes about Puerto Ricans, Black people, and Latinos.
  2. While some support Hinchcliffe, many others, including celebrities, called out his jokes as racist and demanded better from comedians.
  3. There is a growing concern about free speech and the consequences of making offensive jokes. Some feel people should laugh at all jokes, even if they are hurtful, while others believe that jokes can reveal deeper prejudices.

Dingus of the week: Thanksdingus

363 implied HN points • 29 Nov 24
😂 Humor Comedy Satire Thanksgiving Relationships Social Commentary
  1. During family gatherings, some people like to insult kids or teens, thinking it makes them look better. It's just mean and unnecessary.
  2. It's not okay to show up empty-handed at Thanksgiving and then brag about not bringing anything. Everyone should contribute somehow.
  3. People shouldn't talk about calories or criticize food that others enjoy during a holiday meal. It's rude to ruin the fun for everyone else.

Sorry, it's not just difference, it is danger

340 implied HN points • 01 Dec 24
🇺🇸 U.S. Politics Political divide Legislation Social Issues Women's Rights Identity politics
  1. Political differences can lead to real dangers, not just simple disagreements. It's important to recognize the serious implications these differences can have on people's lives.
  2. Women often face the greatest danger at home, where they are most likely to be attacked or assaulted. Laws that restrict women's rights only add to this danger.
  3. Telling marginalized groups that their lives and rights are less important is harmful. It is crucial to acknowledge and fight against these dangers rather than downplay them.

All media is niche media now

376 implied HN points • 10 Nov 24
🎭️ Culture Media Storytelling Digital Platforms
  1. Media today is all about specific audiences, not broad ones. This means every story has its own niche and people find information where they connect best.
  2. Big money often influences media, which can lead to biased reporting. Media outlets are not purely good or bad; they all have their issues, often based on their funding sources.
  3. The rise of independent creators is changing how we tell stories. It's important to be personal and relatable, making content more engaging and fun for everyone.

Dingus of the week: Patrick Soon-Shiong

406 implied HN points • 25 Oct 24
🇺🇸 U.S. Politics Elections Media Public Opinion Political Commentary Political Ethics
  1. Patrick Soon-Shiong, the owner of the Los Angeles Times, stopped the editorial board from endorsing Kamala Harris. This caused the head of editorials to resign because it felt unprincipled to oppose a Democratic candidate.
  2. Soon-Shiong wanted the board to provide a neutral analysis of candidates instead of making a clear endorsement. This approach confused reporting with opinion, which are usually different in journalism.
  3. Many believe it's important for newspapers to take a stand on critical issues, especially when democracy is at stake. Stopping a strong editorial voice can send mixed messages to readers.

Writing the personal as political

181 implied HN points • 16 Jan 25
📚 Literature Essays Feminism Creative Writing Education
  1. Writing about personal experiences can expose and critique bigger political issues. It's about connecting your life to the systems that affect everyone.
  2. It's important to remember that the 'political' includes various topics like racism, healthcare, and immigration, not just party politics. Your story can shine a light on these issues.
  3. Sharing our stories helps create understanding and change. Your words can make a difference by including all voices and challenging oppressive systems.

Dingus of the week: Climate change

409 implied HN points • 11 Oct 24
🌞 Climate & Environment Climate change Environmental Policy Natural Disasters Sustainability Public awareness
  1. Climate change is a big problem that we all contribute to. Our actions, like overconsumption and reliance on fossil fuels, play a part in causing extreme weather events.
  2. People often look for someone to blame during disasters like hurricanes. This can lead to the spread of conspiracy theories instead of acknowledging our collective responsibility.
  3. Despite the dire situation, there is still hope. We've solved environmental issues before and can work together to combat climate change if we focus on the facts and solutions.

Happiness, freedom, and joy

226 implied HN points • 11 Dec 24
🎭️ Culture Literature Media Women's Rights Personal Stories Humor
  1. Happiness and well-being should not depend on traditional roles like marriage. It's important to recognize everyone's value as individuals, not just through their relationships.
  2. Freedom is essential, especially in the face of challenges to women's rights and LGBTQ+ rights. Building strong communities is crucial for creating real change.
  3. Telling our stories is important as it preserves truth and keeps history alive. Sharing narratives helps hold those in power accountable and counters misinformation.

My daughter's rage

248 implied HN points • 24 Nov 24
  1. A 13-year-old girl is experiencing strong feelings of anger lately. This anger seems to be intense and noticeable in her presence.
  2. Her parent is trying to understand and accommodate this anger by allowing space for it at home. They recognize it as something that needs to be addressed respectfully.
  3. The feelings of rage in young teens can often stem from various issues or frustrations they face. It's important for parents to acknowledge and support them during this time.

Kum & Go is dead. Long live, Kum & Go

144 implied HN points • 12 Jan 25
🎭️ Culture Media Trends Society Brands Identity
  1. Kum & Go gas stations are getting a new name after being sold to Maverik. This change is part of a rebranding effort.
  2. The new branding has been criticized for stripping away the fun and unique aspects of the Kum & Go name. Many feel it's becoming just another boring corporate brand.
  3. People are nostalgic about the old name and believe it added character to the gas station experience. There’s a sense of loss over the personality it had.

What gives you hope?

141 implied HN points • 13 Jan 25
🎭️ Culture Community Hope Discussion Social Issues Personal Growth
  1. Sharing what gives us hope can help us cope with tough times. It creates a sense of community and support.
  2. Talking about hope encourages us to focus on the positive things happening around us. This can lift our spirits and motivate us to take action.
  3. Having open discussions about hope allows us to connect with others who feel the same way. It reminds us we are not alone in facing challenges.

13 years ago, I accidentally created a chaotic holiday tradition

192 implied HN points • 15 Dec 24
🎭️ Culture Tradition Celebration Family Holidays Parenting
  1. The author originally planned to keep Christmas simple and fun without stressful traditions. They wanted to avoid feeling overwhelmed like their mom did in the past.
  2. They cherish Christmas for its lights, decorations, and family time, remembering their childhood tradition of Christmas Eve pizza.
  3. The author aimed to create enjoyable traditions for their kids, starting with a reusable advent calendar filled with candies to avoid holiday stress.

Is Lysistrata going to save us?

228 implied HN points • 17 Nov 24
🎭️ Culture Literature Sports Art Events Social Issues
  1. Running a marathon can be a fun and unexpected challenge. Sometimes, you might end up doing more than you planned.
  2. Support from friends can make a significant impact when trying new things, like running a marathon.
  3. Enjoying the environment and vibe during an event can lead to memorable experiences and accomplishments.

Mad Wives

234 implied HN points • 13 Nov 24
🎭️ Culture Gender Issues Marriage Feminism Memoir Social Commentary
  1. In marriage, roles can be confusing. Sometimes women give a lot, and men take, leading to questions about consent and complicity.
  2. Anger can be a powerful force for change, but it's important to think about who it serves. If it only helps ourselves, it may not be truly revolutionary.
  3. Villains and victims often exist in shades of gray. The same person can embody both roles, making it hard to draw clear lines in relationships.

What is giving you hope?

247 implied HN points • 04 Nov 24
🇺🇸 U.S. Politics Elections Voter sentiment Public Opinion Political engagement Media Coverage
  1. It's important to share positive news, especially when things feel tough. Talking about good things can lift everyone's spirits.
  2. As we prepare for important events, like elections, it helps to focus on what brings us hope. Small acts of kindness or good news can make a big difference.
  3. Encouraging open discussions about hope can help create a supportive community. Everyone's perspective on good news matters and can inspire others.

What are you letting go of in the New Year?

133 implied HN points • 30 Dec 24
🎭️ Culture Personal Growth Self-help Reflection Lifestyle
  1. Think about what you want to leave behind as the New Year starts. It's a chance to reset and focus on what matters.
  2. Taking breaks and enjoying downtime is important for well-being. Don't feel bad about resting and recharging your energy.
  3. Reflecting on the past can help guide your future. Use your experiences to decide what changes to make in the coming year.

What are you all reading?

207 implied HN points • 11 Nov 24
🎭️ Culture Media Literature Journalism Discussion Criticism
  1. Mainstream media like CNN and The New York Times are becoming echo chambers, making it harder to find diverse viewpoints. It's important to seek out different sources for a fuller understanding of the news.
  2. Despite challenges in the media industry, good journalism still exists. However, many stories that can positively impact the world are less likely to be published by traditional outlets.
  3. It's valuable to share and explore new media that excites you. Finding and supporting independent journalists and stories can help create a better media landscape.

The guardrails are off

200 implied HN points • 03 Nov 24
🇺🇸 U.S. Politics Elections Democracy Public Opinion Civic engagement
  1. Many Americans are really stressed about the upcoming election. It's normal to feel anxious about big events that could affect our lives.
  2. Articles often suggest easy fixes like turning off the news, but sometimes that isn't enough. It's valid to feel scared about the future of democracy.
  3. Facing tough realities is part of being human. It's okay to acknowledge fear and uncertainty instead of pretending everything is fine.

Are you leaving Twitter/X?

168 implied HN points • 18 Nov 24
🕹 Technology Social media Digital Trends User Behavior Online Privacy
  1. Many people have been leaving Twitter/X since the recent election. They are trying out other platforms like BlueSky or Instagram.
  2. Some people are considering taking a break from social media altogether. Others might even think about disconnecting completely and going off the grid.
  3. The post invites readers to share their own plans for social media over the next four years, encouraging a conversation about online presence.

The best holiday movie?

154 implied HN points • 25 Nov 24
🎭️ Culture Movies Holidays Entertainment Traditions Social
  1. It's great to talk about favorite holiday movies during the festive season. Sharing these favorites can make the holidays feel even more special.
  2. The post invites readers to get involved and share their thoughts. Engaging with others can create a sense of community and fun.
  3. Focusing on lighthearted topics helps us to relax and enjoy the holiday week. A break from heavier subjects can be refreshing.

Your personal "best of" list

118 implied HN points • 09 Dec 24
🎭️ Culture Books Movies TV shows Lists
  1. End-of-year lists are popular and fun to create. They often reflect personal tastes and opinions.
  2. People enjoy sharing their favorite books, movies, and TV shows from the year. It’s a great way to connect with others.
  3. Creating a personal 'best of' list can be a rewarding way to reflect on what you enjoyed and learned throughout the year.

I didn't keep the house, I built a new one

174 implied HN points • 20 Oct 24
🎭️ Culture Relationships Identity Home Personal Growth Divorce
  1. When people split up, the question of who keeps the house can come up, and it can be a complicated issue. It touches on feelings of home and shared lives.
  2. Deciding what to keep from a shared life, like furniture or memories, can feel like separating parts of a relationship. It's about more than just physical items; it's emotional too.
  3. Building a new life after a split can be empowering. Instead of holding on to the past, creating something new can symbolize hope and fresh beginnings.

The real media crisis

151 implied HN points • 27 Oct 24
🇺🇸 U.S. Politics Journalism Political Scandals Cultural critique Public Opinion
  1. There's a crisis in the media where younger journalists are seen as 'too soft' by some bosses. They feel that newer journalists don't have the same grit as before.
  2. The recent media issue from NY Mag didn't mention their own scandal, highlighting a lack of accountability in the industry.
  3. Many media leaders are using this moment to anonymously share their frustrations instead of addressing the larger issues.