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What is love?

Disaffected Newsletter • 439 implied HN points • 24 Jul 23
🎙 Podcasts Parenting Culture Politics Media Society
  1. Love for children and each other should be real and caring, not just for show. Many people confuse true love with performative acts that are more about themselves.
  2. Parental rights can be complicated and sometimes unfairly taken away, as shown in the case of Ted Hudacko. This raises concerns about the impact of laws on family well-being.
  3. Current events highlight deep issues in society, like discrimination and mismanagement of resources, affecting many people's lives.

Le couple et l’argent : Pourquoi les hommes sont plus riches que les femmes ?

L'Atelier Galita • 339 implied HN points • 20 Oct 23
🏥 Health & Wellness Gender Equality Financial Literacy Relationships Empowerment Parenting
  1. The gender wealth gap can start from childhood with differences in pocket money and how boys and girls are taught to manage money.
  2. Couples often have unequal financial dynamics, with women shouldering more unpaid domestic work and facing financial vulnerabilities during and after relationships.
  3. It's important for women to prioritize financial independence, have open conversations about money, and be aware of economic abuse in relationships.

The Battle of Phoebe & Monica in My Head

The Reclamation Era • 99 implied HN points • 01 Apr 24
🏥 Health & Wellness Mental health Neurodiversity Education Parenting Creativity
  1. Understanding your brain's two modes, creative and task-focused, can help manage ADHD better. It's like needing both the fun and relaxed side and the organized side to get things done.
  2. Being aware of how much time is spent in a relaxed, creative state can help push you into more productive tasks. It’s important to find a balance between daydreaming and doing chores.
  3. Teaching or engaging in hands-on activities can ground you and pull you back into focus when you find yourself lost in thoughts. This balance keeps both parts of your brain working well together.

Spare rooms

quite useless • 314 implied HN points • 04 Sep 23
🎭️ Culture Literature Travel Food & Drink Parenting Music
  1. The author finds glamour in solitude and imagination while living in a spare, retro space.
  2. The town of Lewes, DE offers historical charm, convenience, and good dining options in a small setting.
  3. The author enjoys simple pleasures like turkey sandwiches and interacting with locals at a beachside restaurant.

A vacation diary

Austin Kleon • 1678 implied HN points • 15 Feb 22
🎭️ Culture Travel Parenting Literature Music Arts
  1. Deciding to go on a trip can be tough, especially after staying home for a long time, but exploring new places usually helps you grow. It's important to ask yourself if the experience will make you feel bigger or smaller.
  2. Traveling to new cities can be magical, especially when you get lost in the beauty of the surroundings and the stories found in books that match the setting.
  3. When traveling with kids, it's smart to wake up early and find fun outdoor activities to wear them out before starting the day's adventures. It keeps everyone happy and makes the trip more enjoyable.
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Embrace bewilderment

Austin Kleon • 1258 implied HN points • 10 Jun 22
🎭️ Culture Art Comics Literature Parenting Philosophy Media
  1. It's important to embrace confusion and not just rely on cleverness. Being bewildered can lead to new discoveries.
  2. Reading graphic novels can be a fun way to learn about complex topics. They can explain important ideas in an engaging way.
  3. Using features on social media, like Instagram, can make the experience less overwhelming. Choosing what you see can help you enjoy it more.

Homework every night for the rest of your life

Austin Kleon • 1139 implied HN points • 13 May 22
🎭️ Culture Literature Art Creativity Parenting Education
  1. Being a writer means doing homework every night, but that's not always a bad thing. It keeps you engaged and always learning.
  2. Reading and recommending books isn't just about single titles; it's more about seeing how they connect. Understanding these connections can enhance your reading experience.
  3. Having hobbies, like gardening or walking, can bring joy and creativity to your life. They can also inspire your work in surprising ways.

cool story, dad

moontower: a stoner dad explains options trading to his kids • 117 implied HN points • 11 Feb 24
🚌 Education Parenting Mathematics Investing Personal Growth Learning
  1. Kids often learn from their parents through modeling and osmosis rather than direct instruction.
  2. Teaching someone else's child may sometimes be more effective in imparting knowledge and lessons.
  3. Finding learning moments in everyday activities or tailored to a child's interests can help them grasp concepts effectively and make the lessons their own.

Learn from my mistakes

Disaffected Newsletter • 699 implied HN points • 06 Dec 22
🏥 Health & Wellness Mental health Personal Growth Therapy Relationships Parenting
  1. People with emotional challenges can manipulate others, sometimes unintentionally. It's important to recognize these patterns to protect yourself and others.
  2. Helping others out of sympathy might make you vulnerable to emotional abuse. It's okay to set boundaries and prioritize your well-being.
  3. Suffering is a part of life and can teach valuable lessons. It's important to be aware of your own triggers and motivations in relationships.

How Your Mindset Determines Your Course

Perspectives • 10 implied HN points • 19 Dec 24
🚌 Education Mindset Learning Growth Parenting Motivation
  1. Your mindset can shape your experiences and outcomes. Believing that you can learn and improve helps you tackle challenges better.
  2. Praising effort, rather than innate intelligence, encourages persistence and a love for learning in kids. It's better to focus on hard work rather than just being 'smart.'
  3. Changing how you view your abilities is key. When you stop seeing things as fixed and treat them as skills to develop, you open up more opportunities to grow.

School is Uncool: The Good & Bad of a Formal Education

The Hard Fork by Marvin Liao • 216 implied HN points • 12 Jul 23
🚌 Education Schooling Learning Parenting
  1. Children start with wild creativity and courage but often conform as they grow older due to social pressures.
  2. To succeed, it's important to be authentic, think independently, and stand out from the crowd.
  3. Balancing formal education with informal learning is crucial for helping kids develop critical thinking skills and avoid becoming 'cookie-cutter sheeple.'

Safeguarding

Bodies get in the way... • 216 implied HN points • 26 Apr 23
🏥 Health & Wellness Mental health Physical health Women's Health Parenting
  1. Mothers need safeguarding after childbirth to protect their vulnerability and privacy.
  2. De-sexed language and inclusive policies can blur the line and make it challenging to offer safe spaces for women in breastfeeding support groups.
  3. Leaders in breastfeeding support groups may face difficulties balancing inclusive policies with safeguarding women from harassment and unwanted male involvement.

Bad Boundaries

The Reclamation Era • 79 implied HN points • 11 Mar 24
🏥 Health & Wellness Mental health Physical health Parenting Self-care
  1. Many people want to help but struggle to ask for what they really need. It's common to feel guilty about asking for help when everyone has their own problems.
  2. Sometimes, we don't even know what we need because we feel overwhelmed or like we should be independent. This can make it hard to admit that we need support.
  3. There's a fear of overstepping or getting involved in others' lives, so people often hold back from offering specific help. Simple actions, like dropping off a meal, can make a big difference in showing care.

The Secret Language of Asian Tiger Parents

Val's Pals • 117 implied HN points • 17 Jan 24
🎭️ Culture Parenting
  1. The post discusses the experience of being a high-achieving Asian student and the pressure it puts on others.
  2. It highlights the tactics employed by Asian parents to ensure their children succeed.
  3. The importance of strategic secrecy and withholding information to maintain a competitive edge is emphasized.

Sentinels

Wars Of Future Past • 196 implied HN points • 30 Jun 23
🎭️ Culture Cartoons Parenting Technology Future Sci-fi
  1. The X-Men cartoon serves as a helpful tool for new parents by being engaging yet not too captivating during caregiving routines.
  2. The mutant allegory in the X-Men cartoon effectively conveys themes of intolerance and discrimination that resonate with various real-life issues.
  3. The Sentinels in the X-Men cartoon symbolize the dangers of near-future technology and the potential threats of automated military machines.

[Updated] 'Speaking of Mothers' - a superb piece of writing from Sarah Henderson.

A B’Old Woman • 179 implied HN points • 27 Oct 23
🎭️ Culture Language Identity Gender Society Parenting
  1. The word 'mother' has a deep and lasting meaning in many cultures. People feel strongly that this word should not be replaced with terms like 'birthing parent'.
  2. Society is moving away from using the word 'mother', which some believe is a troubling trend. It raises concerns about losing connection to important social roles.
  3. The importance of language in shaping our understanding of relationships and identity is highlighted. Words like 'mother' help create feelings of connection and belonging.

When things don't go according to plan... find your Calm. Find your victories. Celebrate them.

🔮 Crafting Tech Teams • 39 implied HN points • 28 Apr 24
🏥 Health & Wellness Mental health Self-care Parenting
  1. In times of difficulty, it's important to find moments of calm and victories to celebrate.
  2. Acknowledging and celebrating milestones, progress, and community support can provide encouragement and motivation.
  3. Despite facing challenges, reflecting on positive aspects like newsletter anniversaries, client progress, community growth, and successful book clubs can help maintain perspective and resilience.

The Sound of (Grade School) Music

Fireside Chat Logs • 99 implied HN points • 21 Dec 23
🎭️ Culture Music Education Parenting
  1. Attending your child's grade school concert can be a heartwarming and rewarding experience, showcasing their talents and accomplishments.
  2. Grade school concerts often feature a mix of orchestral pieces and choir performances, highlighting the joy and enthusiasm of young performers.
  3. Encouraging and supporting children's involvement in music can lead to exciting opportunities for them to explore their talents and passion.

Links to Consider

In My Tribe • 258 implied HN points • 14 Jan 24
🚌 Education Parenting
  1. Emily Oster discusses a reader's second thoughts on parenting.
  2. Lorenzo Warby examines the issue of accountability in democracies.
  3. Dan Williams explores the dynamics of human cooperation and social networks.

How men can be invaluable at the dance

Of Boys and Men • 125 implied HN points • 08 Mar 24
🏥 Health & Wellness Relationships Mental health Gender Equality Parenting
  1. Relational skills are crucial for men in today's society, more than physical courage.
  2. In modern marriages, more egalitarian relationships require higher relational skills for negotiation and emotional intimacy.
  3. Developing relational skills is essential for men not just in personal relationships but also in the workplace where jobs are increasingly requiring social interaction.

The principles of patience

Austin Kleon • 759 implied HN points • 05 Nov 21
🎭️ Culture Philosophy Art Music Parenting Media
  1. Patience is important and can help us deal with challenges in life. Taking the time to be patient can lead to better outcomes.
  2. The spirit of punk goes beyond just music; it's about having a mindset of rebellion and creativity. It's a way of living that values authenticity.
  3. Engaging in philosophical experiments can help us reflect on everyday life. These exercises encourage us to think deeply and expand our perspectives.

Why I'm Working Three Days A Week | #257

Boundless by Paul Millerd • 118 implied HN points • 17 Feb 24
🏥 Health & Wellness Wellness Parenting Work-life balance Self-care Family
  1. Working a 3-day week can be fulfilling and productive, even when balancing full-time childcare.
  2. Experimenting with unconventional work structures can lead to unexpected growth and satisfaction.
  3. Prioritizing personal values and creativity over traditional work models can lead to a more rewarding and fulfilling life.

Links to Consider, 2/13

In My Tribe • 182 implied HN points • 13 Feb 24
🚌 Education Beliefs Institutions Parenting Schools Reform
  1. Individuals may prioritize social rewards over truth in belief adoption, leading to collective delusions. It's hard to overcome irrationality at the individual or group level, so focusing on institutional change is crucial.
  2. There is a pattern in how some view different races, depicted by Coleman Hughes in his book. This mirrors the concept of the Moral Dyad, simplifying moral situations to assign feelings or agency.
  3. Challenges in education include the negative impact of excessive parental spending on education. To promote equality, the idea of a luxury estate tax on high-tuition schools was proposed years ago and still holds potential.

Queen of the Castle

The Reclamation Era • 59 implied HN points • 15 Jan 24
🎭️ Culture Women Identity Parenting Art Personal Growth
  1. Embracing the 'queen archetype' represents a powerful phase for women in midlife, encouraging autonomy and self-empowerment. It's a time to recognize one's strength and wisdom.
  2. The transition from the traditional phases of womanhood—maiden, mother, crone—adds a new title: the 'queen', signifying a vibrant and active role during this life stage.
  3. Choosing a personal word for the year, like 'sovereignty', helps set intentions to reclaim one's life and prioritize personal voice and authority in decision-making.

Is the Future Analog?

The Analog Family • 179 implied HN points • 03 May 23
🎭️ Culture Lifestyle Education Parenting Technology Mental health Social Trends
  1. After the pandemic, many people realized they prefer face-to-face interactions over digital ones. It showed us how important real-world connections are in our lives.
  2. There is a growing need to value 'analog' activities, like going outside and spending time with family, instead of relying on screens. Simple joys can bring happiness, especially after being stuck on devices for so long.
  3. Parents play a key role in guiding children away from screens. It's important to encourage kids to enjoy outdoor activities and connect with others without devices, helping them learn to live without relying on technology.

Friday Q&A: binge eating; probiotics; talking to teen boys about food; & the Mediterranean diet

Are You Okay? • 99 implied HN points • 14 Apr 23
🏥 Health & Wellness Nutrition Mental health Gut Health Parenting General Health
  1. Identify triggers for binge or restrict urges, practice mindfulness, distract yourself, practice self-compassion, seek professional help if needed
  2. Consider consuming more probiotics like yogurt, kefir, kombucha, feed your microbes with prebiotics, avoid antibiotics, reduce processed foods and sugar intake
  3. Approach conversations with teens about food and body image with sensitivity and empathy, focus on health not weight, choose the right time and place to discuss, lead with curiosity, offer support and resources