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When Ghosting Is Right

Disaffected Newsletter • 1698 implied HN points • 12 Feb 24
🏥 Health & Wellness Mental health Emotional Support Relationships Self-care
  1. Sometimes, ghosting someone can protect your safety, especially if they are harmful or toxic. It’s okay to stop communication if it's necessary for your well-being.
  2. Not everyone acts like a normal person; some people can be manipulative or cruel. Being aware of these types can help you decide when to distance yourself.
  3. You shouldn't feel guilty about ghosting. It's important to trust your instincts and know when it's better to quietly back away from a relationship.

The power of having the same teacher again

Granted • 3234 implied HN points • 31 Oct 23
🚌 Education Reforms Research Policy Implementation Relationships
  1. Looping, which involves keeping students with the same teacher for multiple years, has shown to have benefits like increased test scores, attendance, and decreased disciplinary incidents.
  2. Small effect sizes in looping studies may have practical significance when aggregated across many students; looping could have stronger effects on attitudes and behaviors than standardized test scores.
  3. When considering looping in education, it's important to address concerns such as potential teacher burnout, unintended consequences, and the misattribution of successful educational practices in other countries to looping.

the last time you fell in love

bookbear express • 324 implied HN points • 17 Nov 24
🎭️ Culture Relationships Identity Emotions Youth Personal Stories
  1. Falling in love can come from deep connections made over time, even in digital spaces, like sharing moments through gaming and conversations. It shows that love can build slowly, in unexpected ways.
  2. Love can also be influenced by past relationships; sometimes, a new connection can bring joy and healing after a toxic experience. It's important to recognize the good things someone gives you without expecting anything in return.
  3. Friendship can sometimes be a beautiful foundation for love, but it can also make things complicated if feelings aren't fully mutual. It's okay to cherish the memories while growing apart.
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if he wanted to, would he really?

Airplane Mode with Liz Plank • 1867 implied HN points • 11 Jan 24
🎭️ Culture Dating Gender Feminism Relationships Social media
  1. Men's behavior in relationships is not always as simple as 'If he wanted to, he would.'
  2. Slogans like 'If he wanted to, he would' may have underlying anti-feminist implications and oversimplify modern dating dynamics.
  3. In today's dating scene, understanding and compassion for both genders can help avoid misunderstandings and improve relationships.

kitten corner: dr strangekitten

bad cattitude • 213 implied HN points • 27 Nov 24
🎭️ Culture Philosophy Personal Growth Political Views Society Relationships
  1. People often feel happier when they focus on their families and friends instead of politics. Building personal connections seems to bring joy.
  2. Wanting to live life without too much government influence is common, and it can feel good to embrace that idea.
  3. Sometimes, recognizing that a change in perspective can improve your feelings about life is important. It's interesting how love and beliefs can mix in surprising ways.

"Do These People F*ck?"

Many Such Cases • 2877 implied HN points • 18 Oct 23
🎭️ Culture Social Events Intimacy Relationships Cultural Commentary
  1. There's a lot of talk about a 'sex recession' where people are feeling less connected sexually. It's hard to measure, but we can sense it in our social lives and gatherings.
  2. People can have sex but still feel a disconnect in their sexual culture. Personal stories show that intimacy and sexual attraction can clash, leading to confusion about what they really want.
  3. Attending events like parties can reflect our sexual energy and culture. Conversations about these topics can help us navigate our sexual lives better.

When your family becomes inverse strangers

Trevor Klee’s Newsletter • 2910 implied HN points • 20 Feb 24
🎭️ Culture Family Relationships Memories
  1. As people grow older, they tend to spend less time with their parents and siblings, shifting towards spending more time with friends, kids, and spouse.
  2. Due to limited time spent with family, individuals may feel like inverse strangers, knowing intimate details yet unable to rely on each other for everyday support.
  3. Memories and interactions within a family become fragmented snapshots over time, creating a sense of distance and unfamiliarity among family members.

Women have an essential role to play in dissident movements

Becoming Noble • 1813 implied HN points • 18 Dec 23
🎭️ Culture Gender History Society Relationships Values
  1. Women play a crucial role in dissident movements by fostering deep bonds, warmth, and alliances in unofficial spaces like social gatherings and dinner parties.
  2. Creating welcoming and warm environments, particularly through shared events like dinner parties, can help in forming connections, shaping society, and nurturing goodwill.
  3. In times of challenge and turmoil, such as during 'civilizational winter,' building strong relationships and providing security through shared experiences like shared meals becomes essential for survival and strength.

Fugly

Castalia • 319 implied HN points • 16 Jun 24
📚 Literature Fiction Short Stories Relationships Character Study Narrative style
  1. Brian and Liz have a complicated relationship where they go back and forth between friendship and romance. Their dynamic shows how friendships can sometimes turn into something deeper, even if it’s messy.
  2. Liz’s past with Aaron affects her new relationship with Brian. They both struggle with their feelings and the baggage they carry from previous lovers, highlighting how past experiences can shape present connections.
  3. Despite their ups and downs, Brian and Liz find comfort in each other and eventually decide to live together. Their story reflects how settling for companionship can be a realistic choice for many couples.

Book Review Contest Winner: Love in the Time of Incarceration

Freddie deBoer • 2351 implied HN points • 08 Mar 24
🎭️ Culture Books Relationships Gender Literature
  1. The book 'Love in the Time of Incarceration' explores relationships with inmates and challenges stereotypes about prison love.
  2. Online communities for women with incarcerated loved ones provide support and understanding, forming a unique sisterhood.
  3. The book delves into the complexities of incarcerated relationships, showing how love can thrive in challenging circumstances.

Anyone living in Sydney is warmly invited to my going away party

Philosophy bear • 42 implied HN points • 23 Jan 25
🎭️ Culture Social Events Community Celebrations Personal Stories Relationships
  1. There's a going away party happening in Sydney for anyone who wants to join. It's an opportunity to meet up, have fun, and say goodbye.
  2. The party will take place on the 1st of February at 3 pm at Tudor Hotel in Redfern and will go on late.
  3. The host hopes to reconnect with old friends and welcomes anyone to come, especially those they've lost touch with.

The Celibates, the Gooners and the Moralists

Many Such Cases • 1538 implied HN points • 19 Dec 23
🎭️ Culture Sexuality Relationships Society Media Politics
  1. Many people are calling themselves celibate, but this often doesn't mean they're actually not having sex. Some just like the idea of being celibate because it makes them feel superior or detached from the current sexual culture.
  2. There is a trend of women choosing celibacy due to feeling disrespected in dating. This choice is significant, but it highlights the ongoing problems in the way people relate to each other sexually.
  3. Words around sexuality, like 'gooning', are becoming normalized in everyday conversation. This shift can contribute to a toxic culture, making it important to talk about these topics without judgment and to seek a healthier sexual culture.

how to talk to single people

Airplane Mode with Liz Plank • 1022 implied HN points • 08 Feb 24
🎭️ Culture Relationships Society Gender Community Equality
  1. Single people are a growing population and should be treated with respect and dignity.
  2. Being in a relationship doesn't guarantee happiness, and single people often lead fulfilling lives outside of dating.
  3. Avoid making assumptions about single people's desires and priorities, and focus on celebrating their achievements and providing support.

Gen Z’s Sexual Apocalypse. The Case for Marriage. And: Is It Time to Ditch the Apps?

Common Sense with Bari Weiss • 2207 implied HN points • 14 Feb 24
🎭️ Culture Dating Relationships Marriage Gender Dynamics Self-Improvement
  1. There is a growing political divide between young men veering right and women leaning left, complicating dating and relationships.
  2. Consider ditching dating apps and try more traditional methods like asking for setups from friends or striking conversations in real life.
  3. Getting married can lead to a happier, more prosperous, and more meaningful life, despite common myths about relationships and career choices.

On clarity and mind-reading

Disaffected Newsletter • 2038 implied HN points • 30 Sep 23
🎭️ Culture Communication Mental health Childhood Trauma Relationships Social norms
  1. Many people, including myself, really struggle with ambiguity in conversations. It's important to be clear about what we mean so everyone understands.
  2. I insist on defining terms when talking because my past has taught me how harmful unclear expectations can be. If we can't agree on definitions, I won't engage in that conversation.
  3. Today’s world feels more confusing and less trustworthy than ever. It’s not just personal; many others feel the same way about the lack of clarity around communication and social rules.

your stories of friendship breakups

bookbear express • 220 implied HN points • 11 Nov 24
🎭️ Culture Relationships Emotions Social Issues Personal Stories Friendship
  1. Friendship breakups can be really tough and often involve deep emotions. Many people struggle to understand why they happened and how to cope with them.
  2. Everyone has unique experiences with friendship breakups, including how long the friendship lasted and what caused it to end. Sharing these stories can be helpful for healing and connection.
  3. It's normal to want to reconnect with former friends, but sometimes it takes time for things to change and improve. Not forcing a friendship can lead to better outcomes later on.

Bottom-half marriage is a completely different institution

Sex and the State • 84 implied HN points • 17 Dec 24
🎭️ Culture Marriage Gender Roles Societal norms Relationships Economic Factors
  1. Marriage offers different benefits for people in different social and economic classes. For many men, especially those from lower-income backgrounds, marriage may not feel like a good deal due to potential losses in a divorce.
  2. Women are more likely to initiate divorce, challenging the idea that men are always at a disadvantage in marriage. However, this doesn't capture the full picture of how marriage affects different groups.
  3. The experience of marriage varies greatly between individuals in the top and bottom halves of the economic spectrum, suggesting they are essentially different institutions with unique dynamics and implications.

Promiscuity

We're Gonna Get Those Bastards • 8 implied HN points • 28 May 25
🎭️ Culture Relationships Sexuality Social norms Personal Growth Mental health
  1. Promiscuity can lead to emotional struggles and may complicate future relationships like marriage. It's often harder to build trust if there are many past partners.
  2. Having a lot of sexual partners can create feelings of jealousy and insecurity in relationships. It's difficult to forget past lovers when starting something new.
  3. Finding a meaningful connection takes time and effort. Meeting people through shared activities or environments can be better than using dating apps.

Love is not mind-reading

Austin Kleon • 3397 implied HN points • 17 Feb 23
🎭️ Culture Relationships Media Art Music Literature
  1. Love can't read minds, so it's important to clearly communicate what you and your loved ones want. This helps build understanding and happiness in relationships.
  2. Expectations and reality can differ, and it's good to think about how our perceptions may mislead us. Reflecting on these differences can be eye-opening.
  3. Finding your unique voice is key for expression. Everyone has different ways of thinking, speaking, and writing, and recognizing this can help improve communication.

Tell Me Something Good 

My Sweet Dumb Brain • 1493 implied HN points • 07 Mar 23
🏥 Health & Wellness Mental health Gratitude Relationships Positive thinking Self-care
  1. Creating a nightly routine of sharing something good can help rewire your brain to focus on the positive.
  2. Even in challenging times, finding and sharing a bright moment before bed can bring joy and connection.
  3. Prioritizing moments of positivity with loved ones can offer respite from the overwhelming negativity of the world.

Sexy Trads

Becoming Noble • 1475 implied HN points • 06 Apr 23
🎭️ Culture Tradition Masculinity Fashion Relationships
  1. Embrace the concept of being a 'Sexy Trad' - align faith and masculinity, reject outdated stereotypes, and embody virtues like courage and devotion.
  2. Focus on living out traditional values rather than just preaching them - strive to strengthen faith through beauty, discipline, and reverence.
  3. Build a strong and virtuous relationship by offering a seductive alternative to modern dating norms, maintaining discipline, and embodying qualities like strength and seductiveness.

No, incels, women are not “too shallow”

Sex and the State • 32 implied HN points • 09 Jan 25
🎭️ Culture Gender Issues Relationships Social norms Masculinity Feminism
  1. Women value different traits than looks when choosing partners. They often prioritize status over physical appearance.
  2. The idea that women are too shallow for ugly men is not true. Most women don't typically have casual sex with anyone, regardless of looks.
  3. Improving social skills and personality can lead to better relationships. Many men focus too much on looks instead of what really matters in attracting partners.

The Profile: The self-made billionaire who never read an investment book & the age-gappers defending their relationships

The Profile • 1031 implied HN points • 31 Dec 23
🎭️ Culture Profiles Interviews Media Relationships
  1. The Profile features original interviews with interesting people like self-made billionaire Anthony Geisler and age-gappers in relationships.
  2. The motto for the new year is to do one hard thing in 2024, inspired by Jesse Itzler's advice of taking on challenges for personal growth.
  3. The Profile offers insights from various personalities in interviews, sharing stories like Laura Dekker's solo sailing journey and Ron Shaich's advice on building iconic brands.