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Bring Back Meeting In Real Life

Many Such Cases • 3876 implied HN points • 30 May 24
🎭️ Culture Dating Social norms Technology Communication Relationships
  1. Meeting people in real life is important for dating. We should go back to how relationships used to form through friends and social gatherings.
  2. Technology has made dating complicated. We often get overwhelmed by online options and forget to connect with people around us.
  3. It's time to face our fears about dating. We need to be more open and willing to talk to others, even if it feels uncomfortable at first.

The hardest thing about adulthood

Residual Thoughts • 99 implied HN points • 18 Oct 24
🎭️ Culture Personal Growth Career Choices Relationships Life philosophy Self-reflection
  1. As adults, it's often harder to know what we truly want rather than just getting it. This can lead to feelings of being lost or unsure about our life direction.
  2. Many people struggle to balance prestige and lifestyle when choosing a career. It can be tough to figure out what matters more to you.
  3. One way to deal with uncertainty is to understand yourself better through reflection. Alternatively, you can choose something and fully commit to it, which might lead to more fulfillment.

tension and flow

bookbear express • 1293 implied HN points • 04 Nov 24
🎭️ Culture Literature Art Relationships Writing
  1. Flirting involves creating tension, like a fun game where you keep others engaged. People often enjoy the moments of connection it brings, even if there's no romantic intent.
  2. Writing and relationships both require an ongoing balance of tension and flow. To keep things interesting, you need to surprise and delight the other person over time.
  3. Staying lively and engaged with the world is important. If you don’t find joy in what you do or share, it can affect how others connect with you.

Dix traits du TDAH

L'Atelier Galita • 59 implied HN points • 20 Oct 24
🏥 Health & Wellness Mental health ADHD Awareness Neurodiversity Self-help Relationships
  1. The book 'Dirty Laundry' explores the dynamic between a person with ADHD and their partner who does not have it. It shows how their different brain types affect their relationship.
  2. The author points out that the neurotypical partner often misunderstands ADHD traits and compares them to their own experiences. This highlights the challenges in understanding each other's perspectives.
  3. It's interesting to note that some behaviors the neurotypical partner attributes to being typical, could actually show characteristics of autism, demonstrating the complexity of neurodiversity.

Found in Translation

Seven Senses • 439 implied HN points • 25 Aug 24
🎭️ Culture Friendship Communication Society Traditions Relationships
  1. Friendship can look very different depending on where you are from. For example, friendships in the US can be more open but less deep than in many European cultures.
  2. The pace of life affects friendships too. In some places, like France, people take their time to enjoy meals and socializing, while in the US, there's often a hurry to get things done.
  3. Cultural norms shape how we see friendships. In some cultures, having a few close friends is valued, while in others, people might have many acquaintances but fewer deep connections.
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Top Quickies of the year: Poly people, Kendrick/Drake, therapy, & more

The Rubesletter by Matt Ruby (of Vooza) | Sent every Tuesday • 213 implied HN points • 03 Jan 25
🎭️ Culture Arts Media Entertainment Lifestyle Relationships
  1. There's a new standup special coming soon on YouTube, and you can join a live Q&A during its premiere.
  2. The post highlights some interesting topics from the past year, including polyamory and popular music.
  3. You can stream the full standup special now for a small fee if you're eager to watch it right away.

Desire Digest 001

Many Such Cases • 1698 implied HN points • 27 Jun 24
🎭️ Culture Sexuality Beauty Social media Relationships Trends
  1. The term 'hawk tuah' became popular online from a viral clip where a woman casually talks about her sexual desires. It shows a fun, carefree attitude towards sexuality, even if it gets commercialized later.
  2. Beauty products are increasingly marketed to signal desire rather than encourage real experiences of intimacy. For example, lip colors are now designed to evoke a feeling of sexiness but might not reflect actual sexual interactions.
  3. Feeld's new feature lets users connect with multiple partners, which aims to embrace non-traditional relationships. However, it raises questions about whether we need more labels when exploring unconventional dynamics.

Just Friends?

Seven Senses • 279 implied HN points • 01 Sep 24
🎭️ Culture Friendship Gender Relationships Personal Growth Social norms
  1. Sexual attraction can complicate friendships between men and women. It's common for friends to wonder if there's potential for more than just friendship, especially when they're single.
  2. Crossing the friendship boundary to a romantic relationship can change things, but it doesn't mean the friendship is ruined. Many people find that their friendships can actually become even more meaningful after a romantic connection.
  3. Cultural and gender expectations often affect male friendships too. Guys might feel pressure to appear strong and independent, which can make it hard for them to express vulnerability and create deeper friendships.

Lessons from Christmas Puzzles

Rethinking Software • 299 implied HN points • 16 Dec 24
🎭️ Culture Lifestyle Hobbies Relationships Mindfulness Creativity
  1. Starting a new task requires laying a good foundation, like sorting puzzle pieces before building the picture. Once you get into it, things start fitting together more smoothly.
  2. It’s important to pause and appreciate your progress. Sometimes you need someone else to help you see how far you’ve come.
  3. When you're tired, take a break. You can solve problems much quicker when your mind is fresh, rather than pushing through fatigue.

#194: On grief and posting through it

Maybe Baby • 1097 implied HN points • 27 Oct 24
🎭️ Culture Grief Social media Communication Mental health Relationships
  1. Grief doesn't have a 'right' way to be expressed. It's okay to feel a mix of emotions and thoughts during this tough time.
  2. Sharing about loved ones on social media can feel awkward, but it also offers a chance for connection and support from friends.
  3. Wanting attention or recognition for your feelings is natural. Seeking out comfort from others can be a healthy part of your grieving process.

The Greatest Love...

Seven Senses • 339 implied HN points • 19 Aug 24
🎭️ Culture Friendship Relationships Society Personal Growth Cultural Commentary
  1. Friendship is really important and can be more lasting than romantic relationships. Friends give us support and joy throughout our lives.
  2. As we grow older, friendships change but can still be very meaningful. We might not spend as much time with friends, but the connections can get deeper with age.
  3. Friendship breakups can be really painful, and it's natural for friendships to move closer or further apart over time. It's okay for relationships to evolve and still hold love.

A Tale from the Friend Zone

Bet On It • 135 implied HN points • 03 Jan 25
🎭️ Culture Relationships Personal Growth Philosophy Life Stories Self-help
  1. Sometimes, people see you as a friend and not a partner, and it's important to accept that. Trying to change their mind often doesn't work.
  2. Many people end up staying friends even when they have feelings for someone, which can lead to regrets later on. It's crucial to recognize when to move on.
  3. Reflecting on past relationships can bring up feelings of regret, especially when we realize things about people we once cared for. It's a part of life.

Dingus of the week: Thanksdingus

Men Yell at Me • 363 implied HN points • 29 Nov 24
😂 Humor Comedy Satire Thanksgiving Relationships Social Commentary
  1. During family gatherings, some people like to insult kids or teens, thinking it makes them look better. It's just mean and unnecessary.
  2. It's not okay to show up empty-handed at Thanksgiving and then brag about not bringing anything. Everyone should contribute somehow.
  3. People shouldn't talk about calories or criticize food that others enjoy during a holiday meal. It's rude to ruin the fun for everyone else.

Reimagining Life with Friendship at the Center

Culture Study • 7245 implied HN points • 14 Feb 24
🎭️ Culture Friendship Relationships History Society Social norms
  1. Friendship used to be considered a vital part of life through history, becoming sidelined as marriage took priority in emotional connections.
  2. Modern ideals often emphasize a spouse also being a 'best friend', impacting how friendships are valued and maintained.
  3. Cultural norms and societal structures make it challenging to prioritize and nurture friendships over traditional family setups, but it's about understanding the possibilities and taking steps towards meaningful platonic connections.

the last time you fell in love

bookbear express • 324 implied HN points • 17 Nov 24
🎭️ Culture Relationships Identity Emotions Youth Personal Stories
  1. Falling in love can come from deep connections made over time, even in digital spaces, like sharing moments through gaming and conversations. It shows that love can build slowly, in unexpected ways.
  2. Love can also be influenced by past relationships; sometimes, a new connection can bring joy and healing after a toxic experience. It's important to recognize the good things someone gives you without expecting anything in return.
  3. Friendship can sometimes be a beautiful foundation for love, but it can also make things complicated if feelings aren't fully mutual. It's okay to cherish the memories while growing apart.

The Monthly Salon: November

The Abbey of Misrule • 309 implied HN points • 30 Nov 24
🎭️ Culture Social media Mental health Relationships Youth culture
  1. Social media can be harmful, especially to young girls. It often preys on their insecurities and can lead to feelings of anxiety and shame.
  2. Many people feel a sense of disconnection in modern life, creating a desire to find deeper meaning and connections. This could lead to a spiritual revival among younger generations.
  3. There's a push for community and personal limits in response to the pressures of technology. People are looking to reclaim love and meaningful relationships in a world dominated by social media.

Ask Erik Hoel: "If I take a job at Meta, should I go long-distance with my girlfriend?"

The Intrinsic Perspective • 5983 implied HN points • 05 Mar 24
⛪ Faith & Spirituality Life Balance Relationships
  1. Every era has its unique cultural norms that influence our life decisions; understanding and counterbalancing these norms can help in making personal choices.
  2. Choosing the less common path or the one opposite to what culture pushes may lead to personal growth and success, even if it feels challenging at first.
  3. Maintaining a balance between love and career decisions often involves navigating societal biases and personal priorities, requiring thoughtful introspection and contrarian thinking.

Is Your Marriage Stressing You Out?

Ladyparts • 1837 implied HN points • 18 Apr 24
🏥 Health & Wellness Marriage Stress Relationships
  1. Researchers found that in married couples where one did not feel supported by the spouse, stress hormone cortisol was present in their saliva
  2. Feeling supported, seen, heard, and loved by your spouse can help reduce chronic stress
  3. The impact of lack of spousal support on mental health can lead individuals to seek help from professionals like psychiatrists

How to Apologize

Remarkable People • 379 implied HN points • 24 Jul 24
🚌 Education Personal Development Communication Skills Leadership Psychology Relationships
  1. A good apology has three key parts: saying 'I'm sorry', taking responsibility for what you did, and showing that you understand the hurt it caused.
  2. People often struggle to apologize because they think it makes them look weak, but admitting mistakes can actually make you stronger and more respected.
  3. Effective apologies should be followed up with actions to prevent the same mistakes, make amends, and ask for feedback to improve.

Kintsugi: The Art of Mending

Polymathic Being • 80 implied HN points • 15 Dec 24
📖 Philosophy Cognitive Bias Relationships Cultural Insights
  1. Kintsugi is a Japanese art of mending broken things with gold, which symbolizes that beauty can come from flaws and imperfections. It teaches us that just because something is broken doesn't mean it's worthless.
  2. This concept can be applied to relationships, where misunderstandings or conflicts can lead to fractures. By acknowledging and repairing these issues together, relationships can become even more valuable.
  3. To apply Kintsugi in relationships, you need to be open to understanding your biases, carefully listen to others, and work towards forgiveness and growth. It's a process that requires ongoing effort and care.

kitten corner: dr strangekitten

bad cattitude • 213 implied HN points • 27 Nov 24
🎭️ Culture Philosophy Personal Growth Political Views Society Relationships
  1. People often feel happier when they focus on their families and friends instead of politics. Building personal connections seems to bring joy.
  2. Wanting to live life without too much government influence is common, and it can feel good to embrace that idea.
  3. Sometimes, recognizing that a change in perspective can improve your feelings about life is important. It's interesting how love and beliefs can mix in surprising ways.

America’s Families Are Not Okay

Persuasion • 2692 implied HN points • 26 Jan 24
🏥 Health & Wellness Relationships Family Psychology Therapy Mental health
  1. Family estrangement is becoming more common in the United States, with societal shifts and individual empowerment contributing to the trend.
  2. The impact of estrangement on both parents and adult children can lead to deep sadness, embarrassment, and longing for familial connection.
  3. While family estrangement may seem like a socially endorsed choice, it carries a heavy emotional toll, spreading through generations and leaving individuals feeling lonely and anchorless.

honesty is a craft issue: lyz lenz in conversation with jeanna kadlec

astrology for writers • 2515 implied HN points • 04 Feb 24
🏥 Health & Wellness Mental health Relationships Self-Improvement Parenting Personal Growth
  1. Honesty in writing is crucial for crafting a compelling narrative and connecting with readers.
  2. Sharing personal stories and experiences can empower others to make positive changes in their lives.
  3. Being honest with oneself can lead to self-awareness, growth, and the ability to make necessary changes.

The virtue and private sorrow of Boomer Man

Jeff Giesea • 698 implied HN points • 01 Jul 24
🎭️ Culture Social Commentary Identity Psychology Relationships
  1. Boomer Man is friendly and kind, often going out of his way to help others and engage in small talk. He represents a generation that values community and social connection.
  2. Despite his genial exterior, Boomer Man struggles with deeper feelings of sorrow and questions about his legacy. He grapples with issues of mortality and relevance in today's fast-changing world.
  3. Though some may see him as outdated, Boomer Man still plays an important role in society, offering wisdom and support to the younger generations. His experiences and contributions matter now more than ever.