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Musicking

Dada Drummer Almanach • 264 implied HN points • 13 Feb 24
🎶 Music Performance Listening Community Relationships
  1. Musicians need to adapt to different performance spaces and adjust their habits accordingly, even if they were formed early in their careers.
  2. Performers should listen to the space they're in and consider how their music is being experienced by the audience, especially in various venue settings.
  3. Music is not just about playing notes; it's about creating relationships and connections with the audience and other musicians through listening and gestures.

A Playlist for a Blue Valentine

SBJournal • 275 implied HN points • 08 Feb 24
🎶 Music Playlist Love Relationships Emotions Music history
  1. The playlist is inspired by stages of love, from infatuation to contempt, and finally to picking yourself up again.
  2. Each stage is paired with a song that captures the emotions and experiences of that particular phase of a relationship.
  3. The author draws on personal experiences and literary references to create a deeply emotional and relatable playlist for a Blue Valentine.

Related by marriage.

Soaring Twenties • 170 implied HN points • 28 Feb 24
🎭️ Culture Family Humor Relationships Stories
  1. The writer reflects on the humor and dynamics of being related by marriage to an unconventional and fun-loving family.
  2. Despite differences in lifestyle, the writer appreciates the tight-knit, unpretentious support network of their in-laws' family.
  3. The story highlights how relationships formed through marriage can bring unexpected, amusing, and enriching experiences.

How men can be invaluable at the dance

Of Boys and Men • 125 implied HN points • 08 Mar 24
🏥 Health & Wellness Relationships Mental health Gender Equality Parenting
  1. Relational skills are crucial for men in today's society, more than physical courage.
  2. In modern marriages, more egalitarian relationships require higher relational skills for negotiation and emotional intimacy.
  3. Developing relational skills is essential for men not just in personal relationships but also in the workplace where jobs are increasingly requiring social interaction.

Opposites Attract

The Ruffian • 221 implied HN points • 03 Feb 24
🇺🇸 U.S. Politics Gender divide Public Discourse Relationships
  1. There is a growing gender divide in politics with young women leaning more liberal and young men staying more conservative.
  2. Having different political views in relationships can lead to more interesting discussions and better critical thinking.
  3. The trend of a political rift between genders may actually lead to a more profound form of dialogue and connection, promoting viewpoint diversity.

Why We Don't Trust Each Other Anymore

Kyla’s Newsletter • 154 implied HN points • 22 Feb 24
🏥 Health & Wellness Mental health Community Emotions Identity Relationships
  1. Language plays a significant role in shaping reality and impacting how we understand the economy and each other, ultimately affecting trust.
  2. The disconnect between words and concepts, especially concerning economic terms, can lead to confusion and misinterpretation in society.
  3. The overuse of technology, social media, and the attention economy, alongside the lack of genuine human interaction, contributes to a sense of loneliness, isolation, and decreasing trust within communities.

Interracial Dating Paper FAQ

sebjenseb • 196 implied HN points • 10 Feb 24
🔬 Science Research Genetics Data Analysis Psychology Relationships
  1. Assortative mating occurs between races, with individuals who date outside their race being more similar to each other in terms of intelligence, height, and risk-taking behaviors.
  2. Current literature suggests that interracial relationships may have a higher likelihood of ending or experiencing domestic violence issues, and mixed-race children might be more prone to mental/behavioral problems, possibly due to self-selection rather than social factors.
  3. Attractiveness was a weak predictor of interracial dating across all races, indicating that mate value or race exchanges based on mate value were not significant factors in interracial dating.

Help! Should I Date Another Ex-Jehovah's Witness?

Xavi Benjamin • 39 implied HN points • 05 Apr 24
⛪ Faith & Spirituality Advice Experiences Relationships Support Community
  1. Consider dating both ex-JWs and those with no experience in high control religions to find what feels right for you.
  2. Dating someone with a similar religious background can bring healing through understanding shared trauma.
  3. When choosing a partner, consider factors like how you feel around them, shared values, and whether they respect your boundaries and support you.

A meditation on love

Men Yell at Me • 156 implied HN points • 11 Feb 24
⛪ Faith & Spirituality Love Relationships
  1. The author reflects on the nuances of love and relationships, finding beauty in seeking love and happiness, especially after a divorce.
  2. The author shares personal experiences about friendships flourishing post-divorce, highlighting the freedom and joy of unrestricted friendships.
  3. Celebrations of love are seen as wonderful occasions, contrasting the realities of divorce and the evolving dynamics in friendships and relationships.

Attached.

Finding Joy • 176 implied HN points • 03 Feb 24
🏥 Health & Wellness Mental health Relationships Therapy Self-awareness
  1. Neuroplasticity influences our relationships by shaping our attachment patterns from early experiences.
  2. Understanding your attachment style can help navigate relationships and develop self-awareness.
  3. Attachment styles are not fixed and can be modified through corrective experiences and forming new mental pathways.

Learning how to ask for more

Men Yell at Me • 221 implied HN points • 17 Jan 24
🏥 Health & Wellness Sexuality Motherhood Relationships Self-discovery Empowerment
  1. Learning how to ask for more in relationships is important for personal growth and fulfillment.
  2. It can be empowering for women to challenge societal norms and ask for more in their lives.
  3. Exploring and understanding one's needs and desires can lead to healthier and more satisfying experiences, especially in intimate relationships.

Tell Me Something Good 

My Sweet Dumb Brain • 1493 implied HN points • 07 Mar 23
🏥 Health & Wellness Mental health Gratitude Relationships Positive thinking Self-care
  1. Creating a nightly routine of sharing something good can help rewire your brain to focus on the positive.
  2. Even in challenging times, finding and sharing a bright moment before bed can bring joy and connection.
  3. Prioritizing moments of positivity with loved ones can offer respite from the overwhelming negativity of the world.

Sexy Trads

Becoming Noble • 1475 implied HN points • 06 Apr 23
🎭️ Culture Tradition Masculinity Fashion Relationships
  1. Embrace the concept of being a 'Sexy Trad' - align faith and masculinity, reject outdated stereotypes, and embody virtues like courage and devotion.
  2. Focus on living out traditional values rather than just preaching them - strive to strengthen faith through beauty, discipline, and reverence.
  3. Build a strong and virtuous relationship by offering a seductive alternative to modern dating norms, maintaining discipline, and embodying qualities like strength and seductiveness.

Abolish Valentine's Day

Slack Tide by Matt Labash • 123 implied HN points • 13 Feb 24
🎭️ Culture Opinion Relationships Satire Humor
  1. The author disapproves of Valentine's Day and believes it is a commercialized holiday that should be abolished.
  2. The author expresses love for various things and people, sharing personal opinions and humor in their writing.
  3. The subscription-based content discusses the author's perspectives on love, humor, and rejecting societal expectations related to Valentine's Day.

Katherine Goldstein on how to make friends as an adult

Evil Witches Newsletter • 1041 implied HN points • 07 Jul 23
🏥 Health & Wellness Friendship Alcohol Time management Parenting Relationships
  1. Making friends as an adult can be challenging, especially after significant life changes.
  2. Factors like changing relationship with alcohol, lack of time for social activities, and difficulty connecting at kid-focused events can impact adult friendships.
  3. Tips for building friendships include staying in touch, setting reasonable goals, and embracing vulnerability.

complementary

Mind Mud • 1316 implied HN points • 20 Feb 23
🎭️ Culture Gender Society Film Relationships
  1. Men and women tend to relate to movies differently: women identify with characters to experience catharsis while men are inspired by strong characters for self-improvement.
  2. Women are more focused on beauty and reducing suffering, while men are driven by problem-solving and power.
  3. Femininity embraces its ambiguity, allowing women to define their own paths and success beyond traditional archetypes.