Disaffected Newsletter

Disaffected Newsletter explores societal, cultural, and political issues through the lens of personal trauma and abnormal psychology. It discusses manipulation in relationships, the impact of family dynamics, toxic femininity, immigration, political loyalties, modern taboos, and societal divides, offering critiques of contemporary norms and policies.

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Disaffected, Episode 150: December 16, 2023

419 implied HN points • 16 Dec 23
🎙 Podcasts Entertainment Media Culture Commentary Humor
  1. The latest Christmas video from Dr. Jill Biden has a bizarre and quirky theme, featuring strange visuals and dance routines. It aims to be entertaining, but many find it perplexing.
  2. A story is shared about a problematic community theater diva whose actions caused chaos in her community. In the end, her behavior caught up with her, leading to negative consequences.
  3. The episode also humorously critiques various cultural topics, including stereotypes and products, showcasing a playful tone throughout the discussion.

Pulling back the curtain to show the set

1278 implied HN points • 23 Mar 23
🎙 Podcasts Media Production Entertainment Psychology Personal Development Storytelling
  1. The show is presented like an old-fashioned talk show, not just a casual podcast. The creator values a polished production and enjoys looking put together while performing.
  2. There's honesty behind the performance; the creator shares personal struggles and insecurities. They believe it's important to show that even those who entertain can have vulnerabilities.
  3. The aim is to connect with others who have faced similar challenges from childhood. The show encourages a sense of recognition and reminds viewers that it's okay to have flaws but still strive to entertain and engage.

We were right about EVERYTHING

1338 implied HN points • 08 Mar 23
🇺🇸 U.S. Politics Government Public Health Civil Rights Policy Critique Political Commentary
  1. Some people believe they were right about the pandemic being overhyped and used to control citizens' rights.
  2. They think the government and health officials acted unreasonably and that many people supported harmful actions.
  3. There's a strong feeling of resentment towards those who went along with these actions, with a call for acknowledgment and apologies.

The Rico Racket

699 implied HN points • 27 Aug 23
🇺🇸 U.S. Politics Elections Crime Disasters Public Policy Society
  1. There are a lot of people missing after a massive wildfire in Lahaina, Hawaii, and local authorities seem to have made the situation worse by blocking escape routes.
  2. Donald Trump and Rudy Giuliani are facing serious legal trouble for their actions related to the 2020 election, marking a significant moment in American history.
  3. Some young people are choosing to dress and act like mythological creatures, and society is being asked to accept this as normal behavior.

No show Sunday, June 4

979 implied HN points • 04 Jun 23
🎙 Podcasts Content Announcements
  1. There will be no show on Sunday, June 4, because of a family death.
  2. A new show will air on Monday, June 5.
  3. The hosts thank their viewers and listeners for their understanding during this time.
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The "womanface" farce

1159 implied HN points • 12 Apr 23
🎭️ Culture Feminism Transgender Issues Media Critique Identity politics Social Commentary
  1. Feminists view 'womanface' as a serious issue, but it's argued that it's more about personal feelings and competition than real oppression. Many think that these makeup standards are imposed by women on each other rather than defining womanhood itself.
  2. The comparison of 'womanface' to 'blackface' is questioned. It's suggested that 'blackface' impacts have diminished over the years, and that true racism involves more serious repercussions.
  3. Underlying motivations for complaints about these issues may stem from a shallow sense of competition and personal victimhood rather than genuine concerns about injustice.

Good morning, my liege

1258 implied HN points • 15 Mar 23
🎭️ Culture Pets Animal Behavior Personal Stories Daily Life Humor
  1. Some pets seem very smart and almost think like humans. This makes them feel special and like they understand us.
  2. Cats can have strong personalities and are often seen as independent 'kings' or 'queens' in their territory.
  3. Morning routines with pets can be comforting and enjoyable, like having a coffee cuddle with them while relaxing.

Disaffected: Nov 11, 2023

479 implied HN points • 15 Nov 23
🇺🇸 U.S. Politics Policy Crime Social Issues Public Safety Media
  1. A recent podcast discussed a manifesto from a school shooter, highlighting troubling thoughts expressed in it.
  2. In Burlington, Vermont, there's a rise in visible homelessness and crime, but the city is choosing to spend on PR instead of real safety measures.
  3. There was a concerning incident where a mother filmed herself naked with her children, promoting a controversial message about gender identity.

Musical interlude

759 implied HN points • 28 Jul 23
🎶 Music Music theory Music history Genres Cultural influence
  1. Songs can have hidden meanings that you might not notice when you're younger. Even if the lyrics sound clean, they might carry deeper, unexpected themes.
  2. Harmonies in music can create strong emotional reactions. Perfect musical intervals can bring joy and even make people feel overcome with emotion.
  3. Music connects us to memories and experiences, like family moments or simple past joys. It can remind us of good times that may seem lost now.

Can you feel it?

1199 implied HN points • 24 Mar 23
🎭️ Culture Mental health Social Issues Personal narratives Community Psychology
  1. Many people feel like something big is about to happen. It's a shared feeling among those who come from troubled family backgrounds.
  2. If you're feeling overwhelmed or crazy about society, you're not alone. A lot of others are feeling the same way.
  3. It's important to recognize that these feelings do not mean you're not sane. It's a normal response to the craziness happening around us.

A thank you to supporters

439 implied HN points • 26 Nov 23
🏥 Health & Wellness Mental health Consulting Narcissism
  1. Thanks to supporters, there are special consulting rates available for returning clients and Disaffected supporters. You can get a lower price if you're a supporter or returning client.
  2. Consultation focuses on issues like family dynamics or workplace mistreatment. The consultant aims to help people think through their choices and improve their situations.
  3. If someone can't afford the rates, they are encouraged to reach out for a personalized pricing option. The consultant is willing to work with individuals facing financial challenges.

"You're too angry---you only drive people away"

1278 implied HN points • 22 Feb 23
🇺🇸 U.S. Politics Social Issues Public Discourse Activism Communication styles
  1. Being angry can push others away. It's important to find ways to express feelings without isolating yourself.
  2. Understanding the impact of your anger can help improve relationships. Listening and having calm conversations can create stronger connections.
  3. Recognizing when to step back is key. Sometimes, taking a break from discussing tough topics can be helpful.

Things that won't work on me

1119 implied HN points • 04 Apr 23
🎭️ Culture Feminism Gender Issues Social Commentary Political Discourse Identity politics
  1. False claims made by some feminists about harassment are seen as untrustworthy and deceitful.
  2. There is frustration with demands for detailed explanations about how to address cultural issues, feeling that it's a waste of time.
  3. Suggestions to tone down anger or criticism are rejected, as the focus is on holding others accountable rather than trying to convince them.

Environ-Mental!

719 implied HN points • 30 Jul 23
😂 Humor Social Commentary Environmental Issues Cultural critique Everyday life
  1. Some extreme environmentalists want to take drastic actions, like shutting down airports and banning wood burning, claiming it's for future generations.
  2. There is a mention of frustrations in everyday scenarios, like dealing with angry employees at Dunkin Donuts.
  3. Traffic behavior is highlighted, showing how many drivers ignore rules, leading to chaos on the roads.

Re-post: A Goodbye Love Letter to Madonna Ciccone

1478 implied HN points • 31 Dec 22
🎭️ Culture Pop culture Celebrity Music Feminism Identity Mental health
  1. Madonna has always stood out for her bold and sexual persona, challenging societal norms and expectations for women. This often led to criticism, especially from other women who were jealous or saw her as a threat to feminist ideals.
  2. The personal struggles and traumas she faced growing up shaped her identity and art, revealing a complex character with deep insecurities. Her experiences resonate with many, especially those who relate to her feelings of abandonment and longing for love.
  3. As Madonna ages, her performances have shifted, revealing a sense of vulnerability and loss of the strong icon she once was. This change highlights the emotional challenges of growing older in the spotlight, leaving fans wishing for a more empowered version of her.

Disaffected on SATURDAY now!

539 implied HN points • 07 Oct 23
🎙 Podcasts Media Culture Current Events Interviews Social Issues
  1. The show 'Disaffected' is now airing on Saturdays at 8 pm Eastern Time on Rumble.
  2. They will revisit a previous story about job statistics to clarify errors made by Bloomberg News.
  3. The episode will feature Broadway veteran Clifton Duncan discussing his experience during Covid and recent events involving social justice activists.

Rudeness has consequences

1039 implied HN points • 19 Apr 23
🎭️ Culture Social Behavior Communication Publishing Community Standards
  1. Rudeness can lead to real consequences. It’s important to treat others with respect, or there may be penalties.
  2. The author has decided to limit communication to only paying subscribers due to rude comments from some free subscribers.
  3. Polite requests for help are always welcome, but persistent rudeness will result in being blocked from contacting.

Is everything racist? A book recommendation

899 implied HN points • 30 May 23
🇺🇸 U.S. Politics Race Issues Meritocracy Wokeness Cultural critique
  1. The book 'When Race Trumps Merit' by Heather MacDonald discusses how feelings about race impact various aspects of society. It argues that these emotions are hurting our institutions and relationships.
  2. MacDonald points out that classical music is currently facing challenges because of politically charged decisions. Some believe they need to change the way they operate to survive.
  3. The issues raised in the book extend beyond music to areas like medicine and science, showing how extreme views can disrupt many important fields. It's an eye-opening look at a serious problem.

What you are, you have to be

1298 implied HN points • 07 Feb 23
🎶 Music Pop Culture Mental health Family Dynamics Narcissism
  1. The lack of love and acceptance in childhood can deeply affect people's emotional health and relationships as adults. People can often seek out partners that remind them of this unfulfilled need for love.
  2. When you fall for someone who is a narcissist, it often feels exciting at first, but it can lead to pain because they cannot truly love you back. It’s important to recognize this dynamic and understand your own worth.
  3. To live a fulfilling life, you have to embrace who you truly are. Trying to please someone who doesn’t see you as a whole person can lead to self-disrespect and unhappiness.

Mornings with his Majesty

899 implied HN points • 26 May 23
🎭️ Culture Pets Lifestyle Arts Humor Personal
  1. Mornings are special times, often enjoyed with a hot cup of coffee. They can be a great way to start the day peacefully.
  2. Cats can have unique personalities, and some seem to have a strong awareness of their surroundings. It's fun to watch how they behave and interact with their environment.
  3. Having a pet can bring joy and companionship, making mornings feel more lively and interesting. Spending time with them can create cherished moments.

The first mistake when you wake up to Cluster B

1119 implied HN points • 21 Mar 23
🏥 Health & Wellness Mental health Personal Development Psychology Family Dynamics Emotional Well-being
  1. It can be hard to recognize when someone has a Cluster B personality disorder. Often, the person themselves doesn't see anything wrong and believes others are the problem.
  2. When dealing with someone who has a Cluster B disorder, being honest about your feelings may backfire. They are unlikely to accept criticism and could react negatively.
  3. Setting firm boundaries is important when you're dealing with difficult relationships. Sometimes, taking strong action is necessary to protect your own well-being.

Mental bric-a-brac

919 implied HN points • 17 May 23
🎭️ Culture Social justice Film analysis Childhood Trauma Cooking tips Entertainment
  1. Some people become social justice advocates because of childhood trauma. They may have taken on adult responsibilities too early, which can shape their views later in life.
  2. Logarithmic scales can be stressful because they keep increasing, making them feel out of control and overwhelming.
  3. Boiling water is a great way to clean cast-iron cookware. It helps remove stuck-on food easily, just like when making a sauce.

Culture Wars Are not For Sissies

1159 implied HN points • 07 Mar 23
🇺🇸 U.S. Politics Culture Wars Media influence Legislation Identity politics Public Discourse
  1. There is a belief that we are in a serious cultural conflict, not just a disagreement, and the left seems to control most of the media, spreading misinformation.
  2. Laws are being proposed that some believe would allow harmful medical treatments for children, sparking heated debate about child safety and rights.
  3. Some people think that a softer approach to these issues isn't working anymore, and there is a call for more direct and strong action to address the perceived dangers.

Be TERRIFIED RIGHT NOW DAMN YOU

1358 implied HN points • 12 Jan 23
🇺🇸 U.S. Politics Political theory Political Commentary Media influence Public Perception Policy Debate
  1. Some people want you to feel scared like they do, or else they might react negatively towards you. It's more about their emotions than actual danger.
  2. Genuinely scared people usually seek relief from their fears, while 'scared' people may be using their fear to manipulate others.
  3. Recent fears, like about gas stoves, often come from media hype rather than real, observed problems, suggesting we're becoming overly reliant on studies to form our opinions.

A Disturbing Lack of Faith

659 implied HN points • 06 Aug 23
🇺🇸 U.S. Politics Political Commentary Legal issues Mental health Cultural critique
  1. The legal actions against Trump are seen as extreme and unfair, based on opinions rather than real crimes.
  2. Sinéad O'Connor's passing highlights the struggles of those with Borderline Personality Disorder, showing the dual nature of her life as both a victim and a strong figure.
  3. Recent cultural events reflect tensions around gender and identity, with some individuals pushing back against current norms in schools and policing.

Use phone manners or I don't answer your calls

999 implied HN points • 19 Apr 23
🎭️ Culture Communication Social norms Technology Etiquette
  1. Always identify yourself when making a call. Just saying 'Is Josh there?' without your name is rude.
  2. Check if it's okay to use speakerphone before you start talking. It can make your call harder to hear, and the other person might not want private conversations overheard.
  3. Ask if the other person can hear you well after connecting your headphones. It's important to make sure they can understand you clearly.

Find out

1179 implied HN points • 22 Feb 23
🎭️ Culture Media Society Communication Personal Growth Online Communities
  1. Set clear boundaries in communication. It's important to let others know what is acceptable and what isn't.
  2. Emotional manipulation will not be tolerated. It's crucial to stand your ground against such behavior.
  3. Be firm and direct when addressing issues. A straightforward approach helps maintain respect and integrity.

Trans Day of Invincibility

1039 implied HN points • 03 Apr 23
🇺🇸 U.S. Politics LGBTQ Rights Gun Violence Media influence Social movements Public Safety
  1. A tragic incident occurred where a person identified as transgender committed a violent act, leading to a discussion about media portrayal of transgender individuals as victims.
  2. There were protests against a speaker advocating for women's rights, highlighting tensions around free speech related to gender issues.
  3. There are concerns about the growing influence of extreme views within the transgender movement and the support it gets from media and government.

Matt Walsh Speaks For Me

1179 implied HN points • 22 Feb 23
🇺🇸 U.S. Politics Conservatism Social Issues Public Discourse Media influence Cultural Commentary
  1. People find strong support in voices like Matt Walsh's. His message resonates deeply with those who feel disconnected from mainstream views.
  2. Many believe that there are significant moral issues that need attention, and they appreciate outspoken advocates for their beliefs.
  3. Readers are encouraged to engage further by subscribing to platforms that share similar views, indicating a desire for community and support.

Did you see her or not?

559 implied HN points • 07 Sep 23
🎙 Podcasts Film analysis Audio Content
  1. The 1970s was a special time for horror films, marked by classics like Rosemary's Baby and The Shining. These movies tackled serious themes, like domestic abuse and mental health issues.
  2. Demonic possession and hauntings in these films served as metaphors for deeper personal struggles. They offered insights into complex characters and their emotional challenges.
  3. Listeners can enjoy a podcast episode discussing these themes in detail. It's available on popular podcast platforms, with a fun twist about not upsetting Pazuzu!

Now, smol kitty

1079 implied HN points • 16 Mar 23
🎭️ Culture Pets Narrative Companionship Personal Stories
  1. Mina is a small cat who was adopted and had a tough start in life, being the smallest of her litter. She really depends on her new owner for love and support.
  2. Mina is very affectionate and trusts her owner completely, unlike how she is with others who take time to warm up to her.
  3. Mina and her big brother Shredder have a playful relationship, often chasing each other and cuddling together after their fun times.

As Long as You Criticize Republicans Too. . .

1099 implied HN points • 09 Mar 23
🇺🇸 U.S. Politics Political Commentary Political Ideologies Political parties Social Issues Public Policy
  1. Some people believe that focusing on the harm done to children is more important than criticizing other political parties. They argue that not all politicians deserve respect if they support harmful policies.
  2. There is a growing frustration with certain political groups, especially when their priorities seem out of touch with serious issues like child safety.
  3. It's important to recognize that people can become so loyal to a party that they overlook harmful actions, making it hard to have constructive conversations about critical social issues.

Welcome, and thank you

639 implied HN points • 28 Jul 23
🎙 Podcasts Audio Content Commentary Entertainment Media Community
  1. Thank you for subscribing to this Substack. It feels great to know people enjoy the content!
  2. Check out the weekly podcast for more fun stories and commentary. It's available on Rumble and YouTube every Sunday.
  3. Supporting through subscriptions helps with the costs of running the platform. Your support is really appreciated!

Sunday at home with a king

939 implied HN points • 16 Apr 23
🎭️ Culture Pets Lifestyle Rituals Community Humor
  1. The writer has a special morning routine with their cat named Shredder. They share a moment each day over coffee, even if Shredder prefers not to drink it.
  2. Shredder is a 15-year-old cat who weighs 16 pounds, showing that older pets can still have their own little rituals.
  3. Subscribing to the newsletter helps support the care and feeding of Shredder, highlighting the bond between the writer and their pet.

Matt Walsh did nothing wrong

1119 implied HN points • 19 Feb 23
🇺🇸 U.S. Politics Media Social Issues Public Discourse Political Commentary Cultural critique
  1. Matt Walsh is expressing his views about a controversial figure and believes that sharing his honesty is valid and necessary.
  2. He emphasizes the importance of consistency when critiquing others' opinions, urging critics to apply the same standards to him.
  3. The writer stands firm in their belief that their messages are not excessive or unproductive, indicating a commitment to their viewpoint.

Rewritten

699 implied HN points • 02 Jul 23
🇺🇸 U.S. Politics Education & Policy Social justice Activism
  1. Some people believe that modern queer activists are trying to influence children, claiming this openly in videos.
  2. A public figure misrepresented the history of the Stonewall riots, falsely including people who weren't involved.
  3. New laws in California could allow kids to receive mental health treatment without informing their parents, raising concerns about parental rights.

Lol that's so hard lol

1179 implied HN points • 25 Jan 23
🎭️ Culture Society Technology Automobiles Generational Skills
  1. Many people today struggle with basic driving skills because they rely too much on technology. This creates a feeling of helplessness when facing tasks that used to be easy.
  2. Younger generations might not know how to drive manual cars, which used to be normal for everyone. This lack of practice leads to fewer people being skilled at driving altogether.
  3. In many areas of life, we're letting automation take over simple tasks, which makes us less capable of handling challenges when technology fails. Convenience is nice, but it might come at a cost to our abilities.

The Deluge

639 implied HN points • 16 Jul 23
🇺🇸 U.S. Politics Government Society Media Education Public Safety
  1. Vermont is facing serious flooding that is leaving many people without homes, but there are acts of kindness among the chaos. The National Guard is doing a great job helping those in need.
  2. A listener took a stand against an Oregon school board for forcing employees to wear masks and get vaccinated, showing real bravery. This kind of courage can inspire others to speak up too.
  3. There are smartphone games that promote communist ideas in silly ways, like farming. It sounds strange, but it's actually happening and reflects some odd influences in popular culture.